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Thelindsaygoodman
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 18 ม.ค. 2022
Trauma Recovery Coach. Thriving after abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships. It’s Not All Rainbows Podcast
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Do Abusive People Always Isolate Their Victims?
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In this episode I talk about how abusive people can isolate their victims at home but SOMETIMES they encourage victims to leave home. Why? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com Support this podcast: podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
Do Abusive People Always Isolate Their Victims?
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In this episode I talk about how abusive people can isolate their victims at home but SOMETIMES they encourage victims to leave home. Why? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com
Recognizing potential abuse in victim’s body language
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Recognizing potential abuse in victim’s body language
You WILL Be the Villain in Their Story
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No matter what you do or don't do, you WILL be the villain in the abuser's story. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com Support this podcast: podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
It's Not All Rainbows Podcast: You WILL Be The Villain in Their Story
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No matter what you do or don't do, you WILL be the villain in the abuser's story. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com
Some Thoughts on Abuse in the LGBTQ+ Community
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In this episode, I talk about some issues with abuse in the LGBTQ community (and in general) and some things I wish we would change as a whole to make our community safer. Support this podcast: podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
Some Thoughts on Abuse in the LGBTQ+ Community
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In this episode, I talk about some issues with abuse in the LGBTQ community (and in general) and some things I wish we would change as a whole to make our community safer.
Healing milestones after abuse can be big or small!
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Healing milestones after abuse can be big or small!
It's Not All Rainbows ep 117: Social Media can Help or Harm You
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It's Not All Rainbows ep 117: Social Media can Help or Harm You
Abuse One in the Home, Abuse ALL in the Home
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Abuse One in the Home, Abuse ALL in the Home
Abuse One in the Home, Abuse ALL in the Home
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Abuse One in the Home, Abuse ALL in the Home
Abusive people do NOT handle boundaries well
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Abusive people do NOT handle boundaries well
It's Not All Rainbows Podcast ep 116: Why Does My Abuser Look SO Happy!?
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It's Not All Rainbows Podcast ep 116: Why Does My Abuser Look SO Happy!?
It’s Not All Rainbows Podcast ep 115: Using “I Love You” as a Weapon
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It’s Not All Rainbows Podcast ep 115: Using “I Love You” as a Weapon
It’s Not All Rainbows ep 114: Taking Time to Heal
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It’s Not All Rainbows ep 114: Taking Time to Heal
It's Not All Rainbows ep 113: Guilting You to Hang Out Early On
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It's Not All Rainbows ep 113: Guilting You to Hang Out Early On
It’s Not All Rainbows ep 112: You Only Like it the way I Do It: Gaslighting & Sex
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It’s Not All Rainbows ep 112: You Only Like it the way I Do It: Gaslighting & Sex
You Only Like it the way I Do It: Gaslighting & Sex
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You Only Like it the way I Do It: Gaslighting & Sex
Late blooming lesbians: you are not obligated to stay with the first person who comes along!
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Late blooming lesbians: you are not obligated to stay with the first person who comes along!
It's Not All Rainbows Ep 111: Why Do They ALWAYS Walk In Front of Me?
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It's Not All Rainbows Ep 111: Why Do They ALWAYS Walk In Front of Me?
It's Not All Rainbows Ep 110: Did you REALLY Know Your Abuser?
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It's Not All Rainbows Ep 110: Did you REALLY Know Your Abuser?
It's Not All Rainbows ep 109: AM I Healing?
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It's Not All Rainbows ep 109: AM I Healing?
leaving is so hard, to take back your control, your will, your destiny will lead to a better you. yes it's scary, but you'll meet the future you. you have the right to be happy. just learn from your choices, dont repeat them, and know the right person is looking for you.
i cant wait to leave as the older sibling but with my older cousin leaving soon i cant help but feel sad knowing that i wont have her with me for much longer and it makes me sad for when i leave bc it seems so far but its really not and i feel so bad for my younger brother and having to leave him behind bc i wont be able to take him w me
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Thank You a so much for this!
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As a Christian, I genuinely think LGBTQ is a sin, and no one will change that, but I am so sorry for what you’ve gone through. I’ll pray that you move on and heal🙏
Not being sexual in a relationship is abusive?
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Pathetic examples
What if you live with them and cant leave?
