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Yep some women do exactly that because toxicity is familiar unfortunately

I believe it would be considered abuse if let's say a spouse blocks their spouse for no other reason than to gain control, hurt them or manipulate them by cutting off forms of communication. Then unblocks them when it's convenient for them and essentially uses it as a form of control. Blocking someone to protect yourself from being abused is perfectly valid in my opinion!

@@Reinventingher coercive control can be a real difficult form to prove unfortunately whether you are in a DV case as the victim or they use social media blocking to triangulate and quadrate and etc., etc. during a divorce, for example or custody battle. Some abusers will just utilize generic terminology for collective groups of people to make sure they drive their black-and-white thinking they’re all or nothing good or evil into the victim…. that lazy half assed cruelty. Perhaps they will access your device when you are not aware of it and that’s how the block goes. On your social media such as Facebook? When you’re not aware if You Are can put space between you and anyone else that might speak up if they knew what was happening. Anyone else they may consider a threat to the relationship. How often do people look at their blocking list on Facebook ? For one had not ever revisited something just so I could see either relish or see or stew in my juices of whatever made me need to put a block on a person. I got out of a very long, very abusive More so mentally but physically twice too and he had time for it. I did not invite him back in My Mother during the lockdown when he got out, it was not good . However, it was over 10 years ago that he first reappeared in my life after a couple of dates in adolescence. Then I happened to look at the list of people that were blocked on my Facebook while I was doing my semi annual security sweep with Settings. There were so many names. I didn’t even know how to process that because I didn’t do it many of them were males that I either had worked with at some point or was related to biologically somehow with a couple second cousins husband that I’ve never met in person, but knowing him as long as I did at that point, I could see the resemblance to the guy that broke up his marriage. I was deeply hurt earlier on when this partner told me, he wished Facebook had such beyond lock because they didn’t yet have such a specific filtering so that some people could see some injuries, etc. etc. is very wealthy friend for our seas who tended to live vicariously through his shenanigans for whatever reason very very judgmental about me from my Facebook, how I embarrassed him in front of his friends thank God his parents are dead because he would’ve been even more embarrassed if his parents saw that he was dating somebody with flu and yellow hair, cartoon, etc. etc. it just kept going and going and going and that’s how it works. Why didn’t I leave? Did I secretly enjoy the attention I must because I would’ve left. I must enjoy it. It’s a kink wondering so many years why I lost touch with this person that person whatever happened to… All those names on the list some of them people died since I last chatted with them. I never knew they were blocked and I hope they weren’t hurt if I seem to be in the world, but not online they were horrible. Acouple or so I had not spoken to probably over decade there’s numbers from someone else’s if they can access it, triangulate triangulate put their hands with her. I don’t mind to do the Devils work. “Every single friend of yours is trashy.” Because devaluing while isolating someone from their prior support system of friends and family is also an important weapon in itself. It’s a form of brainwashing it is cult like, if trauma bonding did not factor into your union initially this kind of behavior is to help expedite that layer of dysfunction/ . Even as you are looking at a censored view of their social media utilize that too. You can’t handle it you don’t deserve it. I tried to share my life. You’re too crazy, stupid embarrassing, etc. etc. And you know, depending on how much time has passed with the person hiding that side of themselves whether you’ve had children and joint financial investments and how many years you’ve known them even we all make excuses out how I they are the only person who even bothers with you anymore perhaps think“ none of my friends think we should together. Nobody likes you.” Etc and I was embarrassed that it had escalated to meanly juvenile mind games and sadness loneliness. Started out with my life my assets, my home my resources insidiously me into a combustible object existence where my education was just the way I narcissistically puffed my chest out because I went to University what am I doing with it? W with it? What am I doing with it (always repeating things three times while screaming them) one time I did get old enough to call the police while he filmed me kept me awake also like the bite model of cults alienated starving awake horrifying when they showed up and he said so very calmly and Cooley, even though he had been running up and down the stairs with the that I had just bought it was mine, but he was filming me with my own phone holding it over like in the middle trying to make me react unhinged so he could share it with the rest of the world by having a copy. But when the officers actually showed up, I didn’t recognize the voice. He came up with so smooth but calm and reasonable as he lied to them about me being his sister devastating forms of schizophrenia and refusing to take my medication but he was my guardian since our parents passed away, etc. etc. each little turd syllable gate of his teeth that was that was pretty devastating because they believed him to speak to me slowly calm listening to my brother I might need to go inpatient if I cannot comply with the medicine my doctor gives me for my disorders. It was very scary that calm voice. Reptilian yet threatening in it’s Brad deficit of any humanity. I don’t know how I finally extracted myself from this cluster muff however, I’m very grateful that I did. Prior to that time in my life, I honestly naïve believed my mother would always poor into my brain abuse. If she stays with them, she likes it. That only happens to ignorant uneducated women who didn’t know any bette and they’re usually hillbillies or she used a synonym of refugee that can and has been used as a slur when she was a kid and Harold at her and my grandparents because they were not from this country immediately and gave that away. It was all kind of yuck. it is going to beall right now because I am not I’m different. I’m not all wrong, but I’m different now. Hyper vigilance and scatterbrain brain fog in organization that has quadrupled if not more so since before I was just mild Asperger syndrome a sometimes resulting in social anxieties, but garden AudHD and unfortunately, the toxicity of this particular relationship was so significant and severe still sometimes disoriented. Graduated second in my class in high school. I’ve been successful prior to the years of being in the relationship, but i’ve never had an easy Time of asking for assistance or admitting it when I needed some kind of Second or third-party opinion or intervention of some type I should know better unfortunately I realize that the blueprint for that relationship was probably the one I had with my mom wasn’t until my dad passed away that same couple year period that I realized how much he ran interference for her dangerous hurtful behavior. I didn’t realize even though I work in a mental health field for years so I didn’t realize perhaps it wasn’t my fault to responsibility that she had issues but it sure became my problem and we only know what we know until something happens to show us other paths. I thought everybody’s family was until after my father died. She switched characters when he would come home or be in the room, etc. she wasn’t the mom we had, spontaneous inconsistent creature devoid of emotional regulation and impulse control at times. More gas to light-I was a designated patient. The R word the neurodivergent the one who needs help because I’m different. It was awful to have my mom herself utilizing a Weaponized version of truth and experience so that I “must’ve done a lot of drugs very seriously hard drugs for pretty consistently dedicated long amount of time” my mother conjectured “ and your praying isn’t right that she would not do something with your life away from all that crazy bullshit are you on drugs? Oh my God how did I not know? Maybe I’m too close to you’ so “he must’ve hit you very hard so when he hit you, he used to punch you in the head and that’s why you’re so slow now? Oh girl, I thought you were gonna be somebody need to talk to my doctor… (I humored my mother to visit her doctor not a psychiatrist. I mean her primary care each other and comfortably as she said upon seeing my tox screen results devoid of . Any kind of substance over-the-counter on the street from the garden nothing so when she saw that was the result not even a vitamin and turning to the Doctor Whose age was a decade younger than I was (45 at the time “) I don’t know what to do with her now I think she needs to be on some medication. Don’t use a sick little girl…. …she had borderline and histrionic diagnosis for years and results. I was designated patient my entire life I never realized, and it was contagious. Now I really do want to become the very cliché and trope that I sort of have not dating not sleeping with anyone tons of cats no desire to pop up with another human ever again, most likely, just vibrator some pets and a job that lets me live within my means yay I win. Good luck with your channel. I like your energy energy and your delivery. God bless more people. Do you need to talk about this kind of topic or specificallythivrry one

