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Glad to hear it! Marx definitely offers a unique perspective on the world. If you're curious to learn more, stick around-there's plenty more inspiring insights coming your way!

Thank you so much for your kind words! 😊 I'm thrilled you enjoyed the visuals and have experienced the power of hypnosis yourself! It truly is such an effective tool for healing and personal growth. 💖 Feel free to share more about your hypnosis journey in the comments, I’d love to hear your insights

Exactly! Overgeneralization can definitely drag us down, but recognizing it is the first step toward breaking free from it. I'm glad the video brought some positive insights! And you're spot on-'False Evidence Appearing Real' is such a powerful way to describe these distorted thoughts. Thank you for sharing that!

Absolutely! Silence can be incredibly powerful when setting boundaries-it speaks volumes without the need for explanation. You're right, too much talking can turn it into a debate instead of a clear statement. Thank you for your kind words, I’m so glad you found value in the video! The power of silence is definitely a topic worth exploring-stay tuned!

That's a great question! Emotions, while sometimes misleading, are actually really useful when we understand how to interpret them. They act as signals to let us know something important is happening-whether it’s a potential threat, a personal boundary being crossed, or even excitement about an opportunity. The key is not to ignore emotions, but to balance them with logic and evidence. Instead of letting emotions dictate your reality, use them as a guide alongside rational thinking to make more balanced decisions. It's all about finding that middle ground!

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Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how practices like Nichiren Buddhism can help us shift our perspective and become more compassionate, not just towards others but also towards ourselves. You're right-sometimes we can be our own worst enemy, and recognizing that is a powerful step toward growth and self-compassion. It’s inspiring to hear how your journey has helped you see things more objectively.

It sounds like your friend is struggling with the idea that he’s only good enough if he matches a certain ideal, which is a classic example of black-and-white thinking. Maybe you could encourage him to see that his unique qualities already make him valuable, without needing to be exactly like someone else. Everyone has their own strengths, and it’s about discovering who he is as an individual, rather than striving for perfection or meeting a specific standard.

@@mindnurse sorry but I was only showing that it is me that has black-and-white thinking. It was a joke 😅 Use discernment haha

@@tbountybay3080I see it in black and white: either you're hilarious, or I'm just really serious today! Hahaha.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I understand that this is a sensitive topic, and the intent of the video is not to promote hate or negativity, but to present a balanced perspective on Buddhism, acknowledging both its peaceful teachings and the more complex aspects of its history. It’s important to have open discussions about these issues while maintaining respect for all viewpoints. If you have concerns, I’m happy to engage in a constructive conversation.

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Thank you for your comment! I understand that the no contact method can be an effective way for many people to deal with challenging relationships, such as with narcissists.

Bedankt voor je bericht en voor het delen van je situatie. Het spijt me te horen dat je worstelt met je depressie. Helaas kan ik je niet rechtstreeks aanmelden voor ketaminebehandelingen. Dit is iets dat je het beste kunt bespreken met je huisarts of behandelend hulpverlener. Zij kunnen samen met jou kijken of deze behandeling geschikt is en je verder begeleiden in het proces. Aarzel niet om dit onderwerp met hen aan te kaarten, zodat je de juiste hulp en ondersteuning kunt krijgen. Wens je veel sterkte toe in deze moeilijke tijd!

Hello mindnurse here and no script. Thank you for your comment and for sharing your thoughts. I can understand your concerns, especially when it comes to the real and painful experiences of criticism, abuse, and punishment. Social anxiety, like many mental health challenges, can indeed be deeply linked to negative past experiences, including trauma. However, it’s important to clarify a few things about cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and the points in the video: Fear of Criticism vs. Judgement: You’re absolutely right that, for many, the fear goes beyond being judged and touches on fear of criticism or punishment. This is a nuanced aspect of social anxiety, and it's true that those who have faced narcissistic abuse or other trauma may experience this differently. The goal in CBT is not to dismiss these real concerns but to help individuals navigate their reactions to these fears and gradually reduce the impact they have on daily life. Behavioral Inhibition: When I mention "behavioral inhibition," it’s not about labeling someone’s identity as shy or socially anxious. Rather, it’s about recognizing that some people may have a more cautious or restrained approach in social situations as a temperamental trait. This doesn't define who they are, but it helps us understand one factor that could contribute to anxiety in specific environments. It’s never about placing blame or pathologizing normal reactions to difficult experiences. Reaction, Not Identity: You make an excellent point. Social anxiety, or any mental health condition, doesn’t define a person’s identity. It's a response to specific environments or situations, especially when those environments have been unsafe. In supportive, validating environments, many of these responses lessen, which is why CBT aims to help people feel empowered in such environments, without reinforcing harmful labels or identities. Exposure Therapy: Exposure therapy is always done carefully and never meant to retraumatize. It's about gradually helping individuals face feared situations with support, so they can build confidence in handling them. It’s crucial that this happens in safe and supportive environments-exposing someone to toxic or abusive situations is, of course, not helpful and not part of CBT's intention. Worst-Case Scenarios: You’re right that, for some, worst-case scenarios do happen, and they can happen frequently. When this is the case, therapy focuses on both resilience in dealing with these situations and finding ways to navigate or protect oneself from harmful environments. CBT acknowledges these realities and works on strategies to reduce the impact of negative experiences. The goal of this discussion is to offer tools to help people manage anxiety, but it's also essential to acknowledge that CBT isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution and that real-world complexities-like trauma and abuse-require a nuanced and individualized approach. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts, and I hope this response offers some clarity.

