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when Omari said give me something else why this, and then pointed out the fact anyone with mental health will always feel like what they have or going through is the worst, really resonated with me. been through tinnitus anxiety thought that was the WORST, then went thru Eye freckle insecurity/obsession, was severely DEPRESSED wanted to cry every day. then lastly went through BDD which was focused on my Hair, more so anxiety/paranoia around balding...now this nearly took me out. Now I laugh at all these obsessions and think back to why I thought these were so important lmao. but it goes to show you whatever you are going through at the time will always seem like the worst thing

God...all are so handsome :)

I destincly remember a strnger coming up to me at the train station in highschool and saying " you know my best friend is an eye model. You could br an eye model...she has a fucked up nose aswell"... also my step mums friend saying to her " id love to see what briony looks like when shes older and has grown into her face..." but i dont remeber lot of my life lol

I hate that b i am doing something like normal and then i get a glanse in the mirror or reflection of mysel. And i see how disgusting i am. Like i kinda forgot for a minute. And the reminder is such a horrible shock!!!. Its so cruel

Even if you dont look at the small stamp of yourself, you know everyone lse has a full profile portrait view of you No way!!! Havent done a photo or video for about 5 yrs a still shot of my ugliness that people can look at whenever how horrifying!!!

Thank you!

This disorder has ended my life, I want to commit suicide, I can't leave the house, I'm devastated every day, I use medication, I was using Lustral 200 mg for 1 month, but it didn't work, now I switched to Anafranil, they don't work for 1 week, is there any other treatment, medications don't work.

What do you do if you are actually ugly though

Thank you so much for this.

I have bdd and have recently been diagnosed with ADHD are there any significant links between the 2?

I wish more people were dedicated to BDD. I struggle with it on a daily basis

My experience has taught me that there is no hope. If you're a skin picker, learn to live with it.

Thank you for doing this ✨

Not sure if this is the exact problem I have but basically I'm a 36 year old straight male but 20 years ago when I was 16 I was mistaken for a girl which has had a severe effect on the way I feel as a man to this day, sometimes I think about it more than I do other times but now I always worry about going out somewhere in case it happens again, the only time I don't worry about this is when I have a full beard, if I am completely clean-shaven I worry that I look too feminine, has this happened to any other men out there, or does any other man have this feeling?

I got the same condition as omari... My eyes. Whenever I hopefully sees my self as OK in the mirrors, I see myself looking stressed, panda eyes, hard to breath, panic. Worried bout how others sees this and being judged as sick or stressed. When avoiding the mirror or reflection, it's on my mind how I will look and when the opportunity comes to look myself, I'm disappointed and drowning my mood and repetition of scared being judged sick or looking stressed

‘Go with somebody else’ exactly. Gps went to Med school didn’t they, they should know what BDD is

Possibly you might like to update the title to include rumination given most of the talk is about that . As Prof. Veale himself says it cuts across a lot of different disorders as well as within the individual differences of most people. A fascinating topic really broken down in depth, its interesting for me personally to see some of my own ideas about the nature and definitions of rumination reflected in this lecture , thank you

Wow, I'm reading this man's book at the moment. I didn't expect to come across this. Brilliant

❤❤ super helpful 👌

Could I ask question?

in the world of Zoom BDD has become my nightmare , I hate to look at myself through cameras , or videos . I cant remember the last time i took a selfie . Every time i see myself through a camera its just a lot of self hate , not wanting to be the person who I am , because i feel unattractive . I feel so raw and exposed , as if im opening myself up for everyone to see ...

I can relate all too well with your stories. Thank you for sharing

Simon you seem like a really lovely human, we're very lucky to have you here ♥♥♥

Very helpful lecture. But I have a very important question and it keeps annoying me trickily which is How do you distinguish if your concern about your appearance is an actual problem or just dymorphic problems in your mind? How to decide if it is a really existed facial flaws or a psychological problem?

After LASIK and hair replacement, I can say the improvement is very mild. And both come with their own NEW bdd challenges with maintanence. Better to tackle the source of the problem with Cbt rather than patching the symptoms.

Rob is a genius in this area. His videos are massively helpful thank you so much Rob.

Nice video. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without anxiety-stress sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. This could be life transforming. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Im 38 years year and in the last couple of days come to realise I probably have bdd . I can relate to all you guys but mostly callum... my whole life I've struggled like this

The pandemic has made mine so much worse. I've tried everything. What to do when nothing has worked?

Thank you so much!!!!

he is adorable

Practicing mindfulness has helped. The mindfulness book "30 Days to Stop Obsessing" by Harper Daniels has good exercises and lessons. Share it with anyone who might be struggling. The fight is real, but it doesn't have to be long term.

