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WNTT with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.54: From Secrets to Stories: Choosing When to Share Your Past
Choosing when to share your past-and deciding how much to share-is one of the trickiest balancing acts in relationships. Whether it’s with a romantic partner, a friend, or even a colleague, the decision to open up can feel overwhelming.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the delicate art of disclosure-learning when and how to share your personal stories so they don’t become burdensome secrets.
We discuss:
The right timing to share mental health diagnoses, physical illnesses, financial struggles, legal troubles, family secrets, or personal mistakes.
How to balance family loyalty with honesty when revealing family secrets.
Tips for discussing sensitive topics like politics, religious differences, or biases with new people.
How to present your mistakes as opportunities for growth and accountability.
PLUS, I uncover the #1 mistake people make when they’re on the receiving end of someone else’s vulnerable story-and how to avoid it.
Tune in to learn how to navigate these tough conversations with confidence, compassion, and authenticity.
Xxoo Darcy
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We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.53: The Science of Female Desire with Dr. Lori Brotto
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For many women, sexual desire isn’t always spontaneous or readily available-it’s something that ebbs and flows, influenced by factors like stress, fatigue, and emotional connection with a partner. Yet, our culture promotes the idea that great sex must be spontaneous, passionate, and frequent, leaving many women feeling like they’re broken when they experience a lull in their desire. But what if...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.52: Blinded by Love: Why We Ignore Red Flags
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We've all been there-stuck in a relationship where red flags are hard to ignore, yet we find ways to dismiss them. We tell ourselves things will change, that it’s just a rough patch. But while we’re busy justifying, friends and family can see the reality far more clearly. Why are we often the last to recognize toxic patterns or to accept when a relationship has reached its limit? What keeps us ...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.51: Navigating Polyamory with Attachment Theory
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Our early experiences with our caregivers creates a blueprint that influences how we trust, connect, and build relationships in adulthood. We call that blueprint our attachment style. And to keep it simple, that style will either be secure (ideally) or insecure (more likely). If you suspect or know that you have an insecure attachment style, don’t lose hope-healing is possible. And it often hap...
WNTT w/Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.50: The Passion Paradox in Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Emily Jamea
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There is nothing quite like the feeling you get when your new relationship becomes official. That shift from casual dating into knowing that you and your partner are truly becoming a committed team. You develop relationship rituals for when you see each other, and you’re beginning to create a framework for navigating life together. For so many people, it’s simultaneously grounding and intoxicat...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.49: Meet The Breakup Therapist: Ginger Dean
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I have often fantasized that there should be a place where you can go for a week to heal from the devastating loss of a breakup. A place where people are trained to understand what you’re going through and what you need, because let’s face it-most of us don’t know what we need in those moments. But what if someone did? Today’s guest is Ginger Dean, a therapist who specializes in breakup recover...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.48: Millennial Dating with Lindsey Metselaar
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Dating in the digital age is a completely different game than it used to be. Swiping left and right, ghosting, breadcrumbing, and situationships have all become part of the millennial love landscape. But with so many choices, why does it feel like finding a meaningful connection has become even more difficult? Today I’m joined by Lindsey Metselaar, host of the podcast, “We Met At Acme,” where s...
WNTT with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.47:Are We Ignoring the Role of Childhood Trauma in School Shootings?
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School shootings have become part of the national dialogue in America, with much of the focus on weapons and security measures. But today I want to shift the lens in this conversation to something that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: Childhood trauma, and how it connects to the mental health crisis underlying these violent acts. Today, we’re going to examine the long-term effects of childh...
WNTT with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.46: Porn, Partners, and Pleasure: Finding Balance in a Digital Age
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In a world where access to explicit content is just a click away, pornography has become a significant part of our sexual landscape. For some, it’s a tool for exploring curiosity. For others, the mere thought of their partner viewing porn crosses the line of infidelity. But no matter where you stand, there’s no denying that porn has the power to shape our understanding of sex, our desires, and ...
WNTT with Dr. Darcy Ep.45: The Reality of Dating When You’re A Reality Star with Tiffany Pollard
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Tiffany Pollard is a woman whose name has become synonymous with reality TV Royalty. She burst onto our screens with a big personality and an even bigger heart on Flavor of Love and has since become an icon in the reality television world. I had the pleasure of working with her on Famously Single, where I taught her dating and relationship skills, but she’s also about to hit your screens in an ...
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.44: Mental Health In Dance & Competitive Sports
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Being a therapist wasn’t my dream job. Being a dancer was. But I came to dance late - just before my 18th birthday - ancient by dance standards. Still, I was determined and auditioned to be a dance major in college. Dance training shaped me more as a person than as a dancer. Dance taught me discipline, perseverance, and the ability to tolerate failure. From the beginning, I knew I had to work t...
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.43: Managing Long Distance Relationships
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In an era defined by globalization and digital connection, long distance relationships have become increasingly common, but no less challenging. From managing loneliness and navigating intimacy, to the inevitable communication hurdles that come from having different time zones and schedules, long distance relationships make the usual relationship hurdles seem quaint. That said, LDR’s are 100% p...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.42: How To Be An Ethical Fu*k Buddy
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Today we’re tackling a topic that is often shrouded in secrecy and misunderstanding: How to be an ethical fuck buddy. Navigating the friends-with-benefits terrain can be tricky. How do you ensure everyone’s on the same page? How do you set boundaries that protect the friendship while still enjoying the benefits? And most importantly, how do you engage in this kind of relationship with integrity...
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.41: Why You’re Asking Too Much Of Your Partner
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The modern marriage ideal suggests that we find a partner to help us become our best selves. But we also want a partner to make us feel loved, safe and secure - and that means accepting the current version of us. The person we are today. To help us become tomorrow’s version, we place a partner in a double bind where they have to acknowledge a difference between today’s version and the version o...
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.40: Canceling You Family with Dr. Joshua Coleman
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The threads that bind us to our families have begun to feel optional in recent years. And in our culture of social media - where anyone with a phone can proclaim themselves to be an expert on subjects that they have no training or qualifications in - influencers are everywhere, some of them encouraging followers to end what they deem to be toxic relationships, or to break unhealthy cycles, or t...
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.39: Drunk In Love: Pacing A New Relationship
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.39: Drunk In Love: Pacing A New Relationship
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Ep.38: Everything You Need To Know About Hormones with Karen Tang, MD
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Ep.38: Everything You Need To Know About Hormones with Karen Tang, MD
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.37: The Power of Attachment with Diane Poole Heller
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.37: The Power of Attachment with Diane Poole Heller
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.36: Commitment Phobes And The People Who Love Them
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.36: Commitment Phobes And The People Who Love Them
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.35: How Do I Know If I Need Therapy?
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.35: How Do I Know If I Need Therapy?
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.34: Questioning Monogamy Part 2 with Stewart Winter
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.34: Questioning Monogamy Part 2 with Stewart Winter
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep. 33: The B-Word: Mastering Boundaries with Nedra Tawwab
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep. 33: The B-Word: Mastering Boundaries with Nedra Tawwab
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 32: Social Media's Impact on Youth Mental Health
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 32: Social Media's Impact on Youth Mental Health
WNTT with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.31:Micro-Marriages:Because “till death do us part” isn’t great odds.
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WNTT with Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep.31:Micro-Marriages:Because “till death do us part” isn’t great odds.
WNTT w/Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep 30: Why Some People Need to Hit Rock Bottom to Get Help, with Dr. Aldad
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WNTT w/Dr. Darcy Sterling Ep 30: Why Some People Need to Hit Rock Bottom to Get Help, with Dr. Aldad
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 29: Secrets: The Price Of Keeping Quiet
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 29: Secrets: The Price Of Keeping Quiet
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 28: “You’re Not Listening!” with Stephanie Sterling
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 28: “You’re Not Listening!” with Stephanie Sterling
We Need To Talk Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 27: How to stay in love for years, decades, even forever.
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We Need To Talk Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 27: How to stay in love for years, decades, even forever.
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 26: Surviving Divorce with Alex Kapp
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 26: Surviving Divorce with Alex Kapp
We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 25: Questioning Monogamy with Molly Roden Winter
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We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling Episode 25: Questioning Monogamy with Molly Roden Winter

