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Why It’s Important to Assess Your Relationship #shorts
💡 A business training I attended talked about the importance of working ON the business, not just IN it. And guess what? 💖 This applies to relationships too! Unless you take a step back from the day-to-day and assess every part of your relationship: communication, core values, and even how your love is received, you may be missing the hidden cause of any challenges in your relations. When you spend time analyzing these elements you can uncover what's missing and unlock your relationship's full potential 🗝️
#RelationshipGoals #RelationshipStruggles #Coaching #RelationshipCoach #ToxicRelationships
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Relationships are like languages! If you weren't exposed to positive examples of love and communication, it's okay to be learning now. Just as you would need time and practice to learn a new language, be kind to yourself and your partner as you develop new relationship skills. 💕 Embrace the journey of growth and self-discovery by learning more about your relationship🌱 #Relationships #BeKind #Em...
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  • @mr.mcqueen2474
    @mr.mcqueen2474 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I find the Problem is it's hard to find a woman who's more right. Because most of them nowadays are all left-leaning.

    • @littlelam3691
      @littlelam3691 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I couldn’t find a liberal man when i was liberal and now that i am a conservative, i only find liberal men. 😂 What a sick joke!

  • @Khanji743
    @Khanji743 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Break in relationship which is already doomed.. 😂

    • @dominicg3316
      @dominicg3316 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      False

    • @Khanji743
      @Khanji743 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@dominicg3316 true... when a girl wants a break. It means she is tired of seeing only one man. She needs a change. It is what it is..

    • @dominicg3316
      @dominicg3316 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Khanji743 no that is not at all what that means not necessarily all the time. Is what it is

  • @4637jvb
    @4637jvb 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I hate this response, what if politics is an interest of yours? How can u confide in someone with a huge topic off limits?

  • @LiveToFly-Br
    @LiveToFly-Br 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Political differences very often hides core beliefs differences. And this is a no go. Trying to compromisse will not work.

  • @Teamster83
    @Teamster83 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I use to after 20 years of marriage i stopped and i slerp in thr guestroom

  • @lacboiatl
    @lacboiatl หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cheat

  • @93corvettebaby
    @93corvettebaby หลายเดือนก่อน

    Because she's giving it to someone else..Sorry

  • @bonneymathew2931
    @bonneymathew2931 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I really loved this video. Fixed my 37 year old relationship. I was crying inside but now am crying outside, that’s all thanks to you guys. Btw you guys still together ?

  • @douginny
    @douginny 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not so sure. My GF doesn't say it but if we have a fight and I avoid her, she cries and tells me how much she loves me. We hardly fight but this happened the few times. We've been together for 10 months. I just stopped saying it altogether and am beginning to resent her for this. It's too bad because I love her but will not allow myself to be in a subordinate position again. I came out of an abusive marriage and learned that I will not allow myself to be treated poorly again. But is not saying I love you treating me poorly?

  • @ExplorewithSvetlin
    @ExplorewithSvetlin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Monika is out of all worlds beautiful

  • @jackieorainbow
    @jackieorainbow 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My SO of 6 yrs never says it. I have expressed how I would like to hear it and how it makes me feel when I don't. I have heard him say it to his daughter consistently, even once when he was on the phone with her when I was taking her to school, and then it wasn't said to me. It really hurt my feelings. I'm not jealous, I'm just hurt that I know he is willing and capable, but not for me. It is causing me to hate myself for being good enough.

  • @tonyagilbert
    @tonyagilbert 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My step sister says her boyfriend that she loves an adores won't say the words I love u but does say things like, you know I do when confronted. She has told him multiple times that she wants to hear it and has asked him if he ever will and he says yes but I'm concerned still. They have had a sexual activities once since she has known him but it has been a year and they haven't since. She is very passionate about that side of her and I'm afraid maybe this isn't the healthiest relationship she could be in even though he seems to be a nice guy. He is very anxious and backwards and I can understand that having anxiety and ADHD myself. But she is almost the opposite. My step sister grew up in a home that didn't say the words I love you as often as mine. She's self conscious and has even been made to feel like she needs to push her feelings down and not express them. With her being afraid of confrontational communication and him showing signs of an Asexual Im worried for her. She does claim to be happy and I will not stand in her way and will still support her but I truly thinks she thinks she is happy only because of the lack of serious relationships she has been in and and she's worried about being alone. I don't want to push her but I just want her to open her eyes to all possibilities. Is there any advice you could offer in my special circumstance?

