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Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Institute
United States
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 10 ก.พ. 2016
DDPI is a training institute whose purpose is to provide training, certification, and supervision in Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy and Practice. Founded by Dan Hughes, a Clinical Psychologist, the Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP) is a treatment for families with adopted or fostered children who had experienced neglect and abuse in their birth families and suffered from significant developmental trauma.
DDP is based on and brings together attachment theory, what we understand about developmental trauma, the neurobiology of trauma, attachment and caregiving, intersubjectivity theory and child development.
DDP is based on and brings together attachment theory, what we understand about developmental trauma, the neurobiology of trauma, attachment and caregiving, intersubjectivity theory and child development.
How early years trauma affects the brain the child who mistrusts good care HD
Dan Hughes, Clinical Psychologist, from U.S.A., is the originator of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP) and also attachment-focused family therapy. He is an internationally acclaimed therapist and author of ground-breaking books on attachment and emotional recovery.
Dan has integrated recent research in the areas of neurobiology of trauma, early child development and attachment theory, to produce a therapeutic approach that assists professionals and parents/caregivers to understand and effectively support the healing of vulnerable children and young people.
During one of his many trips to Scotland as a guest of Scottish Attachment in Action he recorded this summary of how the brain reacts to trauma and how an understanding of this process is helpful to foster and adoptive parents as well professionals such as residential care workers and teachers.
Dan has integrated recent research in the areas of neurobiology of trauma, early child development and attachment theory, to produce a therapeutic approach that assists professionals and parents/caregivers to understand and effectively support the healing of vulnerable children and young people.
During one of his many trips to Scotland as a guest of Scottish Attachment in Action he recorded this summary of how the brain reacts to trauma and how an understanding of this process is helpful to foster and adoptive parents as well professionals such as residential care workers and teachers.
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Wisdom comes from suffering. Play!! Don’t be so serious all the time = self care.
This is a fantastic resource for parents and therapists alike. Clear non judgemental. Resourcing oneself is important. If I’m loved / resourced then I can be more present in challenging scenarios. Thank you.
With Reactive Attachment Disorder, it almost always happens when a child is removed from their first attachment figure. I imagine it as a child being taken from its mother and then given to another woman and told, "this is your mother now". An infant or a toddler doesn't know much yet, but they know one single thing, who their mother is. Imagine the distress of being told that you don't know the one thing you do know. Of course the kid is going to throw a fit and reject the substitution.
Very interesting, thanks for the valuable information.
Excellent insights
You just explained my relationship with my ex to a T. I could tell he was extremely neglected during his childhood because he abandoned his child and moved to a new relationship just like that. Just found out his a covert narcissist, but i too was neglected as a child but healed as an adult especially because I became a mother of 2 kids I teach my children empathy and love and all the things that wasnt given to me , I give those kind things to my kids to raise healthy kids.
We need a definition of "good care" to make sense of this.
The kicker is that all of these "dysfunctions" are adaptive if one is living in a toxic environment.
How I wish that I had seen this video a few years ago when we were fostering! It answers so many questions that I was searching out! Thank you! This video needs to be in the hands of social workers, foster parents and caregivers.
This is fascinating. I’m learning so much. I only wish the heavy breather wasn’t mic’d 😩and that the speaker’s audio volume was turned up
An idiotic assumption, and "... they were not able or willing to do that...". One minute in. You lost me there.
At 70 years of age, I wish a good psychologist had been around when I was young. Alcoholic parents who divorced when I was 10 years old. I attended ACOA as an adult, which was helpful but...not therapeutic. I've been "researching" childhood trauma/attachment issues, narcissistic abuse and abandonment issues, people pleasing etc., etc. for 12 years, since I've had emotional injuries from covert narcissists a few times since 2005. I've lost several friends mostly because I've become more assertive as far as not allowing verbal abuse and self centered people with a lack of empathy. This is a nice webinar and if I had the opportunity to have a trauma informed, attachment oriented counselor years ago, I would be a completely different person today.
wow this is so helpful and detailed. im 52 years old and struggling with childhood wounds. its amazing to know there is an adult in the world that gets what is going on with such deep depth. is there a way for adults to access your help/research?
