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Its all about toxic shame

I was diagnosed at 30. My childhood was extremely similar to the gentleman speaking. Very interesting.

You are a real blessing for other men struggling. ❤

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The worst part is loving someone who pushes you way for loving them while you struggle with not wanting to be pushed away and you'd never hurt them.😢

I'm a girl and I think I have never related more to someone's story ... I was diagnosed last year.. but developed it quite young..

I think the question should be how to process trauma but that means society in all its infallible glory goes into question

Lifechanging absolutely incredible to hear your story Aaron thank you!

Thank you so much for getting up there and sharing your experiences. It helps so many of us, just knowing we're not alone in this.

Based on my experience with BPD men, I'd say one of the reasons they are so under-diagnosed is that some of the symptoms - outbursts of anger, controlling and demanding behavior, self centeredness, promiscuity, lack of empathy - is considered more acceptable for men, if not even admired and rewarded sometimes.

I recommend checking out Daniel Mackler on this topic.

This man is a complete mirror of me. Spot on with childhood and all the symptoms, too.

It's important to know that these disorders present in early childhood. This gives us an opportunity to improve early intervention & prevent abusive relationships from ever developing.

This video helped me so much thank you! I am a single mom of 2 with bpd

very courageous speech, I commend you on your healing journey. As someone who has struggled with family members with BPD and my own (non-BPD) mental health ongoingly, this inspired me a lot.

what a sweetheart.

Aaron!! Great👍! The disparity between how the sexes experience BPD is mystifying. It is said women have quick access to emotions, while men have access to anger, other emotions get detoured under anger, which paradoxically camouflages the BPD. Your folks did something right, you have a wider emotional access, making BPD overt. Emotions of any kind are stigmatized for men. I'm a little envious you can have an occassional drink. For me total abstinence is the only way. Besides 12 Steps, i was lucky w/therapists. What a crapshoot! Minimizing symptoms as "attention getting" is stunningly naive, a form of blaming the victim. It really is all a spectrum, hunh?

Aaron, your courage in sharing your journey with BPD is truly commendable. Your articulate expression has provided valuable insight into the male perspective of living with this condition. Thank you for contributing to a more understanding and supportive community.

Sounds like what I just went through for 5 years. Now I know why he drank and still does.

Thank you so much for being open Aaron. This is special.

Note women partners are a man's rock whilst men partners are women's (ab)users...Shine anyone...

Aaron you'd be hearng Introjects not "voices" Please aquaint yourself with Vaknin's work particularly if you are a self elected spokesperson...btw gender is irrelevant...

Diagnosed bpd at Glenside but no follow up care or knowledge in the State....

Professor S.n of B..t.h who support puberty blockers and gender transitions with irreversible effects over two hours of session. Do not claim that you are man of science, I would not even trust you with cleaning my trash.

I think the reason why more men have it now is no mystery. When did we really see the rise of single mothers? early 80's onward. As a man with BPD raised only by my mother what chance did I really have of not getting it?. She was the only thing I had to reference I was a only child as well.

I think my male friend has bpd. What hurts me is the lack of support and help he has, it seems like no one is as concerned as i am about him right now. He has decided to cut me out of his life, and i was extremely concerned because hes said before, "if i got you to hate me it would be easier for me to kill myself" so i dont know if hes just cutting me out to isolate himself to then convince himself that no one cares about him thus allowing suicide option to be able to impliment. Once i made this realization last night i contacted his family to ensure they were very aware of his emotional state, to watch him, and to please try to listen to him from a place of understanding. He was supposed to go on a trip with him family two days ago, he thought he would be fine. And everything seemed great to me. When he arrived to his destination he told me he felt extremely bad. So bad that he had to fly back the next day. When i picked him up he said that when he bought the ticket home he planned to kill himself when he got there. I made sure to tell his family this because i am very worried about him. After i picked him up we seemed fine, like we were connecting and talking openly about how he feels. But then he decided to cut me off? Im so confused and worried.

BPD does not exist it is made up!

Unfortunately, many speakers such as the one above take little responsibility for their behaviour. Instead of giving advice on how others should treat them, it would be welcome to see someone with BPD acknowledge that the bombs lie in them, and you could be a butterfly fluttering softly on the minefield of their emotions, and they'll go off, and accuse you of being an insensitive piece of shit. Been there done that. After 6 years and the most insane abuse and rollercoaster, I as a partner have yet again reached the point of resignation. Meeting a person with BPD who actually commits to regulating themselves is like finding a needle in a haystack. And I don't blame them, because it goes against all and everything that their frayed nerves and raw emotional system tells them. For people who already have BPD, damage-control is the main concern. Other than that, parents are the ones to be held responisible for screwing up their children that bad.

With his accent, when he would say “BPD”, I heard “Big pay day”! 😂 ( I live in the U.S.)

STOP Promoting your stupidity. Medical Professionals do NOT agree with your ego drive. It is NOT employers that DECIDE these things. If you do not have SECURITY IN SURGERY than you are doing these surgeries for the WRONG REASONS.

I jus had to run from the man I love, whos aspd mother has him enmeshed and he is ASD and meets all the criteria for BPD as well and the mother flipped him, he split me and physically attacked me. We were half an hour from getting him away, we had the shrink lined up and dbt ready, and she lied to him and triggered his rage right before we were meant to leave to come back to my home and I lost him. He is in so much pain and it hurts so much to leave him there when his brain is screaming, but I am the devil now, hes split me completely, and I think I wont see him again.

We need more information, more awareness, as a man it's hard accepting this problem but its harder if we don't have information. Thank you for your video, i like your name! 😂

Your a strong, good man. 3rd degree emotional burns.... Peace. 🙏

My ex husband has this....I hope his latest lady can help him. It was his abuse which finished me off. I stopped loving him

Wonderful talk thank you 🙏

I know this was tough for you & many others, but I'd still like to say "THANK YOU, FOR SHARING THIS!!" (same to all on / not on here, that have or are trying to push forward &/or are taking a rest & possibly trying to figure out what to do next)!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗♥️BEAR♥️HUGS♥️🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 LOVE, BLESSINGS, HOPE, COMFORT, HEALING, UNDERSTANDING, PEACEFUL MINDS & PRAYERS FOR EVERYONE, ALWAYS!!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🌈🌈❇️❇️❇️❇️❇️

I am a man and was diagnosed with this at 37. I still have no idea what it is.

I just got diagnosed at 50 with this... i work i am on meds.. i have a beautiful beautiful woman who loves me and helps me. As i am suffering.. im scared. Seriously scared. I love here. I love my mom. I love my fur babies. I just wanna be normal. 😢.. I've been diagnosed social anxiety disorder I've been diagnosed bipolar I've been diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic I've been diagnose ADHD and I think I finally got diagnosed correctly and unfortunately psychiatrist I saw said it's the one mental illness that is more less untreatable by medication...thanks for the video

What an articulate speaker and rare beacon of hope Aaron is. Bravo.

Well said! Thank you!

Needed this today.

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My boyfriend meets all of the criteria of BPD and really suffers. Our relationship suffers too, of course. It’s very under diagnosed in men. Thank you for sharing.

Not enough views thank you for posting this . As a male with bpd I have never got the support I need .

That was a great summary. Thank you.