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I had just accidentally given wrong advice on where to drop off their kids at school because I didn't realize it was two different groups. I was just trying to help and now I feel bad that I told them wrong. This video helped me work through my anxiety. I still feel guilt though.

there is no way 60% is securely attached…

One thing that I think plays a part of development of my social anxiety is one of my parents way of constantly criticising and making nasty comments about people, weather it's their appearance or smth they do or don't do, when I wouldn't find anything to criticise about these people at the first place. That adds to the reason for me to be on my tiptoes with people, because I know that me existing and going about my life can rub someone wrong ways for reasons that wouldn't even come to my mind. This criticism have never been really directed towards me much, even though sometimes I have also got these what would neighbours think type of comments. I love my parents and I know they love me. This is just my obsservation of how things are, not blaming anyone. I can actually see this criticism in my grandparent/s from one side as well. Who knows where it is coming from. Experience have teach me that this amount of criticism isn't a norm, but rationalizing won't help because I have grown to this and it has affected my brain pathways, even tho I can objectively understand this.

I also forgot to mention I have ADHD, social anxiety, and depression.any advice would be appreciated

Hello, I'm 57 years old with no friends, no job, no money, I live with my son but it's not permanent ..I really need some advice on what to do..Thank you

Researchers and therapists are failing. I’ve had this disorder my whole life and I’m 51 now. This disorder has ruined my self esteem and made me lonely and depressed. I’ve reached out for help my entire life to no avail. I don’t know what’s caused the problem and don’t care anymore, I just want a lobotomy and to become a normal human.

You described it well. Now what's the solution? Since you can't control panic attacks CBT does not really work. Nor do I want to go on SSRi's because if you cant get it up in the bedroom then what's even the point? Also, it's harder to get Beznos than it is to meet the president. The irony is that alcohol is very addictive and you can buy it at any store. Yet I can't get the medication that might help me in certain social situations? Just because there is a slight chance of addiction...

I have very severe social anxiety and I walk another two flights of stairs just to use a public bathroom with nobody in it and I was even so scared before my own party😅

Love the drawing/ animation

Could you drop the links to some of your sources? This is a great starting place for learning about SAD in abnormal psych

If you have social anxiety your partner's friends and family might think you're weird. Or your partner might be ashamed of you

So funny that things like increased amygdala and stress hormone response is being considered as a cause, when it's so obviously the other way around. People with SAD detect threats in neutral expressions? Almost like they have anxiety first off and then that anxiety makes them wary of potential threats. Same for the cognitive biases, the self criticality is caused by wariness and not the other way around, the anxiety is the root of these things. And CBT tries to fix the thoughts which wouldn't be there in the first place were it not for the anxiety.

I found the backgroubd music far too distracting for ne to be able to ficus in wgat was veing saud. I wish TH-camrs would stop flooding their videos with this sort of noise; it gets in the way, massively .

Are there any more guided meditations by this woman? Her voice is so calming

Romantic breakups? That's the story of my life. I've never been in a long term relationship. Partners just break up with me. What I really disliked is when a partner would just "ghost" me, breaking up with no explanation

My social anxiety has become the air that I breathe. I have dealt with this all my life, it has been worse since my teenage years

How do you handle it when in public, like doing errands?

Iam dying from social anxiety 😢.

Strange that both of my parent's are extroverted but ive always been anxious around groups of people and at times now

Thanks for sharing. Tip: Try to explore some calm background sounds. Like and Sub! <3

Your information is accurate. I was plagued with the worst case of social anxiety as a kid. My father didn’t love me, but my mother did. They fought constantly. My father had an undiagnosed BPD and I was embarrassed whenever with him in public. He was overly strict, controlling, abusive, and self centered. He was referred to as the king of the house, meaning that whatever he wanted, he got.. while everyone else suffered. I was horribly embarrassed by a teacher in kindergarten or first grade, which I think happened when I was trying to be more outgoing and funny with my peers. She chased me around the classroom and then had the principal paddle me outside the classroom. I was horribly embarrassed. I don’t remember ever not being shy, but I think that early incident at school might have been the one that made school the worst place for my social anxiety. I was very hyper sensitive too, thinking that everyone was talking about me and laughing at me. My condition I would say was social paranoia. It would be so bad sometimes that when I was walking down the hallway at school, my legs would slowly become frozen and if I didn’t stop, I would trip over my own two feet. I tripped so often, I had chronic weak ankles. Fast forward to 14 years old, when my best friend offered to help me overcome my shyness. I laughed but accepted his help. Long story short, it worked. The next year I became one of the most popular kids in my school. I wasn’t fully healed, but my anxiety was under control and people no longer noticed it. I even landed the lead role in my school play. What really pushed me into a full recovery though was mirror therapy, which I talk about on my channel in How To Love Yourself. I was in my early 20s when I did that. I believe using mirror therapy to start loving myself was the solid foundation for making a full recovery. I went on to become a social butterfly, much like my best friend who helped me when we were 14 years old. I no longer have any social anxiety whatsoever. No fear of public speaking or stage fright either. My personality is now ENFP.

