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Hey, new here - thanks YT algorithm! I identify with a lot of what you said here! I'm un-diagnosed but DEFINITELY on the spectrum and I'm constantly always feeling like people judge me for being 'stupid' when I'm having trouble processing what's being said, or a given social situation. It's so frustrating because I know I'm smarter than the average bear, but I'm constantly in this cycle of self-doubt that maybe I just am dumb for not getting it. I have trouble maintaining any close friendships & have never managed a relationship because I apparently just don't understand how to talk to people without upsetting them when I'm genuinely just trying to have normal conversations and understand their POV. I get frustrated and embarrassed a lot, and all of this together just triggers anxiety and depression and I constantly just hate myself and wish I was never born. I see people like you who struggle with some of the same things I do, but you just seem to have soo much confidence in yourself & who you are that you can just cope with the struggles of autism & can just be your authentic self - and I genuinely wish I knew how you do it. I would kill to have your level of confidence & - for the lack of a better term - 'chill-ness'. I've always wished for a friend like you who understands my struggles but could take me under their wing & give me advice. You seem really awesome & I'll be watching more of your videos and subscribing!

Hi Adran I feel I have autism But I did't take test to be diagnosed And I'm suffering from socialising .and I start to masking and always I 'm silence I want tto know how to meet people without feeling embrace

Adran I resonate so much with your videos. I have similar communication issues that have caused me to be very embarrassed I try to follow what someone is telling me but the way they say it throws me off I have learned that if I don't understand and for what was said is rephrased and I have to do that a lot at work and I know people think I am stupid 😢

I have had to put getting my assessment off for a few months due to the cost but I want you to know Adrian I have shared this video with those most important to me this video is so spot on PLEASE MAKE MORE VIDEOS 😊

I appreciate this message very much. The background noise makes it hard for me to focus on the message, though. Keep making videos!

Love the rain

I thought I was the only one that does this kind of stuff 😮

Both of theses are a bit foreign to me in dealing with. The pain stuff more like i dealt with it so much im just over it, kind of like when you are soooo tired you cant sleep? Maybe not a good Analogy. I recently got like this synchronicity. It was like this message that wasnt written soecifically for me but resonated, about changing mindset. Lessening the like white knuckle grip of Fear, and change it into Flow. The fear and trying to protect yourself, it blocks you and can cause more pain, or create self-fulfilling prophesy. Letting this awareness I was even doing this, marinate in my mind and soul, and reflecting. It will come. I process things so slowly. Thank you for this message. :) Yeah holding onto pain or fear can be like this death vice grip. It doesnt just interfere with your life and moving forward, it doesn't just keep you stuck and lost because you can't see snything else. It avtually can make you really sick. Unlearning my ingrained habits ... 50 years .. its going to takes bit to reverse all of that knee jerk reaction right? But trying to "trust" without planning now. It feels sooooo weird. But what do i have to lose? Trying something new. Sometimes, "Shift happens". Lol :)

Hi Adrian!! 👋🏻 😊 🥰🙏🏻 I resonate with this a bit right now. I agree. Are you talking about regular overwhelming times in our lives like hardships, mental health struggles, and grieving? Or Trauma! 🤔 There is one caviate though, some people's feelings or trauma is so intense the brain's defense mechanisms either make the memories of those feelings not accessible, or trigger PTSD. Just sharing .. not disagreeing. I'm to a point my counselor is having me get an additional counselor for trauma work. Somatic breathing, or exercises, certain meditations can access these repressed overwhelming feelings and fears, that we inadvertently store within our bodies somehow. but I did try it once.. ... Long story! I thought it was a nice little meditation class. NOPE!! It was a somatic breathing class I took with a friend. I was NOT prepared!! Absolutely not!. Lol. It is so intense, especially if you are not prepared for all that suppressed stuff to come up you had no idea you were carrying, and the intensity of it takes you by surprise. Be kind to yourself and give yourself grace, acceptance, patience, and care for a couple days if you do this. Maybe I would not have gone though if I would have known? I feel like I could do that once a week or month for YEARS before I get it all out so scary. I had no idea. Feels like some kind of bottomless well you didn't know was inside you. Sorry if this sounds a little dramatic. And I am totally rambling! But this video reminded me of that. I should start with watching the rest of your video for starters! 😂😊 I was wrecked the rest of the day which is normal if you haven't done that work before, and not myself for days. It just takes it out of you, like nobody's business. You have to withdraw and do self care measures until you get better again. It's intense! Omg... I had no idea the level of grieving and PTSD just from life stuff .. it's like bone shaking gutteral I don't even know the words for it. Not crying, howling. Omg the pain. And I can't even imagine what victims of assault and other things go through. That is just my life stuff I had no idea I have been carrying around. Gotta feel it to heal it. Ughhhg 🫣😲😖😣🤯😭🥰 it's almost like it's own secondary trauma if you have no idea that level of feeling is down in there. I had PTSD from inadvertently taking a breathing class to release trauma! Lol That'll learn me! :) luckily I felt safe and supported with that small group, but incredibly Exposed and ashamed of that coming to the surface, I don't want to do that around others you know? So personal. Anyway, this is a late response, but I have been subconsciously doing some of my shadow work already which is good. Hopefully it will be less scary. I have been AVOIDING calling the counselor. That is what is on the agenda for Monday. 🫣🙏🏻💖 l

you have to consider the comorbid temporal lobe epilepsy⚡️(＝mental epilepsy⚡️) caused by inflammation🔥 not autism itself. this mental epilepsy⚡️ is the hindrance.

