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❤🙏 Following through! How happy we will be If we only lived out these principles.

Thank you so much… 🙏🏾😊

❤❤❤ I enjoyed this chapter. It's always lovely to listen to the study 🤗🙏.

Lovely conversation, thanks for making us understand

It is a put off to talk about people because it sounds like gossip ....just concentrate on thus says the Lord

From Sr Vala’s pen. Shame, she sent through when I had worked way too fast and had already posted. “My sis, how's the day going? Just read chapter 12. It's heartbreaking to read these chapter and know the ache she talks about. It's a pity how the virtues that make a Christian home are so rare and scarce. Every paragraph makes so much sense and has powerful points. It reminds me of what I also endured when my "dad" was around. And I'm realising that, not only do wives / husbands endure a terrible spouse but children do too. "Often the wife and the children suffer from the indolence and inefficiency of the vicious habits of the husband and father" AH, p.83. I know this all too well. "This thousands have sacrificed themselves, soul and body, by unwise marriages and have gone in a path of perdition" p.83 My hubby touched on these issues when we were at the SDASM camp and two ladies confessed to me that they are unequally yoked. I shared what we'd been reading and my own testimony and really begged them to count the cost. And I urged them to consider what their family life would be like and how their children will be impacted. More so, God cannot bless such. I really encouraged them to work on knowing God for themselves and developing themselves for service. It's a pity that teens often think you are too serious when you show them these realities. I told about how such affected my upbringing even though my parents weren't unequally yoked but one wasn't sincerely committed to Christ and was a churchgoer.”

I really wish this was a universal understanding (not assuming, that is & how you can wish for a life that's better but not comparing - I love that balance)❤. I loved the Science Lessons. Great Reflection. I so wish the hard times didn't last! That low-registration pain scares me. You are such a great mom❤.

It'd have been nice if she asked - how are you coping and whether the teens assist. Also, what challenges you face. Since when has it been difficult to ask a person rather than assume. Asking is crucial because you seek to understand and genuinely care. I have a jersey like yours❤️🥰

Great study..may God bless your Ministry🙏

❤❤❤❤ My friend's husband is a plumber and it's really a skill that's always needed. Skills never get outdated, whereas some degrees even get phased out or too many people fighting for the same job. Just here in WC 2000+ teachers are getting sacked. Mind you the teacher-student ratio is high. We also are prepared to be employees rather than employers. Thank you for this! It's SO close to my heart.

I totally relate! My mom just said no sex before marriage. But I plucked up the courage to tell her before I agreed to the courtship and he came and introduced himself when my mom was in CT and visited our home. Loving the reflection on your own experience ❤. I wish more black parents can be open and speak honestly and not make this awkward. I love the question on whether I'm the right partner and the book suggestions. Such a restorative message❤. Amen, amen!

Reflections on Chapter 8 I have been so blessed by this chapter. It has really made me conclude that God is the best expert when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, culture and worldliness has often influenced how we view relationship and often consulted our own reason. 1. The ideas of courtship have their foundation in erroneous ideas concerning marriage. They follow impulse and blind passion. The courtship is carried on in a spirit of flirtation. AH 55.1 Sadly, this spirit exists even in the church. It's becoming more clear that, one must know the intention of marriage and how courtship should be carried out, before even venturing into the relationship. This will truly give the right perspective and help us weigh our intentions and pursue the right course. 2.The high, noble, lofty design of God in the institution of marriage is not discerned; therefore the purest affections of the heart, the noblest traits of character are not developed. AH 55.1 What a pity! Marriage really needs one to have a personal relationship with God even before being in the relationship. It also needs one to introspect why they desire marriage and whether the desire is rooted in honouring God and service the other. You know, it's always been advised to marry in the church but often we are not told what qualities both parties must have before entering marriage and doing the heart work. If we truly entered marriage with the right intentions, it'd really help us in the Christian walk and wouldn't be a burden. I am really thankful for this book and Letters to Young Lovers - they made me reflect and sincerely seek God for the big step of marriage - to repent and to allow God to work in me. I really wanted to avoid having a bitter experience in marriage and I asked for His counsel. I'm thankful for a partner who also sought God on his corner so that it was centred on God. Initially I was excited to be in a courtship and I remember he'd stress on our need to have a mission field and a life calling so that it wouldn't be centred on us. I admit, this used to worry me; but as I sought God I was placed in the missionary school and that brought me so much joy and I was convicted about my role in shaping young minds and my influence on them. It has really made our marriage rich because we have a bigger vision to serve others. I'm still learning and it is my prayer that I'll embody all these virtues need in marriage. God bless this Ministry 3. If courtships were not carried in secret, parents were involved or other godly counsellors, I believe many evils would've been avoided. I believe premarital sexual relations would be rare because there'd be no secret meetings behind closed doors and sober decisions would be made. The issue of absent fathers would also be solved. I think of how a man would be made tomorrow the lady they've impregnated. Common dating makes it hard for parents to even know the partners. Some parents have never seen the fathers of their grandchildren nor do they feel the need to be known because of these secret meetings. And my favourite line : You can have but one youth; make that useful. AH 59.4 Had I known this counsel I'd have spent more time developing myself, talents, skills and not have gotten in untimely relations.

