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Thank you so much Andy!

Thank you 💛 It can really feel like it's a crazy and harsh world at times!

Thank you!! I appreciate your support 💗

Thanks so much 💛💛

Thank you so much for sharing. I am sorry to hear that your Thanksgiving didn't go well, and when you are ready, it might be cathartic to share, whenever that may be. I appreciate you letting me know that I am not alone. It's very easy to feel like maybe I'm the only one. Take care and I hope you have much better days ahead 💛

Thank you for your comment and your kind and encouraging words 💛 This really resonated with me because you are right that holidays are artificially created by society and certain expectations are then passed along. I think the meaning behind some of the holidays are important to hold, but in essence, there is so much more than a holiday in a year. I'm working to build my self-confidence and internal monologue to be much kinder to myself. Thank you for the reminder 🫶

Thank you so much, Andy! Hope you are having a great day!

Thank you Andy, nice to see your comment! Hope you are well as well!

thank you so much! 💕

I totally agree with you 💕

Thank you for the feedback. I wasn't sure what vocal fry is, so I looked it up. I appreciate the constructive criticism. I've already recorded my next video but I'm definitely going to keep it in mind for future videos as I believe improvement and growth are really important!

Thanks Andy! I am looking forward to more peaceful days ahead 💕

Thank you for sharing this. I hope you are kinder to yourself and know that with effort and being mindful, you'll be able to break out of people pleasing. It's still a journey for me as well, where I will have good days, bad days and okay days. I totally relate to you. Something that really resonated with me that I heard someone say is, speak to yourself how you will speak to your friend. Silencing that inner critic isn't easy but it's possible. Wishing you better days ahead, please hang in there!

Thank you so much 🩷🩷

Thank you so much for your comment. I resonated with reading this because I've had it happen where I was vulnerable and the things I said was used against me. It wasn't fun but I think that is a reflection of the other person more than myself. Sometimes it scares me to trust others but I have to remind myself that not everyone will act that way and I will not let fear rule my life.

@@a_sincere_bean I have just been betrayed and made fun of many times even by my own folks just to trust someone again. I hope I can find strength to be vulnerable again, I just can't find it in me to be vulnerable again. I want to be vulnerable badly but I can't. It is definitely a strength to be vulnerable. I don't want fear to rule me either. I don't want to be a man who's afraid of showing his emotions. I want to be strong. But this is true that your weaknesses will always be used against you, unless you find genuine people. The genuinely caring people are the only ones worthy of your emotions. Or else you will always end up being used. Because of low quality people people everywhere, you can't be vulnerable. I just wish that the people were nice that I could've been myself. I was kind to people and when I needed them, they were nowhere to be found. Does everyone deserve my vulnerability...? Honestly, no! I just hope I can find the right people to be vulnerable with, who will accept me for who I am. It's true not everyone will act the same way, but it's not easy at all for me to find those kind of people. Thank you so much for saying that the people who did use your things you said against you are just the reflection of the people and not you. I felt so much better reading it.

Hi Andy, thank you for watching and commenting. It's always nice to see your comment! It was definitely a tough week and I'm doing a bit better today. The marathon is coming up and I'm crossing my fingers!🤞

Thank you so much for your very vulnerable and brave comment. I am sorry to hear about your recent job loss, panic attack, and I hope you are better soon. I was really struggling to make a video and express myself. I'm so glad that my video resonated with you. It touched my heart to see your comment and support.

Thank you Andy, hope you are well, I appreciate your support.

Thank you so much Andy! I am terrified about the mileage, but I'm so excited to run it with my friend :) Appreciate your support!!

Hi there! I'm still at the early stages of learning not to say "yes" to everything (this is probably strange for people who have good boundaries). I've realized recently that I have difficulty saying no, and it's with practice that it feels more normal. It's a constant internal battle I have with myself because I've been basically programmed to say yes that it's so foreign to me that I didn't know that it's an option to say no. But I do realize, when I don't people please, it is better for everyone involved, myself because I'm not overwhelmed or resentful and the other people because there isn't that baggage because I felt obligated to say yes, but I truly want to do something. Sorry, this is a long-winded answer to say that I'm still struggling to be okay with not people pleasing. I haven't gotten to that joyful feeling yet. I think I know what you mean with the feeling that something is missing even when things go well. From my personal experiences, it's because I am so used to trauma and bad things happening, my mind is constantly on high alert and I'm waiting for the next thing to go wrong (which is definitely not a fun way to live). Through therapy and being more mindful, I am working to undo these patterns. It's not easy but I hope that by talking about this, that I am making more progress than if I kept it inside of me. I also want to say that I felt so seen and heard when I first read your comment. Thank you for sharing. You are not alone and we will both get through this! You are doing your best and I wish you so much healing and internal peace. Our inner child is telling the both of us, thank you for trying your best and that is enough.

