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Rudeness, Etiquette, & Honesty - Episode 71
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United Healthcare CEO, Greed, & Rigidity - Episode 70
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Support this show Patreon - patreon.com/OntheSpectrumPodcast Episode 70 - We're Destitute Nick shares his controversial take on the UHC CEO shooting and Steve claps back. What follows is a debate about Capitalism & Greed. Plus, we return for a second round of our Ask an Asshole segment! Listen to the On the Spectrum Podcast here. anchor.fm/onthe-spectrum Support this show Patreon - www.patreon....
Toxic Positivity, Criticism, & Autistic Eating Habits - Episode 69
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Toxic Positivity, Criticism, & Autistic Eating Habits - Episode 69
Equal Effort in Relationships, & Affective Misattribution - Episode 68
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Equal Effort in Relationships, & Affective Misattribution - Episode 68
Communicating with Allistics, & Self Realization - Episode 67
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Communicating with Allistics, & Self Realization - Episode 67
Exploring Non-Binary Identities: Breaking Gender Norms Together!
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Exploring Non-Binary Identities: Breaking Gender Norms Together!
Why Album Storytelling is a Lost Art in Music
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Why Album Storytelling is a Lost Art in Music
Unlocking the Social Desires of Autistic Children
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Unlocking the Social Desires of Autistic Children
Oswin Latimer - Autism Activism, Parenting, & Research - Episode 66
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Oswin Latimer - Autism Activism, Parenting, & Research - Episode 66
Breaking Gender Stereotypes: Rethinking Relationship Roles!
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Breaking Gender Stereotypes: Rethinking Relationship Roles!
Redefining Down Syndrome: The Truth About Mental Abilities
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Redefining Down Syndrome: The Truth About Mental Abilities
Ableism - Internalized and Social - Episode 65
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Ableism - Internalized and Social - Episode 65
Challenging Societal Standards: Being Authentic Matters
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Challenging Societal Standards: Being Authentic Matters
Breaking Free: The Realities of Identity and Masking
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Breaking Free: The Realities of Identity and Masking
Why It's Important to Consider Other Perspectives and Avoid Jumping to Conclusions
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Why It's Important to Consider Other Perspectives and Avoid Jumping to Conclusions
The Evolving Landscape of Hate Language: Unseen Waves and Marginalized Communities
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The Evolving Landscape of Hate Language: Unseen Waves and Marginalized Communities
Clinton Bowman - Race, Representation, & AuDHD - Episode 64
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Clinton Bowman - Race, Representation, & AuDHD - Episode 64
The Truth About Chromosomes: Debunking Misconceptions and Sensationalism
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The Truth About Chromosomes: Debunking Misconceptions and Sensationalism
The Changing Acceptance of LGBTQ+ in Society: A Nuanced Perspective
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The Changing Acceptance of LGBTQ in Society: A Nuanced Perspective
Why We Need to Stop Trying to Prove We're Smarter Than Others
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Why We Need to Stop Trying to Prove We're Smarter Than Others
The Impact of Social Media on Our Perceptions: Are We Living in a Fanatic Era?
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The Impact of Social Media on Our Perceptions: Are We Living in a Fanatic Era?
The Dangers of Excessive Skepticism in Today's Society
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The Dangers of Excessive Skepticism in Today's Society
The Power of Acceptance: Embracing LGBTQ+ Love and Overcoming Hate
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The Power of Acceptance: Embracing LGBTQ Love and Overcoming Hate
The Dark Side of the Military Industrial Complex: Wasting Taxpayer Money
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The Dark Side of the Military Industrial Complex: Wasting Taxpayer Money
Imane Khelif, Trump, & Skepticism - Episode 63
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Imane Khelif, Trump, & Skepticism - Episode 63
James B. Jones (Love on the Spectrum) - Episode 62
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James B. Jones (Love on the Spectrum) - Episode 62
Unlocking the Mystery of Autistic Masking Understanding the Context #podcast
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Unlocking the Mystery of Autistic Masking Understanding the Context #podcast
"We're Saboteurs" - Self Sabotage - Episode 61
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"We're Saboteurs" - Self Sabotage - Episode 61
"We're Confident" - Confidence, Ego, & Arrogance - Episode 60
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"We're Confident" - Confidence, Ego, & Arrogance - Episode 60
Understanding Men on Dating Apps: Debunking Stereotypes and Exploring Individuality
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Understanding Men on Dating Apps: Debunking Stereotypes and Exploring Individuality

