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Taylor Shain
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How to say goodbye to your foster children? | Reunification
As a foster parent, saying goodbye to your children is always tough. In this video, I share how I'm coping with this transition.
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First 24 hours as a foster parent! | What was it like?
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For our family, the first 24 hours were crazy. I shared some tips for how to manage the first 24 hours. Hi! I'm a foster parent, writer, and filmmaker focused on sharing stories about parenting and foster care. My inspiration comes from my own life experiences and interviews with others. This channel features vlogs, interviews with amazing people, and video essays sharing information about the ...
"We did not hear anything till midnight." That means that baby was stolen from her home at midnight in a gestapo fashion from a woman who was under a year postpartum and from what you are saying was a darn sight better and safer better for that baby than you two who by your own admission had never even baby sat a baby.i get that you are at least attempting to be sensitive about the evil that is the foster care system however if you pulled that behavior with a bear or a lioness they would kill you and have every right to do so. The ONLY reason foster care providers are getting away with legalized kidnapping is might makes right, however even by human standards we should not be interfering with the majority of mothers children and families. Our constitution in this country states that all mankind is created equal and that all people have the right to life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. And we also have it stated that we are free of unfair search and seizure. Cps is a law unto itself, it is not easily found guilty of any misconducts it perpetuates and has little to no oversight or consequences for abuse of its power, and neglect and abuse of children it seizes. Furthermore I hear a lot of people commenting on foster care legal kidnapping making out like the parents are either always bad or most of the time bad so they deserve their babies stolen. To those of you reading what I m saying and ready to attack me I say the following. Statistically you have better results with the real parents even if they are bad ones than you have with strangers who have no education on baby or child care, big huge men who are given little girls 6, and 8 and a seventeen year old girl without any oversight, and all of these youtube influencers who making money out of glamorizing baby theft. No one involved in foster care should be making money off of TH-cam if you do post this stuff no child should ever be in it and it should not be allowed monetization because it is making money off of the destruction of families which is bad morally and bad practically because all of society is formed by families and if the family is constantly under attack society will eventually be no more because stuff like foster care creates more dysfunction it doesn't alleviate it.
Amen yes it is odd and stressful for child, children to being placed in new home in middle of night, why is that allowed? Appreciate foster dad being sensitive to fact how scared and confused a child would be. And yes system is so broken and prayfully look to Jesus how to care and raise up children in need Gospel, "bring children unto Me (Jesus) Our culture needs realize importance of children and allow them opportunity to grow up be wise, caring, productive adult rather than thinking " what happens to children doesn't matter, they'll get over it, hand me another beer and turn on football" God's truth, we are all created in His image, Genesis
Please make more videos. Your page is so nice
I've seen so many vids like this one. Yet your video is so warm and so nicely put together
That’s tough. Parenting is tough when you start out, regardless - let alone someone else’s child with baggage
My preschool teacher adopted a baby and taught us about foster parents and the fact some kids need parents. Ever since then I have refused the idea of creating more humans when so many young ones already need a family. I hope that my wealth later on in life will help me adopt and provide mental health care for kids in the system. Especially those in teen years that need a solid support system, therapy, and are less likely to be adopted. I hope I can provide that for even one person one day. In mental health treatment, I met many people who lives through the foster system and suffered lots of trauma. I hope I can make the biggest difference one day for them
Remember, the goal of fostering is not to adopt. The goal is reunification with their family. There are very few children in the US who need adoption. Have your own children and help these families with your extra means ❤
@@dee20221that's EXACTLY what I was thinking
What really scares me is the thought of bonding strongly with a foster child, having them reunify with their bio family, but the reunification breaks down and you can't take them back because their space is taken by another child! That would be heart-breaking.
Wait. They say you can be foster parents but there’s no training involved for inexperienced families?
There is training! The process of becoming a licensed foster parent is comprehensive. However, it's still tough with or without experience.
Background music is too loud, distracting and unnecessary in this very important video.
I apologize - I was trying to use music to support the story, the emotions. Appreciate your feedback.
@@taylorshain12 No apologies needed. Just thought I would make a suggestion. I still watched and liked the vid. Oftentimes videos don't need background noise. If you prefer the music, I would just lower the volume because some people may not be able to hear what you are saying. :)
The video is great and comment unnecessary. Well done to you
@@samplayer6870 I had no issue with the video, as I mentioned. Clearly you are not hearing impaired. Lucky you! However, the suggestion was not for you, it was specifically for hearing impaired people who despite turning the volume up to the highest level still can't hear the video because the background music is louder than the norm. It doesn't happen often but it does happen. What was so offensive about my comment? I thought it was pretty respectful & it might serve him well if people are tuning out because they simply can't hear the video. Don't suggest "closed captioning". For the most part it's crap & you will understand about a quarter of a video. Thanks for letting me know how you feel.