Buy his books. Or get them out from the library. Also, the work of Karyn Purvis, Dr Dan Siegel, Gabor Mate.
@@henriettaatkin1968 i meant in an a non cognitive way. a personal/experiential/attachment way/face to face way. information is for the head. experience is for the heart. wisdom and healing are integrating information and experience with people who know how to help and utilize people and their adverse experiences. im not against books but we need more
Wow it's like this guy's known me my entire life!
Great presentation: thanks!
Right
My oldest son and myself physical abuse from his dad. I have got psychotherapy was not enough seeing a psychologist and talking to others helps.
I was just diagnosed with this..and ptsd....after girlfriend of 8 yrs moved back to her abusive manipulating alcoholic mom, with no goodbye, no communication what so ever..she was great at procrastination and raging .been doing emdr and it's been hell. Never cried so much, very debilitating. Not one part of my 54 yrs hasn't been effected, especially in relationships. I'm working on better boundaries for myself. We got along great until her dad passed from heroine overdose 3 yrs ago. 8 yrs down the tube. Of course she started dating 5 days after she got back to Florida...poor fella.
Anyone know if there’s a way to learn to play, if you didn’t have that experience before.
should you educate the judges and lawyers about this? For example, they issue Orders of Protection against a parent ONLY because an adult child is not trusting. (which manifests in them displaying fear and strong emotions) The judges should be ordering that person who is afraid of someone NOT scary to go to therapy instead. Not trusting people need help - Not enabling their fears through orders of protection against their adoptive parents, only because they cry in court in front of the judge.
Blocking social pain = opium from the brain…. And people wonder why we end up addicts… Christ.
Wow. Now I know why I’m always going back to the same ol same ol. Aaaggggghghhhh.
woe sounds like me
For parents who are in survival mode, please see @20:00: You can’t have correction before connection. If you need to change your child’s behavior, you first have to connect emotionally. If you need support, please build yourself a trusted support system. ❤️
Great content, sadly the sound quality is sadly too poor to be able to hear you
Wow everything you just said!!!
What a brilliant lecture
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How many heroes or famous people acted in a “socially acceptable” manner?
Again with the “vulnerability”! Setting kids up to be victims.
When you become an adult, no one gives a damn about your problems
True
Not necessarily
Individually , regardless of age or details , it's not a competition first of all, personally everyone exists period , therefore means it's impossible to be LESS OR MORE THAN ANOTHER LIFE ,OR ANOTHER INGREDIENT in which is how ANY OF IT EXISTS IN THE FIRST PLACE.. . Which is why the place called soul , the center of your life force is part of this entire cosmic existence , which also includes all , even what defined as BAD WRONG , ETC .. without one tiny teeny molecule throughout microcosm macrocosm inside throughout and back again .. known AND UNKNOWN.. says the existence of u IS NOT JUST EVEN POSSIBLE TO BE LESS THAN , NEITHER IS ANY OTHER ... it's not simple to wrapped one's mind and guarded heart space and journey of what became comfort in the places they were harmed but I personally know that is possible from my own experiences, ok also I won't claim to be ANY COMPARTMENTALIZED BEING due to perception of others . I'm not rejecting the reality .. but I don't FIT ANYWHERE based on singular details concepts that force suffocation and more rejection of self continued madness. Being willing to recognize AND TO FIND COMFORT IN HUMILITY , AND GRATITUDE FOR BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE THAT EXIST AS WELL.. I KNOW YOU KNOW OF YOUR OWN EXAMPLES OF BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE .. ... I'M not saying these things to cause you to feel rejected judged . Perception is another way to describe judgment if you really think about it.. just sayin.. but in a nutshell I'd sincerely share with you infinite love light in this life and every single life before and and after... it's NOT ABOUT WHAT COMES FROM THE OUTSIDE OF ONE'S SELF... IT'S THAT LOVE OF SELF ... entitled to be done FOR US ...BY OTHERS .. justification throughout every corner as well is the perpetual LIE ... which began and absolutely served purpose and wasn't concerning .. until it eventually reached the point crossing into the EXCUSE REASONS WHY THIS OR THAT. I sincerely couldn't know shit if not through THE SHOES OF WHICH MY OWN AND OF OTHERS .. humidity is worth it , blessings in disguise , gratitude actually EXISTS it's not some vocabulary word or definition found in dictionary.. it's a freaking REAL EXPERIENCE.... . that being said please know this is not all even remotely shared from someone having all her shit together... infact the way words are defined and it's easily one word that can hook someone to the point of madness , SELF proclaimed SELF destruction and then feeding into others vice versa. . . There's 1 in control of this narrative you believe nobody cares about adults etc. Well then I ask,, when would that be something YOU ARE DOING?? because consumed by such perception it's definitely not going to be your caring about others up to those same standards you're gripping to. . .. . Your not alone.. sincerely.. . But ee need to stop ABANDONING OURSELVES ... BASED ON THE SURROUNDINGS AND SHIT FROM OUTSIDE OF US INDIVIDUAL .. .
