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This Woman is CHOOSING to Stay Fat | Happy and Content in Her Fatness :)
Surprisingly, this video title is not clickbait. Which begs the question, why would a woman choose to stay fat?? Why would anyone choose to stay fat, for that matter??
Welcome to today's video!!
Isn’t it funny that a woman loving her fat body is an act of rebellion? Isn't it funny that a woman saying that she will be staying fat is considered controversial?
Funny and strange though that may be, that's the case for me.
20 years after my abuse and this is where we are today. After I stopped running from my pain, I realized that I’m not worthless and that there is NOTHING I need to do to EARN my love.
That I can love myself UNCONDITIONALLY. As in naweza jipenda bure for my fellow Kenyans.
There is no performance that is required. I don’t need to deliver anything, do anything, bring anything or EARN anything to be worthy of my own self-love. I am already worthy of it, right now at this moment, just the way I am.
To be honest, getting to this point is the culmination of my entire life’s work.
Every single thing I’ve done to heal, to accept having being molested as a child as a result of being an abandoned child, has led me here. And thorny and scarring as that path was, I accept it as the price of admission.
All my videos are a love letter to myself, my inner child and all other abandoned daughters who need their lived experiences validated.
I know this is not enough to heal you. But if it can put you on the path to healing, that's good enough for me.
Love Lavender 💜💜💜
มุมมอง: 20

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How Narcissists Weaponize Religion | Narcissistic Family Members
มุมมอง 1912 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา
How do narcissists weaponize religion? Is that actually a thing? Well, take notes because I brought in a guest EXPERT on the matter. As someone who has after a long, long time DECONSTRUCTED RELIGION, this just goes to show why religion is enough bull droppings Because religion is NOT BASED ON ANYTHING, anyone can use it to mold it to whatever NONSENSE narrative they are weaving in the moment as...
Narcissistic Moms | My Narcissistic Mom's Reaction To My Abuse Video | Part 2
มุมมอง 54วันที่ผ่านมา
Before we get into the brass tacks, I would like to say a HUUUGE heartfelt THANK YOU to my family members for their kindness and compassion. I'm still moved to tears when I read their messages to me regarding my abuse. Now then friends, with contrast, you can see a #narcissist for who they truly are. Same situation faced by my WHOLE FAMILY, and yet this one reacts as she did. At this point, I a...
Narcissistic Moms | My Narcissistic Mom's Reaction To My Abuse Video | Part 1
มุมมอง 83วันที่ผ่านมา
Deep sigh Narcissistic moms, I'm I right?!! I must have done something really shitty in my past life to manifest this reality in my final hurrah, and I accept my fate. Thanks to whatever I did, I was neglected and unloved as a child, which made me the prime target for my uncle to molest and abuse. Thanks to that, I hated living in my skin for 10 years straight after my abuse ended. Thanks to th...
This is Why More & More Women Are Choosing To Be Childfree | Let's Talk About It
มุมมอง 4214 วันที่ผ่านมา
Childfree women gather here. No seriously, this is a video for young women in their early twenties who will be manipulated by society to birth children you can't care for. Listen to your online Aunty, keep your eggs in your body, watch this video, then make up your mind. Birthing a child is a decision that will change your life FOREVER, so don't make this decision lightly. Also, remember that G...
This Woman Chose To Stay Single Forever | Who Would Choose That and Why??
มุมมอง 7821 วันที่ผ่านมา
Join the healing circle: th-cam.com/channels/oI7hUSaDpRjV4-fIYrnBEA.html Can we talk about women choosing to remain single forever? Whaaaat???? Someone see if the patriarchy is okay. "He needs some milk!!" But in all seriousness, this is the BESTTTT decision I have ever made for myself, coming second only to removing a stranger from my body that one time. Coming to the conclusion that all I nee...
Why Do Women Have Abortions?? | This is Catherine's Story
มุมมอง 19หลายเดือนก่อน
Ladies under 28, come to the front, please. This one is for you. As someone who has lived life, a little bit and messed up a lot, I share these videos with you in mind. I want to SAVE you from the foolish things that I allowed to trap me in my youth. To do this, I share these stories. Some of them might be mine and some of them might be from people around me, but the agenda remains the same. To...
How I Lost All My Money in a Pyramid Scheme | My MLM Story
มุมมอง 31หลายเดือนก่อน
They say Nairobi is not for beginners, and they could not be more correct. This is my MLM story about how I was washed of my hard-earned KSh 300,000 because of my greed and my foolishness. If you know what's good for you, you will listen, take notes and make better choices. Kama wewe ni mkaazi wa Nairobi na umeoshwa, welcome home. Kama hujaoshwa bado, chukua hii video kama onyo. Lol!! See you i...
Jk Organics Weight Loss Package Review Ksh 3500 | Negative Review
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Tactics Narcissistic Family Members Use To Silence Victims Of Abuse | Surviving Abuse
มุมมอง 38หลายเดือนก่อน
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Could You Be Addicted To Food Because You Were Abused As a Child? | Let's Talk About It
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  • @TheRoamingStylist
    @TheRoamingStylist 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lavender you’re a good person with a beautiful soul❤.. I’m sorry for what you’ve been going through. Being able to talk about these things now is a bold step and should be respected since it shows growth, healing and self love/ appreciation. I wish everyone saw it that way.