I really respect you for talking about this shift in your mindset. In a world that keeps getting more hateful and divisive, it’s so important to form a supportive community. This video is a beautiful piece of advocacy, thank you for sharing it. 🩵

when i was in high school, people knew that i was autistic but i didn't. it flew over my head. i would always by myself and eat my lunch quietly because talking to people wouldn't be worth it. i had a friend whom i'm speculating to be autistic as well because we mixed well together during our time together. now i'm busy discussing autism diagnosis. after my diagnosis who knows ?

Are you level 1 (high-functioning Autistic?

You may be interested in another creator who has several videos on her thoughts about allistic-centered workplace factors. @TheMusingsOfMyAuDHDBrain

Thank you for sharing your experience and hope.

Thank you for sharing. I didn't know but my algorithm knew when it sent your channel to my feed I guess. I listen when my trans friends talk about this and the conservative fearmongering is way way way out of line and ridiculous on this topic.

I wish I didn't but I do get hurt when people insist that transitioning is something people "choose" to do for attention. It took me years to come out and when I did I genuinely didn't know if I was going to have a family, friends, or a home afterwards. I cut off everyone when I started transitioning because I just didn't want people to know, I was even homeschooled to avoid any attention at school because of it. I don't even see my transition as a choice. I was at a point where I knew that I was either going to end up offing myself or I was going to have to finally address this. I chose to live, and my transition is as natural a part of my life to me as puberty is. It's been over 10 years since then and I've never once regretted choosing to live. Transitioning is hard, and talking about it is hard too. I've only ever really come out to one person who didn't know me before I transitioned. Sometimes I wish I was more of an advocate, the few times I've run into people who knew me when I was younger and didn't know I transitioned I like to think that learning about me has opened their minds even just a little. I'm not in a place where I feel safe not being stealth, but I'll continue to be an open book online. Thanks for sharing, it genuinely does help I think. The more people realize that we're just normal people the easier things will become hopefully.

There's something called the Autistic Language Hypothesis. TH-cam has some interviews and discussions with Rachel Cullen, the person who developed the idea. Another term to look into is the Double Empathy Problem (neurodivergents communicate better with other neurodivergents, neurotypicals communicate better with other neurotypicals, but the 2 neurotyoes have very different ways of thinking end of using language).

EYYYY im trans and my name is adrian too! Lets go brother, propaganda spreading spree

I came to a very silimar realization. The brutal truth is the trans community is most likely in for very hard times. Even now, there are many in the community who are not in a safe environment and cannot afford to speak out. I feel like it is my and others in the community who have the privilege of safety and stability to be the voice for those who cannot. Good for you for speaking up!!!!

Thank you so much for this. It’s the first time I felt like someone really sees me and we haven’t even met!! You are so right how knowing this shines a light through my entire life and reasons I was bullied as an elementary school kid seemingly for no reason. I’m 59 years old, do this information is literally a life saver. Thank you ❤

awesome vid =:D!! 🐺🫶💛🤍💜🖤🐾🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤

I dont have autism. I assume various masks for various social situations , Jung called them personas. Masks are handy because often I dont want to share much of who I am ,or how I feel, with others. I think the concept of boundaries between people is useful. Social situations are not wholly about me meeting others needs.

Happy belated birthday! Keep being your brave authentic self and remember, it's your channel, so you get to talk or not talk about whatever you want. I've only been watching for a few months and I had absolutely no idea you were trans. It's not something I questioned or even wondered about. I'm here because you have insightful content to share. How you identify doesn't change who you are as a human, because that's who you've always been. I wish your family was more supportive of you, that must be very difficult. But as an adult, you get to choose the people you want in your life AND you can always change your mind, when or if their actions prove accepting of who you are. ❤

Thank you for sharing!

getting a blood pressure machine/hr machine can help when you do decide to go to the doctor because you can write down your symptoms along with your bp/bpm when your experiencing episodes. this can also help see if your bp gets low and/or high as it changes what type of meds and treatments you should do.

i not sure if this is what your experiencing or not but mcas(mast cell activation syndrome) can cause you to have reactions to your own sweat which can be potentially why you experience rashes from heat or hot bath/showers. it's very common with pots and can cause allergic like reactions to many things without actually being allergic to it. there are wide range of symptoms like rashes, itchiness, headaches/migraines, nausea, anxiety, vomiting, etc like symptoms you would get if you had an allergic reaction. it would be mcas if two systems of ur body is involved like u ate a food and now you have a headache and nausea or you touch a flower and you have a rash and anxiety

No no you're really not. You're a very lost and pathetic shell of a man. But you're not trans. Doesn't exist. Quit being stupid

You’re right, it’s not your responsibility to tell us anything you don’t feel the need to. These times are really tough and I’m sorry.

