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I've definitely been there too!!

Yess!! It's such a good way to keep my hands busy!!

Yes!! It's so relaxing, I'm loving doing it!

Just wrote the same thing ❤

Thank you!

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Thanks for having me!!

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Welcome to the crew!

This is such an interesting point you've raised around how important communication is in these situations. I think that "fit" is always a bit of a dodgy one because sometimes it can be used as a way of subtly discriminating against people who are a bit different and can lead to group-think, but I understand the need for good communication. However, I would argue that good communication doesn't have to mean the exclusion of other neurotypes and so I disagree with the personality assessments being used for that reason. I sympathise with your goal of finding a communication style that works with yours and maybe I would say that searching for a communication style that works with yours may lead to more neurodivergent applicants but it doesn't have to be neurodivergent and keeps the possibility open of finding a really good and empathetic neurotypical communicator. You're not excluding a neurotypical for being neurotypical, you're excluding them for not being able to communicate in the way you need which is something they could work towards improving if they so wanted to. Does that make sense?

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching Yes, this makes sense to me. After more consideration, I also think that inadvertently discriminating against neurotypical people (because they are not willing or able to adjust their communication style) is not the same thing as discriminating againt neurodivergent people, because the first group does not represent a minority. Neurotypical people have plenty of options for finding a work environment that matches their natural communication style. For neurodivergent people, this may be much harder, simply because we are fewer people and thus there fewer work environments where our natural communication style is the predominant one.

For sure! I'm really interested to see what more research comes out in this space now that it's starting to get some attention!!

I also received my first fidget there. I am now the proud owner of several types of fidget tools. 😂

I believe confused is an apt term 😂. It was so lovely to meet you there and I'm so glad to be connected now!!

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching Same, I really enjoyed our conversation 😊🫶🏻

I also didn’t know what to expect from a retread-just like you but was trusting in Sam who knew who she tried to gather together and that it would be different than other retreats and more tailored to our neurodivergent needs. And the opportunity of being together with other tribesmembers was a hughe pull for me! And it worked out so beautifully. It really is a rare occasion in real life! 😢 I definitely need more of this 😊 So I am one of those who would have liked at least one more day with you all. 😊 The business-aspect originally was not my top priority but turned out surprisingly helpful in the process I find myself in: finding out how I really „function“ and what it is I need to run my everydaylife smoothly 👍 Sarah and Sam’s workshops really did a wonderful job guiding me towards myself 💫 I am so grateful! Thank you for putting the summary out there and letting me relive the whole experience in a nutshell today 😊

Thank you very much! Glad you're enjoying them!

Thank you! Creative brains like to think of these fun topics 😁

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching yeees!

I agree that the study itself and the intent of it was indeed not personal. Yet, the impact of it may seem like a personal attack due to the broad range of personality qualities listed that also overlap with a significantly large portion of adults in the general population without ADHD (About 96% of adults). So yes, the study is not meant to be personal at all but the impact that it had from the traits listed especially on her and many other people (including me, never have been diagnosed with ADHD or any mental disorder for that matter) definitely feels like a personal attack or targeting which is just a normal thing that I naturally accept without a feeling of enragement or anger.

​@ecolearningyt I'm also have ADHD, but it's still not personal. It only becomes personal if you allow it, so it's a choice you're making.

It can be so hard to manage! Thankfully my partner has normal interoception and sticks to regular meal times so I become regulated based on him. Do alarms or anything like that help?

Thank you! I'm so glad it was helpful! Following up with part 2 very soon!!

You caught me - guilty!! 😅

Haha yes I definitely reuse the piano clips!! Diagnosis is always a personal decision but learning about ADHD and applying the tricks you've learnt to your life is always going to be a benefit regardless!

Thank you so much ❤️

I'm not saying don't manage your weaknesses but there are also things that ADHDers and you as a specific individual are amazing at and using them in your life and career and instead of fighting to make strengths the things you're bad at, or feeling bad about yourself because of them, will get you further. I'm not saying give up and become homeless. The video this comes from goes into this more.

Make strengths of the things you're bad at*

Except rich (preferably white) conservatives. The world is made for them, turns around for them, everyone works to make them richer.

It's never too late to research enough to understand what this person is saying in the video

@@TheRealMask3r It's never too late to remove your own like from your post.

@@AnonYmous-si5qv I'm about to click that button to be the 3rd liker 👍

@@TheRealMask3r Cool dude, I have multiple accounts too, but you do realize liking your own posts is just sad.

Love this so much. Love a good cat analogy ❤️. Have a great day too!

I put a lot of thoughts about potential signs into the long form video this short comes from so you might want to take a look. Everyone's ADHD presents differently but for me it's the interest based attention making it hard to do boring or repetitive stuff and the emotional dysregulation that hits me hardest

I'm glad it was helpful ❤️

Maybe it's ur eyebrows

Ur beautiful, no offence But Mr bean lady version

Ah yeah having a buddy to process with or just body double is so useful! Sounds like you have a great idea of what sort of thing works for your brain!

I mean massive well done for managing to move up the career quickly at the places you're at - sounds like you're killing it!!

Totally fair, trends don't apply to everyone and I'm glad you've managed to find something that works for you!!

Me too. For years I thought it was just a flaw of mine but getting my ADHD diagnosis last year really changed things for me

Something I believe we can work on changing though!

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Thank you so much!

Honestly, in my opinion, as you've found motivation and willpower don't really work for us long term. My personal perspective is that we should use tools and strategies to make things executive function cheaper instead of beating ourselves up for not having enough willpower. And actually, I did a video on exactly this topic recently! It's called "Motivation Is Overrated" and you can find it on my channel. In terms of feeling low, it depends exactly on what you need. Sometimes we need to talk to a professional who can like a therapist, and sometimes it's things that we can work through on our own through building self-worth, changing our mindset and doing things that move us in a positive direction. What kind of help do you think would be most useful for you?

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching After a big career gap of more than 4 yrs due to family reasons I'll be ready to get on a job search now after 1 month and it's making me over anxious and worry about negative outcomes and challenges in going through it and would i be successful.. which type of thinking pattern can help..

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching Also how to tackle hopelessness and become hopeful even in stressful situations.. any best books on Hope and staying Optimistic ??

I would definitely take a look at Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz about how our mindset can affect this. You might also be suffering from rejection sensitivite dysphoria which I've discussed on this channel too. Another book that I can think of although it has been a number of years since I read it is Chatter by Ethan Cross. Mindset is something we need to continuously work on and it's okay that it takes time to resolve it.

I've actually got a free e-book on my website for tackling self-doubt and impostor syndrome that you might want to take a look at, or otherwise I've also put a video on this topic too! (Called "ND and Feeling Self-Doubt?"). Other books that might be useful are Own Your Greatness by Lisa and Richard Orbe-Austin and Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz (based on mindset). Good luck!

@@ThroughTheNoiseCoaching Thanks a Ton 😊

YES! I don't need YET ANOTHER thing to executive function on!! Thanks for sharing that point and thanks for watching!

Fair point for sources, will keep that in mind for future videos! I very clearly acknowledged that ADHD has difficulties, but my point was that it isn't entirely bad and has strengths too. People with ADHD have to make decisions in crises all the time, it's part of life. Seems like we have different views on ADHD and that's fine. Have a good rest of your day!