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I've spent like 6 years with daydreaming, and I'm still struggling with it, but now these days when reality hit me it start to be less and less ( btw i tried to stop it from like a year or more, so i think it helped me a lot) please if anyone can help me I would really be thankful ❤

guys im struggling so much with this rn, but my real life sucks I feel as if I keep manifesting the same thing over and over again it’s like im in a loop and I’ve tried everything to stop and to be happier and live a better life and maladaptive daydreaming is my cope because of my shitty life. What should I do?? 😞😞

I began to day dream in year 7 but when I quit music I stopped but when I was going through a hard time I began to listen to music again and that's when it came back and I'm so tired of it and now I'm going to quit music again and I DELTED tiktok and I found podcast very very helpful while cleaning and listening to podcast and spend time with people calling someone whatever texting someone

I actually love it but i just learnt to somehow manage it in busy days ... I set a specific time slot for daydreaming which was before bed. I would catch myself slipping in daydreams then just stop myself and basically keep it for bed time and so on .... that's why it's my favorite time of the day and i look forward to it .

Noooo i don't want to stop. Daydreaming is literally the only thing i look forward to....when i have school work or smth i delay it till before sleep and it really helps.

😔 gurl, stop calling us out

I spent 14 years lost in maladaptive daydreaming. Learning late that a lot ppl share this same struggle which is eye-opening, but it’s heartbreaking to think of all the time I wasted living in a fantasy instead of the real world.

How do you get out of this? Like actionable steps

dreaming for 50 years is actually scary

you just need a therapist to guide you. That one is an easy one. Most people do like to have that confort imagination, specifically when going to sleep. But if it is affecting you I am sure a therapist can help you gain new good habits to replace and help you change what you do not like about it.

youre going to grow so much girl, ty for the video

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20 years of maladaptive daydreaming here. Different dreams, and it's really hard to stop because I still don't know what triggers me. Never needed headphones or other external tools, so I cannot get rid of any. It all started when I was 7, to cope with insomnia, but now it can happen out of nowhere and I just cannot be aware of the fact that it is happening, up to being several hours into the daydream before realizing. I could even function on an "autopilot" in school, at work, or social settings, while daydreaming. I wouldn't say I didn't grow as a person, though. I've used the daydream to simulate therapy sessions, argue with people I know in real life (to then let out a gentler and more realistic complain, or to keep from reaching out to dysfunctional people I cut from my life), I've practiced foreign languages, I've rehersed how to react in difficult situations. I used it as a social gym. The only problem is that sometimes I find myself remembering that I told someone I know something, but it happened in the daydream instead. And I lose a lot of time, hours and hours on end, on a daily basis.

-> “they’ll yell at me if i sing” -> *continues singing* lmao i love you.

Hi!! Thank you for posting this video, every time I see a content about maladaptive daydreaming i feel so understood. I also started having md when I was around 12 years old, it happened casually when I started listening to music imagining dreams. As time passed it became an addiction and a way to comfort myself when bad things happened. In the previous years I tried a lot of times to stop myself from repeating this pattern, but I didn’t succeed. Right now I’m trying again to quit it and I hope that I will be able to free myself from this addiction since I’m older. Probably the most sad thing about maladaptive daydreaming is that it makes you dissociate from reality, and you start to hate you life because it’s so different from the daydreams where you are loved, celebrated and respected. I hope that everyone that has md can succeed in free themselves from it. Forgive yourself for the years you spent “dreaming”, try to learn to finally love your life( do things that inspire you and that you love), cherish the little moments and don’t hate yourself if you fall into the trap of the daydream again( take it step by step). I’m so proud of everyone that has md, but hasn’t told anyone because the are ashamed of it or fear of judgement, but they are trying to live life normally. Remember you can free yourself just like any type of addiction. The solution is to actually do the things that you wanna do, be with who you wanna be and especially be yourself.

It's true. Im 34. I've spent at least 14 - 22 yrs doing this. Get out while you can. It's not so fun when it takes over your life. And it will if you don't see boundaries on it. It's like an addiction. My life sucks so much that I don't care anymore and prefer it over reality now. But if you can avoid that, do it.

i do it ever since I could remember i do not even need headphones

I'm 16 and since my dad left my house i started daydreaming, i think i all started with tiktok and its music. I dont remember how i was before daydreaming, but i can assure that its hell. I have many charcters and stories in my head, they all started from shows and then developed into something more complex and with more details each time that I listen to music or tiktok edits. Many times i've found myself daydreaming in social spaces and rathering spending time with my headphones and the music than with friends. Nonetheless, these days i have realized its awful consecuences and i've found your videos, which i am so thankful because its helping me to get rid of this. Also, english isn't my first language so i may have done some errors while writing this but yeah, thank you for sharing your videos

Stop watching tiktok advice is useful in a lot of situations hahaha. I haven't been using tiktok for like 4 years and I have never ever been so free✨✨✨🤘🤘🤘😁😁😁 Tiktok isn't my maladaptive dreaming trigger and i actually don't think that i had an addiction of this app, but one day i just realised that tiktok is stupid... And it's more cool to read a little or find some nice inspiring photos and art on Pinterest or behance if you got like 5 minutes of spare time and you don't know what to do.

