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Thank you this is very helpful, tears are flowing as I write, my Son is in depression at the moment, he had a breakup 3 and a half months ago. I’ve suggested he go to his Doctor, make calls to mental health clinics etc but to no avail, is in bed all the time, eating one meal a day, he’s lost a lot of weight. I feel completely powerless to help him because he is saying no to everything, it’s so painful to witness this He’s no longer in work and Colledge. These are very helpful suggestions. Thank you very much🙏🏻

There's not enough AVPD content on TH-cam, appreciate if there will be more about this topic in the future.

This was helpful, Thank you. I have AVPD. Never had a close friend after the age of 13, now I'm 28. Life's getting more frustrating every passing day.

This is a great and informative analysis ❤

This is a very good and interesting topic

Thank you❤

There is much to mass mind control and the breaking down of “the individual” methodology. The point you mention is one of these and used in “ sensitivity training”. It is to be rejected as you have mentioned.

Openly deny them the conflict they seek. If anything, it drives them crazy!

I know that was definitely true in my case. So much so that it became almost as much of an issue as everything else we had going on. He would claim that the women at the fitness studio I taught for were "getting in my head" & that I was "listening to them" more than I was him, etc. I didn't even talk to them about what was going on behind closed doors, but I did feel a tremendous amount of support. Its terrifying to think that you might be stuck in an abusive relationship or that you might not be able to support for yourself & your child all on your own. So, it's an indescribable feeling when you begin to realize that, if push came to shove, you have enough contacts in your phone to guarantee that you won't be going hungry or without a place to stay. ❤❤

Very well said Tim, It's Nik, Nathan and Levi's Friend Glad to see you doing good brother!

It was a pleasure to be on the show Dr. Seth! Thank you so much for letting me share my story!

Amen, it wasn't until months after she was gone that I was addicted to the constant fight, flight, freeze that was our relationship very early on, basically from the first time she had a breakdown saying that she was afraid that I was using her, which was one of my biggest fears after my wife had taken everything and ran off years earlier, she said she was a really close friend of one of my female cousins when we first met, but when she had never done anything with her I asked why she didn't hang out with her and she had said she felt guilty because she didn't go to my cousin's wedding after 8 years of gaslighting and blame shifting she apparently found a new victim and I was devastated, it wasn't until I ran into my cousin and spoke with her that I learned she was never her friend, she was the friend of a friend online and had never been invited to her wedding it was then that I realized that the entire relationship was an illusion, when I went back and reread every single message that we had ever sent that I realized that she never once sent me a simple I love you or thinking of you text 95% of contact was initiated by me and if she initiated it was always I need or we need, I didn't even realize that she had been "needing a break" at least 3 times a year at 1st they were only a few hours or a day and in the end it was up to a month, I couldn't understand why everyone in my family was relieved that she was out of my life, I had somehow blocked out all those times because I was in love with the version her that she had convinced me that she was early in the relationship once I realized that person never existed I started to get my life back, I had lost my appetite and my will to live when she left, I had even made excuses for her losing her engagement ring which she had picked out shortly after I gave it to her. I realize now that she probably returned it for the money. She had moved in with me very quickly after the first time we ever met, we had been talking online for about a month before I even considered going on a date, because of the trauma from having my wife take the kids and move halfway across the country after cleaning out our bank account which was basically all my earnings because she had never worked, while I was working on the road because the place I had worked closed down and job opportunities were very limited, while the entire workforce from the factory I worked plus the regular amount of new workers was very high, so I didn't have a lot of opportunities, it was either work for minimum wage and live on welfare, move, or work jobs that nobody else wanted, I was raised to take care of my own so I sacrificed my life and my time with my family to ensure that they had everything they needed, I don't know how my most recent ex ever found me but she clearly targeted me and I'm so glad that I had made up my mind to never have a shared account again before I met her, she also never worked our entire relationship and the very first disability check she was going to get she used to get her own place, which she probably wouldn't have ever gotten without me because she was like a child she refused to open her mail and she just never took responsibility for anything she had been married and told me that her husband was a cheater and that he had committed suicide to punish her because she was going to leave him she said this was because her father had committed suicide, I should have known when I found her old driver's license and discovered that she had been using a fake name for over a year at that point she said that was her maiden name but it also wasn't the name of the man she had said committed suicide either, she then said she had never married that guy because she was still officially married to the guy she married when she was in college which was the name she told me was her name but she had originally said her last name was the same as her youngest son's which from what I have learned it has never been even though she had used it on our lease and on her bank account and I discovered was a joint account between her and the guy who committed suicide which she had been listed as his benefactor and received the life insurance policy in, I have seriously began to question if she may have been more involved with his death than she had led me to believe, she had said his family was nuts and tried telling her son that she killed his father so she decided to cut them out of his life, I don't know what was the truth and what was a lie anymore she had convinced me very early on that she believed honesty was the most important part of a relationship and I believed everything she said until I found out she was never invited to my cousin's wedding, that's when I realized that I had been the only honest person in our relationship, I seriously doubt that I will ever be able to trust another woman for as long as I live, I have been searching within to try to figure out why I have been so unfortunate in my love life, I thought maybe I had been cursed until I discovered that my lack of self love was the real problem, I have never pursued a partner the only relationships I have been in were when they pursued me and all of my relationships have been mostly one sided I always thought of myself as being very good at compromising because there is very little that I cared enough about to set boundaries basically as long as they were faithful I would never leave them, unbelievably all my serious relationships ended in the 8th year and I'm almost 100% positive that they all cheated in the end, I'm currently on journey to heal, I know I have a huge fear of abandonment problem that's probably rooted in my childhood of never feeling loved, I spent the majority of my life trying to prove that I wasn't worthless only to feel more and more worthless after each failed relationship, probably because I was never the one who ended the relationship, I'm no longer willing to accept that I am the problem. And I am going to love myself the way I love the people I love from now on. I no longer believe that I will eventually find someone like myself who gives the love they are looking for because all that does is open your heart to people who are incapable of loving anyone, what I've never understood is why I don't have these issues with anyone else but the people I believe I'm in love with, I would never tolerate the same behavior from anyone else in my life but for some reason I truly believed that unconditional love was possible in a relationship, I understand now that I'm a unicorn because most people who don't love themselves aren't capable of true love

This is so interesting.It's actually weird how some people approach dating like a job interview at the beginning. It's not a job interview, it's a date!People need to learn the art of creating a good impression without going into "job interview mode"! So many people go into a date with the aim to create the best possibe impression, to promote themselves and with an "all-about-me0and-the -impression-I create-about-myself" when the aim should simply be to connect and to build a relationship, even if it doesn't go beyond friendship.

Thank you for this fascinating and practical exploration!

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Envy is insidious. And so different from jealousy!

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