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It sounds like you are autistic. We often get misdiagnosed as ADHD. There are expressions of autism that meet the ADHD criteria for autism reasons

Can't even pay attention long enough to see the full video ... 😕

This is brilliant and sums me up exactly. 52 years old and just diagnosed. Taking meds which have helped but haven’t cured my deep seated issues of low self esteem especially relating to my job as a teacher.

You say the menopause side of things won’t last forever. But it will, at least that’s how I understand it. ‘The menopause side of things’ is your body no longer producing oestrogen. ADHD is a dopamine-based neurology. And oestrogen is a precursor to dopamine. So no oestrogen = no dopamine. That won’t improve post-menopause, because you still won’t be producing oestrogen. You might want to have a conversation with your GP or ADHD practitioner about HRT. Good luck!

Thanks for the video. I’ve just been triaged forward for the assessment for ADHD. Im in my 50s and so far have 100+ symptoms. I was told early on by a GP that because I was a girl it could not be ADHD 😠 it’s going to make so much sense if I do have it.

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How do you know when to start hormone replacement therapy? Do you have to have things like hot flashes?

❤ this video is a gem 💎

I just started a medication for adhd and it took me over 40 years to realize that I have this neurodivergence. I feel a massive difference. Like I would go in and out of concentration, people labelled me as stupid, my nervousness stressing others out, not being able to get my life together and anxiety/depression for being different. It was so bad that I didn't even understand my symptoms as being so obvious because I've been forced to live like this for so long. The most painful think is knowing I have knowledge, but not being able to bring it out because my barrier is my own self. I also just learned that some doctors are suspicious about medication used to treat adhd and "not being honest about having the condition". This medication is a lifesaver and I hope that I can move forward and finally live to my potential.

Thanks for sharing your ADHD story. It closely matches my own in many ways, though I’m hyperactive and always have been. Despite this very obvious ADHD sign, I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 45. Girl in the 80s = missed. So I spent years thinking I was noisy, stupid & just really bad at life. Im now 51 and since getting my dx I’ve regained my life & confidence - plus I have a ND daughter. There’s still lots of damage and I’m struggling through perimenopause & the whole estrogen ADHD storm. It’s hard, but I’m being kind to myself & finding good support. Thanks for the heads up re AI - I use it in my work, but will try it for my ADHD. Thank you 🙏🏻

I just got my diagnosis of combined ADHD/IDD last month,I am now 2 month shy of 52. A couple of years ago I was under immense pressure and I developed a stutter that has remained with me since. Everyone professional has said that this is very unusual. I have been menopausal now for approximately 5/6 years. I get extremely anxious quite quickly, the I start suttering so with the ADHD (combined) IDD, it makes my life so hard. If I don't know me how is anyone else supposed to? 😢

ADHD and ASD does not care about the nature of the body they are in. As a man I'm really tired of you reversing the white boy racism, to now discriminate against me because I'm a man and can't have female autism. Please stop this bullshit and stop harming people! Do not make something that is INDEPENDENT of gender a gender stereotype and continue the wrong we have suffered over the years because of trying to box things without understanding.

ADHD teacher here. Are you still teaching? I am finding it very hard to continue teaching since my diagnosis (and before that truthfully). Do you have any specific tips?

Being undiagnosed As a child I remember going into jr high frm elementary school and I all of a sudden I felt like I no longer fit in and that everyone didn't like me and I wasn't as good as the other kids. It was so bad I used back pain as a excuse to miss school and that worked for a few months but eventually went back and felt even more alone. . Even as an adult still not being able to sustain long term employment. Around 35 years old when I found out I have ADHD because my children were diagnosed first the light bulb went off and as I started learning more about ADHD so many things suddenly made sense now and I wasn't a bad person after all.

Could do one with sex as part of coping with ADHD

Please help research this information because it's connected to symptoms: GOOGLE "DIAGNOSING AND TREATING VITAMIN B 12 DEFICIENCY," That title exactly, it's a TH-cam VIDEO. IT'S important to watch the whole thing and take good notes. It's really important. ❤ Being low on one specific correct type of B12 Methylcobalamine and methylfolate and Vitamin B complex can cause anemia and a huge list of both physical and emotional symptoms.

I’m no so happy I have to go to school I hate school

Imagine being 57 and diagnosed with it! I scored in the 99 percentile for ADHD. I can't believe how much it explains about my life and the issues that started as early as 6 years old

Very helpful and informative! Can’t wait to discuss this with others.

I am a male, I had a nervous breakdown to get my ADHD, 4 years ago , aged 41. I got my degree, pgdip without any support. I have dyspraxia, Aspergers traits, not including generalised anxiety disorder.My psychiatrist said my ADHD, was missed because I was well behaved in school, intelligent and driven.

Still sounds like me lol

I’m in my 70s, menopause in my 40s plus severe trauma knocked me flat. Less impulsive but executive function shot. Only recently aware I’ve been adhd all my life. My response initially was to withdraw altogether from life and things got worse, as someone else in the comments mentioned use it or lose it. I’m not convinced post menopause is a transition, but a permanent change you have to deal with. My experience anyway. I’ve worked hard for 3 years now to regain physical ability and mental health. Diet, supplements, exercise, mental exercise…I’m doing okay. But the hormone shifts are a huge part of adhd, my cycles were a nightmare when I was younger. And menopause changed me permanently. It’s been easier knowing I have adhd as I can consciously adjust and adapt where needed instead of fighting to be ‘normal’.