  • @THECROW1368
    @THECROW1368 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I hear alot of people talk about this and it seems to mostly be men. I get it because I'm very affectionate I love to cuddle kiss all the above. But alot of women aren't just that affectionate. All I can say is don't compromise for no one that happy wife happy life shit is bullshit no one partner should compromise to keep the other partner happy if your not on my level when it comes to that we can just part ways period there are plenty affectionate women out there the one I'm with now amazing she is just like me I've never been more happy and I'm not compromising shit and never is she case closed

    • @iamflashin
      @iamflashin 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      TALK YO FKN SHT ❕❕❕

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I envy you

  • @jonathanrehm7
    @jonathanrehm7 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    0:02

  • @jonathanrehm7
    @jonathanrehm7 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    0:03

  • @gothicyid
    @gothicyid 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I asked my bf, who has told me before that he loves me, if he still does and he said he does but did not day he does love me even though i know thats what he meant. But he does show it in his actions.

  • @csg45001
    @csg45001 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I usually run from the relationship when my partner disappointments me. This has happened several times and I have tried my best not to but in the end it’s the same pattern.

  • @jasonlloyd33
    @jasonlloyd33 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stop calling her your partner for a start. Are you both in the same law firm? Just stop!

  • @Notyouraveragejoe762
    @Notyouraveragejoe762 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Here you woman here want a man to say i love you , i see other videos that say a man should never say it 1st. I say it and she never says it back been a year now...smh i dont understand women.

  • @BeauReese
    @BeauReese 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cringe lol

  • @Shenayerx96
    @Shenayerx96 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don’t wanna have to ask for it :( I just want to be good enough to receive it. 😢

  • @khristymadeit
    @khristymadeit 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I hate it

  • @fizzyheart2486
    @fizzyheart2486 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your advice sucks. Basically suck it up

  • @LadieBjj
    @LadieBjj ปีที่แล้ว

    I am very affectionate. But if I don’t get it in return, I become cold. Later, they finally realize that I stopped, they ask for me to be more affectionate but when I am, I don’t get it in return. So eventually I feel like a roommate and I no longer want to sleep with that person either. If I am not emotionally connected, I despise the idea of that person touching me.

    • @Anonymous-hx5vw
      @Anonymous-hx5vw 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg same! I feel like when we give all the love we have, it is taken for granted. They think we’re always available anytime to give. So when we become cold since we don’t get the same kinda respect they play the victim. So messed up!!

    • @Hand0fGwad
      @Hand0fGwad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly what I'm currently dealing with.

  • @EmilyCedenoMlleNoko
    @EmilyCedenoMlleNoko ปีที่แล้ว

    Scammers. Bogus, The lingo is the same for every Scammer. Their "entrepreneurial poverty" is a Hook.

  • @Mountains4ever
    @Mountains4ever ปีที่แล้ว

    My girlfriend and I are on a 2 week break right now. She said she loves me so much and that I’m amazing and she’s never been treated so well before but she has a block and doesn’t know what it is and needs to work on herself to figure it out and thought we should break up. We were both devastated by that. She even said she didn’t want this to end but didn’t know what else to do. I so suggested a 2 week break. She looked so relieved and said “you’re willing to do that for me?” With a sigh of relief. We defined the rules. We said “this is not a Ross and Rachel break” and we laid out the ground rules. It’s been killing me these past 2 weeks that I can’t talk to her or see her or tell her I love her. One more day and she’s coming over to talk about everything. I’m really hoping for a good outcome but I’m prepared for both. We both are going to have a lot to say to each other. I’m just scared I’m gonna lose the best thing that’s ever happened to me because of our 2 week no contact break

    • @ants1568
      @ants1568 ปีที่แล้ว

      Any update? Hope everything went well bro 🙏

    • @tianbowen721
      @tianbowen721 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea I hope it turned out well for you 💗 but you seemed like a very supportive and sweet boyfriend

    • @Mountains4ever
      @Mountains4ever ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ants1568 she ended things. She said that she’s known since day one she wasn’t emotionally ready for a relationship and she was hoping the feelings would change but they didn’t. She kept saying how I’m everything she wants in a boyfriend and then some and doesn’t know what’s wrong with her and that it’s the right person wrong time. Either way. As much as I could prepare for the bad outcome, she still destroyed me. I’ve been a complete mess ever since.