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😭😭😭thanks for your kind words, for viewing and just for being here in general. Unfortunately, there is no way "everyone" can view this positively because some of the people are VILLAINS and ABUSERS in my story. And even some who aren't necessarily guilty of abuse are COMPLICIT, they saw me being abused and looked the other way. Which I accept as part of my lived experience because it has already happened 😞. But now I'm finally speaking up and STANDING UP for myself and accepting where the chips will land 💜💜💜.

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm still so very grateful to the family members who replied to me with kindness and compassion regarding my abuse. Their responses still bring tears to my eyes. I'm sure if I told them this was BECKY'S response they wouldn't believe me because narcissists are very good at putting on airs in public, while in private they reveal themselves to be the abusers they are. Speaking first for the people who I make these videos for, myself included, It is hard to catch a narcissist in action. That is why you are not believed when you say that they are abusing you or treating you badly. So now that we have caught one in action, I have to use this as a proverbial cadaver for us to dissect and learn from. I also have a very narcissistic aunt who borders on psychopathic. I'll be sharing content on her this coming week. When dealing with your narcissistic family members, make sure you document EVERYTHING. Otherwise, no one will believe you. Also AVOID THEM at all costs unless you really can't help it. Their energy is dark and heavy and will often make you feel drained, sleepy or tired, or all three after you interact with them. Speaking now for myself, my silence has been VERY CONVENIENT for many people, but that's OVER. If like me, you were an abandoned child, gather here. I have several videos coming up on #narcissisticmoms and #narcissisticfamily members, so stay tuned. Click here to join the healing circle: th-cam.com/channels/oI7hUSaDpRjV4-fIYrnBEA.html

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I honestly didn't think this video would get more than 5 views. Thank you to everyone who has supported this video with their views. I've made the part 2 to this video set to go live on Nov 6th where I've clicked the "read more" button, and we can all see the kind and reassuring things my birth mother has to say about her child being abused for 4 years straight. The disgusting man who was molesting me is also mentioned by name, so for all you nosy Nancies, some nice hot tea awaits. Again, thanks for being here. The 5-year-old me really appreciates it!!💜 My Narcissistic Mom's Reaction To My Abuse Video | Part 2: th-cam.com/video/EzugX32fi-E/w-d-xo.html

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have been dragging my feet to make this video because it is soooo HEARTBREAKING, DISAPPOINTING & DEFLATING. I would give anything to have this not be my situation, but alas, hivi ndio vitu ziko kwa ground. All I can do is accept it as it is and react in the best way I can for my mental health and general well-being. I can accept that I will NEVER like the woman that birthed me. I can accept that I will NEVER know what it feels like to really love the woman who birthed me [It breaks my heart, but I'm a big girl, so I accept it]. However, that will NOT come with a side serving of me accepting abuse, and at my big age? NO THANKS!! Double it and pass it to the next person. While this makes my heart bleed, I know that sharing this will be helpful to some abandoned girl-child out there. And when she needs it, this video will be there to hopefully make her feel seen and understood, even if it's by some faceless stranger on the internet. If like me you were an abandoned child who was left vulnerable to abuse, I'm sorry you went through that. You deserved better. I know this is not enough to heal you, but I hope it can at least put you on the path to healing💜

  • @SafariSoulAfrica
    @SafariSoulAfrica 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video!!

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad you think so. Thanks for watching!!

  • @SafariSoulAfrica
    @SafariSoulAfrica 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video. Definitely food for thought!!

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

    www.jumia.co.ke/catalog/?q=Bare+Vanilla+La+Creme+Body+Mist

  • @meowme7644
    @meowme7644 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😊👍🐈🐾🐾

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

    😭Avoid it at all costs!!! www.jumia.co.ke/al-rehab-choco-musk-eau-de-perfume-natural-spray-50-ml-232994167.html

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is sad. To think that my own aunt (now ex-relative) with a prestigious degree in psychology and a glowing career working within global NGOs in the protection of women and children in vulnerable situations will be the same credentials that are used to gag me. These are the same credentials that are used to shame me for speaking openly and honestly about being mol3st3d as a child. These are the same credentials that are used to discredit and undermine my experience. These are the same credentials that are used to isolate me from the family I was born into. What makes this worse is that it's women like these who protect abusers in families. It's even worse to know that thousands of women and children look to this COMPROMISED individual for protection against abusers. I quake at the thought. I will use this scarring experience to raise awareness against narcissistic family members who create an environment that abusers can thrive in. Thank you for making this possible.

