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I acknowledge what you are saying. And you are right that it is important to help toddlers identify their feelings. This is one of the pros of gentle parenting. However, I think too much emphasis is placed on individual feelings and not enough on reason and objective reality in this day and age.

@@TheOnlyChildClub Reason and reality is for older children though, 8 or older. Younger children need emotion, through emotion they find their way through the world, reason will develop when they know their feelings and are able to manage them better. Then its the right time to teach reason. You're not wrong, but a small child and an older one are two very different people.

@@Celestichthysmargaritatus That is true. I just think some parents use gentle parenting and permissive parenting strategies throughout their child's life. And I think one needs to adapt one's parenting style depending on the temperance of a child as well. That's is why I don't think gentle parenting is suitable for every child, because every child is different.

@@TheOnlyChildClub I agree somewhat. But Gentle parenting in my book doesn't mean to only whispering gentle words to a child, even gentle parenting can be very firm and can set a very strong boundary, and as a parent, you can also be loud if your child doesn't accept your boundary after several statements on your side. For myself, gentle parenting is a way of thinking of parenting, not being on the gentler side with your child per se. While violence is never a way to parent, gentle parenting just means to see that your child isn't always mean when it misbehaves. A child doesn't want to anger you every time, but it uses feelings and hitting and destroying stuff to communicate a need. If you as a parent or educator truly understand, that misbehaving is not always misbehaving, but a botched way to communicate a need, often a basic need (to be seen, to be loved etc.) then you can be gentle in your answer. If a young child hits its baby sibling, you can scream and shout, or you set a firm boundary(no hitting the baby!) but taking care of the need of the older child to be loved, to still be important in moms or dads heart. For older children, the need might not always be so clearly to be seen, but you can talk to your child. sometimes, when asked, they can say what they really need. So its a way of parenting the parent, not only the child, and this is why gentle parenting is suitable for every child.

I understand where you are coming from reg. Jo Frost as she doesn't have her own children. But she seems to get results and the children don't seem damaged by the actions taken. Although, I do wonder if more damage may have occurred just by having their bad behaviour broadcast on TV? I disagree with permissive parenting, I think it is harmful to children as they are not likely to succeed in the future if they always get their own way and have no consequences to poor behaviour. As I pointed out in the video I disagree with spanking 99.9% of the time. The only time I personally think it is acceptable is if the child is very young and is about to do something dangerous. A quick slap on the bottom may send a message of the imminent danger faster than just telling the child off.

I hope you found this video useful.

@@TheOnlyChildClub Yes ma

Although some people let their child play on games on the ipad. And struggle to take it off their child afterwards.