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This shit is on point. I agree with a lot of this. Just cause he created the child doesnt give him the right to all this other shit. Especially when you bring someone else into your life that you want to be a parent to your kid, but wont set these boundaries.

I stopped it because there's a spirit within me that dislike it aside from the words of bible because all this artificial has a spirit behind it and it affects my prayer life so I do away from it totally

By law the father doesn’t have to pay child support to see his kids in America and there’s nothing we can do about it

If there is something beautiful about my body that's my hair. I lost half of it . Fallen hair looks unusual like someone twisted and folded it. My mother said it's evil eye.

i got some beauty treatments from Queen Eshter and thats part of it rosemary oil and castor oil i put on my hair and wash it out with natural soap. and i put on aloe, and flax seed to make it manageable

my hair used to be a mess and now its totally blessed. my head got anointed by God and its amazing how much hair i have now. so thick, soft, and smells really good. i cut my own hair. i have visions of my hair being blessed

Im neither attending his wedding nor my child.

i imagine what is happening to all the women who wear other people 's hair (100% human hair weaves...)that they dont even know 🙄 all in the name of beauty😴

hair products aswell . i bought shampoo from india and my hair stopped growing also had alot of nightmares felt crazy the whole time. when i turned the bottle around it said krishna which is a hindu god . when i stopped using it my hair grew back.

I went for a new massage place in Encino. The older man started scratching my head. My head has been hurting for few days now, I knew something was happening. I also heard a woman come in during the massage and said my name then said "she only likes girls" . really weird and I saw money being exchanged. Someone paid the massage man to curse me in multiple areas. Had lots of pain that night. Everyone becareful where you go, and skeptical about everything. This was an asian massage place.

I have been dealing with this for a year. I'm the new girlfriend of a baby daddy. His baby mama left him for another man in 2019. They have known eachother since 2007. They were together for 12.5 years. They were engaged but she didnt want to marry him. Last summer he and I started dating. Once she found out about me 1 month later her engagement canceled. Her fiancée thought the same thing I was thinking that they were still acting like they were dating with him always over there. Yes he and I were living together ànd we only had a 1 bedroom at that time but he would stay the night sometimes, have dinner and stay over late. I told him that wasn't healthy and that the kids will be confused by their actions. Thinking if they are so cool like this why can't they be together but then again they were always fussing and fighting. She was always arguing with him about something. Everytime I turn around she is always mad at him for something. She put him on child support in Jan of this year. I hate when she has messaged him late at night or early in the morning knowing it has nothing to deal with the kids. When she met me she told me no matter who he is dating no one will change their friemdship and no one will come between them because she is his baby mama. She is very controlling and narcissist. She has ruined his last relationship. She is constantly having him come to all of her family events. His family can't stand her. She alienated him from his family. She constantly schedules family dinners at her house or out at restaurants. I have told him like you are not her family. Your kids are your family. You have no obligation to her but the kids. I have recently noticed a change in him and their relationship. She has even stated that he is changing she thinks it's due to me. But we have talked about marriage and more kids.

I appreciate everything she said. Each point resonated.

I think blacks wearing straight long silky shiny hair like mine looks absolutely ridiculous because it's not in the DNA. It gives a vibe of self hate hiding the afro and tbh we're all laughing behind their backs. You look a million time's better with what grows from yout scalp

Leave extensions alone all together and learn how to love the skin you in. Your hair is your glory.

Dont argue sis...the truth is sometime hard to swallow. Fact is, the human hair carries the energy from its owner. Wigs blocks our connection with nature. I do wear wig at times....but the truth is the truth. We need to do our best to stay away from human hair. We take on the issues they were/are dealing with. If we check certain culture, we can see that preist eould burn the hair of these persons when they cut it. Now they sell it because soneone is willing to buy those burdens

Sister, everything you said is true. I also loved when you said "there is time coming when black women wouldn't want to wear wigs'. I must say, amen to that. Thank you 🙏

What about constant urge to pull out your hair leading to bald spots

My sisters and nieces they were wigs and it did take me her out it groovy they hair different strokes for different folks AMEN HALLELUJAH GLORY BE TO OUR GOD

I have come across people who got shocked of my hair ....ohh it's so healthy...it's long ...black etc ...the last woman said that next term your hair will b allover ua back....that's the last time my hair was healthy....so much disappointed for the last five yrs ....I perfectly understand wat u saying. Thnx

If you truly love yourself, you wouldn’t risk cancer just to have white people hair.

Straight facts,, boundaries people boundaries

Greetings Family! I've had it with wearing wigs! I believe it is self-defeating in the black community! This is important! Today many Black women (globally) are suffering from Traction Alopecia and no edges, thinning hair and more detrimental characteristics which is destroying are actual hair follicles. I firmly believe this is the causation it is from China, Indonesia, Brazil and so on and so forth. We are placing this sacrificial hair on top of our hair which was originally designed for Hindu Satanic Altars; it is containing demonic spirits which are now engrafted into our souls. In addition, if you notice now the immigrant community is now owning everything and we are lifeless, voiceless and broke in our communities, in which we grew up in across America

I knew that I was tired when I would buy a wig try it on , and throw it in a drawer somewhere.

