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Was Homeschool The Best Choice For Me...Or My Parents?
I'm always striving to make this show better and I want to hear from you. If you've got a few minutes, would you mind answering a few questions? exhsclub.beehiiv.com/forms/ecd981ec-ed4e-4b22-a15d-ae3b2858c757
Hey everyone! In this episode of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with Whitney Brim-DeForest, a former homeschooler with an incredible journey. Whitney’s story is a mix of unique experiences, from an unconventional homeschool structure to finding her calling as a plant scientist. We discuss the ups and downs of her homeschooling years, the challenges of reintegrating into public school, and how a passion for science blossomed from her eclectic upbringing. Along the way, we dive into the cultural gaps she experienced, the mentors who shaped her, and how her homeschooling days influenced her parenting philosophy today. If you’ve ever wondered how homeschooling shapes independence and self-direction, you’ll love this episode!
Key Takeaways:
• Whitney’s homeschooling journey featured Saxon Math alongside experiential learning in arts, history, and hands-on activities.
• How periodic public school stints and a lack of peer consistency impacted her social development.
• The discovery of pop culture, music, and friendships after homeschooling.
• A transformative high school physics teacher and how mentors can inspire career paths.
• Whitney’s choice not to homeschool her kids and the value of diverse opportunities for children.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to the Ex Homeschoolers Club
00:33 Whitney's Unique Homeschooling Journey
02:24 The Challenges of Socialization
03:27 Homeschool Curriculum and Learning Styles
07:03 Transitioning to Public School
09:44 Finding Passion and Career Path
17:15 Religious Influences and Gender Roles
23:50 Navigating Pop Culture Post-Homeschooling
24:45 Early Tech Exposure and Music Sneaking
26:25 Musical Influences and High School Experience
28:04 College Life and Music Exploration
31:18 Peace Corps and Cultural Disconnect
31:55 Friendship Challenges and Socialization
38:13 Parenting Choices and Homeschool Reflections
43:48 Biggest Positives and Negatives of Homeschooling
46:44 Final Thoughts and Farewell
Resources Mentioned:
• Saxon Math curriculum
• "The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill" (album)
• Adventures in Odyssey audio series
• "Our Bodies, Ourselves" (book)
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  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh Saxon Math lol memories

  • @danageibel
    @danageibel 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I really enjoyed listening to this interview!

  • @ruthbrooks9133
    @ruthbrooks9133 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So relatable 😅

  • @new0news
    @new0news 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Some of us don't need a whole class in order to follow a list of simple instructions 😅 which is a filing taxes and filling out cheques is

  • @michaelsyntak5418
    @michaelsyntak5418 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If they taught that in high school no one would be able to make the high cost of tuition and student loan interest a good idea.

  • @Ham-y5t
    @Ham-y5t 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Especially being able to rapidly calculate price by unit.

  • @ruthbrooks9133
    @ruthbrooks9133 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for sharing, Alouette! What a great conversation!

  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ex-homeschooler mom of 3. I would not homeschool. Had to briefly during a Covid lockdown and hated it. HAVING SAID THAT (lol), homeschooling has 100% influenced my parenting style, how I interact with them, and how I approach their overall education. In a very positive way.

  • @aubbyyy-y2l
    @aubbyyy-y2l 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    first!!!!

  • @jackieraulerson2005
    @jackieraulerson2005 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good advice. Too many people home schooling kid who are dumb as rocks.

  • @laurennoyb539
    @laurennoyb539 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just came across your channel and I just started the video but you seem like a good person. The world is a better place cuz you are here in it. I forgot about Salty! Christians are the salt of the Earth if anyone is wondering about Salty's name.

  • @AlexManguy
    @AlexManguy หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Why I am deconstructing my faith”

  • @iseedumbpeople
    @iseedumbpeople หลายเดือนก่อน

    Psalty... Wow, it has been a minute.

  • @JamesRichardWiley
    @JamesRichardWiley หลายเดือนก่อน

    The process of deconstructing faith begins with doubt which leads to the simple question, "Does this Bible story align with the reality that I live in?" If not then maybe it deserves closer examination for contradictions and inconsistencies.