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  • @sanbilge
    @sanbilge 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I don't know if I'm on the spectrum, but it shouldn't be a very complicated concept to grasp for neurotypicals that their feelings are their own responsibility. If I say something to you and you get offended, it's on you. Perceptions aren't objective. If someone's visibly lost weight and I voice this observation, some will think it's a neutral comment, some will find it rude, but some others will think it's a compliment. People fearing/feeling things and acting up don't have much to do with other people. Also, if I learned one thing from Law and Order, it is that you cannot (dis)prove intent, so is someone who means well but is unable to read the room a worse person than someone who is intentionally over-polite to the point of insincerity? Well, maybe I am on the spectrum lol

    • @Stevekixs
      @Stevekixs 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      It's funny, because there's this whole idea among a lot of online spaces that it's always on the person who caused offense, even if it wasn't intended.

    • @sanbilge
      @sanbilge 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @Stevekixs Online space will be different than in real life in many ways because we let the edgelord within us cruise away :) I've been in academic institutions and environments a lot -- if you cannot handle difference of opinion or know how to construct and defend an argument as objectively and convincingly as possible, the argument won't survive. You have to realize the difference between an idea getting attacked vs. you as a person. A German friend who had just finished a master's in gender studies moved to Wisconsin for a PhD, where he was shocked and appalled about the style of discussion in the classroom. There was a lot of "you can't say this/that" attitude by the students but at times, even the lecturers. He ended up quitting that PhD because of the lack of freedom of speech and thought, it was leaning towards fascism with all the thought police. Conversations happen differently in Europe than in the USA between peers and people.

  • @depressedcarrot4134
    @depressedcarrot4134 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i agree totally, there is a place and a time for pedantics and semantics especially in a more debate like settings. But casual conversation is usually best navigated with focusing on the larger concepts rather than criticizing the method used to deliver them.

  • @Scfhje
    @Scfhje 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    😒😒😒😒🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🤬🤬🤬

  • @neverstirfrynaked8
    @neverstirfrynaked8 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Somebody angered the neckbeard didnt they?

  • @nat22968
    @nat22968 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This might just be unfortunate timing that this popped up on my feed but this better not be in reference to Elon 😂

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's not in reference to Elon. They go more in-depth in the episode.

  • @Blorbobaggins
    @Blorbobaggins 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Does it matter really? If you are rude and abrasive, people will feel bad when they are with you and eventually leave you, or even worse, be stuck to a person who makes them feel like sh**.

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It does matter

    • @Blorbobaggins
      @Blorbobaggins 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@nicholasanderson783 Intention doesn't really mitigate consequences.

    • @silversmoke6
      @silversmoke6 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@Blorbobaggins it does when it comes to hurting someone's feelings - If the way you come off makes them think you hate them, learning you don't actually hate them absolutely mitigates that.

    • @silversmoke6
      @silversmoke6 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'd also point put, an explanation doesn't mean you don't apologise for upsetting someone.

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Blorbobaggins i did not say that.

  • @42Derechos
    @42Derechos 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    THANK you! I have the hardest time getting some people to understand this!

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I have found in my life that "they" don't need to understand but we need to understand and give ourselves the grace to be the humans that we are.

    • @42Derechos
      @42Derechos 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ maybe, but it would still feel better if I could **make** them understand, I just want to coexist peacefully…

    • @maleitch
      @maleitch 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      And the rest of us are not obligated to give a fvck. Do you not find it concerning that for the first time in history your generation is suffering these conditions and none of you care why? Interesting that it gives you a built in excuse.

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @maleitch our generation? Suffering? Sometime the why is not as important as what to do with the situation.

  • @Scfhje
    @Scfhje 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    🏳️‍🌈😡😡😡

  • @SofiadaSilva-eg4zg
    @SofiadaSilva-eg4zg 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Psychometric tests are another issue, they're not designed for neurodivergent people.

  • @SeveralGhost
    @SeveralGhost หลายเดือนก่อน

    So the argument against raising kids in a supportive loving environment is that if you parent them that way they wont experience enough adversity? Are parent responsible for creating adversity like there isnt any outside the home? And on your comparison to exercise, about which you dont strike me as enthusiasts, you cannot effectively grow stronger if you arent properly recovering. Not providing a supportive loving home environment is the equivalent of getting home from the gym and continuing to exercise every day. Thats crazy, and an irresponsible amount of work to subject a child to, and it wont actually make them any tougher besides maybe not trusting or liking you. Maybe you're actually complaining about overprotection and coddling, which is neither supportive nor loving which would mean you're talking completely out of your asses so i'll give you the benefit of the doubt there. If you dont think your kids will experience enough adversity if you love them, how badly should i treat them if i ever meet them btw?