@@freyafox5079 can you say more? Why can’t you leave? I couldn’t leave for a long time and then I did, so I want to see if I can help you see a way out. I’m not saying this like “I did so you can.” I’m saying this like “let’s try to find a way.”
@@thelindsaygoodman I am disabled to the point of not being able to have a job of any kind(I have tried) and where I need to live with someone. As well as I have a little sister who I basically raised and even if I could leave, I wouldn't want to leave her behind.
If you ever catch yourself wriggling your way back into their life cos they “need your help” or “wonders where you are” just remember the reason WHY you left, and leave them on their own terms. If according to them that there’s no reason for you to be complaining, then there’s no reason you should be suffering also💁♂️ Oh and btw when they ask for help or say they “miss you” or whatever junk they try to throw at you - just remember they’re stringing you along for their own benefit and are here to USE and drain you and not to instill greatness in you.
@@Jake1738-ts4mz this is why they need to be blocked on EVERYTHING.
NPD IS A DISORDER. STOP DEMONIZING PERSONALITY DISORDERS. AN ABUSER DOES NOT ABUSE BECAUSE OF THEIR DISORDER. JUST SAY LONG-TERM EMOTIONAL ABUSE
My ex would get upset that I never would initiate the kiss after dropping him off to work after receiving physical abuse from him the night before. Expecting me to be his alarm and get him to work all the time. I was cover the mask he wore for everything that went wrong it was my fault for treating him like the true pos he really was but couldn't accept it
I hope you’re ok. You did a really strong thing for you and your child🥺❤️
I just found you. This is my story - everything you’re saying. First girlfriend was an abuser, late life coming out, we were “official” by the 2nd date. Worse relationship of my life, nearly two years later from ending it and I’m still traumatized when a call slips through. My late life story is popular on YT BUT is not the fairy tale I thought when I recorded it.
I spoke out on TH-cam. My channel was threatened by my ex. I had to remove ALL videos of the abuser AND the talking videos that never mentioned the abusers name. Five years of trauma came back once the videos were removed. My voice was taken, completely ripped away. Two months later, I’m still not whole.
A person can bar raise or lower the bar as to what bread-crumbing is? A person can give 100% attention to the partner and their partner can still call it breadcrumbs.
But I already got an emergency dvro granted? Why not defend myself? They’re not going to stop😭
I got sent to the ER BY MY LITTLE SISTER FOR ABUSE. ALL BECAUSE I DIDNT GIVE HER REMOTE
@@StarChanel-_-onpawws sibling abuse happens much more often than people realize.
My mom Isolates me in my house and doesn't let me go to my friend's house/ car even when all my other friends do (and have been doing it for years) and hasn't been kidnapped, my mom also controls what i wear all the time telling me not to impress men when i wear what i want and proceed to tell me to look cute, hypocrite, seriously. She blames me and my older brother for everything even when it isn't us, and i swear she loves my grandma who sold my mom off to my grandpa's best friend when my mom was 7 and didn't even care to see her again until my mom visited after she moved to America and visited back to her homeland ... MY MOM PICKS HER OVER ME AND MY BROTHER i also had an abusive father who used to abuse my mom and brother for 7 years but ge lived me so much so he wouldnt touch me, she would pressure me by knowing i have school etc. to deal with and proceeds to tell ME and ME SPECIFICALLY TO CLEAN OUR WHILE HOUSE.... She acts like im supposed to get a job at the age of 11! ITS NOT MY FAULT THAT MY BROTHER TURNED 14 AND HAS TO WORK NOW, MY GRANDMA DOESN'T DO SHIT EITHER and she also prevents me and my brother from keaving, i remember one day, my brother had enough and packed until my mom pushed him back in the house and hit him (all me and my brother's story and im suicidal too) :D Edit: i also remember my mom stalking me, following me with her car while i was on my way to school minding my business, my mom also doesn't allow PRIVACY in our house, She might just find this comment in the next 2 days.... She also prevents me from sleeping and threatens me, how you say? So since she has a night shift job, i would finish my work, sometimes it will take very long since its the whole house that um cleaning, so... I finish cleaning at 1AM on a school night and my mom calls me, threatening me telling me she was gonna rip my head iff when i come home from school because she thought i was playing games (she always does) and so she legit hits me when i come back from Biking 1 mile from school and back when im exhausted and she controls my financ- SHE CONTROLS EVERYTHING... IM LIKE A TOY TO HER! SHE USES ME AS A PAWN AND EVERYTHING! Edit 2: the is is why my pfp is Dazai, i would do the double suicide with him anyway
Abusive people never changes!! I suffered these kind of situation during my childhood to teenage years, grew up being surrounded by my abusive and aggressive father, abusive classmates, toxic environment made me irritated, mentally disturbed, exhausted that caused me to become a quiet person today as a 30 year old man now. Now people says that I’m a quiet and introverted guy. But these toxic situations made me like this. But the shocking thing is that I saw these same people today …they are still abusive and they never changes at all. Those kids who grew up to have that toxic behaviour traits are the ones who abuse their wives, their own kids in the future as their life becomes a hell at home.