  • @XEN-ZOMBIE
    @XEN-ZOMBIE หลายเดือนก่อน

    Welcome to reality, it's pretty good. Ignoring the Reality Church irony.

  • @VulcanLogic
    @VulcanLogic หลายเดือนก่อน

    What an awesome name for a channel. That is not an easy escape, grats man!

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad you think so! And no it is not! Feels like I'm still escaping sometimes.

  • @JCDAdventures
    @JCDAdventures หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wonder if what you and I went through, and many others, is unique to Southern California churches, or the modern Christian church in America, or beyond, in general? I ask because I went through something very similar to you (thank you for having the guts to share, by the way.) But I returned to Faith in Jesus Christ after meeting my wife and her community of Christians, over in a completely different part of the USA. The Christianity I, maybe we, grew up absolutely seemed like a performative, "do this, don't do that" facade. Not saying there weren't/aren't/isn't real Christians in those communities, but, now that I've gotten some distance from it, the difference is wild.

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This is coming super late, sorry! But yes! Looking back, I feel like many of the religious environments I grew up in were performative. Now that I'm out, I don't feel a need to perform being a good person, I can actually just be a good person with zero expectation from a congregation staring over my shoulder.

  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have this on my list to watch over Xmas when I have some more time to sit and really listen.

  • @derrybrooks7197
    @derrybrooks7197 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As someone who has shared a very similar path but came out of it christian I can definitely appreciate the courage it takes to talk about this stuff. The process of doubting and losing faith is one of the most scary experiences a person can have, from loss of community to fear of the afterlife. Thanks for sharing bro.

  • @JuliaWass
    @JuliaWass หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved this video. I like your longer videos because it feels like a genuine conversation. I also went on a faith journey and ended up in a very similar place as you. I think that being comfortable in not having definite answers to all of lifes' questions has been the biggest learning curve for me. I appreciate your perspective on homeschooling and Christianity. It's very nice to know that I am not the only person who has gone through this and that I won't be the last. Thanks for the video.

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for sharing Julia! It's crazy how alone we feel sometimes in our experiences! That's why I've wanted to share more, in hopes of connecting with people who maybe have gone through something similar.

  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very true about no one school type being a definitive solution. I believe there are even studies that prove that it's parental involvement (i.e. time and relationship investment) that defines how well the child will do academically, regardless of homeschooled, public, or private. And we're not even talking about mental, emotional health and happiness!

  • @wordnerd2005
    @wordnerd2005 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She seems like a great mom. She seems to really care. The biggest thing a parent can give a child is not material things, but their love and their time.

  • @Jimmy_carters_ghost
    @Jimmy_carters_ghost หลายเดือนก่อน

    Homeschooling leads to stupid kids with no social skills i knew of a kid in college who was homeschooled fresham year he had no friends and he was failing all his classes he hung himself inside his dorm room

  • @s.basgic7828
    @s.basgic7828 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Homeschooling your children is the best way to go, in my opinion. No one cares more for your own kids than you do. Howwver , many parents are not in a position to do Homeschooling, so each parent must make the best choice they can for their children. ❤lots of love to everyone from OK!

  • @peacefighters8943
    @peacefighters8943 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.

  • @pdzh
    @pdzh หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is how I was trained, to the point I did not know what a virgin girl is. I realized that my ex was not vergin on the wedding night, 7 years into marriage. Now I live on ny own, and realized that there is no such a thing as pure woman anymore, even in church

  • @BOYSWILLBEBOYS2010
    @BOYSWILLBEBOYS2010 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Because not one person on the planet has ever made a good decision about sex when going through puberty and when you give in to urges it gets worse.

  • @ruthbrooks9133
    @ruthbrooks9133 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such a good episode! I so relate to your mom in loving the time spent with my kids and regretting not having been a healthier version of myself while raising them! Thanks for highlighting parent stories! You do a great job of bringing out the best parts while not ignoring the hard and messy parts!

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! I'm so excited for our conversation

  • @JeanneDee-zz5th
    @JeanneDee-zz5th หลายเดือนก่อน

    I want a part 2!!!!! Love you Jacob, and Mom.......I am enjoying your podcast so much. Cant wait til you bring on you dad. Love you all1

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm glad you liked it! There will be a part 2 for sure!

