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Tonight, I'll be seeing the man who has been my closest friend for the past 19 years. He has been frustrating the heck out of me because, for so long, he has been wallowing around in anxiousness, fear, anger, and frustration. I know he has plenty of reasons to feel this way, currently a little more than the rest of us; but he and I are both well versed in the law of attraction, conscious creation, manifestation. When he looks at other people, he can see how they get more of what they are; but he's refusing to see this in himself. He keeps arguing for his limitations. Lately, I've just been letting him talk and not offering any response; but I need to find a more helpful way of supporting him through his current journey. I do hope that journey will eventually lead to peace, joy, comfort, and harmony. By the way, this man is a very powerful manifester. One example of his strength and the magic within in him, is primarily through mind of matter, he came back from stage 4 liver disease. He had waisted away to nothing. No one other than me and him, believed he would live through it. People kept trying to support me because they expected him to die and me to be devastated. I kept saying I believe in miracles and I believe in him. Most importantly, he believed in himself! He kept saying this is only temporary. His doctor was trying to get him on a liver transplant list. He was having to have a paracentesis about three times a week. Now, he's healthy and almost as muscular and as physically strong as he was before he got sick; and he still has his original liver. 😉 I still believe in him. Maybe, that's what I should say to him when he starts talking about how anxious and uncomfortable he is.

I'm really bad about not finding the time to keep in touch with friends; and then I let so much time pass that I'm concerned that it's too late to reach out. Robin's story is leading me to believe that when I do make the time to contact a friend, they'll be happy to hear from me. After all, it's likely that they have been busy and didn't feel neglected at all. Now, I just need to decide which friendships I might want to revisit. 😄 Cool.... Now, I'm getting the same message from Monique's experience with her brother.😎😍😍😎

I'm onboard with the rebranding Bad Habits to Unwanted Habits.

Looking forward to the entire series!

Pam and I are watching.

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Interpretations: Oh, I know! Every time someone is angry or annoyed or just in a bad mood, I wonder, "What did I do?" 😂 Actually, I'm getting better, I'm not taking on other people's emotions nearly as much as I have in the past; but that a source of concern for me as well. I'm sometimes concerned that it looks like I just don't care. I do, though. I'm just not viscerally feeling it anymore. So, I don't have a specific example; but in the past few years I've had a lot of exposure to a couple of people with PTSD, and/or anger issues; and I've finally let go and stopped taking responsibility for how other people feel. If there is anything I can do to soothe another, I'll likely try; but if not, I might just walk away and give them some space. Sometimes, I even call them out on their reactive behavior, especially if they're beating up on themselves. Recently, I told a housemate, "When you abuse yourself, you abuse all of us." That statement came on the heels of me firmly commanding him to "Stop it!" That was a temporarily sobering moment for him. Limiting beliefs: I try not to think these things, because I know they're not true; but if I'm completely honest and frank in this moment. Ugh, here goes..... "It takes so much hard work to make a good living. Will I ever have the energy I need to move myself out of this impoverished state into one of financial security and abundance?" Eeeek.... That's really some stinkin' thinkin' and I shouldn't put it out there, but I know it is dwelling within me. It's especially haunting me at this time because I haven't had a day off in over two weeks. I drove for UberEats over 46 hours last week and I'm still struggling to pay the bills. I know there's a better answer though. I don't think it's a core belief; but thoughts become things, and these thoughts haunt me. Nope!!!!! I'm 60, and I'm good, physically. However, I do have this belief that I can't do a TH-cam channel, because nobody wants to see a 60-year-old woman, taking them down the rabbit hole, on camera.

Ooooo, Robin! Just let the words flow out of you and finesse it later. You can even get someone else to edit it later. I'd love to edit your book; and, no doubt, there are many others who would love that opportunity. Of course, all of this is coming from your resident cheerleader, who loves to write, and hasn't written anything of significance herself. (Well, that's not true. In my past, I have written a regionally acclaimed weekly newsletter for a Kiwanis club. Everyone loved my newsletter, and eagerly awaited my next issue, so they said. 😄 I've also enjoyed editing the works of a couple of my friends, and they were very pleased. One appreciated the continuity issues I found and corrected. The other appreciated how I improved the flow of his text, even if it did seem that I pretty much rewrote his handbook. 😅 I was afraid he was going to be offended. Not only was he not offended, he accepted all but one of my edits, and very prominently featured me in the credits. 🙏🏻) Oooooo, yeah, I hope so! I hope I'm listening a year from now, or sooner, and suddenly you're announcing your book release!

