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@@waled700 thank you! That's so kind

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Hi how was your day dear

@@DVul stay clear? Of ... what? I'm already married, so not entertaining advances from random misogynists on the internet. I also only represent women, so it's not like professionally there's any risk either. Don't want to watch my videos? Scroll on.

@@GildedZ i envision this part as more of an interior monologue - am I where I wanted to be or not? - but there's no question that in a real marriage, in real life, there are many such conversations.

@@Channelinterrupted thanks for the support! I get a lot of hate on this channel in particular - which I get - but its hard to get behind either forcing people to stay in unhappy or unhealthy marriages or denying them access to what was earned during it. Marriage is a partnership of two people supporting each other.

@@GildedZ I'm so sorry that you experienced that. You must have been very world wise to realize the implications so young, too - that must have been hard on your heart. I hope you - and your mom - are doing well now.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce It's been years since. I found a way to cope. It was not until last year that my country finally passed legislation to crack down on deadbeat parents, by putting them in a registry that would not allow them to get new driver licenses or get out of the country - until they paid up. Pressure from the public finally made it happen.

@@GildedZ I love that! We should implement that here, too.

@@mattsmith817 *whether. And, no, I don't think you have a solid understanding of alimony.

@@mikehunt5637 right back at ya!

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce That is a response that I would expect from someone in high school.

@@mikehunt5637 kind of like your user name

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Again, another childish response. Mike Hunt isn't my "user name", it is my name, or rather Michael Hunt, but yes, my friends and family call me Mike, and Michael Hunt is my birth name. I understand being teased about this in high school, but not from a grown adult. If you really are a lawyer, I am sorry for any client who employs your services.

@@mikehunt5637 I assumed you chose it to be funny. I'm sorry - that's unfortunate, but I had no way of knowing. It's a common joke name. In any case, I stand by my initial response - if your wife is leaving you, you have the opportunity to be a better spouse too. It's hard for me to understand why so many men are determined to trap women in marriages that aren't working but are unwilling to do the work to improve the marriage. The women who I see are doing the work - have done the work for years - and are tired of being alone in their marriages.

@@delocon rewarded? By receiving an equitable share in what they helped build?

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Let's be honest here, you wait at the finish line and you pick the winners, then you take them for all their worth.

@@delocon ....what? If that were true, it would be separate assets because they're already earned. What's divided in divorce is what was earned during the marriage - hardly the "finish line"

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Women don't pick loser men with nothing to marry, they pick established men. They can then cheat on those men, or just flat out decide "I'm not happy" and abandon the marriage. If she decides to accuse the husband of domestic or sexual abuse, true or not it will work even better in her favor. They will then, as you have in this thread, describe basic necessities of living as "unpaid labour" painting themselves as victims in the relationship. More and more of us are done. We'll keep our shit, and the women we do have relationships with will be told straight up that marriage isn't happening, and for many of us, you're not even getting cohabitation. This is the bed you're making, enjoy sleeping in it.

@@Neoteny374 definitely not the way it works here! I've seen plenty of women - mostly by agreement, mind you - willing to buy their freedom at whatever cost.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce OK. I get your angle. Look, I certainly feel for the women that need to bargain(submit) for thier "freedom" (safety).

@@Neoteny374 I see what you're saying - and yes, if you go to court the judge will often give you your marital share. But the most vulnerable women won't be able to afford to get that far at all; they've given up (and don't have the resources to fight anyway) long before that point. It's like the analogy of the poor man and the boots, have you seen that? He can't afford a $50 pair that'll last forever so he buys a $10 pair every year for ten or fifteen years - it's expensive, right? Litigation is like that. If you just plain can't afford the retainer for a contested divorce you can't even mount a defense to obtain your entitlement - even if that entitlement is literally ten times the retainer amount!

@@tiabiamama i literally have a case exactly like this right now! It's insane to me. Who cares? The stigma is so gross.

@@godswillm575 I'm so glad this resonates! Not always, of course, but ... high conflict divorces can be crazy.

@@XAn0nymousX0 probably a good choice for you if you don't believe in equity of any kind for both partners.

@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce It's so wild watching feminists still treat marriage traditionally. Equity would only be important to you because you're looking for a man that's better than you in every single way to improve your quality of life and status. Thought we were about equality these days? What about 2 partners on the same level building their life together? As long as ya'll continue to treat marriage like a buffet line, you can expect to die alone.

@@XAn0nymousX0 it's men who are more likely to be single! But, no - it's not a buffet line. There are inequities at every stage and both partners support each other, though not necessarily equally from a financial standpoint, especially once children come into the equation. Families make all sorts of different decisions, and that's fine - but you can't expect only one to pay for it while the other is free to go on as if he had no responsibility for joint decisions.