​@@a_sincere_bean Thank you so much for your reply Bean, I really appreciate it and I feel heard and seen in return :) I read back on what I said and I don't know which part you're referring to specifically that helped you feel heard and seen; but I'm glad it did because I totally get where you're coming from and I really love your calm and grounded approach. Your positive courage shines through with your content and it's very heart-warming to hear someone expressing themselves this way. Also, I'm very grateful for your long-winded answer as nothing in life is ever simple; as many people will seemingly project. Complexity is beautiful in the sense that the search is never quite complete; there's always that sense of awe and mystery (alluding to my comment yesterday) that nothing feels quite complete for me, but I suppose that's a good thing :) I just wanted to say; there's absolutely nothing to apologise for. Sorry to hear that you're still having struggles with feeling okay about saying no; I would say for me that I still find myself automatically doing things that I don't want to do (like not walking away when someone overtly says something disrespectful) I tell myself I don't really care what they say and it doesn't effect me (when it clearly does if I notice it!). The respect for self and others is a huge part of this for me. I might feel great when I've said no to those who I don't think deserve it; but there's definitely grey areas where it's okay to not be so sure and we learn as we go. In my therapy I think I realised that although everyone is learning boundaries; we still have our own personal choices to make; and that is for ourselves to find. Thanks for being you! I've never made a video about anything like this; probably because I don't think anyone would resonate with me and that I don't feel like I need to do so to heal in my own journey; but I'm starting to reconsider. I hope you continue to find your answers and find inner contentment :) Edit: I'm Josh btw :)

Thank you so much, Andy!!

Thank you Andy! It's been a much better week, hopefully it continues getting better! 💕

Thanks so much, I hope so! 🤞

Thank you so much Andy! I cannot believe it, thank you for joining me on my journey.

Thank you so much for your encouragement and support!

Hi Andy, thank you so much! I really appreciate your support and encouragement and I'm hoping I can make a difference ❤️

@@a_sincere_bean 45 views already in 1 day, it's a great good response to the video!

Your comment means so much to me, thank you. 🥹 I am glad that you enjoy the video!!

Thank you Andy, I always appreciate your support and your comments!!

Thank you so much, Andy!

Thank you so much for your support :) I hope this video helps ♡ have a wonderful week!

Hello! Wow, Australia! Thank you so much for your support and watching!! ☺️

Hi Andy, wow that is amazing, congratulations on your early retirement! I hear you, I think a lot of us tie our identity and worth in our job and glad you have made a positive change. I'm glad you are enjoying experiences and family life. Thank you again for your support and watching my videos ☺️

Hi Andy, totally agree with you! It's so easy to compare ourselves and the fear of being judged is definitely something that I deal with and try not to worry about but we are all human. Thanks for your support and watching ☺️

thank you! yesss, the dog stays! ☺️❤️

Thank you Andy! He is spoiled rotten! :)

Thank you! One of my favorite quotes is "kindness always matter." ❤️

Thank you Andy! This was a great question and allowed me to reflect. Yes, it is a shame that some realtors are only focused on the commissions. It sounds like it is the same everywhere! I think the good ones realize that maintaining the relationship is important for continuous business and referrals! I appreciate your support!!

Thank you for your support, Andy!

Thank you, Jasmine! :)

Thanks so much, hope you have a lovely day too! 🌼

Thank you Andy! ☺️

Visited again in December. Very helpful thankyou. ​@@a_sincere_bean

Thank you! Same for you :)

​​​​@@a_sincere_beani am interested to know if you plan to do a video on regreting passed decisions which whilst you thought were right at the time, it turns out not to be the case.I thought this may benefit viewers with your thorough explanations and focused insight? Best wishes Andy

Hi Andy, that's a great idea! I would love to talk about this. It could be an interesting one. I need to think about what exactly to share, but stay tuned! Thank you for the idea ☺️

Thanks so much!

You’re welcome ;)

Thank you! ❤️

Thank you so much Andy! Yes, compassion is so important. You may have heard of the quote, "Kill them with kindness." 😊

You're welcome. Thank you so much for your support! ♡

It's normal :)

thank you for watching 💛