Beautiful dress, Robin! Love, love, love the colors. It's so true, worry does put me in freeze mode. Currently, I'm facing a situation in which I don't know where I'm going to live or how I'm going to afford whatever I can find. I probably should not go into the specifics, but I need to be ready to leave within hours if necessary and I've got so much stuff in this room. I'm working on getting stuff put away in storage, while worrying about whether I can get it done in time. I'm worried that I'm not making enough money and I'm behind on my bills. I know that if I just do the best I can and stay focused on what I'm doing, things will get done and everything will work out. It's just not happening fast enough; and that's likely because of the worry freeze. 😉 So, I'll get up this very moment, and get to work as I continue listening to your podcast. 😄 Yes, my body knows. I'm folding laundry and holding my breath, as I listen. Breathe, Carolyn.

I was thinking I might not comment this time, but since you specifically asked for an interaction...... I'm a little stumped in finding an answer for your question to the audience, because my friends and family really don't challenge me regarding my goals. However, I do know that I have some seriously limiting beliefs that I, most often, do not like to verbalize. They mostly revolve around a lack mentality that I would really like to replace with my conscious knowing that the universe and I are unlimited. I know I can have just about anything I want. I just don't know why the heck I hold myself back. The limiting beliefs I know of.... lack of money, lack of formal education, lack of skills good enough to offer professionally so they can provide me with the income I need, indecisiveness, etc. I'll try to be more conscious of the limiting language I might be using in my conversations and my thoughts. Then, I'll immediately look for creative adjustments to both. Thanks for this call to action! My friend and I are still doing the 3 Wins activity every night.

Yep, raising my hand too. 😄 When I get judgy and critical of others, even though I'm verbally keeping it to myself, I feel bad. I say, "I don't want to feel this way." And, the thing is, I'm fully aware that the people around me are sensitive to energy, so they don't have to hear it to feel it. I also understand that I need to remember that it's not good to judge ourselves, either. We can observe the feelings, choose to feel differently, and move through it with grace, if we allow ourselves to.

I think I might have missed the "Power of the And" and "Asking for Permission." Sounds intriguing. I'll go back and listen to them. I'm not sure which episode this was in, but I've been doing the 3 Wins exercise with a friend for a week this past Friday, and we'll probably continue to do it. I've found it to be uplifting, energizing, and motivating; and it has helped with the feeling of overwhelment. It has been a good exercise for me, I think. I feel compassion for Monique's situation. I know that it had to be hard for her letting her team go. As painful as it was, she needed to make decisions that are best for her, her business, and her family; and as for us, her audience, she really owes us nothing. I appreciate her, and even consider her a virtual friend; but I do understand that many of our friendships are seasonal, and that's okay. As for the content, though very helpful, we can all find our answers elsewhere and in the valuable content that will no doubt live indefinitely on her channel. I'm still a subscriber to both of her channels and I will continue to watch and support her and her hubby with likes, views, and comments. 🤗🥰🤩 Funny thing is the two people I can think of that I've judged as drama queens, lately, are both men! 🤣 With that said, in automatic writing this week, when I asked what do I most want to bring, change, or manifest at this time and why is it important to me, I got a very interesting answer. I'm going to share the answer with the understanding that, if you've managed to get this far into my long-winded comment, 😅I do not expect you to read any further unless you just really want to and you have the time. The answer I received was.... "My mindset? Yes,...... You want to become more centered on you and less critical of others." True. Why is it important to me..... 1. "It will free you to create a life of your deepest desire." 2. "It will allow you to thrive." 3. "It will allow you to become the fullness of who you are." I like this answer. It rings true.

This spoke to me, bringing the awareness to our behavior helps a lot!