It feels like I can’t control my nervous system no matter how much insight I have. And it affects the ability to connect and grow in situations with people. So many lost opportunities. Leads to a spiral of depression and feeling trapped. Feel like my life has been hijacked by this problem. It’s a state of suffering.

Feels more like hypnosis than a guided meditation. Didnt do a thing for me

I got 119, Holy crap!

I think its time for me to go to the doctor and get the meds. 1- Heredity predisposing genetics. My mother has social anxiety. She is not diagnosed officially but I listen to her stories. When she was 5-6, she used to hide in the backdoors, when some guests came to her house. And remembers that she was always extremely shy and depressed. 2- Insecure attachment style We have an insecure attachment style with my mother. I actually don't feel like I like my mother even though right now we have a good time. When I was born my brother was 2 years old and we were out of our homeland Turkey. We were living in the UK and my father was working in 3 jobs at the same time so my mother was trying to deal with me and my brother at the same time while dealing with her own depression as well. I am pretty sure that she neglected me and she was very depressed while looking after me. I never felt a warmth toward her. Interesting. And I have problems with girlfriends. I have had lots of gf and normal gf in my life but I am still struggling with the "loving" concept. I am not good at making real connections. I always feel unconnected - not attached to the most important people in my life. 3- parental shortcomings I grew up in Turkish culture and my parents were hard Islamic and nationalist. So I was basically educated to fear the parental figures and boss-like people. Also, they were extremely controlling about our lives. I never felt (and still rarely felt) that my parents listen to me. They are always right and it is a shame to talk back to them. They know everything and we have no chance to outbreak in any case. 4- traumatic social experiences I don't want to get into details but I have been beaten and bullied since I remember myself. Mostly by my older brother and later on by my parents and later on outside (school, students, teacher). So I have been bullied a lot and I think this had a huge effect on me. 5- observational learning Yes since I live in this kind of environment I sometimes see things done worse to me. 6- challenging experiences in childhood I am not sure if I got sexually abused or if I was willing to but I got sex when I was 12 and the other person was 13-14. 7- poor social skills I have very good social skills and I am very good about reading to people and I have quite a high IQ and I am pretty funny. But I am struggling very hard to show them because of SAD. 8- cognitive biases I probably have 9- biological vulnerabilities I do not know if I have a biological difference but I assume I have 10- cultural values & attitudes yeah already mentioned that one. our parents were very conservative and people-pleasing. My mother's most used argument is "What if others say/think X? ". Here is my one story. One day I got back from school and entered the house. I understand that there is a special event today. (it's like Turkish mother home part called "gün", they cook some dolma sarma kısır, bread, desserts, pastry, and çay) I was damn hungry and went to the kitchen. My mother only gave me 2 pieces of something I don't remember while the "guests" were taking double tables full of pastry and dessert. I said "Can I get more" but she said "Misafirler gitsin sonra yapcam ben sana" which translates to "after guests, I ll make you something".

Gah dayum I have 119💀 (I'm not that shocked by the results ngl) Is social anxiety something one can overcome? As for now I'm still a teenager so I hope that one day I'll just magically be able to socialize with anyone perfectly fine (so my family tells me at least)🏃‍♂

Fantastic information thank you…it’s a wicked way to be in thinking….. I suffer since childhood…..mine trends to be in “ebb and flow” constantly….all depends on environment…. Thanks 🙏

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Hello, thank you for the video. I have a question. I am a clinical psychologist and whenever I pass this test to a client, they say, to a lot of the items: "Well, it depends if I know the person or not". What do you usually say to the client when they ask this?

I found this to be very helpful. However, the categories of performance and observation doesn’t make sense to me. They seem to go more hand in hand than interaction and observation. If you are performing you are most likely being observed.

I told my friend she was blushing, she licked her finger and touched her rosey red check and made a sizzling sound, it made me laugh.

Totally me. I’m 45 and never been diagnosed but I am feeling like I’m missing out on a lot because of this anxiety I experience everyday. Just hearing him talk about the symptoms was making nervous lol not even kidding! I’m wondering: do I need to seek help from a psychologist, pyschiatrist, counselor, or what? I’ve never talked to any professional about this before. Thanks for the video and blessings to everyone

I listened to this on acid it's amazing

Tf I'm severe

I’m over 50 my whole life everyone thought I was SHY. And I wasn’t I hated heating I was shy I didn’t know what it was until I was about 30. And a nurse told me that it was social anxiety disorder. I was so happy to have a name for it. But to this day I still have it and hate it. I deal with it as best as I can. But since my husband. Passed away it’s very hard for anyone to really understand.

My whole life is flashing in front of my eyes

Hello, are there supplements to treat performance anxiety? When I stand on stage, I feel sweaty, my body shakes, and my heartbeat increases.

So…why am I watching this video when I’m single?

Thank you so much for making this video, i knew im pretty anxios in all that stuff but i didn’t though it was that serious, 92 points, almost in the very severe category

Nice video! Does anyone else feel like they aren’t opening up to life?

OK I have 120 points can you please help me i suffer from social anxiety and i cant even tell my own mother 😢 Im only 13 years old. And I don't think i can handle it very well

This explains a lot - and the diagnosis I got recently makes even more sence after watching this. But I feel hope - now I know how to work on (with) my struggles.