Depending on others is a recipe for failure in this world. Most people are unreliable.
Seriously: Where does this psychologist cult of "vulnerability" come from? There is literally no area of human study where "vulnerability" is deemed a good quality. Go ahead and Google it. Psychologists and their various related "therapists" are the only professionals pushing this agenda. It's weird and it does not make sense. No one can elucidate this for me. It's just accepted as fact. I'm too sceptical for that kind of BS.
I understand you seeing this as a derogatory, insulting label, but if it isn’t made clear that an abused child has need of extra care and concern and that there is a likelihood that they can be taken advantage of, then the outcome could easily be further neglect. The word ‘vulnerable’ comes from the Latin word for ‘wound’. Strangely though, there is no Latin word for vulnerable.
How the hell can you "turn to others for help and joy" when you have been betrayed and have no one to turn to? A solution that is impossible is not a solution.
I agree, and that is why I responded eagerly to God. He has changed me. He is always here, and always loves, surprises me with wisdom and healing and has taken my pain by helping me forgive. I couldn't do it. I was too controlled by pain. He took the pain. I am not caught in a cycle of flashbacks, anger, withdrawal and shame. I am loved. Turn to Jesus Christ!
You're right, it fucks one's whole life up
The self, in reality , beyond the SELF feeding on what was eventually comforting ... accountability , choosing to either continue grasping outside of yourself , and pointing , shouting blaming , and whatever , is infact choice as is the slightest shift in another direction .. it's going to be part of life to have experience of all kinds .. including the one's which perpetuating madness and SELF sabotage victimhood , self entitled demands ,acts etc perhaps another course be better than that chosen self misery seeking company madness mentally everyone has felt at some POINT in THEIR own individual ways , that aren't gonna be carbon copies of yours or mine NOR DO THEY EVER HAVE TO BE... to give them all as equal value and Worth as your own ,or my own etc. That be like well this person isn't having to do this and I did or whatever or say that I was molested when I was four okay say that I went in the direction in which perpetuated that and became a monster after being as a victim and having that madness have consumption of my entire existence and what that perpetuates it's it's like an infestation that takes over in in a matter of very very very very very very little amount of time if any time at all in fact however this example Mayfield a type of of way, which it's not at all the intention to where it causes you to feel attacked or accused either. That's the choice of you to to absorb it to understand it to really take by the and how that feeds what we feed it and it takes our own individual actions and behaviors and and willingness to choose what seems impossible yet it is simple and right on the other side of those choices were the fear is based and the discomfort and what have you are where magic is waiting..and yes I understand how it can seem so brief f****** ridiculous in a sense or in a lot of senses but there again s*** talking something before even understanding it which would include knowing it seems a lot more ridiculous.
Well, I am 54, did not "attach well", because I'm adopted. Can't afford decent therapy. My life is in a shambles. Guess I'm just another fucked-up loser. The USA sucks and does not care for its citizens. At least I am smart enough to NOT bring a child into this fucked-up world. You are welcome.
This is brilliant! I sought this out because I could feel myself beginning to “block care.” This really helps! Thank God I found this! Thank you!
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Misplaced Mistrust: If a child finds themselves having too much fun with a carer, they might later sense this activity as betraying their birth parents.