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  • @mikeelder6298
    @mikeelder6298 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Tell me how to spark my wife's desire in spite of her multiple sclerosis and peri menopause?

    • @DarcySterling
      @DarcySterling 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This is a great question for you to ask Dr. Lori Brotto. Her IG is @drloribrotto. I would also suggest purchasing a copy or her book Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. www.amazon.com/Better-Sex-Through-Mindfulness-Cultivate/dp/1771642351?crid=376BN8U1674B2&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Dm2sBAPOtUW35I_GiZe3nGslkAZMAI2A2HlLkUu6UAkdU2nVtpB9XHOvA95kMUViuEgTLiVdPz7XSi0ArCZaRlJINpND8r_Tt3FuTYQBjYzeLv3V9-aNcAqYryYSlN51.b2heDSc-mnSjzaqybDQf0OajpWOSDfQ17922ImdH8Rw&dib_tag=se&keywords=lori+brotto&qid=1733786112&sprefix=lori+brotto,aps,86&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=dr.darcysterl-20&linkId=559f53b61928c2e253a106347763fe1f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl

  • @Lawrence_writer
    @Lawrence_writer 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wo. Two days online and no comments? No idea why this is on my timeline but I'll give it a view.... My favourite part of this interview so far....your nodding at the 11:20 mark. :) To continue...I had no idea you were well known enough to have a sponsor. Never heard of you or Dr. Brotto before. Now I see you're both long famous on this topic. Thanks for posting. Muchos gracias, as they say in Poland.

  • @matthewmaclaren2341
    @matthewmaclaren2341 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    you have a booger on your nose.

