Habeeb Akande is a British Nigerian erotologist, sex expert, and historian. He is the bestselling author of 7 books on race and sex and the founder of the Erotology Institute. He is featured on BBC, Al Jazeera, TRT World, and other media outlets.
Instagram: @habeeb_akande
Website: www.erotologyinstitute.com
TH-cam: @habeeb_akande1
00:00 - Intro
04:49 - Why is studying the art of pleasure essential?
12:00 - Main myths surrounding intimacy
19:03 - Main predictors of divorce
31:50 - Second wives
39:37 - Communication
41:44 - Unrealistic expectations
47:46 - Education
59:28 - Porn
Below are some conversation-starter questions to ask a potential spouse:
• What qualities do you look for in a wife?
• What qualities do you offer as a husband?
• What is your love language?
• What is your attachment style?
• Do you prefer to give or receive love?
• What do you think about emotional intimacy?
• What are your non-negotiables in marriage?
• Are you comfortable speaking about sex?
• What were the attitudes towards sex in your family?
• Where did you learn about sex and female pleasure?
• How do you feel about sex in general?
• What is consent? And do you believe consent is required in marriage?
• What are your sexual expectations in marriage?
• How important is sex and intimacy in marriage?
• What are the common reasons for sexual dissatisfaction in women?
• Why do you think some women do not want to be intimate?
• How do you feel about a woman's right to experience pleasure?
• Do you think it is important for women to climax?
• How often do you expect to have sex in marriage?
• Who do you think should initiate intimacy in marriage?
• What do you think about women who speak about sex?
• How important is physical attractiveness for you?
• What do you think about oral sex and anal sex?
• Why do you think some women are unable to orgasm during sex?
• What would you do if your wife said she did not want to have sex?
• Have you experienced sexual trauma or abuse?
• What are your thoughts about porn addiction?
• Do you struggle with excessive porn consumption?
• Would you be willing to seek professional help for porn addiction, if needed?
• Are you familiar with vaginismus?
• Are you familiar with FGM and female circumcision?
• Do you intend to take a second wife in the future?
• Do you think it is permissible for a man to take a secret second wife?
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