❤❤❤ very good

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Yes, I'm working to get rid of it. Thanks for sharing these tips ❤

You're the best😍

2:24 my favourite moment

i can’t explain my feelings! im amazed! i really want to hear more of your covers

I LOVE IT GIRL.

Thank you l ve been struggling for 8 years

How long has it been since you quit?

Things I remember saying to "get back" to reality - "Don't emotionally react to daydreamings" - "Don't argue to daydreamings" - "Don't justify to daydreamings" - "Nothing about that is happening"

As she said like break or hide your headphones, ok like I did the same but then I have nothing to do literally I’m so bored so I need to start doing it again

Could you please make a video about the feeling of being 12 while you are actually much older, as if your body grew but your mind didn’t... I heard in your previous video that you have this problem and so do I and probably many of us, so it would be an interesting topic !

I struggle sm with this,I started when I was around 6 years old and now I am turning 20 in a few days...

i am 18 and i spent most of my teenage inside that virtual reality and at first i really didn't mind it, i mean why wouldn't i, it was probably the only thing that made me happy but slowly as i grew, i was having a really bad feeling whenever i was struck by my reality' maybe my ego couldn't accept it but those daydream still made me happy, i guess maybe the guilt was more than that happiness, these daydreams were escape from my reality but now instead of running away i started to improve myself both mentally and physically Ofcourse it was hard in the starting but now i finally managed to minimize them to the max, i was also lucky enough to found a career path of what i love which i think helped me a lot In short i would just advice that find something in the real world for which you can live for, which can be also called your purpose

Is daydreaming now bad or something? I don't understand now

May i ask you if you stopped it ? Thanks for the video

i love ittttt.

The problem is that there are people on social media that I follow, but I imagine that they are with me in real life, even though they are in other countries and do not even know my language. Even when I unfollow them, these thoughts still haunt me, and I often talk and laugh to myself based on my imagination that they are talking to me and invent new events. I really want to get rid of this problem.

I'm still a maladaptive daydreamer and i have been daydreaming for about 9 years now. Yep, it definitely did ruined my life. Even after daydreaming i start to feel bad about myself because i've always think that "i could've spend my time doing x instead of just daydreaming". Rn i'm trying different various methods to try to get rid of it. Of course i can't completely erase my addiction but i can at least try to control. Thanks for sharing your experience

giiirl i love your vibes sm

honestly i really understand all of these rules ‘cause they’re so helpful fr

Thanks you it's very helpful to see someone who lived the same situation than me

Thank you so much for this video ! You can't imagine how much it means to many of us. Btw I understand that daydreaming makes you guys upset because you feel like you wasted your life, but don't worry too much ! It's a chapter. Not the full story. Life isn't made for being perfect, it's made for growing and you can't grow without making mistakes. It is already a great step to be conscious that daydreaming isn't healthy for you. Keep in mind that it is an addiction, and as every addiction like alcohol or cigarette, it requires a lot of courage to free yourself from it. But when you are free you'll live your life at its fullest, you'll make up for the lost time, acheive all of your dreams, and become the best version of yourself. Because this maladaptive daydreaming era will have taught you the importance of living in the moment. So go take action NOW ! Love you all X3

Thank u for sharing, I've lived with md my entire life; been doing it since I remember and I've reached 22 still doing it every day and it's a literal addiction, I don't know how to stop. I hope to get better moving forward

It all started when I was 14. I had some trauma in school that left me feeling deeply lonely and detached. I was really sad that I started creating my own virtual reality in my mind to cope and feel happy. I started daydreaming while roaming in circles and listening to music, I didn't realise what I was stepping into. I got trapped and went into circles for a very long time. I accept that it was not my fault for falling into this. I was just a kid who had no one idea this would cause immense suffering later in my life. And it did. It ruined my entire school life. After finishing school, I took a year off and decided to overcome the addiction, no matter what or else I'd die trying. By that time, I was 19 and too messed up with maladaptive daydreaming. I worked my ass off and tried so many things, from simple journaling and cold showers to intense physical activities for months on end. I meditated for long hours, chanted mantras, and even changed my room as my subconscious mind had been programmed to daydream in the previous one. I eventually found effective methods and managed to overcome the addiction over time. It was really difficult, but absolutely worth it. It took me over 1.5 years to fully recover, and my life completely transformed. Now at 21, I want to tell you, If I could do it, so can YOU! If you need help, I can guide you. There is so much you need to understand and be mindful of to conquer it in the most effective way possible. If you just hit more info section of my AC, you shall find a way to reach me.

How Did you overcome it?

Thank you for sharing. Your Speaking is good.

Write down whatever you are planning on dreaming about(have a book where you can write down your thoughts the moment you feel the need to imagine start writing)

Hey I spent 5 years now I am 21 but still can't stop it can you please tell me the way to recover

So what I spent 11 years

that’s actually really scary… i used to do that for a while and that made me feel so uncomfortable and anxious about my life