Because everything is abuse when you need to make TH-cam content. Don’t you get it??

@@Reinventingher yeah females do it all the time. No big deal 🤷‍♀️

Actually in my recent experience, my boyfriend of almost a year had me blocked on Snapchat and instagram because he didn’t want to see what I posted (nothing revealing, literally pics of farm animals and sunsets) but his social media was filled with women that he watched and looked at on a daily basis. He used to shame me for having social media as a way of isolating me from my friends. And held his social over my head because all he had on there was other women. (I hope this makes sense) and it was also paired with gaslighting, verbal and emotional abuse, and threats of physical violence. I used to think the same thing, like how is being blocked on social media abusive?? But also in a healthy relationship why would you want to block your significant other on social media??? In my experience my ex just used it to put my down and isolate me. It was abuse in a cruel modern way.

Thanks, I appreciate it!

I'm sorry you have experienced this and I hope channels like this as well as other resources can help with healing!

Absolutely, some people love to victimize themselves whether they aren't actually innocent or if they simply can't move past their trauma. That's what makes my channel unique, I don't dwell on man bashing or perpetuating victimhood. My channel is about healing, growing, changing and moving forward. Surely you can't deny that people do abuse other people? I mean, that's why people go to jail, are arrested etc a lot of it is violence, abuse and so on. I certainly didn't remain a victim. I'm married with 3 kids ages 3 and under, I'm in school and I refuse to let any of the trauma that's happened to me to dictate my life. And hope my viewers don't either :)

@@Reinventingher now let's go get down to brass tacks most do it for money

@@Wigington24 I don't sell anything but yeah some people do!

@@Reinventingher I know plenty of unhappily married women

This channel is called reinventing HER.

Lol good luck 😂

My goal is to focus on women for a variety of reasons but men absolutely also unfortunately stay in abusive relationships, for most of the same reasons with some exceptions and off the top of my head I can think of pride being one of them. I definitely could make a video on this in the future though.

Dumb comment from a dumb person.