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TLDR: things I've noticed that weren't in the video, but *obviously i don't mean all handlers* and this is *just my personal experience*! people gatekeeping the reasons someone has a SD, invalidating at-home SDs, if you don't have your SD with you 24/7 people say you dont "need" it, fake claiming small breeds and cheap gear, any discussion of struggles not involving access issues or fakes gets shut down, any discussion of the pros not outweighing the cons for you gets shut down For context: - I spent years in and observing service dog spaces, I do NOT have one, I was there to learn as much as possible to see if it was the right option for me. but comparing it to spaces for other disability aids like AAC users, I've noticed these seem to be service dog specific issues - also I'm not saying EVERY handler does this, these are just some things I've noticed that haven't been brought up in the video, any service dog handlers *please* correct any parts that I go wrong - some SD handlers will be weirdly invalidating of the reasons that others have service dogs? Like arguing over who "needs" a medical alert/psychiatric/mobility etc - I've seen a weird amount of either invalidating or just straight up ignoring the existence of at-home service dogs that don't do public access [despite a lot of service dog's work being at home, and a lot of disabled people couldn't handle public access issues] - Or saying anyone who doesn't bring their SD EVERY DAY to EVERY PLACE musn't "need" it. - Most SD users [rightfully] say that any breed can be a SD, but then almost every post about "fakes" is a perfectly well behaved dog walking or tasking who happens to be a smaller breed, or if they're wearing a cheap amazon vest [even though most disabled people are broke...] - There seems to be an odd consensus that unless you're talking about access issues or fakes, no one can discuss the struggles of having one? I've seen people be instantly shut down or invalidated for bringing up the financial costs, social isolation, the burden of keeping a retired/washed dog and the new dog, the emotional toll of an animal you rely on passing away, vet visits and bills, carrying around everything that a dog needs in the day, or the fact that if they would they wish they didn't NEED one. it took me a LONG time to learn and accept it wasn't the right option for me because any discussion about the parts that some people can't handle was always shut down with "but the tasks can help disabilities" when for some people the pros don't outweigh the cons Also Mei, I know you're a stranger and this could seem parasocial TM, but I've followed your channel for years and your videos have done a LOT for me, even just in self-acceptance and feeling less "alone" in my experiences.

Gatekeeping is such an exhausting issue that keeps popping up within marginalized groups that really makes me sad. How there is such a need to protect what little people achieve through years of battle that they feel the need to, and sometimes the authority to say who is enough and who’s faking it and hurting their efforts. Thanks for talking about this 🙏🏼

Are you naming your dogs after batman characters (Damian(?) and Grayson)? Fucking awesomeeee

hi from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤

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watching all the way from Kenya in East Africa❤

sorry for cropping out the tics- needed to get this off my chest ❤

Love your hair! The harness looks really well made, and I hope it serves you well.

Yay for cc's! We love accessibility! Hi Mei! Good to see you again! (and for saying we're part of the fam, that made me smile so big)

On the URL you put to download that song I need to pay actually

HEY MEIII!!!!!! It’s been awhile how have you been?

Certain explanations are the triggers for me….. I became disabled 8 yrs ago…. And first thing everyone has to learn is too always be comfortable in your own skin and except what, and how you are.

When I first saw one of your videos, which was today, I automatically thought you looked like my friend Barbara... who uses a wheelchair. So when you said you have a wheelchair named Barbara, you could imagine what I was thinking for a moment. XD

I love how raw you are. I want to start a TH-cam channel with my FND and Tourette’s , along with many other things not as disabling. I recently(nov 8th it’s nov 12 ) got a new puppy and she will be my service dog as that’s why I got her. I was home alone house sitting and I was cutting cheese. My fnd flaired up and I went paralyzed in my legs and fell with a knife in my hand. I could have gotten hurt if I started seizing as I’ve done that before too. I just found you and seeing you post a tic attack made me subscribe. I’m gonna start my channel hopefully soon

I like versions of nursery rhymes 😂

0:06 Peter Griffin?

Just stop talkin. It takes some self control but it’s not hard. Someone who’s lived w severe tourettes

Baked in a Motherf*cking pie 😂

OMG THIS IS WHAT THE BALLOONS WERE FOR!! We saw them in the collab space and were like what is happening??😭

Happy birthday Damien!!

I can’t keep my shit about this video 😭

You got the n word pass

Aight, 2024 TedTalk commence. I’m a Black person with tics and this is where I’m coming from and I hope someone reads the whole thing. Coming from one Black person, while there’s not an n-word card (it’s determined by the Black person and no one else, and the answer for people is mostly no) tics are different!! I know they’re out of control and I’m not offended! It’s not a problem for me. Tics SUCK SO BAD. It’s not a reflection of you or your beliefs or thoughts! It doesn’t bother me. It just sucks. Copeolalia (I probably botched the spelling) is so different from people intentionally doing it to insult. I have a friend who ticced the n word at me and he was freaked that I’d freak but I just said it was fine, and it is. Tics suck but it’s fine. I wouldn’t get mad, Mei. Not everyone will get it unfortunately because we can’t control how others react. But I hope they’re understanding. I really really do. Drive thrus are hard for me, and too. I’m more comfortable now but it still makes me anxious. I hope someone took time to read this whole thing to get my perspective…I figured an opinion from a Black person was important because I can explain in a way other people can’t when it comes to the n-word. Conclusion: it’s all good. I don’t care because it’s Tourette’s and not you. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk 😭😂

Congrats on 133 views

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hope you're doing well.

I’m not saying she’s fake but u don’t choose your tics

So how does coprolalia work when you dont KNOW any curse word, like if you are a child, what tics happen then?

THIS IS SOME FUNNY FUCKING SHIT 😅😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂

notice how there weren’t any tics in this video? bro lying

bro you know damn well you will never be in the situation were someone is trying to fuck you😭

Why don't I EVER hear racist tics towards white people? It's always the n word

You seen cool to fun to kick it with

I don’t know how I could keep sane if I had something like this. Takes lots of strength to keep moving forward with this.

I love your humor! And I love that you be yourself, no matter what other people think. I hope one day I will gain the same confidence. Your video was very inspiring❤❤

Today is one of my hardest tics days I’ve had in ten years

The “ew” and disgusted face when you ticed “fuck my dad” is literally me every time I have a tic like that in a professional setting

This is Awesome! It has everything: information, pun, joke, silliness, and humor. You rock, Mei❤

your so funny Mei :)

I love this video it was informative and funny at the same time

Sis I hope you get better🙏❤️ May God bless you and heal you.

I think it I fake

Saying the important stuff Mei! Go off! -Evil Evan

Like this comment if you caught the wheelchair mistyped 😂 "Brabra"

Thank you 🙋🏽‍♀️❤❤❤

hi not to sound rude but why did you gain weight, i saw that you had way less years ago

DAMIAN FOR THE WIIINNNN!!!!WHAT WHAT!!!!!!!!

Don’t worry, I’m the same way at drive thru’s and I don’t even have Tourette’s