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Im going to finish the video, but had to stop and say i can feel my connection to you just by watching you lol. I stumbled onto this topic partly because ive been looking at ADD material, as i went cold turkey off of truama, simulant, and anti-psychotics the other day-I've been on them for four years. My doctor, the last six months or so, I've been noticing, obviously noticing, has become impatient with me. She finally threw up her hands and said tgeres nothing else she xan do for me. The message kinda punched me in the chest. ive been ruminating on it for five weeks, where last week i deliberately fucked off the appointment because fuck her then. So i ditched five or six meds. Withdrawal? Yes. Mindfuck? No. How I perceive myself perceiving the world is totally the same. pardon my language too,bhut fuck big insurance and pharma, and, and, abd lol

I haven’t done an IQ test to put a number to my intelligence, but I don’t feel more intelligent than others. To me the way I perceive it is that so many people seem slower and can’t see the strings that connect the information together. I don’t fully trust doctors anymore, even psychiatrists, I have to fact check, research everything to do with meds especially. And it’s hard to know just how intelligent we are without a frame of reference, and even then it doesn’t seem so simple.

This has been so helpful. Thank you!

I really appreciate this, as a "heavy-hearted" man. I was inspired to look into this, as I've struggled with finding romantic connection partly because - as women have told me - I'm too serious. My work has bridged the environmental sciences and the mental health world, and I perpetually feel overwhelmed by the major existential crises we are facing all around the world, and the traumas we face both collectively and individually. It baffles me how anyone can have fun or be light-hearted in the face of such overwhelming despair, though I realize that most people dissociate from these topics, because they're simply too big and scary to face. But that being said, there have always been big and scary things happening in the world, and still, people have managed to live with lightness and joy. I'm hoping I can figure it out, for my own sake. Thank you for a very thoughtful video (though it's a few years old, so you might not see this).

I was told I was gifted by a teacher when I was 16. Nobody before this said this to me before. My parents were intellectuals and didn’t seem to notice.

Critical thinking is thinking, the rest is just regurgitation. Of course you can 'act dumb' if you don't 'follow the manual' at first, second and third iteration though... Let's go

Their definition of being smart is flawed. They think learning the multiplication table makes you smart. Had problems with my math teacher because he couldn't explain. Knowing facts is just a proxy of being smart that the dumb use to act smart...

So it's more of a signal than just angst, sounds like something positive to unwrap instead of a burden. Interesting way to become the actor instead

Is it common coming from a dysfunctional family and being gifted? For me I think the angst started to come when I knew there were no fixes. Tried to fix it but it was just hot air and then every other illusion broke as well.

Two brilliant people❤

Illuminating… ❤

How is giftedness being defined here? If it's not having a gift. What is it?

That explains the hoarding. Wanting the intensity by having 30 watches instead of just one.

I'm a genius.

Listen to your gut - great advice thank you! Wish more of my patients did that instead of jumping on every trending low-calorie ultraprocessed diet thingie they see on Instagram.

Two lovely women

They love to apply pathologies to all of these features. Sometimes it’s just part of being gifted.

Thank you ❤

At 30:38, we see Victoria-Rose marching words into a careful order to best express the message she wants us to hear - I was already relating to the topic of the video before I watched to that point, but this was the moment where I realized that I was really seeing myself. Thanks for that!

Gracias!

I'm gifted. I've known it because I had to get tested growing up. but I did not understand what it meant so I'm having to learn. this might be life changing. Thank you.

Hello Dianne. Have you considered speaking about Giftedness and Childhood trauma? It is quite a complex topic, I know. But I think it is needed. It could be a series of videos and I’d love to see what you can bring on this subject regarding your vast experience working with gifted people.

This is such a good reminder and reference. Thank you!

8:23 Soap operas . They wanted to fire him because he could not hold a conversation about bloody soap operas! 😂 If this alone doesn’t make you depressed, you can’t think. Truth is the others fear and envy to the point of not making use of the gifted’s abilities. Out of sheer spite. One of the reasons for which I cannot stand humans anymore.