Greetings and blessings from sunny SW Florida. Very enlightening information. Thank you so much
I have bpd from abandonment issues of divorced parents among other things, ironically people who hear I have bpd also abandon me. Thankfully I've learned to be self sufficient and self comforting and don't actually need much from life or people.
Dont need it thanks
This is why I don't generally like those short clips on youtube where parents deliberately provoke the child to cry just to get a reaction which they record and then post on youtube. And the parents are laughing while the child is crying. People say oh, don't be soo uptight, the baby is fine, ts just a short video...but what messages are being sent regularly to the child's brain? That my pain is a very good source of entertainment for my parents?
What? I can’t believe it!
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Exactly!!!! I feel this very deeply, and the baby and young child's facial expressions convey shock, confusion, distancing from the situation, dissociating and observing the parent. It's insane, cruel, extreme utter selfish immaturity at work in the narcissist!!!
These are the same parents who insist the autistic regressions they prompt are “genetic”. Stockholm syndrome is also a regression. Both are defensive survival adaptations to hostile captivity…so environmental, not genetic.
I have this too except my only early trauma was of an earthquake and weird memories of my mother dying
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Abused children become broken adults and parents. Both my parents were abused as a child and have limited capacity for empathy or capacity to care for others. Yet they have 5 kids while hoarding resources, manipulating others and their children to do their biddings, put themselves first before their kid, offered no comfort or empathy. What they taught their kids is that the world it cruel and it starts with the family environment. Broken adults become narcisstic and shouldn't have children.
That seems to be common, yes, but it is not true in all cases. When I had my son, my thinking was ‘Right, the buck stops here.’ We had our ups and downs and obstacles to tackle (eg. he was diagnosed Autistic) but the big difference is that I love him and he knows it. It helps that I know that he loves me too. People say things like he is a credit to me and like him as a person. I have a lot of respect for him and enjoy his quirky personality. He does not suffer the anxiety/depression/phobias/self identity issues I did, and he has not had to suffer the physical and emotional abuse I received from my parents. He is 26 now and is setting up his own business as a videographer. I think that it helped that we both have a reasonably high level of intelligence; this is not something I had around me growing up.
Perfect.......apart from 31.23mins in. We are humans because of PACE not being in that state makes us more robotic. In my insignificant opinion.
Thank you very much, It is really informative and explain slot of puzzle i live in for along time , i hope i can find solution for this, God bless you.
Amen
Just have a 9 weeks experience as Foster caregiver ..as mother to a 4 years old girl.. very stressful . She has a very insecure attachment to caregiver. Can not sleep good at night, crying and scream , come to us 3 or 4 time in a few nights.. at the day you have to been seen be heard from her. Not allowed you to be away for a few minutes. She can not play alone, can not really play with you any games, can not concentrated on games, reading etc.. a story being heard 4-5 time, can not tell what happened in the stories... very cling and needy, always looked for physical contact, your attention.. crying a few time a day, urinate in pants a few time a day.. I tried everything I can, all loves I can give, all playful Programm from morning to 20 at evening.. she got everything she needs to grow up, but she is there , she is not there! I was so frustrate during these weeks.
I'm 38 and grew up in a "normal" well off family with my own parents. The worst maybe is that I wasn't even allowed to feel that what was really going on is not normal. I cried during this whole video because I recognize myself completely. I do my healing work every single day to be able to attach more securely. Thank you.
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My depression and anxiety were "treated", but none of this. Most ppl, who meant well in the beginning, ended up trx me with coldness, because I didn't respond the way they had anticipated.
That is inadequacy on their part. Sorry to hear this, Cheryl
I feel so bad for the children that lack care because of so much misunderstanding. Pray pray pray
That is kind ❤️
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Neglect Physical & Emotional also Has to Do With “Trust Issue’s” You Don’t Know who You can Trust It lasts a Lifetime sadly From the Early Neglect and It develops into insecurities .and Emotional issues too. Over time and years. I was Severely Neglected as a Tiny Baby. Even Many YEARS Of Therapy Haven’t Really Helped Me with The Issues I’ve Suffered from. I’ve got Both “severe Anxiety “ and I’ve also got “Severe Social anxiety” And “Depression” Too. That’s what I’ve Been Diagnosed with. And “THE TRAUMA NEVER GOES AWAY”
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