  • @TheCSRChronicles
    @TheCSRChronicles หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for being so brave and shedding light on a difficult subject. You're doing great!!

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much! 🥺️🥺️🥺️

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

    A Quick PSA: 1. If you are a family member and this content offends you, I think it's important that you apply critical thought and ask yourself why me being open and honest about MY trauma offends YOU. Odd isn't it?? 2. I will not be silent so that you can be comfortable. 3. I will continue to be open and honest about my trauma for my sake and for the sake of other people who cannot be, either because they haven't processed it yet, are still processing it, or for whatever reason. 4. If my content offends you for whatever reason, feel free to UNSUBSCRIBE from my channel or NOT watch my videos. Thank you.

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi lovelies, please let me know where you're watching from so I can say hi, and thank you 😊❤.

  • @wwayne_vs
    @wwayne_vs 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How much was it and where did you buy it?

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle หลายเดือนก่อน

      I bought it for just over KSh 100,000 from an Instagram shop called Orifon or something like that.

  • @ChristineOmbaba-bj9ed
    @ChristineOmbaba-bj9ed 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For how long does it last? Is it durable?

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I bought mine in November, and it's still doing okay. I mentioned in the video that the needles and the thread this machine comes with are trash, and that's still the case. But the machine itself is good. I hope this answered your question.

  • @Ohkeh640
    @Ohkeh640 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Link ? I need g cup bras

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Here you go :) instagram.com/kaycees_intimates/

  • @relaxingworld5938
    @relaxingworld5938 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's amazing band Greetings to you from Morocco

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Goodness 💕💕 how wonderful!!! I'm sending warmest greetings back from Kenya 🇰🇪

  • @galisleo8737
    @galisleo8737 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish more people had this mentality.

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🥹🥹🥹 thank you. And I believe in time most people will go back to a more sustainable way of living. #hopeful #healtheearth

  • @Just1babi
    @Just1babi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good job!

  • @galisleo8737
    @galisleo8737 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy New Year! I hope you upload more often again!

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Happy new year! That's the plan ☺️. Please stay tuned 🤗✨

    • @galisleo8737
      @galisleo8737 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@obduratelifestyle I will, that's for sure! 🤩❤‍🩹

  • @Stone-473
    @Stone-473 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🪨👍

  • @themjbrothers6536
    @themjbrothers6536 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I mean it looks slightly brighter and more fresh and you can’t see those marks on the wall anymore

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That deep cream/yellow was really hard to look at 😅🫣

  • @seanpower1595
    @seanpower1595 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🔥👍

  • @marinakoushik9284
    @marinakoushik9284 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeaaa doo ittt, grow themmm

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The first batch I tried to grow failed miserably 😅 so I'm pretty excited these ones seem to be growing well 😀

  • @antoinehouston637
    @antoinehouston637 ปีที่แล้ว

    You don't need the music in the background

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the feedback. This is noted for next time :)

  • @LovelyxLilyx
    @LovelyxLilyx ปีที่แล้ว

    Hii cute monitor

  • @jaylienfetalvo3732
    @jaylienfetalvo3732 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ask ko lang po, sa shoppee may refill ink po sya. Pwede ba syang i refill yang cartridge?

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Jaylien, the ink cartridge it comes with is just a starter. The colored ink cartridge lasted about three full-color print jobs of about 5 pages each. The starter black ink cartridge is still going. Not sure if I answered your question, my Tagalog is terrible. Let me know if I answered you. Thanks for the question :)

  • @obduratelifestyle
    @obduratelifestyle 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for watching! If you’d like to get this same monitor, here's a link to the one I bought :) 👉www.jumia.co.ke/hp-m27f-fhd-monitor-hdmi-vga-47192304.html

  • @MrWayne399
    @MrWayne399 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such an amazing looking monitor.

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I definitely agree. Thanks for your comment.

  • @priscahmbaluka1998
    @priscahmbaluka1998 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations dear! Keep winning

  • @Saysumthang
    @Saysumthang 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    great video! I look to seeing the review😍

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the comment. Review coming soon 🔜

  • @sandrakaiga9477
    @sandrakaiga9477 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations on your purchase baby🎉This is a very impressive Desktop and I love it's sleek design.Please show us it's display quality on your next video😌

    • @obduratelifestyle
      @obduratelifestyle 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the comment sweetie 🥰. I'm definitely gearing up for a review.

  • @braenarwasawo6222
    @braenarwasawo6222 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful machine.

  • @vanessakithei
    @vanessakithei 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations on this new milestone. All the best Great content 🥰🥰

  • @maureenmoh9621
    @maureenmoh9621 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, it turned out great. Great content.

  • @bettysyanda2517
    @bettysyanda2517 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful work. I like the instant beautiful transformation.