I enjoy the one liners ❤

I stole one of yours. 😄 I am a person who follows and honors my self-promises. I'm going to try that one; and see where it takes me. I'm also trying the 3 Win exercise you suggested in this week's video. I actually am a person, lucky me, who could have 6-pack abs in three weeks if I'd just commit to it. I might not be ready to commit to it this week; because I probably have more important commitments to make. That would be a good one, though; and it would remind me what I'm capable of. Ya know, maybe I'll take just a few minutes to do some quick exercises before I go out. I'd be able to count that as one of my 3 wins at the end of the day; and it will just take a few minutes. (I put my identifying statement in that notebook I carry with all day every day. 😃)

Three small wins..... EVERY DAY?!? In terms of this exercise, do you have any recommendations for those of us who do not have anyone to share our wins with at the end of the day?

I can relate to perfection being a momentum killer and I know it is a cause of procrastination for me. Thanks for sharing! I just put the book on my reading list. Yeah, I get it. I never feel good enough, and I procrastinate. I want to write, and I'd love to teach, and I always rhetorically ask what have I got to teach. Same here.... I had a bought of anorexia because I felt like my diet was the ONE thing I could control, so I ate a single serve carton of yogurt and 4 crackers every two or three days for weeks. It had NOTHING to do with body image, and EVERYTHING to do with control. I suspect this is a common motivation for eating disorders, and I wish more people understood that. Starvation was a punishment for me, a way of lashing out at myself. It was not a means for losing weight. Oh! I GET it. Yes, if I'm not producing, I can't rest, and I don't deserve rest. Oooo.... but, I am my own best friend. 😍🤗

Right now, I'm teetering back and forth between being the calm in the storm and being THE STORM. I've got so much drama going on around me and I'm being pulled into it. Some of it is actually having a pretty profound direct impact on my life, and my future. When I'm being the storm, I'll try to remember this podcast, dial myself in, and remember I AM the calm in the storm, because I am. I'm already working my side of the street. For the most part, until someone directly pulls me in, I'm staying out of everyone else's part in the drama; but I do fear that makes me seem a bit heartless, sometimes. The word that came to me when Robin was searching for one, well words, were... "It becomes second nature. No. It becomes first nature." .... when we focus on being the calm and believe that we are....

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Love that term, "come apart". It describes my experience perfectly. I had a come apart yesterday afternoon; and I was on the verge of having another, while watching this. A friend called. I got frustrated because I had to look something up while we were talking; and I REALLLLLY need to get my makeup on, get dressed, and get out there to make some money, really badly. My friend said, "Well, actually, I need to go now." I said, "Me too. I'm doing really really really bad." He said, "No. You're just chilling; and now you're going to go out and do some other things." 😅 Good timing! He's mimicking what I'm hearing from you. 😄 Then, right after I typed this, I took you off pause; and you said (!!!) "Who you hang around is really important." 😂 I mean, really, does it get any better than this.

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Great title

Seriously? I thought Latinoamérica was like that only! Cheers from Chile

At the beginning of this podcast, I'm feeling inspired to look at all my potential streams of income; and make a to do list for each one, a list of what it will take to really get it going. Then, I can look at each list and choose the most inspiring and potentially fulfilling option with the least number of baby steps and obstacles. The only reason I'm looking for the easy way out is that I need to increase my income quickly. Once I get some more income coming in, I can base the criteria for my choices on passion, fulfillment, and excitement.

Good good stuff! Really good tools and practical ways to move forward!

I just checked it out, and these Spark sessions, at regular price are very reasonable. If I had a couple hundred dollars to invest in myself, I'd take advantage of this offer. Maybe, I will when I successfully manifest just a little more. My continuous tap is a specific blog I've worked a little on bringing to fruition. It is an insistent tap; and I know I'd love working on it once I get the momentum going.

My biggest stumbling block in completing a vision board is finding resources for the pictures. Magazines do still exist, but the cost as much as a book! So, here's my resistance, just in the realm of creating a vision board. I could get create a grid of photos from the internet, in Photoshop; but I keep not taking the time to do it. I could make a trip to Half Price books to see if I can find some used magazines there; and I keep not doing that too. Yeah, I often don't believe I can actually do the things I mentally put on my vision board; because those mental images all have to do with sources of income. And, I will admit I am a very poor decision maker. Yes, I'm confused about which of my many options is the best. That's me..... it's just not good enough yet, I'm not good enough yet, I don't know enough yet...... 😬

Any chance ".....what if I fall..... what if you fly" is Richard Bach, maybe in Johnathan Livingston Seagull? I know I've heard that quote, or read it, too! Great quote; and I'm not sure of the source. I'm also thinking, perhaps, it was in his book "Illusions II"; or, though less likely, "Illusions". I loved all three of those books. They're among my favorites. "Stop, drop, and choose your role." --- Monique Eckes I love it!