@@hongolloyd8728 lawyers who love it the most practice in an area other than family law

@@De_Lus well, I think that depends on what you're looking for. I got married for love and because I had found someone I wanted to raise children with and build a life with. But just because I got married doesn't mean that I give my husband a blank check to abuse or control me, either. If it's not a partnership, I - and a lot of other women - don't want it. It's possible that what you're bringing to the table is just not something that women want and that's less a problem with marriage than with... well, you.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce lol you said it yourself its what you are looking for... it should not be something what you are looking for. marriage should be about love and thats it,nothing else and here you are giving advice on how to abuse the marriage system. beyond that, there is no reason for you to personal attack me like that. thats kind of predjudice of you. there just is no point to marriage anymore especcialy in this day and age and with that i think you have even proven my point if this is your reaction on me just simply sharing my opinion

@@De_Lus marriage - historically - has not been about love. In any case, both now and then, there's a lot of economics behind it. I'm not suggesting anyone abuse the system; I'm suggesting they make sure they're aware of how the system works so that they don't get taken advantage of. This happens all too often. Your comment that you don't know why to get married suggests to me that it's not about love for you and also that you're not even married.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce no i don't even want to, i am staying single like a lot of men are doing the pro's don't outweight the con's, like getting evidence in a trial case to get a heads up for in court is kinda of sick entrapment in my opinion. its all about the money so, again and i repeat my statement there is no point in getting married anymore. we can talk back and ford about this but its not gonna change. the way the world is like

not one single positive comment i read here on this video, so i don't know whats the point in debating. i don't even understand why youtube would want to adress me this women fashion magazine garbage nonsense talk

@@danu_daann well thanks!

@@mattwernecke2342 ugh, I know! The worst ive ever had! But, you know - we all have imperfections. I could pick myself apart but I choose to show up instead.

@@ebrimamaubeh8363 Not necessarily. Not if both respect each others right to their marital share. It's the fighting that loses all the money.

Correction. Most Men that play this game will lose. In the West anyways.

@@bobbyscalchi4013 far from it, in my experience. How long have you practiced? Where?

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce "Not if both respect each others right to their marital share." Please elaborate? Are you saying marital share as in division of labor? Marital share as in legal rights to assets, time and money? Or marital share and legal rights and claims during a divorce proceeding such as "equitable distribution"? What are we talking about about here by that statement?

@@bobbyscalchi4013 marital share - equitable interest in what was earned, purchased, or acquired during marriage. Not all states are equitable distribution states

@@geogeer9911 it takes two people to uphold vows.

No.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce True. But when one doesn't, it can be problematic.

Prenuptial and DNA tests for all offsping. There is no Debate.

@@JohnCunningham-sy5ug you're right, there isn't - because no state requires either of those things automatically, let alone both.

@@stevenhuckaby2902 oh gosh, thank you! When I first started practicing I got so many questions about how old I am... but it hasn't happened in ages! Also, I believe you mean "ladder."

@@rickdiaz1748 I'm married but thank you!

@@jessedameron7985 I agree! I don't ever like one parent weaponizing things like this against the other - glass houses and all that - but I don't believe in spanking. I'm glad parenting has come so far and were able to better meet little people on their level. In many ways, I think spanking only ever developed as a method to "control" behavior because parents were out of control and out of resources to help them with some of the harder aspects of parenting. It truly is incredibly difficult work.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Unless the countries it is banned in, like Sweden, dissolved into chaotic anarchies where everyone is smashing windows & running red lights, then there's really no question that rules/structure can exist without hitting. It's only a matter of how, not if, order can be achieved without any hitting. Generations before us didn't have access to this type of information with a few clicks of the internet, so I want to forgive and not shame, but the practice should be discontinued - including banned. Humanity seems to gradually become less violent over time (as Steven Pinker argues). It will completely phase out in this country at some point.

@@badawesome I don't practice in a community property state. Equitable distribution states are similar, but does allow the possibility of a division other than 50/50. Mostly, though, divorce is not - and is not designed to be - punitive.

@@damienmidanik9680 marriage has a ton of positives for men, including better health outcomes and more earning potential over your lifetime. Married men also report more general happiness and suffer less depression. Harvard - among others - has studied this. Actually, studies have been done in the US and in other countries (like Japan) and the results were all similar. You can Google it!

Except you failed to mention that you can literally have ALL of that without a marriage certificate!😂 You don’t need a PAPER to have a PARTNER! The happiest and longest standing relationships that I see are the people who are together because they want to be together and never got married. Yet the most miserable relationships that I see are people who are married. I stand firmly on my belief that Marriage has no benefit for a Man. Every single thing you just described as a benefit can be had without signing half of your stuff away. Your research shows married vs single. It doesn’t show married vs unmarried couples over a long period of time. This alone makes it deceptive.

@@damienmidanik9680 it absolutely does. Did you research? Cohabitating couples did not benefit in the same way.

Your channel name is literally “Your Girlfriend Needs a Divorce” and here you sit trying to convince Men that marriage is something good for them! That is honestly hilarious and it really proves how a woman will try everything possible to convince you that marriage is a good thing just so she can take your stuff as soon as the bigger better deal comes along! You aren’t even advocating for marriage, you are clearly advocating for DIVORCE! You just need to sucker men into marriage to reach your goal. That goal being half of a man’s stuff and a free house.

I have done my research and you are absolutely correct. Unmarried couples do not benefit in the same way. Their incomes aren’t combined so their taxes are much less. They don’t carry each other’s debt or poor credit if credit if past mistakes are an issue. They have the opportunity to own Real properties both separately or together instead of just together. Legally married people are basically 1 person. In the long run 2 people have a lot more financial power than 1. Like I said before, you are an advocate of divorce. That pretty much invalidates anything you have to say about marriage. Marriage is just the first step to getting that divorce you want. Marriage has benefits for you. Marriage has no benefits for me.