@@mindnurse "The goal in CBT is not to dismiss these real concerns" I think you need to pay attention more to CBT. CBT is clearly stating that 1) social anxiety is "irrational" 2) social anxiety is "spotlight effect where there is imagined danger" 3) that worst case scenario "never happens" in real life. These are all standpoints of CBT. "exposing someone to toxic or abusive situations" Well there are countries which are shame-based culture countries - where abuse is part of mentality of nation. Then exposure will result in retraumatization. Learn more about Shame and Fear based countries (and counties). For example Italy and USA are Fear based countries - but southern parts of these countries are honor shame based. Exposure cannot work - due to Operant Conditioning. CBT does not have "complex trauma" in its DSM since Complex PTSD is not recognized by toxic ableist CBT. WHO's ICD11 fully recognizes Complex PTSD. Social anxiety is Complex Trauma, ACoA issue.

@@ranc1977 Thank you again for your response and for sharing your perspective. You rightly highlight important points, such as the influence of culture and complex traumas, and how these factors can affect whether a therapeutic approach will be effective or not. It’s important to emphasize that every individual’s help request is unique. In practice, we see that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) works well for many people with social anxiety disorder. It helps them manage their fears and improve their quality of life. However, as you mentioned, for individuals whose social anxiety is tied to deeper trauma or cultural factors, CBT may be less effective. In such cases, we often look beyond and refer to other, more specialized forms of therapy, such as trauma-focused approaches or therapies that address the person’s cultural context. The intention of CBT is not to disregard the experiences of people with complex trauma, but to help a large number of individuals better understand and manage their anxiety. In more complex cases, however, we recognize that a different approach might be necessary, which is why therapy is tailored to each individual. I appreciate you raising these important points, as they remind us to always consider the broader context in which someone lives and struggles. It’s crucial to adopt a holistic approach and remain open to different therapy modalities based on the needs of the individual. Thanks again for your thoughtful response, and I’m glad we’re able to have this discussion!

@@mindnurse "cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) works well for many people with social anxiety disorder" It works for shy people and narcissists who are misdiagnosed with social anxiety disorder. Shy people will expose - and their shyness will go away with exposure - but shyness goes away - they never had social anxiety to begin with. For narcissists and borderlines - CBT will help because CBT instructs narcissists and borderlines misdiagnosed with social anxiety to allow them to harass other people since CBT explains that abusers are not responsible for other people emotions and feelings when they abuse others so CBT gives green light for abusers to abuse other people - and then their narcissistic injury goes away, since they dissipate their abuse with CBT instructions. Truly socially anxious people are silent and they do not talk back, they do not criticize the CBT - because they have true social anxiety which is not addressed with CBT. So truly socially anxious people will give up and lie - they will claim that CBT helps them just to get off the therapy. And this lives CBT with researcher bias. All social anxiety is trauma. If there is no trauma - then it is either shyness or cluster B personality disorder masking as social anxiety. CBT is toxic and ableist therapy which will force truly socially anxious people to develop fawning and stay stuck in abusive situations because they will label their natural reactions to toxic people as psychological disorder and develop codependency and trauma bonding in the process of applying CBT to abuse.

@@ranc1977 Thank you for your detailed response. I understand that you have strong opinions about CBT, and I appreciate you taking the time to explain your perspective. It’s clear that for some people, more in-depth and specialized therapies are needed, especially when trauma and cultural factors are involved. However, it’s important to acknowledge that therapies, including CBT, do not have the same effect on everyone. For example, here in the Netherlands, at the expert center for anxiety and depression connected to Radboud University, CBT has been highly successful in treating many individuals with social anxiety disorder. This shows that CBT can be effective for a large group of people, depending on their specific situation and how the therapy is applied. That said, CBT doesn’t work for everyone, and in cases of deep-rooted trauma, other specialized approaches like trauma-focused therapies may be necessary. It’s important that therapy is tailored to the unique needs of each person. I appreciate the dialogue we’ve had, but I would like to close the discussion here. Thank you again for sharing your perspective and for the exchange of ideas.

Daily walk is going ok, hahaha, thanks

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Manipulation is never justified, regardless of how strong or weak someone may feel. Everyone deserves respect and honesty, and exploiting others is harmful, no matter how long it has been happening. It is important to take responsibility for our actions and be aware of the impact we have on others. As for the reference to suicide, this is a very serious matter and not a solution to personal or societal problems. We should show compassion to those who are struggling, rather than pushing them further down."

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Jammer dat je oordeelt

@@mindnurse Het is geen oordeel, maar een beargumenteerde observatie.

@@janzelf “AI kan inderdaad geen emoties ervaren, maar het kan wel helpen om inzichten te geven, praktische tips te bieden en wetenschappelijk onderbouwde strategieën te delen. Veel mensen halen waardevolle lessen uit AI-tools en zelfhulpvideo’s. Uiteindelijk gaat het om hoe je de informatie gebruikt om jezelf te helpen, of die nu van een mens of AI komt. Mensen kunnen ook veel leren van boeken, artikelen en video’s, wat ook niet per se ‘menselijke interactie’ is. Het is niet zozeer waar de informatie vandaan komt, maar wat je ermee doet dat telt.”

Interessante opmerking! Het klopt dat sommige gedragingen herkenbaar kunnen zijn, maar persoonlijkheidsstoornissen zoals deze komen gelukkig maar bij een klein deel van de bevolking voor, ongeacht geslacht. Bedankt voor je reactie!

Ja, klopt, het gedrag kan overlappen met AS 2. Bedoel je met 'dus' misschien iets dat ik gemist heb? Altijd interessant om nieuwe invalshoeken te horen!