My dad caused me so much emotional trauma 9n 5op of school that if it weren't for my friends wouldn't be alive
I don't like smiles anymore.
You are beautiful 😍
Abuse is a choice. If you perpetuate the same patterns it is either you are unaware or you choose to be abusive. Remember they do not do it in public mostly it's behind closed doors. And that's why I believe they are aware to an extent that what they're doing is not ok.
PHEW YOU SCARED ME 😭😭😭😭😭
Just creates more shame and guilt and creates more silence and isolation. People really don't think when they offer advice sometimes.
hell yeah!
I am sorry, but I don't know your story: why do you call yourself a 'survivor'?
@@valeriapinto1866 you can loook around for more info, but because I am a survivor of domestic violence
Poor chic ...fk him...that's minimal and etc etc
She didn’t even greet the dog for a second, that made me sad
@@Jacksonmoonstar1714 wasn’t allowed to
@@thelindsaygoodman You weren’t allowed to greet your dog
@@Jacksonmoonstar1714 no
Physical abuse is what drives them to the hospital Emotional abuse is what drives them to suicide
Horrible 😢
I really hope the best for you 💗 and youre such a gorgeous!! Women 😻
I'm happy for your new lease on your life ❤
Yes they do! Anytime my ex husband would raise his voice/yell at me, the dog would go and hide in the shower. He'd go in there and yell at the dog to get out of the shower and she would just tremble. I'd have to go and comfort her and calm her down, then she'd come out but was very leary of him. Unfortunately, he came and took her when I was at work one day and still has her to this day. I fought for her during divorce proceedings, but he had a better lawyer. I just hope she's healthy and treated well.
Boundaries people. They work for both sexes.
Never even said hello to the dog. We really don't deserve them.
@@egyptianprincess2560 I wasn’t allowed to. But she’s with my now and so very loved.
This comment section is a fine example of an echo chamber.. you guys sure love buzz words and sob stories eh? What a bizarre video..
My abuse was physical and mental...
no kidding, I think it makes it worse
Whst happen to the Dog?
@@DuduMen-kx7ns she’s with me
“You people” 😂
Love how u post like that about him sounds like it goes both ways dude….
@@MichaelKirchner-c6b no man involved
Not only did my ex not go out do anything for my birthday, he told me to not go out because he wanted to stay home. Then threaten that if I did go out without him, he'd lock me out the house. So I went out with co workers. Had a great time. Stayed out all night. Then slept in my car in the parking deck. Just to get home and be yelled at that he didn't even lock me out. I still don't really celebrate my birthday.
Audience biasism / should be called " Male Gaslighting" or "Female gaslighting exampless examples.
A better example of a video being sexist than just gaslighting.
@@SouthSaltLakeJake can you point out the sexism?
ballerina farms treats her kids like trash.
Ya. Like dont feel scared.
Mine added a hellish spin to that last one. I got "I love you" from them dozens of times. If i didnt respond, they ignored it and just increased the frequency. When i healed enough to be able to acknowledge my own emotions, i asked them to temporarily stop for a bit because I realized something was going wrong with me internally when they said it and I couldn't get a grasp on it. I just knew it was bad and i wanted a break to see if it would go away. How they responded turned "I love you" into a flashback trigger. Thankfully just typing it doesnt immediately set it off, but i certainly cant elaborate without my mental state disolving like sugar in boiling water.