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Mania: Obsessive love is slightly different than obsessiveness ehich can be for other things like hobbies. This video was done with a focus on human-to-human and human-to-self relational qualities of love and connection. Mania is most obvious in dating at the early stage of fusional infatuation where one idealises our partner because we make all sorts of projections about them without really knowing them. Storge: it can be family (blood or spiritual family) or simply spending time with people like classmates alumni groups. Pragma: yes reasoning + practical knowledge which is closest to “wisdom” which is more than rational thinking.

Wow, interesting approach! Thanks for sharing! Reminds me of the way “United World Colleges” were set up after WWII to help in the same way educate children across cultures get along.

Thanks for your comment. The world needs Agape probably with Philautia more than any of the other types of love!

Great that you found this interesting. The origins are indeed from multiple historical sources, and yet the topic is as contemporary as ever. I have actually seen several couple therapists use this set of labels to help coples to better communicate with each other about their unmet needs for connection.

I think it was much more for the ancients than mere concepts. It was cognition.

The spelling is Pragma which in modern English is better known in “pragmatism” :-)

Thanks for adding that comment. It allowed me to add my sources again, and perhaps I should remove the word Greek and focus more the "ancientness" as secondary to the purpose behind this video, which is exploring present linguistic taxonomies that help people to get along. In short, when we have more then 1 or 2 words - in this case 8 - to describe a topic we have more linguistic accuracy and higher chances of crossing the barriers of miscommunication. I will also rename this the "8 types of connections to cultivate" in my next video and perhaps then synthesise where there are divergences with Lee's Colour wheel theory of love (which I have issues to follow because of the meaning of colours used) and of R. Sternberg's work vs wikipedia's en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love and Édouard Schuré's work on the great initiates. I am working on a new synthesis video. Kindest regards, Estève

Glad you liked it!

Wonderful!

Great to hear!

Thanks for your refreshingly powerful questions here Eva! Perception of an ideal, and the actual use of these different types of love are two distinct things. I think if we are humbly taking a first step towards improving human-to-human connections, they start from each person taking responsibility for their own philautia. This is still a big global sore-spot as hinted by Otto Sharmer when he talks about the Self-to-Self (ego) disconnect. Perhaps by having a wider and more accurate set of labels to describe 8 ways to connect, we can then start doing some more social research and teaching this in schools before it becomes possible for civilization to evolve?

Thanks for your comment which I almost missed! Apologies for the late reply: Mania is often associated in modern english with "possessive" passionate love (connected to ego) and is the one type of love that the Greeks used to caution us over. On the other hand the word Agapé's meaning has changed since it was used by the catholic church. Now many people think of it as what the Christians call "unconditional love", and in Green Elephant's periodic table classification we associate it with "connection without needs of reciprocity" which is becoming more visible in the business world where emotional intelligence is growing. In that way they are quite different: Mania is love with attachment whereas Agape is love without attachment. They both, like any of the other types of love, can bring harm to oneself when they are unfulfilled or excessive.

You're welcome!

You're so welcome!