  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing, Ms. Gooden!!

  • @MimiPlaysViolin
    @MimiPlaysViolin หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yikes, these comments are super unfortunate. 😢 Your message is right on! Keep it up.

  • @timothyjohnson2945
    @timothyjohnson2945 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, do owe you, just asyou owe them.

  • @miguelangelortizoliveras1833
    @miguelangelortizoliveras1833 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Then why marry at all? When you marry it is implied that you will engage in sexual activity, if you're a Christian it is to procreate, but that's why you marry, to make it exclusive between you two. If you're going to procrastinate and not engage, why marry? That's why many men ultimately divorce and move on. Sex isn't everything but is a part of marriage.

  • @stevendefeo8424
    @stevendefeo8424 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Guess you learned this rule the hard way. Who told you no and you didn’t want to listen?

  • @skrandas
    @skrandas 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Homeschooling done wrong

  • @slagclan1
    @slagclan1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and your precious family. Great job!!!

  • @71lizgoeshardt
    @71lizgoeshardt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy Thanksgiving

  • @seek_understanding1712
    @seek_understanding1712 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Did you say “Ojai Valley”?

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ya, a bunch of us ex-homies grew up in the Ojai Valley and Greater Ventura County area

  • @peraspera934
    @peraspera934 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for sharing! I'm an ex-religious, ex-homeschooler also. There is a sense of relief in seeing other people like me doing more than just surviving in this world. 🫶🏻

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes! We are out here. You are seen. And you are heard. We welcome you to the club!

    • @tetum849
      @tetum849 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i am here with you as well! you are not alone!

  • @slagclan1
    @slagclan1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great stuff!!!

  • @arthurhellstrom5515
    @arthurhellstrom5515 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you were to improve by 1% for every video, then you would actually be about 270% better by the hundredth video.

  • @CamelsForDays
    @CamelsForDays 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don’t think the 10k hour rule is limited to music. It applies to almost anything. Work, skills, hobbies ect.

  • @namewithheld8115
    @namewithheld8115 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I completely disagree with both of these people. Boys are taught from the beginning that they must be in control, and everything they do is their responsibility. The reason for this is both simple and obvious: as a boy you are energetic and strong enough to hurt someone or break / damage something. Every boy does it, so you get taught from the beginning to control yourself and to understand the impact of your actions.

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think you might have misunderstood the context of this clip. We grew up in a very religious bubble and inside that bubble, young men were NOT taught how to control their sexual urges. Only that it was wrong and sinfully to have sexual urges. Young ladies were taught that they were responsible for men’s purity and were required to dress a certain way and act a certain way to not allow the boys to fall into sexual sin. So what my friend is saying is that it was hard for young women to come forward when sexual misconduct happened to them because they were constantly being told it was their fault that it happened to them.

  • @darzimus
    @darzimus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Holy shit this is so weird, I had this happen a couple times with my online friends and while it wasn't horrible it was still the same feeling of "fuck I knew it"

  • @weedtit
    @weedtit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i’ve heard this about my autism..

  • @zetazimmer4769
    @zetazimmer4769 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I mostly associate homeschooled kids as super religious, so my primary reaction is fear and hoping I'm totally wrong

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don’t blame you! It feels like 99.99% (I’m exaggerating) of homeschool kids were from religious households.

  • @JCDAdventures
    @JCDAdventures 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Had a blast recording this with you, Jacob.

  • @KrazyKorean28
    @KrazyKorean28 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ah yes, I got all the dirt on John haha. Great episode Jake!

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dude YES!!! Gotta get you on to spill the tea

  • @JuliaWass
    @JuliaWass 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I also used abeka all throughout my homeschool experience. The way he described looking at the kids in the class and wanting to be there was exactly how I felt as a kid. I like your videos, I can relate to a lot of your stories and takeaways from homeschooling.

    • @Ex-HomeschoolersClub
      @Ex-HomeschoolersClub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the kind words Julia! Glad to have you in the club!

  • @ivfchic3316
    @ivfchic3316 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was both informative, hopeful and heart warming! Home educator from the UK 🇬🇧 here!