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Great way to over think that.

    • @SeveralGhost
      @SeveralGhost 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @nicholasanderson783 when you don't think I'm sure everything looks like overthinking

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@SeveralGhost sad, you immediately turn to insults when someone disagrees with you. They have a term for that in psychology.

    • @SeveralGhost
      @SeveralGhost 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @nicholasanderson783 is there a term for ignoring arguments and acting smug?

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @SeveralGhost nope, but again you lean on insults.

  • @nicholasanderson783
    @nicholasanderson783 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Although you seem to think everyone should have an opinion.

  • @Stevekixs
    @Stevekixs หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pp poo poo

  • @pablotorres3190
    @pablotorres3190 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro not everyone should have a podcast😂

  • @Stevekixs
    @Stevekixs หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pp poo poo

  • @onixona
    @onixona 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There îs no 50 50 in real life.

  • @kayleighbrown459
    @kayleighbrown459 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In true, autistic fashion, I feel we are taking things a tad literally. It's just a silly mantra to true and persuade people who don't think about thinks to deeply.

  • @Dafoodmaster
    @Dafoodmaster 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    trains are the best form of transportation

  • @ariebirb
    @ariebirb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    the phrase exists because “oh you cant be autistic, your nothing like my 5 year old nephew with autism” and comments like that. its not that big of a deal

  • @TheWctman
    @TheWctman 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a rock, i am an island. A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries. I am a rock, S&G

  • @ericgrosvenor67
    @ericgrosvenor67 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The sincerity isn’t in the words via social media through tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language. A simple text can be taken out of context.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ericgrosvenor67 true. But I feel like this applies to communication in general. Social media just makes it worse.

    • @ericgrosvenor67
      @ericgrosvenor67 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ good point

  • @Stevekixs
    @Stevekixs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello Darkness, my old friend...

  • @keemoss8191
    @keemoss8191 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Should make sure your shorts conclude with a purpose. I was intrigued at first bc the topic was relatable, then left learning nothing. If you’d put some way to overcome/face the problem then this would’ve been a satisfying short.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the feedback!

  • @RhiannonClarkMusicofficial
    @RhiannonClarkMusicofficial 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love Darryl Hannah XOXO I am neuro divergent also and I love knowing this XOXO ❤❤❤❤ I am accepting of this also.... I advocate everywhere I go ❤

  • @GA.O-f7n
    @GA.O-f7n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    which episode is this?

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GA.O-f7n th-cam.com/video/Sjsc4i79-X8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=H1a1xVoRDm_iH_aH

  • @cybremystica93
    @cybremystica93 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    James doesn’t seem infantilising at all. His passion for swords might be eccentric to some, but honestly not to me. For the most part he was very polite and seems level headed

    • @nickshillito1170
      @nickshillito1170 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That was one of my favourite moments. Autistic or not, there is nothing more lovely than someone sharing their passion. Having that much love and enthusiasm for something that you just want to share it with everyone in the world is an amazing gift, I could listen to him talking about his swords all day because his passion and enthusiasm would be palpable and infectious

  • @gauzl1266
    @gauzl1266 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They are kids. It’s your duty as a parent to inform them so they can be better suited to handle the real world. Playing mental gymnastics is setting them up for a life of misery.

  • @absolutelyridiculous6743
    @absolutelyridiculous6743 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You're not dumb... none of this makes sense.

  • @Acatlandcat-s8r
    @Acatlandcat-s8r 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know someone who is autistic and hates odder autistic people

  • @Ibis-of-Equilon
    @Ibis-of-Equilon 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So doing things for peope is menant to make u feel like shit and your not supposed to enjoy it? Accomodating peolle is demeaning ? Okay asshole

  • @o.o.4238
    @o.o.4238 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I tell you hwat

  • @Tom-bi7ir
    @Tom-bi7ir 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i tell you hwhat

  • @dreamnumber99
    @dreamnumber99 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Whoever has the strongest muscles should empty that big trash can😂

  • @zoolookers
    @zoolookers 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah but sometimes making someone feel special is also okay? Maybe that makes the kid really happy? Who are you to say what is good or bad for another person.

    • @nicholasanderson783
      @nicholasanderson783 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He is another person with an opinion. If you watch the full episode you can hear a fuller version of his opinion.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The problem I have is that one day that kid might realize that everyone was faking. And how shitty does it feel to be pandered to because people look down on you?