That's funny about the pastries. I'm guessing it was about 30 years ago that I gave up donuts. I didn't eat them that much; but when people brought them to work, I'd eat one. Then, occasionally, I'd buy a chocolate covered Bavarian cream or a cinnamon and sugar coated cake donut. One day, I realized "I don't really even like these that much." I thought about the calories; and I thought it's just not worth the calories. They're somewhat tasty, but they're not worth the investment of calories. That's how a value treats, to this day, does the value of the enjoyment it delivers match the cost in calories. If not, I leave it alone. If it's truly something yummy, though, it's sometimes worth it. Donuts just aren't it. Sleep... I've said that in the past. "I'll sleep when I'm dead." Something I've realized in recent years is that sleep is such a lovely part of the human experience, especially when you can remember your dreams. Truthfully, I don't really think that sleep is something we will experience when we're dead; so, for me, I say, "enjoy it while you can".

Actually, Monique, your experience with shame IS relatable. That's a way shame comes in for me, not feeling good enough to provide that service or sell those creations or teach this subject, etc.... I think most of my shame is centered around not being good enough at anything, not making enough money, not having a formal education, not having a career.... Oh, and well, my struggle with time, my penchant for being late, that has always been a source of shame for me. That's one I doubt you can understand. Everyone thinks that if you commit to being on time, truly commit to it, you will be on time. Well, I have experienced moments of success this way; but it is very difficult to maintain. I'm very easily distracted; and to be completely honest, I like the distractions and I feel many of them are important. My commenting on TH-cam for example. I'll try to refrain; but there are a few things I get from it.... 1. A little sense of connection to like-minded people 2. I just love writing, and this is an outlet for that 3. I get to express myself in a way that feels fairly safe, and so much easier than sharing with friends who do not think like me. Besides, it feels like it only takes a few minutes; but everything only takes a few minutes. These minutes add up to filling my entire morning and early afternoon.

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Oh wowza!!

My sweetest friends call me Linee. When I'm talking nie to me, I think of Linee and the dearest supportive friends (there are only 2 0r 3) in my world.

Hey....Just after listening, this came to me..... "Robin Mcintire.... does inspire." It could be part of your jingle. 😃

The exercise -- I can relate with Monique. For me, there's just so much that needs to get done this red-hot minute, well in the next few days and the next couple of months. The feeling for me is overwhelm. Yes! Go, go, go and getting nowhere, feeling like I'm on a hamster wheel, taking two steps forward and two steps back. Ugh..... Breeeeeathe Carolyn. Great exercise, Robin; and Monique I'm inspired by your whiteboard exercise, as well. I'll check out the "grind vs. flow" .pdf. Seems that might be helpful for me. Ooooo.... great affirmation for me... "There is enough time." Now, if I can just convince myself this is true. 😂 Ha ha... Once again, on the same page with Monique..... I typed "Breeeeeeathe Carolyn" earlier in the video, before she said her word of the year is "breathe." 😅 Love these synchronicities, especially when their aligned with my favorite TH-cam celebrities. 🤩 Ooooo... A good mantra for me.... "You're okay."

My biggest takeaway is the inspiration of shifting our thoughts from "I have to do this" to "I get to do this". I first heard this from Michael Sandler, author of AWE-The Automatic Writing Adventure and producer of the TH-cam channel Inspire Nation. For my taste, he overuses it; so much so that it doesn't seem authentic or plausible. Robin and Monique are helping me to believe that I can not only control my thoughts so that I shift them from "have to" mentality to "I get to"; but I can actually feel and believe what I'm saying/thinking as I make this shift. Don't get me wrong. I'm not bad-mouthing Michael Sandler. I like him; and still watch his program occasionally. I appreciate my experience with his automatic writing system. He's doing good work and offering valuable teachings. I just feel like I've graduated from Inspire Nation to Shift Happens with Robin and Monique.