    • @Mountains4ever
      @Mountains4ever ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tianbowen721 thank you for saying that. It didn’t tho. Long story but she wasn’t emotionally ready for a relationship and I was all in willing to compromise and do whatever it takes and she said “you’re willing to do that and compromise, but I’m not” and after a 6 hour talk, it ended. I’ve never felt so broken in my life. I put my house up for sale and I’m moving from Tampa to Boise to start a new life and start fresh. Been wanting to move for a long time but pushed my time frame back for her but now I’m just doing it

    • @هُناعبير
      @هُناعبير 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mountains4ever It's been 7 months, I hope things are getting better for u now..

  • @xiexie89
    @xiexie89 ปีที่แล้ว

    But how hard is it to say I love you before at least going to bed (you know just in case 1 of you dont wake up 1 day).. sheesh. Look at how simple "I love you"..."I love you too". "K😊 goodnight." Boom thats it! No one got hurt and our souls can rest at ease knowing we closed out the day with loving words 😂

  • @celiaescalante
    @celiaescalante ปีที่แล้ว

    I prefer a platonic love bomber. Any love bombers here???

    • @somedia8598
      @somedia8598 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I love you ❤

  • @laceymarie6419
    @laceymarie6419 ปีที่แล้ว

    What about the "Love you" instead of "I love you" because my husband tells his family "i love you" and he tells me love you and its only when one of use leaves the house

    • @keepthechange1
      @keepthechange1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sadly, he doesn’t love you. He may not be in love with you, but he cares about you. He knows how to say “I Love you” and he refuses to say it to you. I wish you well. ❤️

  • @randogs8711
    @randogs8711 ปีที่แล้ว

    And God loves me unconditionally, and I sorta in a way hate my self, because I deserve to go to hell, but Jesus paid the price for mine and your sins. But the way I sorta hate my self is I don’t deserve to live in heaven when I die but I deserve hell, and I don’t want to harm my body.

  • @randogs8711
    @randogs8711 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah, well I got God/Jesus and he saved me, and my family, I don’t need this because I have Jesus.

  • @neomatrix001
    @neomatrix001 ปีที่แล้ว

    BEEEEEEETAAAAAAAAAAAA!

  • @araynick8577
    @araynick8577 ปีที่แล้ว

    It sounds to me like she should just not complain. Or slow the fuck down.

  • @larrylobster5229
    @larrylobster5229 ปีที่แล้ว

    That's a real wife right there lol she is kind towards your process to not leave it to far behind

  • @Baaxonda
    @Baaxonda ปีที่แล้ว

    He's telling the story wrong! It's the "good luck, bad luck" story (as retold by Dan Millman in "Way of the Peaceful Warrior"). He should get the story straight before recounting it.

    • @JanandMonika
      @JanandMonika ปีที่แล้ว

      You are correct! I was paraphrasing to make a point. Had to keep it under a minute 😊

  • @natashakhan5196
    @natashakhan5196 ปีที่แล้ว

    He stopped saying because he doesn't love you anymore..

  • @dianezimmerman3662
    @dianezimmerman3662 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh please this is bull poo!

  • @xuyahfish
    @xuyahfish ปีที่แล้ว

    It's changing an F-ing light bulb! Next he's gonna say he needs a dissertation on changing a baby's diaper before he's willing to do anything at all.

  • @mattworm5011
    @mattworm5011 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm sorry this chick needs a body check how about I'm taking care of the lawn.,triming, trimming, fixing bathrooms, I do dishes, imaintain all aspects of the house I keep all the tools to fix whatever could go wrong. when my kid was in diapers I would gag just like anyone. I'd wake up am ,then go to work, leave to work a 2nd job. t come home and change work sometimes toll 2am and have to be in Rockville at 9.

  • @jillianjohnson452
    @jillianjohnson452 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sending to my hubby now!

  • @tinecielo713
    @tinecielo713 ปีที่แล้ว

    My bf says I can’t have both. He said I have to choose only one it’s either to hear the word “I Love You” or choose “actions like texting/calling me more often” but I can’t have both. I told him I want both but he said “no you can’t have both.” We’ve been dating for almost 2 yrs now but up until now I haven’t heard the word “I love You” at all. I would love to hear the word “I love You” coz it means the world to me to hear it from someone I love but he won’t do it. He said I can’t have both🥲

    • @xiexie89
      @xiexie89 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sounds controlling for some reason... that's so odd and conditional to make you "choose"

  • @mutehowl
    @mutehowl ปีที่แล้ว

    Head shrinker.