  • @Conway7
    @Conway7 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lazy people like Nick is why we have a government and DMV’s why are we putting up with this crap!

  • @GregPrice-ep2dk
    @GregPrice-ep2dk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The reason there appear to be more transgenders than there used to be is b/c they are tired of being closeted and "coming out" more. And both sides are fixated on them because they are the newest theater in the war over civil rights.

  • @faithbad666
    @faithbad666 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everything conservatives believe is made up nonsense. Just like the Bible... nonsense

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wouldn't say EVERYTHING, but a lot of it is.

    • @faithbad666
      @faithbad666 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@onthespectrumpod magical thinking will partially skew every belief 💯

  • @JaeTeWhare
    @JaeTeWhare 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    quit yappin

  • @CrackedDota
    @CrackedDota 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As someone who's both autistic, queer and has never heard of this podcast: I feel like this is a pretty bad clip. Not in a "you suck" way, just a "what even is this" way. I genuinely cant tell what the point is intended to be. Theres no context for the opening statements, and it's vague enough that IDK if the commentary is on LGBTQ+ folk, or autistic folk. Maybe it's talking about how LGBTQ rights have had more progress than those on the spectrum? Which I don't agree with, if that's correct. There's a crazy overlap woth lgbt and autistic communities at worst, and the normalization of autism has people talking about "autistic rizz" at best. I'm far from an authoritative voice on content production. That said, I'd recommend finding more succinct exerpts to post for shorts. Hope this doesn't sound like hate. Wish you all love

    • @ctrain3621
      @ctrain3621 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Loser

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you. This particular clip was not made by us. It was made using a clip generator, but we also do make clips the old fashioned way as well - and we usually review them before posting any auto-generated clips. Perhaps this one was not clear. The longer conversation was about whether things are better for the LGBTQ community now vs in the past, and whether or not people were more tolerant - or just hiding their intolerance more. One of us is LGBTQ, and we frequently speak about the overlap with Autism.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes. you are.

  • @rizzosmooth4616
    @rizzosmooth4616 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Picture and picture lmfaooooo

  • @Slack3rDav3
    @Slack3rDav3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Graduated in 2005, and can def say the F slur was constantly used while I was going thru school. Separately, the two pole calculations is simple. One pole is further away from the equator. Take shadow measurements at both poles (which are the same height) throughout the day and the minimum value at each location is what is compared. The one further from the equator will have a longer shadow.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for adding that info.

  • @MotherOfDistruction
    @MotherOfDistruction 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just so you guys know Imane Khelif is not xy chromosome, that is what the IBA which is run by Russia claimed when they disqualified her and another female boxer via test that they both won't specify what tests they ran or the actual results. However the lab that ran testing for IBA did confirm that none of the tests they ran were chromosomal tests. Furthermore the country she lives in it is illegal to be trans so even false accusations of such could be dangerous for her.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you. Yea, at the time we recorded this, USA today had posted an article saying that she was DSD. I have since learned that the chromosome thing was a lie.

  • @marinemom0294
    @marinemom0294 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I liked him so much and hope he finds The One🥰❤️

  • @hotonenickie
    @hotonenickie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How this video have no comments

  • @shahgyy
    @shahgyy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The guy on the right isnt very smart lmao. The ancient greeks had telescopes and used them to calculate that the world was round somehow.. i think. They didnt "guesstimate"

    • @DrunkenPhil0sopher
      @DrunkenPhil0sopher 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It was Eratosthenes of Cyrene in the third century BCE. He was able to determine the shadow angle at one location when the sun was directly overhead at another, and the distance between the locations. From there he could figure out how many degrees of a circle existed between the locations (roughly 1/50 of a circle), and from there figure out the distance that 360 degrees would be. The biggest error was assuming the world is a perfect sphere, but it's actually just a little bit squashed. Absolute genius for the time though.

    • @onthespectrumpod
      @onthespectrumpod 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for adding that.

  • @billybitcoin
    @billybitcoin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Interesting listening to you two talk.

  • @rizzosmooth4616
    @rizzosmooth4616 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cool interview you guys had very good questions for James

  • @rizzosmooth4616
    @rizzosmooth4616 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cool interview you guys had very good questions for John

  • @j.c.follower6538
    @j.c.follower6538 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is sad, playing dress up, your a man you will never be a woman.

  • @guy-uo8nv
    @guy-uo8nv 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m gay and I can say I have a great dislike to the gay community.

  • @msjkramey
    @msjkramey 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You compared hot people to Klan members? Lol