Wether it’s spiritual, emotional, psychological or physical, we must upgrade ourselves first and then go out & find it. If we're NOT aware of traumatic and tragic incidents, broken relationships & pathological parenting then we're ONLY gonna continue to attract that ENERGY; what we are we shall attract... Our projections of others & the world, derive from our inner-most demons or love, archetypes, hidden shadows and intra-psychic-conflicts... We always begin with a blank slate when we go into a business or personal relationship - As the thousands of layers and hidden personas of that other person surface, it's when we realize who, they, really, ARE... If we don't upgrade ourselves from not only the yesteryears but yesterday, then we're bound to come across the same people, places and things in life...