Seems like using A.I. in place of memory recall will help with work, but it definitely will not help prevent more recall memory loss. Anything you stop using/doing (whether its a choice or a medical reason) means the neural pathways in that part of the brain are not receiving stimulation. That stimulation, however little may still aid in new neuron connections forming ... which could possible help reroute the nerve connections to the area in your brain where recall used to take place. Similar to how people relearn functions like eating, speaking or walking after a stroke or other brain injury. The same way people with spinal cord damage can regenerate nerves through continued physical therapy forms like the use of an "exoskeleton" device which supports them in the upright natural walking position and is also attached around their legs - moving their legs (walking) for them to keep muscle healthy & to help retain muscle memory until spinal nerves can regenerate.

So on point! I was diagnosed as an adult and it explains everything. Videos like this is so important. THANK YOU!❤

Recently, I have become aware of my ability to instantly recognize ADHD in others. I prefer their company because they are interesting and I feel 'normal' in their company. So many people now recognize this wonderful condition thanks to ladies like yourself. I'm a "bloke" from Canada but you have just told the story of my daughter ! I am certain you have helped her. Thanks for your lovely video and well organized presentation ... Cheers

Thank you so much for this very insightful and relatable video. I have just started to get diagnosed for ADHD. I habe been crying the last few days, because I finally understand myself and the personality trades, that I hate so much about myself. I felt so wrong, wird, stupid and not worthy as a child......... Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤

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This video is really interesting, because you talk about stimming. In the majority of viedos made for women with ADHD, they only talk about innatentive type. I've been relating with some ADHD traits. But I don't know if I've always been stimming, or not focusing on classes, if I'm only noticing this now, or if I'm changing my behavior to get attention. Guess I won't know until something really goes wrong. Hehe

I understand most of your experiences with stemming as you described! I was always great in school because I loved learning, though my brother was diagnosed in middle school right away. I was only diagnosed ADHD and Austistic this year, right before I turned 40. Makes so much sense that it still blows my mind at times... I think it would have been MUCH worse when I was younger if I hadn't studied philosophy, constantly read, questioned everything, etc. I found myself and who I was at a young age (as much as one can), and doing so gave me such honest and truthful confidence; we all grow and change, so it's imperative to do the same and keep questioning. The problem is that as we grow and gain more life experience & responsibilities, it can become more and more difficult to do this. Like everything else that matters, however, it's not ever easy to do - especially when your brain is actively fighting against you at times...

😢I have always felt huge difficulies engaging in conversations during my childhood. 😢 Sad. It caused mental issues which later led me to am abusive relationship. Luckily I got diagnosed and treated.

I am newly diagnosed just this past year, and it’s been so freeing to finally have answers to why I always felt different. Why I was alone all the time and couldn’t keep friends. Why when I said the school books hurt my brain, I wasn’t being silly or joking. I just didn’t understand anything. Why I changed myself so many times into who I was dating so much that I winded up losing myself somewhere…. Your video truly spoke to my heart and resonated with me. Thank you for this. I’m looking forward to finally being the Valerie I was meant to be all along… I love you all. We got this. 💪🏼❤️

I agree we need to reframe language about adhd. Let's focus on the positive!

I use my phone for so many things, too!

Hi! Great video! Thank you! I'd love to hear more about the characteristics (aka "symptoms") of adhd. 😊

5:11 constantly doing sth, stimulating i so much agree. If I talk too much it stirs up my concentration… so i try to avoid it but it is hard when there is a situation that you have to be in ppl. Also i love the morning being on my own in a silence.. 10:37 i give you applause.. i would do this as well.

I got diagnosed yesterday and I am a high school teacher. Once I've come home I've been researching and watching TH-cam videos. I'm identifying so many things and acknowledging others experiences as a reflection of what I was going through but was not aware it was because of ADHD. I'm so glad I know now so I don't feel like I'm deliberately letting people down or jeopardising my job.

Great video, thank you!

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This video. Thankyou so much

For PDA too?

Thank you for making this video. I believe it has the potential to help a lot of women, including myself.

Definitely can relate! I have ADHD (Inattentive) and also dyscalculia and a bit of dyslexia. I only learned that I have ADHD a couple years back, and I remember how it felt finally truly understanding myself for the first time. I cried. It was such a relief. All those frustrations wondering why, finally has been made clear. I finally forgave myself. But it was hard to accept that I only knew it now, and thought what it might have been if I had learned about this sooner when I was younger. Regardless, I'm just really thankful now. I work with what I can give, and I don't have to beat myself up for everything.

Thanks 👍

I appreciate the video's content, but... you talk about sensitivities in the video, then at the end the outro is like half again as loud as the rest of the video. I was listening to it with my earbuds in, and nearly had to take them out when the outro started.

Thank you so much for sharing your story!! I got diagnosed at 34 after a loss. I totally resonated with the relief that comes from understanding that your condition is not a moral falling and letting that guilt and shame go with getting the assistance needed. Best of luck to you!

Incredibly helpful, thank you.

Would you please talk slower? You are very hard to understand. 😢

Thank you 🙏 ❤

I have ADHD, dyscalculia, and generalized anxiety. I have never watched a video that matches everything I go through such as your video. It is just like you read every aspect of me.

thank you.......