Thank you.

Thanks, Adrian

Had to send this to myself ❤

This is almost triggering because this is sonething i have been struggling with for ao many years. I have no idea what direction i am going, if i even have dreams. It's complicated. But thank you so much for sharing this. I might have to periodically come back and listen again until it sinks in. Thank you, Adrian!

Thank you, this is so important! 🙏🏻 I often feel lost in my life. 💗

Work politics are the worst! Especially when they expect the same rules to apply to you that applies to them. They are expected to understand, so they don't understand why they would have to explain any differently to you. They will either think you are incompetent, or their idea of special needs. Where, in their mind is all and good. But... They are there to get the job done. That's all they care about. So if you can't tow the line like they do, there is something wrong with you, and the company should really just hire someone who can do the job and not have challenges. They don't feel like they are there to hold anyone's hand. It's the work culture. They care less about people and doing what's right, then who can get the job done without inconveniencing them, or the boss. It is a tough world out there. So it's tricky to figure out in each group of people how to balance out HOW to ask for your needs to get met so you can do the job, but yet maybe do it in a way that doesn't draw too much negative attention or opinion towards you, that might impact your position and future there. I always struggled with unwritten rules of behavior that others seemed to just know.

Happy happy Birthday, my friend!! 🥳🎂 Treat yourself to a new fidget toy!! :D

Hello I’m in Fresno, Ca and wondering if anyone knows where to get a diagnosis

Im so sorry about american healthcare costs creating so many problems. POTS is not well understood by most doctors and does not have great treatments (you mentioned most of the common treatments) so i would say if it is not debilitating and you don't have a doctor i would wait until you have insurance. I'm a doctor, but in sweden, and i must admit i don't know much about POTS but i try to learn. But i do know the diagnosis requires several exams such as ECG and 24 hour blood pressure test. I don't want to scare you because you could have a good experience, but yeah i understand it could be difficult to get diagnosed. Oh yes i know that you can get hives when you get hot, not entirely uncommon. I think it has to do with the sweat pores being blocked and the sweat gets blocked under the skin.

By far one of my favorite videos about my current mental state. Thank you for your words, I as a fellow autistic adult, appreciate your explaination so I don't have to lol <3

“People really underestimate the pain of being inauthentic”. Priceless.

I want to comment about something around the 11 minute mark: joining groups. I have had this same experience my entire life. When I join a group I can see their demeanor change as though I am a confusing presence. I observe how everyone is talking and smiling to one another. Then when I say something it’s like a show stopper. The smiles disappear and they stare at me like they have no idea how to interpret or respond. It really makes me feel like an alien.

This is one of the best videos on the importance of adult diagnosis I have seen. Thank you, Adrian. I am 54, clinically diagnosed AuDHD 3 weeks ago, although I have known (self-diagnosed) for about 6 years. I have around 13 other adult family members who are struggling with what is probably (obviously) neurodivergence. Unfortunately they have a “Rain Man” idea about what autism is, so a lot of education is needed. I really want to be able to help them feel seen and validated so I have been rehearsing what to say and how to deliver the message. This video has helped tremendously. Love the rain on the car roof. ❤

i feel seen, ty

You've said the things that I couldn't put into words. Imagine having to justify why having an autism label is beneficial to an adult. Whether or not I have the label, I'm autistic. It explains so much. It helps me figure out how to approach things that works for ME, because I am built different. Nobody is going to shame me for being different. The way I see it, if I didn't get diagnosed as autistic, then I would continue to believe I was just "not good enough"...

my big ones are Star Wars, Harry Potter, Jurassic Park, Doctor Who, and Star Trek. John Williams too.

It definitely seems easier to stay low. The crash back down after starting to hope is…. Whoa. Waiting for the perspective to shift, I guess. 😢

I’m definitely looking for tools to help get through burnout or avoid it. Thank you, you’re right alot of other advice requires things I don’t have like safe and clean spaces outdoors.

I heard this analogy. Finding out you have autism is like being raised as a horse, and all the people telling you that you aren't horsing correctly. You're a weird horse. But then one day you see a zebra, and you think... hey I might be a zebra. I have all the same markings as a zebra. I act like a zebra. Then you see a zebra specialist and that specialist confirms you are in fact NOT a failed horse. You are a zebra. And you feel relieved that you found out what you really are. And still all the horses say... I don't think you are a zebra. You don't look like a zebra. But... like... the stripes, MAN! The stripes.

Me during the video as an autiophile: are those Soundcore Q30 headphones?

omg love the spanish moss in your channel's banner photo