7:51 Oh, yes. I have been called rude when pointed out the obvious in a polite manner. I used to be a rather nice person. Now I don’t give a fuck anymore. I am old, sick and tired of everybody’s bullshit. I am still trying to hide my mind to the point of being accused that I ask ‘stupid questions’ 😂

Can you pls do a video on profound giftedness 😊

So now that you know, What are you going to do with it?

Thank you for showing others who have enthusiasm and hand gestures when working with things they love. Even just hearing Jo saying it sometimes scares people off, but it is better to be genuine to yourself really helps. I get a lot of comments on hand gestures when speaking at work and comments on caring about things when most people do not. It’s pretty much impossible for me to not have those traits.

I don't love learning, I just want to know everything. Learning is more the water to the fish lol

You have such beautiful eyes. My father was manipulating, dominating and controlling. I went no contact

Thank you, Dianne. I just found you and I really needed these friendly reminders today! 🌹

I am older, and I think I had only few authentic connections. Realistically have almost none these days. I have one friend who is OK, but never had been in intimate relationship, I think of trauma related reasons. Any advice for that? I spent most of mylife alone.

Thank you Dianne! You are doing great work! Much what you said resonated with me. As I grew up I thought I was stupid, because people around me seemed so sure about everything, while I was questioning everything. People around me seemed to have such finite personalities while I struggled to find my own personality through a bunch of different personas that I used to try to connect to the world. I didn't realise that those with "finite personalities" probably where more one-dimensional than me, and that I had a richer world within me than them. Fortunately I have found great friends in life through my great passion of music, but a romantic relationship is still to come. I think a big reason is that I enjoy my own company so much and don't want to waste my time on a person who slows me down (sounds selfish and arrogant I know ;) ), combined with the fact that it's harder for gifted people to find each other, since we are a minority in society. But I haven't lost hope, and I find myself more forgiving towards myself and others as a get older, which helps in connecting with people. The untypical brain development that you describe was new to me, really interesting! It may explain why gifted people have almost like a "sixth sense", because they can process and filter information in such a rapid way that they see the greater picture instead of getting stuck in details. I have always been ashamed of my gifts because there is no worse feeling than the feeling of superiority towards others. It brings so much guilt, pain and feelings of isolation. Lately I try to see my gifts instead for what they are - gifts. I didn't choose them, they chose me, and then I feel very thankful. And I know that each one of us, gifted or not, have unique capabilities and unique perspectives of life. If we all could aknowledge and celebrate that, then there is a bright future for humanity. Now I have rambled enough haha. Great love to you all, over and out.

I was a gifted child and now im just a crazy person

It’s been so hard to understand and to realize that my problems in school, high school, work were not really what I thought. I felt different and I have suffered a lot. I’m crying a lot after watching this video. Thank you so much. It’s time to shine ✨

Is like a church, boring message as always

Great stuff, Dianne!

He doesn't age this guy ehat uou see is what you get hes definitely not a clown hes possibly just a very lucky man who has the gift of TV shame he had no staff management skills not anywhere near as bad Boyd cottington but almost he was a screaming skull and the deadline jobs crush staff

so there are the "gifted" and the "neurotypical", the special and the ordinary... What a pathetic view of the world.. This is also the seed of extremism and genocide.

Thank you for this discussion, what a powerhouse pairing between you two!

I don’t know many people who are also gifted and I was wondering if gifted people do well partnered together or if the intensity combined could be highly challenging.

Good ideas. The approach is fair, shows respect and allows people to be different.

I am even happy that the word intensity can be spoken of here and it’s not being labeled as a personal failure or fault to be changed but just a difference. That is reasonable and makes it less socially taboo.

I am so glad someone asked you to talk about this. Thank you!

Amen!!! I was praying for this 😭😭😭

I sure hope so.

Excellent and very informative video ‼

Thank you for having me! I really enjoyed sitting and talking about these things with you!!!

That is excellent what was said about empathy and making sure you treat people well and not beneath you. It would be a much kinder world if everyone embraced that kind of thinking.

Creativity, it is not common and has a different thinking process than neurotypicals and artists of all types are neurodivergent. Also, it is better for gifted people to actually use the word gifted because it doesn’t mean what most people think it does, but also gifted people seem to be thought of as not existing after adolescence. It helps people to have others like themselves represented in culture and you cannot do that unless you use the correct name.