I got 129😭 But I hate talking to people I don’t know and going to the bathroom in public bc I can’t talk(my words don’t come out) I start breathing really heavily and my hands start shaking 😭

Hi

I scored a 99 😬, I’ve always known that I’ve never functioned normally in social situations especially when talking to people one on one. I’ve haven’t gotten it checked out though, but it’s been affecting my life since forever 😳

Romans 8:38-39 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ​ I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm-neither hot nor cold-I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked. I counsel you to buy from me gold refined in the fire, so you can become rich; and white clothes to wear, so you can cover your shameful nakedness; and salve to put on your eyes, so you can see. (Revelation 3:15-18) you cannot live for this world and not try to stop sinning (being cold) and only believing in God(hot) without turning from sin or sinning and saying God will forgive you after or not read the Bible, pray, worship/obeying God. Which is being a lukewarm. If we are neither cold or hot, God will spit us out his mouth. Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Proverbs 11:2 “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. ” Proverbs 16:5 “The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished. Proverbs 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before before a fall. Genesis 1:26-27 - “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. Jesus is coming back soon!! Repent and believe!! Jesus loves you and wants a relationship with you 🫶🏽 Plis read revelation 3:15-18 on google if you don’t have a Bible. (Exodus 20:7) You shall not invoke the name of the LORD, your God, in vain. Please don’t use Gods name in vain, it’s dangerous Has a nation ever changed its gods? (Yet they are not gods at all.) But my people have exchanged their glorious God for worthless idols. Jeremiah 2:11) having idols of any kind isn’t good 🙅‍♀️ Shall a man make gods unto himself, and they are no gods? Therefore, behold, I will this once cause them to know, I will cause them to know mine hand and my might; and they shall know that my name is The LORD. (Jeremiah 16:20) HAVING IDOLS IS A SIN JEREMIAH 16:20 , JEREMIAH 2:11 Revelation 3:15-18 explains that we can’t be cold and hot at the same time which is being a lukewarm. In other words, if we are hot, which is really repenting and turning from sin) if we are cold we just completely don’t really follow God. If we mix those together it makes a lukewarm which they will be spat out Gods mouth and won’t inherit the kingdom of heaven. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.John 3:16. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13 Romans 8:38-39 .. John 3:16 .. Revelation 3:15-18 Corinthians 6:9.. John 15:13 Psalms 23:4 Psalms 23:4 || Yea, though I walk through The Valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; rod and thy staff they comfort me. Deuteronomy 31:8. The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON!! REPENT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!🫶🏽🫶🏽 ✝️❣️❤❤

Romans 8:38-39 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ​ I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm-neither hot nor cold-I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked. I counsel you to buy from me gold refined in the fire, so you can become rich; and white clothes to wear, so you can cover your shameful nakedness; and salve to put on your eyes, so you can see. (Revelation 3:15-18) you cannot live for this world and not try to stop sinning (being cold) and only believing in God(hot) without turning from sin or sinning and saying God will forgive you after or not read the Bible, pray, worship/obeying God. Which is being a lukewarm. If we are neither cold or hot, God will spit us out his mouth. Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Proverbs 11:2 “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. ” Proverbs 16:5 “The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished. Proverbs 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before before a fall. Genesis 1:26-27 - “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. Jesus is coming back soon!! Repent and believe!! Jesus loves you and wants a relationship with you 🫶🏽 Plis read revelation 3:15-18 on google if you don’t have a Bible. (Exodus 20:7) You shall not invoke the name of the LORD, your God, in vain. Please don’t use Gods name in vain, it’s dangerous Has a nation ever changed its gods? (Yet they are not gods at all.) But my people have exchanged their glorious God for worthless idols. Jeremiah 2:11) having idols of any kind isn’t good 🙅‍♀️ Shall a man make gods unto himself, and they are no gods? Therefore, behold, I will this once cause them to know, I will cause them to know mine hand and my might; and they shall know that my name is The LORD. (Jeremiah 16:20) HAVING IDOLS IS A SIN JEREMIAH 16:20 , JEREMIAH 2:11 Revelation 3:15-18 explains that we can’t be cold and hot at the same time which is being a lukewarm. In other words, if we are hot, which is really repenting and turning from sin) if we are cold we just completely don’t really follow God. If we mix those together it makes a lukewarm which they will be spat out Gods mouth and won’t inherit the kingdom of heaven. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.John 3:16. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13 Romans 8:38-39 .. John 3:16 .. Revelation 3:15-18 Corinthians 6:9.. John 15:13 Psalms 23:4 Psalms 23:4 || Yea, though I walk through The Valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; rod and thy staff they comfort me. Deuteronomy 31:8. The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON!! REPENT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!🫶🏽🫶🏽 ✝️❣️😊😊❤

I wonder why Dopamine and Serotonin are always implicated in this when it is GABAergic/Glutamatergic drugs that do the best job of treating of treating the symptoms.

would have appreciated if you could have suggested remedies instead of symptoms. not so useful to watch.

Yup it’s very severe along with dissociation