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Ive never had RJ OCD before, since I asked my exboyfriend something about his past. So food was definitely not the cause of my RJ, it was the question and what the answer triggered inside of me. But do you think I could still benefit from a diet change?

Hi, I would like you to make a more detailed video on what we feel once healed. Do we still have triggers? Are you totally indifferent to what was bothering you before? Do you continue to meditate? Do you no longer have any anxiety about this past? If you have triggers that make you think about this, what do you feel? Does this happen often?

I wish you could overcome the terrible thumbnail picture thats something your ex girlfriend or boyfriend will laugh about with their new love interest

Thank you. I needed this perspective!!❤❤❤

Stop lying! You Did not!

Run run run

You should be its like dating a gloryhole

How high is too high? is being nearly 50 and on single figures too high??

This is simp logic… have each person have their body count stamped on their forehand and let society decide…

The field is not level. And that is how it should be… men and women have different advantages.. men need to be smart and know it takes time to build your value… look for a woman who have kept her value..

Beautiful, Yes

Would a taken girl go back to an old hookup if they texted her? Mine replied

I'm very glad you acknowledged it as a natural automatic evolved response. Many would go from the basis of it being completely unnatural. It is there but we can make choices of what we do with it.

Why don't you just dumped your girlfriend and find a new girl that hasn't been run through by Chad and Tyrone a million times. They're not easy to find but they are out there.

If she “loves you less than her ex”, then that means you are being settled for, you are a place holder. If she loves me less then she loved her ex……then she can kick rocks !

So some valid points. Again, you are telling your audience to take responsibility for their emotions and internal state which is good. However, whatever the reason, if one is being treated differently, let's say less passionately than a previous partner of theirs was, doesn't that indicate that there is at least less passion coming one's way? We all like some people more than others. If there is less passion being demonstrated, whether it is related to sex or something else, then I would say that this is an indication that they simply don't feel the same way about you as they did the other person. I don't think people go into relationships to feel like a second choice or an option. We want to feel like we are the number one choice for the other person. It is only about insecurity in so far as the other person making you feel loved and wanted and not like they can take it or leave it. etiquette tip, saying "Bro." repeatedly comes across as a bit condescending.

"Didnt do that one thing but did this ton of other great things!" I like this idea.

For me it is simple. No contact of any kind with ex. I made that clear as soon as our relationship started to get serious.

I disagree with you sir. The past does matter. Especially when I comes to the past guys she’s been with. Ex….if she has been with a guy that has HIV, hepatitis or a few other std’s, then yes it matters a lot.

If I’m right, then I’m happy.

Great video.

Sometimes it seems like the only answer is to end the relationship. How could she sleep with someone who doesn’t even take her on a date?

One of the best piece of advice for people who want to ask about their partners past!

If you're having problems with RJ, it's because you're dating a filthy s***, get rid of her now the longer you wait the harder it's going to be, she's not marriage material, she's not your girl it's just your turn. Don't sell yourself short by bottom feeding.

Dudes a genius 💯

I disagree with this one

I agree completely with the poor self image, but the problem is my wife gave that to me because she never complement never says anything nice and it just beat you up after many years

I need this, my brother Alex!

This man is nothing short of a gift for anyone who’s suffering from RJ.

Yeah... I Really need your guidance brother!

Thanks, that really put things in perspective and was enlightening!

You and Mark will help me... But now, I need another Job! Because I quit the last. 😔

The RJ Sufferers Are Truly Warriors!🤕

Wow man this was amazing and really helpful

Nothing to do with scarcity from my point anyway not even close

The title of the video should be: How I Became Emasculated/Beta

You're great Alex!! I need ask some questions... I have to think properly to ask.

Always had a feeling my ex was self-sabotaging by constantly bringing up « anecdotes » of her hoe phase…

What do you do when your partner wont stay away from the gorgeous, female, single, drug dealer whos very clearly in love with him bc shes "just one of the guys"? Asking for a friend.

The problem is when they believe that they didnt do anything wrong. And, of course, as for the "one question", they will ALWAYS say that past doesnt matter for him/her, thise relationships meant nothing, dont even remember etc etc etc. For me, 56 YO, you should trust your gut feelings and intuition, know your values and limits, and do you decision without expecting any honest answer from your partner about body counting. In my opinion (born again Christian) it is a lot less about the past, but about what the person did about his/her past. If she/he is still holding it as "no problem", "didnt do anything wrong" etc. it is a red flag. However, if he/she is at least capable of discerning the right from wrong, and understanding that some things are wrong, it is far better. God is great and can forgive anything you have done, but it is your job to give the first step, witch is always admiting our own mistakes.

No. If they did a very intimate thing with someone else, yet they won't for you is telling. Behavior is a language and what is being said, is this, "I like that person enough that I would do this thing with them. However, I don't feel the same way about you and so I won't do this thing with you." It is simple really and the emotions that this creates is more than just jealousy. One might feel rejected or like the others person second option and not their ideal. You can't pin all of this on the person feeling these emotions when the language of the other is saying that they are not as loved or desired.

You say that, but if i found out my partner was a serial killer or executioner, i would not react in a understanding way at all.

My RJ flared up incredibly because of this exact thing. My spouse went out to lunch with a group of 8 people she went to school with, one of which she hooked up with years ago. I lost it. My spouse said they were all just friends and then I see the Facebook messsenger group chat she was in with these people and she was flirting with the guy or at least what I thought was flirting. It’s only trouble to bring an ex into present life.

You could almost change the title of this to is it ok to be friends with someone you had a sexual encounter with.

Hi, Thanks a lot for what you do. I have mostly been able to have my RJ under control, although it did lower my spirit a lot and my self-esteem. I'm a guy, and my partner's past used to haunt me, but now it is way less aggressive thanks to your help and other youtubers and reading, etc. Could you maybe talk about this feeling of being less than other people or like less than your partner especially as a guy for having limited experiences prior to your gf it feels like I should have had more in this area, for example I never had a hookup or anything of that sort, it didn't ever used to bother me but I find myself stressing out about growing old and having feelings of regret for not experiencing more sexually with different partners cause I am 22 now so I am at my peak years if that makes sense lol, I stress about this a lot EVEN THOUGH my goal was always to experience life and have all these sexual experiences with one partner was what I always strived for, thanks so much!!!

I'm still with my GF... Sometimes I think we should break UP, but I see this is not her fault...I just ask one question... I want to see her normal again and feel myself.

Hey, Alex. I really need so much beat RJ. I'm starting feel better, but i need more work and maybe guidance... If I buy your courses, following the steps I can Overcome RJ? I have a Lot questions...

Hi alex can you make a video on limbic retraining/brain rewiring. I can’t afford therapy. I’m trying my best to overcome RJ/OCD all by myself. Please help.

Did you ever think that people use RJ to create attraction?

I thought I heard you say something about signing up for a free call? Please advise.