But then what if 4c hair girlies tell you your reasoning for relaxing your hair it's because it's "difficult" is self-hating? It starts with us.

Relaxers are loaded with lethal chemicals. Black women are the leading uterine cancer patients. Please ladies, do your research. You can have a temporary silk press.

Didn’t think there needed to be a 20 minute video of yet another grown women making up excuses on why relaxing the hair that grows out of your scalp is better than taking care of your own hair. It’s sad really.

Didn’t think anything about our hair would exhibit a “sign” that you need to relax it

not enough oxygen

to all the people talking about relaxers are harmful to the body, i hope you dont drink soda, coffee, tap water, eat meat, use deodorant, use laundry detergents, wear makeup, etc. 😊

I’m assuming you haven’t heard about the research found on hair relaxers. Those are HARMFUL to your scalp and health.

Your hair looks very dry and doesn't look that healthy. Are you African? Relaxed African hair tends to look like this. Anyway please don't advise people to do this..its not healthy.,..this is sad.

thank you for being so real Demi. I know there is so much controversy with this topic but there are so many other women who feel the same way you do :) natural hair can be hard but as you mentioned its easier for some than it is for others! everyone should do what works for them and not be pressured by the media or anyone to do otherwise, everyone Is on their own journey and everyone is different 🩷

For me I love my natural hair. Ill continue to remain natural. However, i do understand why some of us are returning to relaxer. Should depend on the individual and their decision to make that choice. What I dont like is people forcing others and making a decision for them. Do what is right for you! 😊

There are many orher ways to maintain your hair without putting relaxers in your hair. Just loc it, braids, weave. Heat and relaxers cause damage, it's not worth it. Its not anout being European. You cab Loc it and it won't be much maintenance. ☺️

This why your hair look fried and unnatural...

Sister... no black women with kinky hair or w.e never is there a sign or a time when you need to relax your hair The ignorance and unknowing self hate you show is disgusting and embarrassing...then for you to promote this mindset to other bw to do this is is insane...then yall wonder why BW arent tooken serious, this has to be the dumbest thing ive heard in months

Are you going to do another video on the dangers to your health caused by using relaxers. Such as cancer and tumors. Speaking as a black woman with 'break every comb teeth out' type of hair.

There’s no signs for needing to relax your hair at all. wtf. Learn to love yourself and learn your hair. Like this is so freaking sad.

All the words you have said are on point…agree with you 100 %…learn to love our hair does not mean that we have to mantain our hair in its natural state…relax it if you want…do whatever you please without hesitate❤for me was the other way around…I used to relax my hair since I have memory but now my hair is natural 100 % and I feel sooo happy I just cant even explain…thank you🥰

My beautician recommended this, and i tried it. It does dry out your hair, and it's not something i think i will use on a daily basis. I have a texturizer, and i put this in my hair while it was wet along with my moisturizing lotion and oil. When it dried, it made my hair feel stiff and almost brittle. It's not for everyone's hair for sure.

I've always wanted children. I feel it in my body. I've never felt marriage as a biological imperative.

I just bought it,I’m white girl pool water I’m loosen my hair,it’s like straw,I have the mizani shampoo also

I felt the same way ..I loved the styles and colors but after wearing them I be so ready to take them off ..I bought so many wigs and I'm not happy or satisfied anymore ..I been wearing my hair and being natural I have falling in love with my own hair ..I use to feel so happy and excited about wearing the wigs but now I'm at peace being myself ...I feel so fake with wigs .it has damaged my real hair .losing my edges etc costing money to just try the wigs and throw them away.. I'm so over it ..Ladies love yourself the way God made you

Thnks dea But is it OK to use relaxer oli to strait my hair??

My sign... stylist ripped my relaxed hair from a protective style takedown.

Super great advice. I’m also guilty of doing some of these things. Thank you for your video ❤

I’ve saw the sign. I got my hair locd yesterday.

Thank you very helpful

Chiiiiiilllld...let me tell ya... When I moved to another state in the U.S. and had to get a new beautician, my hair was beautiful and had a good length yet she cut it without my permission. I'd been going to her since 2021. I found out late last year that she has alopecia. What doesn't help is that, although she's been in the United States for many years, she's from a country that has heavy witchcraft. I knew about the latter but not the former. After putting the two together, my last appointment was Christmas Eve. I haven't been back and I'm not going back. I understand what you're saying about pastors and leaders but, it shouldn't be so broad that no one can touch you. People travel from all over the world to come to my church to get ministered to. I'm blessed to have pastors I can trust in this way. 😊

AAAAAAMEN ESP RANDOM UNKNOW CHURCH MEMBERS HUGGING ON ME AND YES THE PASTOR AS WELL AND HIS HANDS ON YOUR HEAD AS HE PRAYS OVER YOU...I HAVE NEVER LIKED THAT...