  • @justiceminter7826
    @justiceminter7826 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Needed this!!!❤

  • @maxisunleashed1855
    @maxisunleashed1855 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't trully believe that there is a relationship as f*ck buddies. At some point one or the other will feel something for the other, even the feeling of the idea of not having them in the future to take care of their needs is a feeling in it self, so, everytime in some level "I Believe" the other person has a feeling toward the other buddy.

  • @ashleyhopehairplay
    @ashleyhopehairplay 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your content. I always learn so much from your videos ! This was so helpful 🤗🙏🏽

  • @FinanceTips-vg9nn
    @FinanceTips-vg9nn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Darcy?

  • @saradenn7447
    @saradenn7447 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you.. great interview!

  • @allen143
    @allen143 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The majority of people who think commitment phobia is a problem are women. Is it any wonder that men are reluctant to commit with divorce courts being so one sided against them ? A man who gets burned in a divorce is extremely reluctant to commit to the next women he gets involved with. Trying to "change your partner" sounds so much like a women. If he is so good why would you want to change him ? Men aren't raw clay meant to be molded. Attempting to change a man makes them better liars and resentful towards their partners. As you already found out, if you are having friction in a developing male relationship making him sit-down and talk is a nonstarter. Our mothers, teachers, older females disciplined us in that way as children. Even a mature male is afraid of a female yelling at us. BTW, the eyebrows and eye lashes look good on camera.

  • @TT-wl6rn
    @TT-wl6rn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing content

  • @MrMikeV00
    @MrMikeV00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We need talk? I just came out from under my desk wearing my combat helmet after 2 hours of listening. Dangerous words.

  • @JenniferWeberman
    @JenniferWeberman 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a fantastic conversation. I learned so much and really appreciate the emphasis on harm reduction. I think if more people struggling with substance use disorders knew about that, there would be more openness to treatment early on.

  • @JenniferWeberman
    @JenniferWeberman 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was brilliant! I applaud you both for sharing your relationship struggles and growth with such courage and vulnerability. Steph, I could listen to you all day. You are brilliant. As a fellow introvert who can pass as an extrovert, I need so much time to process and can't be rushed. And I love the description of the "Dragger" and "Draggee"! So true! I also love the way it ended with loving affirmations towards each other. Thanks to you both for being so open and real <3

  • @osip7315
    @osip7315 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "don't interrupt your enemy when he's making a mistake" - napoleon i think in the context of divorce, what people find difficult is the necessity of switching to the extreme mindset of being at war and all that entails because that is what is immediately required

  • @hope42
    @hope42 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AI lip syncing and voice cloning is going to hurt your channel. I believe if the marriage is working monogamy is the way to go. That means sex is good well okay enough to avoid affairs. If marriage is good and sex is not good then drop the monogamy attempt. Go have sex Go have sex.

  • @davidbrown4271
    @davidbrown4271 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why don’t you have more viewers, your beautiful and smart .

  • @davidbrown4271
    @davidbrown4271 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man you look good , let’s go out , I don’t believe in being faithful either

  • @angieordonez9005
    @angieordonez9005 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Golfing! 😆😆😆

  • @valery1302
    @valery1302 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent talk, thank you!

  • @ashleyhopehairplay
    @ashleyhopehairplay 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hysterical is historical … that belongs on a shirt or something .. it’s gold!

  • @drjenniferweberman
    @drjenniferweberman 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love that you clarified that you can separate your own feelings about Valetine's Day from what your partner needs on that day. I happen to be married a man who dislikes Valentine's Day exactly the way I do, but whenever I've been with a guy who likes Valentine's Day, I go with it because I interpret that as his love language. Separately, Ashtyn's face when you said "call each one" is priceless! 🤣♥

  • @BL-N3xus
    @BL-N3xus 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Make sure you're 1. Tall 2. Be facially attractive 3. Dress well 4. Be in shape(have muscles). 5. Great sense of humour. 6. Finically stable

  • @BobLee-sf6mv
    @BobLee-sf6mv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cause they are pathetic and deprivation and total nothing connection to love but rub men

  • @Andy-ht2jb
    @Andy-ht2jb 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    'Promo sm' ✌️

  • @sickopierce
    @sickopierce 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sorry but if people didn't change none of us would have left our emo phase, the word "immature" wouldn't exist and therapy wouldn't be a thing...

  • @ashleyhopehairplay
    @ashleyhopehairplay ปีที่แล้ว

    Yay! So excited for this! Subscribed ❣️🙌🏽

  • @bkloug3450
    @bkloug3450 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ya..only one sided relationships r always burden

  • @HussinF_04
    @HussinF_04 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I kicked the love from my life for along time and that gives a really good feeling ☺️

  • @Maydaytrans-666
    @Maydaytrans-666 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    How does saying “its true we researched it” prove it their is no proof that you aren’t lying…

  • @amandamourousas9902
    @amandamourousas9902 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    First comment

  • @bilajoin
    @bilajoin 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Darcy I just feel like you would make a great match with Pauly. I can tell from all episodes that you love him in a certain way.

  • @thedogguyjoe1465
    @thedogguyjoe1465 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this!!❤️ I want more lol