@@emmef7970ever heard of closed captions? Those help a lot if u can’t hear. The music was not that fucking loud
Awww this was heartbreaking for me. I lost my two children to foster care for two months back in 2012. I'm grateful that they were able to stay together and I'm so thankful I got them back in 2 months. It was terrible. You make a great video on this topic. Best of luck!!
So glad you got them back! That's wonderful. Thanks for sharing your story.
I cant imagine the headache! What you gave to your foster daughter is beautiful! Thank you!
As a bio mom, thank you for acknowledging the child’s feelings and birth parents. Not all birth parents are criminals, not all birth parents are “bad parents” sometimes bio moms, and/or dads just need help in an area or a few areas. And yes I’m sure the majority have done things that most would never imagine. Coming from personal experience, there are bio parents who are not the stereotypical individuals and truly are having a far worse night or week while fighting to prove to a system that views them as guilty until proven innocent. I’d much rather lose sleep due to a crying baby than lose sleep because I’m not hearing my baby at all. Again thank you for being so vulnerable and not sugar coating things. God bless you and your family ❤
Thanks for your comment! Foster care is primarily about reunification, keeping families together. It's easy to forget that. Washington DC is currently experimenting with giving parents with kids in CPS custody monthly stipends. I'm excited about that experiment and curious to the result. In most of the country, foster parents receive monthly stipends for the kids in their care.
This video deserves so much more attention than it has! It's been edited so well and is really detailed too! Hope to see more content like this in the future
Thank you! I appreciate the kind words.
Yes. I second that, excellent video!
Great video! I was a mentor to a boy in foster care for 7 years. He now is 17. His father, whom he had not spoken nor seen for 6 years, wanted him to move 1000 miles away to Texas. I had 3 days spending time with him. I did go to the final court date to support him. The father was very thankful and friendly. He said contact can continue and am allowed to visit. This interaction calmed me immensely. I'm still going through the grieving process. I did give the teen a letter. He was very thankful. He has texted a few times. We will see where this relationship goes. He is 4 months shy of his 18th birthday. I was shocked how attached and bonded you can become. Many have said to mentor another. I will take time to heal. Best wishes.
Thanks for sharing. I’m glad your mentee was able to reconnect with his family and stay in touch with you. It’s so important to maintain those meaningful attachments.
So hard.
Thank you so much for sharing. This was so extremely helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
😎 *Promosm*
I want that for myself
Come over and play with it! I think you're my #1 fan.
Video sucks
Thank you.
You're welcome!
Thank you for the detailed account of your experience. You and your wife are amazing.
Thank you!
I’m still a kid but I would love to be a foster parent! This video tells me a lot of information!!
Thank you! I'm glad it provided a lot of helpful information. And keep your eyes open - there are a lot of ways to support your community.
Love this
Thank you!
Im so proud of her first family for doing the necessary work to get their baby back and so happy you & your wife were there to love & care for her in the meantime!
Thank you! Yeah, we're proud of her family.
I've thought about the idea of becoming a foster parent in the future and this video helped me understand more about the reality of it! :)
Thank you! I kind of wish I watched a video like this before we became foster parents.
Thank you for your video. Please consider not talking over music. It's a little bit anxiety producing. It's not really needed. You are wonderful, and you don't need that background racket to share your stories. Little bit of music goes a long way. It's best when people aren't talking, or if they're singing then it's good then😊. Take care and thanks for fostering.
Why are you showing her face WTF??
I was very careful not to show her face. I covered it up. I don't think she's recognizable in this video.
Nice
Congrats and good luck! Great video ☺️
Thank you!
For me love is love and it doesn't matter if you had a baby are a faster mom and dad every kids needs to be loved
Love is love. :)
Touching . Cool short
Thanks! Glad you liked it.
This is so heartbreaking for a kid and for parents as well, doesn't matter if they are fostering her, they mean to be parents to her. I really feel bad
It's definitely hard to say goodbye to your foster kids. But I know it's best for the kids to be with family (most of the time). It's complicated - I think the goal of the child welfare system should be to be more of a family well-being system and keep families together. (Easier said than done).