I'm having a bad spike atm these videos are helping me feel grounded

Getting enough sleep has absolutely no impact on my BDD. My BDD has been severely affecting me in so many negative ways for 40 years, so no amount of sleep, CBT, or anything else would change the negative ways in which I view myself. Maybe if I had some kind of severe head trauma that would erase some negative events in my life from a part of my brain or affect my brain in a way which made me view myself completely differently, then I may be able to rid myself of this awful disorder. I have been on SSRIs, SNRIs, benzodiazepines, and atypical antipsychotics, and none of these medications has even put a dent in my BDD. Also, the limiting time in front of the mirror thing wouldn't help me either. When I feel adequately presentable to leave the house, that's when I will leave the house. If I don't get the time to make myself look even remotely presentable, I will not leave the house...period. My BDD is so severe that it has caused me to be late to school, jobs, and important events over four decades. I have been fired from good jobs due to being constantly late as a result of my BDD. It is a wicked condition from which to suffer. The only way that I could ever have a possibility of being "cured" of this disorder is for major changes to occur in my body (i.e. if my skin and hair miraculously got darker, among other major bodily changes). I am turning 54 years old in a few days, and I have suffered with BDD for 40 years, so I don't foresee myself ever being rid of this awful devastating disorder. I guess I will just have to hope to be reincarnated as a more "normal" looking human being. :(

Thank you all for taking the time to have this discussion. I believe by shining a light on this... and having these types of discussions... it actually helps to tame the wild animal (that is BDD) a bit more. Thank you again... and know that your work is vitally important to help save people's lives (figuratively and literally).

He fails to apply a social model to this research. The fact that online dating plays a significant role in how one looks. He has not fully incorporated the social aspects of BDD which, in my view, is important.

Very helpful, I have never come across “rumination”, it describes the ‘loop” I feel I have been stuck in for a while, I can observe it but cannot seem to exit it...I’m glad its an actual thing, one less possibility that I’m actually just crazy.

For me, it started at around 10 years of age. My mother would tell me I'm getting fat and would withhold food from me during meals. My brothers and friends would make fun of me while they would eat all the food they wanted. School mates and friends started giving me fat nicknames. I then started starving myself and finally reached a weight where my family and friends stopped calling me fat. At that point, I decided I needed to look even better and so I continued to starve myself and began to lift weights. I hated being around food and would feel a lot of anxiety. In high school, I started gaining lots of positive attention from school mates and girls as a result of having a lean body. By the time I was in college, I was an avid fitness guy. Then I got married and became depressed and I stopped caring about my appearance. I gained 130 pounds and started to avoid public places and hated being around people. After about 6 years of this, I began to notice the disgust on people's faces everywhere I went. I decided I needed to care again so I started dieting and exercising. I have now lost 130 pounds began to once again feel anxiety every time I am around food or if I have to go to an event that involves food. I now receive a lot of positive attention but I don't believe it. I think those people are just "being nice" and don't really believe I look good. These days I realize I am old (54), half bald and my body is lumpy (disgusting). I hate the feeling of food in my body but I love eating food. So I exercise 2 hours a day, 7 days a week. I try not to be around high-calorie foods because I can't seem to help myself and end up binging. After a day of binging, I add to my exercise routine to try and burn it off.

I have a family history of mental illness ( my mother has schizophrenia ) . received a year of therapy to deal with this but towards the end I began ruminations profusely, now I need my life back.

Really helpful. I have been ruminating on the same thought for 2 years now, and its gathering other ruminations unrelated to my appearance. Its so easy to know the principles but to apply them is another story.

In terms of core values,its probably something most bdders have entirely lost focus on due to their preoccupation.Its a key component of both compassion focussed therapy and behavioural action therapy.I was treated at ADRU which david oversees almost 3 yrs ago now.I had very severe BDD for 28ys ,completely decimated my life.During the 20 weeks at ADRU I came to not see myself as defined by appearance and consequently less emotionally reactive to actual physical appearance and mental image also.What worked for me was attentional training daily and mirror retraining also with an overall focus on tolerating and sitting with distressing emotions.The patients who improved most were the ones willing and motivated to function with those very emotions and do the therapy while you feel terrible until you dont.For an update David Im now in my second year of Medical school at 48 yrs old having wasted my entire adult life on BDD, ADRU was the pressure cooker that made me confront my shame about appearance once and for all and I still use what I learned there everyday of my life.Thank you to you and youre team,its a lifesaving service youre providing ,Ive no no doubt Id be dead now if it werent for my experience at ADRU.

Wow the slide about mental planning and false hope.... I really wish I didn't hear that bc those are the only moments when I don't want to kms

Hi, I don't know what to say, my partner made me come onto your page. I have an anxiety disorder as it is. I actually find the lockdown good. I dont want to leave the house. He thinks I have BBD and I know I don't. I am ugly and I am fat.

This needs more attention

That was so enlightening and informative! I myself as a man has BDD. Although it is not as severe. This was much needed. Keep men and BDD topics coming! I missed this live stream though. Hopefully I’ll catch the next one. 🤗

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Thank you this was very informative,

Thanks for giving this inspiration to remove more darkness.

brilliant breakdown

I don’t believe in psychiatry. When one is constantly rejected by others it’s time to see the handwriting on the wall.