Number 3… Following ALONG! Insightful as always… ❤️

Sobering thoughts my dear sister. I wish I can play this in every mall, every television station etc. So mauch brokenness because of ill choices in this regard.

The muffin story😂😂😂. It's a shame. It's definitely not a laughing matter and such selfishness! Eish! May God help us.

This was such a blessing my dear sis. God richly bless you. This is a much needed study!!!!

Wow, what a lovely child.

I've boarded the train later so I'll try catching up. I'm a 1st generation Adventist and I'm single. My mother was a single mother raised us lovingly, even at this age she has never shouted at me she raised us with love and gentleness. She's the one who taught me that a house may not be fancy but it has to be clean, I'm amazed this book mentions this. Martin Luther once said if God despatched two angels from heaven one to clean the streets and the other to work in an office job ,he says none would envy another's job and none would think I have a better job than the other. Instead they both would do the best job each can. Whatever we do may we do it as if we are doing it for God. Oh by the way my mother is getting baptized to the sda faith in November. (Lol i know it's out of topic)

Thank God I found this I've had the book Adventist home for years it's time i read it...I thank God for you sisi ❤

Honestly, this quote also jumped at me:There is a careful recognition of the rights of others. - AH 31.2 My dad would play loud music from early as 6 am. And being a person who really loves quietness, this would really break my heart. Meditating was sometime so hard. It's as if most fathers think they have a right to stumble on others. It's heartbreaking honestly. Home life requires so much humility. On the other hand, my mom always emphasised that our home is for all of us and every person's right matters. Oh may God bless her heart. She understood when I was super tired from work and would serve me and I'd also cook and serve her. I really enjoyed living with my mom. Such a peaceful somebody. I'm thankful for her humility and because of that, we could point out her flaws and she'd accept it without pulling out the age card.

What a thought-provoking chapter. I honestly need to meditate on this again. Interesting how there's emphasis on "one well-ordered home". Honestly, each home's influence is felt, you'd even have elderly people ask "ngumntwana waphi lo, unembeko ?" and this is mostly a reference to the work of the parents. This week we were visiting an Ethiopian family that has lost a loved one. The warmth and service I've felt there was out of this world. The ladies cook and the men serve those there to support the grieving family. Just the sense of community, together and genuine service really encouraged me to be more hospitable. The fathers were holding the children and this was so,so heartwarming to see.

This Oneness must really be pursued. And truly if I can nourish myself and take care of myself, I should do the same for my spouse. I totally agree - God's gifts are a blessing - He adds no sorrow to His gift. And the spouse must constantly walk with God so s/he can continually be a blessing.

Looking beautiful my sis. I really enjoyed this Chapter. If the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man's social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature. AH 25.4 How I pray my marriage may continually be a blessing and contribute positively to society. The quote above really stood out for me...to think our Father has placed this institution as a safeguard of society. Hahaha what a surprise! I love what your grandfather did. An equal, oh yes!

Your comment on every career being important is exactly what I wanted to share on. Giving our all in every work matters. Growing up I've always thought being a career woman is way better until I realised, no duty is is less done and its an opportunity to serve, excel, and grow. God truly looks in our hearts while we serve and not the qualification per se. This was so lovely.

Aww, I'm loving the opening song ❤. My learners and I used to love it so much! Let me bask here❤. Thank you for the lessons. I really love the point of breaking the cycle of the homes we grew up in. I've been thinking of this for weeks and God used the story of Joash to point how He's intent on having us break free from the wrong cycle - in his context idolatry. On saying NO! I visited a home and the lady kept offering me things that went against my principles. I pray for more grace to say NO. I love the idea of reading the books with the children ❤.

Thank you so much about this❤. May God lead and guide us. I am really praying for healing in our black homes, for respect, kindness and all the necessary virtues. May God put a sacred circle over every home and may extended families respect it. God's ways are really meant for our healing and happiness ❤

I'm so sorry that the paronychia is back😢.

❤❤❤❤ I love this. I've wanted to ask you to share. What beautiful singing 😭. Oh sis! I'm sorry about the pain. What wonderful worship ❤. It's not boring at all sis. Thank you for the real snippets of life.

We once went to see lions and cheetahs, I realised never again! And sadly, the one lion attacked an employee. I'm glad you are exposing the little ones and they can connect this with their lessons.

Beautiful family. I hope the kids enjoyed the outing. So much beauty. Thank you for being honest about the struggles too.

Thank you for these special items ❤. Beautiful singing sis!

May the manufacturers hear your plea

Lovely stuff. I'm learning🙏. We also help with the kids with sentences and teach them to answer in sentence form instead of one-word answers. Great pointers. I'm learning. I love how interactive these questions are and the narration. Ncooh! I love how you trigger her to say "Thank you!" 😊

Thank you so much for this video sis ❤

Lovely singing

Amen, thanks for sharing. Am encouraged, my best coping mechanism is crying