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You know, I've watched a lot of famous coaches, lecturers, counselors, shrinks, etc, but I've never heard anything like what you said! You were so simple, however so perfect with your words that I only have to thank you. The best video I've ever watched about this issue!! Thank you, dear! I hope you thrive in here on TH-cam! You're great!!! Thank you again!! Lots of love from Brazil. ❤🎉 (I'm autistic and I do struggle to keep a relationship. It helped me a lot!). ❤❤❤

Hi Lindsey! Thanks for sharing your story ❤ I’d love to hear your spiritual awakening story too

Thank you. This is very helpful.

It’s a choice…and it’s insanity to keep trying with a parter when they are unwilling to be Honest, and take Responsibility in their part- ✌🏻🧘🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

Amen 💔

Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. zI’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.

I can definitely relate to this.. The world is your mirror😌🙏

I somewhere ended up hurt and it manifested in the past relationships dealing with unavailable guys. I just now realize I am emotionally unavailable as in I overwhelm my partner with my emotions. My emotions feel like a flood that I need to have resolved and romantic relationships definitely trigger this. It took me three different guys to find out. Lucky for me I am always looking for a reason, and I am aware that potential partners reflect a mirror but sometimes it's not that easy to realize. Now that I learnt this about myself, a lot of the dots are connecting. I could never hold space for other's emotions, must've been why similair unavailable partners felt safe, in a wrong way.

I burst out in tears and crying doing this exercise.

This disgust thing is very spot on.

This is probably the best relatable video. I found myself in a very odd and somewhat hurtful situation with a guy who shut down on me and wouldn’t give me answers as to why. I had to really do some deep reflection on why I still entertained his despite the red flags that he was emotionally stunted. It’s because I myself didn’t like to be vulnerable or too emotional. Definitely a safe space and toxic. I’m healing from my own emotional unavailability by learning to love myself

Learned this from my most recent serious relationship. The communication got better momentarily, but then went back to square 1 and eventually ended things

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Wow! Your advice is really good.

Thank you Lindsay…..I’ve experienced much of this….looking forward to a peaceful, healthy relationship 🤍

If you’ve been conditioned to attracting emotionally unavailable people into your life then where would you find someone you can trust to be yourself around? Everyone I know can’t handle their own emotions, let alone mine. Then what?

I've found out that my girlfriend has had/or has doubts about me. Sometimes it seems to be a matter of degrees, like yes I present with maybe an issue or consideration but 'how much' will that issue effect her or us is the question. I also have had similar thoughts about her. Sometimes you need to just push through it and see where you are when the dust settles. I've found that everything we've pushed through together we've worked out.

I really needed to hear this, thank you ❤

Honestly, I almost scrolled past- thinking this was one of those accounts who only repeated the GENIUS of others- I’m so happy the universe pushed PLAY for me💜🦄🔥💜👑

But in your telling of your story, it sounds like you DID attract the a-hole partner, so you had the perfect opportunity to take your power back and walk away 🤗

Do you also coach guys?

Congratulations on your marriage! 🎉❤. This message gives hope! Thank you!!

Girl, don’t’ gatekeep. What is the name of this modality? I’m only commenting because I’ve gone through the same experience as you, and it annoys me to not see this info being shared

So great Lindsay ✨…..being from a narc family system…. I 💯 % agree there’s healing to be done if you want a secure, healthy relationship that is not ‘based’ on your wounds (abandonment, anxiety, fear, terror!)

Did your intuition say anything earlier on? People often suppress, ignore, downplay intuition. The excitement of a new relationship can make it easier to pretend intuition was silent.

Good lord, yes. Ugh.

Amen, if someone is hard core avoidant. Run! Getting into a relationship with a hard core avoidant will make you and them both miserable. That’s been my experience.

The relationship with guru sounds like a nightmare. This might be too personal a question but was he faithful to you?

Nice work. I stumbled on this channel and it’s just what I needed right now. Thank you.

After two dates I think you can get a feel for someone’s communication style. Someone who takes 24 hours or more to respond to a one line text, I end up finding that person’s communication style super annoying, I can’t even imagine not responding to all text within 24 hours;. Even if it was at 24 hours I’d do a quick explanation for delay. I find I’m happier with a woman that instinctually does that. I don’t think it’s healthy to start texting all day, every day early on but I think we all know that. Wait for that until dating turns into the real thing. Restrained yet open and communicative is what works for me. So be careful not to set the expectation that text is real time. Wait a bit to sloowwww it down but always respond. Don’t leave anyone hanging. It feels bad wait until tomorrow at 6:20 to get a response . That just feels crappy to me. Deal breaker honestly if it happens CONSTANTLY.

Thanks for your beautiful and open insight. You’re a very true person and it’s refreshing to see.

Wow Lindsay I’ve never heard this…..but have 💯 % experienced this

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Tq most men will be saved.

I have the second fear. Your tips have helped me to reframe my thoughts.

I'm 51 and I am too damaged to be loved. In my 36 years of trying to find a woman for a relationship, the longest relationship was three months. It's way too late to have love.

I love this because it makes so much sense. It’s just as painful as realizing the relationship isn’t for your highest good…. Realizing that it’s that feeling from childhood to be chosen that is resurfacing… has nothing to do with the current person. Learning to choose ourselves is rough… I’m so happy you help with this!!! 🙏🏻. I feel it making a difference!! 💕

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Me too 😢

My experience is that many seemingly ‘open friendly people’ are often predators.. the love-bombers. Many people who ‘share alot’ are also narcissists..

I have met an amazing man and i care so much for him. But it's been like 2 months that we've been getting to know each other and i can't seem to open myself up. It's difficult to express my feelings and be vulnerable. And i love him so much but i seem to be having trouble showing him that. This is ruining thinga for us. We're becoming more distant due to the fact I'm holding back and not showing my true self to him

Dr Ramani (psychiatrist that focuses on helping victims of narcissists) says she is now repelled by charming people and goes for the awkward. Makes sense. I love people who are open and a bit awkward (like me). Keep in mind that toxic people can fake this too, though it'll take more work on their part.

Damn this sucks. Just now realizing after the loss of my ex that I am emotionally unavailable. Of course I justified running from the relationship and committing to moving in by saying there were too many red flags. And some of the flags were there, but I was ready to run at the drop of a dime. Logical justification of my fear of intimacy showed up by blaming her red flags instead of working together to grow. Now I realize I was honestly just hiding emotions and that’s why I was not willing to grow together. Guess I will be single until I can be honest and own my emotions.

I am so glad I came across this video tonight, I have this exact problem at the moment. Thank you for this insight.

emotionally unavailable relationships feels safe in the bad sense. no depth to communication, all are just superficial chats. this was how i felt when i was an anxious. after a breakup, i self reflected and am im learning to open up. meeting different people. yes, some would be kinda put off by what i shared. but there are those who can reciprocate as well. i think these are emotionally available people who may be secure too.

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Thanks for your video. I agree with you 100%: some things can be requested and improved, some are not. That person will be like that forever. Might as well pull the plug. There are other people waiting for you out there.

Sharing what though?

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