  • @Al-.-ex
    @Al-.-ex ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice

  • @MatrixRC
    @MatrixRC ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a husband of 12 years and I desire to say I love you to my as often as possible but it can become overwhelming for my wife because she doesn't have the same idea of the use of saving I love you as I do. Me hearing I love you encourages me to do more for my wife. It's love fuel for me to feel emotionally connected with a bit of physical touch. I get this from my father who always listened to his love music and he expressed it to his children. My wife isn't the most affectionate when it comes to saying I love you and I have to be honest it's a little draining because I don't hear it as often as I use it. However, she is a certain personality type that is introverted and loves acts of service. I believe saying I love you I also combined with acts of service as much as possible because if you truly love someone your words will match your actions. They should go hand in hand.

    • @JanandMonika
      @JanandMonika ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much for sharing! It’s beautiful how connected you are to your feelings and your own self-awareness around your needs. Sometimes people say I love you in ways that are not verbal. Monika also loves acts of service while I love words of affirmation. Perhaps you can try looking for all the ways she is saying I love you without saying the words…. Whether it’s acts of service or physical touch or quality time, she may be saying it in multiple ways that are different than words, but can still be received as loving.

  • @dr.feldthaus6137
    @dr.feldthaus6137 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't know man, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months today, and shit is just not feeling okay. Every time I want/tries to kiss her, she pushes me away, or slaps me "for fun", but I don't think it's funny. I want to feel her give me some love, or at least just her touch. I've already tried to talk with her about it, but she keeps saying, "I'm just not really into that stuff (cuddling, kissing or other kind of intimacy)", but every time she says that, I keep thinking "But I am...". I don't think I ask of mutch... I just want to feel the kind of love i give, back to me... god I feel pathetic

    • @JanandMonika
      @JanandMonika ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi... I'm sorry that you feel pathetic. Wanting to feel loved and receive physical touch are very normal. The most important thing is to not make it mean anything about you or that you're doing something wrong. I don't hear pathetic, I hear very normal and loving. You mentioned that you've been together for three months, has she ever been affectionate or is this something new?

    • @leeolie3728
      @leeolie3728 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thats abuse. Been there. Trade in

  • @edubbya
    @edubbya ปีที่แล้ว

    I discovered my wife had not let my dogs outside every morning bc she, “didn’t have time” but she has time to go to the gym and make herself breakfast. So this advice is shit

  • @Gr8tfuleveryday
    @Gr8tfuleveryday ปีที่แล้ว

    What about when his gossip effects my money? He talks about his issues with me to other people that then stop patronizing my business… help!

    • @Anonymous_Anon882
      @Anonymous_Anon882 ปีที่แล้ว

      There’s no point being in a relationship with someone you can’t trust. Cut him off.

    • @JanandMonika
      @JanandMonika ปีที่แล้ว

      Have you asked him why he feels the need to talk about your personal stuff with others? Have you shared how it makes you feel? If he needs a place to vent about stuff or get advice about your relationship, maybe you two can find a safe space for him that isn't a customer so that he can get it out without it impacting your business.

  • @kristiemcinnes304
    @kristiemcinnes304 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mine said it a million times a day for 18 months, now he won't. Why?

  • @ozzoakenshield7920
    @ozzoakenshield7920 ปีที่แล้ว

    My girlfriend says she loves me. But never shows it. I’ve only gotten three kisses in all of 2022, and she was drinking all three of those times. No hugging, no hand holding unless we’re in the presence of her family or friends. I have been with her for four years. I feel more like a roommate than a boyfriend. I feel unwanted and unloved. I’m incredibly depressed.

    • @goldeenboy4381
      @goldeenboy4381 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn bro ... Hurts a lot, what's the problem behind it in your opinion ?

    • @kartierkartierkarti
      @kartierkartierkarti ปีที่แล้ว

      i’m sorry man, you don’t deserve that. i would end it, if i were you

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dam dude I would of dumped her a long time ago

    • @MichaelBooker-mp9ug
      @MichaelBooker-mp9ug 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She cheating and she don't respect u

    • @bkstandard882
      @bkstandard882 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Why is she your girlfriend?

  • @Ricardo-su1nm
    @Ricardo-su1nm ปีที่แล้ว

    Very nice, thanks for posting. #1 place to + your subs 'promosm'!!!