I'm also going to try to remember to be more aware of the beauty and the kindness that surrounds me while I'm driving. There's a lot of that too; the aggressive drivers just get more of my energy. I will try to shift my focus on and absorb more of the beautiful positive energy around me. Then, maybe I will radiate that to the aggressive drivers; or maybe they simply will not be aggressive while in my field of energy. 🤷🏻‍♀☺🧘🏻‍♀ Be the change I want to see, right?

I like it.... "New View, New You."! I need to remember this; and get back into these healthier habits when it comes to other drivers and my housemates. Nonconfrontational rage hurts no one but myself; and, honestly, I don't really want to hurt the other person either, even on the rare occasions when I do actually confront someone face to face. I just want things to be different. Yes, I absolutely enjoy feeling lighter; and I am going to try to remember to create more of that experience in my life. I must say both of Monique's TH-cam channels are a hoot. You might even hear some hooting on one of them. 😉😉

I think I use "sweetie" when I'm trying to patiently and compassionately guide myself.

Yeah, I had a really mean inner critic. Then, one day, I woke up with the idea that we all deserve to treat ourselves with as much respect and compassion as we give to the rest of humanity. Now, I kind of treat my Carolyn character as her own little individual; and I've learned to love, appreciate, and adore her. Does that make you start calling for the straightjackets? 😅 This is another good one for me. I'm definitely in panic energy these days.

Oh, this is reeeaaallly good. I appreciate learning that getting off the fence can simply mean owning that I'm not ready yet. Perhaps, if I'm not beating myself up for what I'm not doing yet, I'll have more time, energy, and momentum for doing more towards what I am ready to address. Really good. Thanks, Robin and Monique!

"Sitting on the fence, gives you splinters." Love your sense of humor, Robin! 😄 I'll sit in my chair, quiet my mind and fingers and listen. This one is definitely for me!!!

Oooo..... my biggest take-away try "being the observer". Oh, my mind is really wanting to take over my fingers on this one; but I'll spare you. 🤣

Oh yeah! Journaling is a great releasing tool for me. I love writing anyway; and as I'm typing the emotions move through me and I can breathe. I have a password protected journal for processing thoughts and feelings that involve the other people in my life. It helps me to let go of it and move on. Every year or two, I start a new journal; and each one has a warning at the top for anyone who might break the code of my password. I warn that the hacker could get his or her feelings hurt if they choose to continue reading. 🤣 It's probably obvious what my habit is, especially to Monique. Yeah, spending way too much time writing comments on the TH-cam videos that spark thoughts, opinions, and memories.

Oh yeah, Robin, no doubt it was far worse than "girl". I've been there. Many, many years ago I had a bout with anorexia; but the loathing and self-hatred came before the anorexia. It had nothing to do with feeling fat, and everything to do with hating the one person I could not escape. That person was me! I hoped that I would slip into a catatonic state so that I could get a break from myself, until I realized that would be the worst fate. I'd be trapped in the mind of the person I hated most. I don't even know why I hated myself so much; but I do know what it's like to feel that way. I was afraid to face myself in the mirror; and when I did, I called myself names I would never use on another human being. For me, there's no doubt that anorexia was an intentional way of torturing myself. Eating was the one thing with which I felt full control and power. Of course, I didn't admit this back then. I fooled myself into thinking that my decision of limiting all my food intake to a carton of yogurt and 6 cracker every other day or two was about poverty. It was not. I share my story because I feel that it would be helpful for people to know that anorexia and other eating disorders are not necessarily based upon one's perspective of their physical appearance.

Wow, you've been broadcasting this podcast a month! I'm surprised I didn't already know about it. Of course, Monique, you know what a big fan I am. I'll subscribe to any TH-cam channel you participate in; but this subject really is right up my alley. I'm as passionate about this type of information as I am photography and dogs. 😄 I was probably still a teenager when I started reading self-help books; and these are the types of subjects I like writing about, myself. I am happy to see you in this new venture; and I'm happy that you introduced us to Robin. 😊

I love this Robin!

My middle name is Louise and my dad used to call me wheezie, or wheeziebug. I do use it as a User name on some websites. What a great idea, I like the endearing critic rather than the mean one. Great Podcast!

Great Podcast! Thank You.....

Great podcast, love me some Brene Brown for sure! The difference between shame and guilt in her Atlas of the Heart book shook me BIGTIME!