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Why The Patriarchy Despises Women With Standards & Boundaries |Love is Blind HabibixDubai Bling pt.1
Video Chapters 🎬
Introduction (00:00)
Disclamer (3:10)
The Patriarchy & Double Standards (4:18)
Karma & Ammar (6:11)
Nour & Chafic (8:25)
DJ Bliss & Danya (12:00)
Consequences of Enforcing Double Standards (15:28)
Deflecting from Financial Responsibilities: "Gold Digger" (18:20)
Deflecting from Emotional Responsibilities: Dounia's Father on Hikmat Wehbi Podcast (21:29)
Nour & Dounia (28:07)
Conclusion (28:37)
Netflix has done it again with another Dubai-based reality series featuring cast members from across the Arab world. In this video, I explore the recurring patterns of misogyny, double standards, and patriarchal expectations in Love is Blind: Habibi and Dubai Bling.
Join me as I delve into:
✨ The portrayal of women challenging patriarchal norms.
✨ Examples of double standards in relationships.
✨ The cultural nuances of reality TV within Arab and Middle Eastern contexts.
✨ How women are pitted against each other, in real life, on-screen and by viewers online.
🚨 Disclaimer: This video reflects my personal perspective on these issues. It’s the first of a two-part series, with this part focusing on my observations and key takeaways. Part 2 will be more nuanced, drawing from your opinions and additional research.
🛑 Reminder: While this analysis critiques certain behaviors, it’s not about attacking individuals but using examples to highlight broader societal issues that affect us all.
💬 What You’ll See:
🔹 Patriarchal double standards in action (e.g., men setting expectations they don’t follow themselves).
🔹 The shaming of women as a deflection from men’s societal responsibilities.
🔹 A breakdown of controversial moments from the shows, including key examples like:
Karma vs. Ammar on traditional values and belly dancing.
Nour’s “no coffee dates” boundary vs. Chafic’s unrealistic expectations.
Dounia’s emotional boundaries and how they were challenged.
🤔 Let’s Discuss:
Why do some viewers uphold these double standards? How can we challenge the misogynistic norms rooted in cultural and societal expectations?
💡 Part 2 will unpack your opinions, explore cultural nuances, and discuss the Arab Middle Eastern Public Sphere
🐱 Stick around until the end for some cute cat pictures (thanks to my microphone deciding to unalive itself 🤦‍♀️).
📌 Don’t forget to:
👍 Like this video if you enjoyed it.
💬 Comment your thoughts to help shape Part 2.
🔔 Subscribe and turn on the notification bell so you don’t miss the next upload!
👉 Share this with friends who’d find it interesting!
Thank you for watching, and I’ll see you in Part 2! ❤️
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  • @saram217
    @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    What has matriachy ever done for anyone,never build a society or infrastructure or anything of use! Not everything is the mans faults,bashing men is very toxic mentality that effect your relationship, in the future when you have sons would you gaslight them into submission not allowing them to be masculine making them feminine,are you a supporter of non binary feminist men

  • @olliecolporteur8268
    @olliecolporteur8268 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    you look like troian bellsario

  • @englishblade
    @englishblade 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I think Asma is a better example of standards unlike Nour, Nour saying she doesnt like feminism and then saying in the reunion shes pretty and educated which is rare for women to have????? and the weird digs to another woman, girl was it really the comment to make especially in a room where Asma, Karma, Safa are successful business women and Dounia speaks 3 languages fluently while shes a model, closed world view if you think its either beauty or brains But some of the guys said their wants in similar weird fashion so Im not saying shes the only one wrong What I liked about Asma was she was upfront about her wants like wanting a guy who works out, wealthy, liked by her family, had her similar extroverted personality without trying to make it seem different or unique to other girls because shes so special

  • @PoliticsGirlie2.0
    @PoliticsGirlie2.0 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This is so soo good! Was looking for something intellectually stimulating on this LBH saga for weeks and this just hit the spot!!! Please keep making more videos, Sara. You killed it with this one :)

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Hi :) Thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed my video❤️

  • @Moonnine34
    @Moonnine34 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    You can initiate a divorce as a woman

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Women can technically initiate divorces but they don't have the same rights as men in divorce. If a woman wants to divorce a man, she can and its called khlu3a "خلع " -- but under this procedure the woman must leave her mehr and everything her husband gave her (clothes, money, furniture...) which puts women at an extreme disadvantage...

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Mehr? Thats hardly taken back by the guy

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@saramoustafagreenguy worked hard to earn ,what did the guy get in return ,women can keep their own guy has to share,like have you shared your money with a money im sure the men in your life have paid for you when haven't provided for any guy

    • @mraheem9214
      @mraheem9214 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@saramoustafagreen ignore saram! I'm a born again feminist 😊

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@mraheem9214 ignore me! You won't be saying that if saw me U HAMAR

  • @yahia9481
    @yahia9481 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Islam=

    • @awsomegirl3829
      @awsomegirl3829 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Not at all

  • @maithaali7232
    @maithaali7232 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Growing up as an Arab girl when I was younger and used to cry I remember my grandad used to console me and ask me honey why are you crying what do you want the moon I’ll get the moon if that’s what you want👸🏻. But these Arab boys on the show are EMBARRASSING 🥲.

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Saraa didnt coment on this coz you dont hate men

  • @SoZ-hr9gc
    @SoZ-hr9gc 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Saraaaaa, thank you for this wonderfull video essay, I just finished love is blind habibi and as always went down the rabbit hole of "what's happening outside the show". I was very frustrated while watching the show because of the double standards that were being applied to the women in the show. In the case of karma, nour and dounia it was just so infuriating to see them being attacked and ganged up against. And I was even more shocked when I saw the hikmat podcast, the disrespect was actually crazy. Dounia is old enough and wise enough to know what is her boundary and what the situation is. Like it's as if her emotions and her boundaries aren't valid as if they know better than her. They were litterally mansplaining forgivness to her. In that same podcast, they talked about the fact that nour says in the show that she "hates feminists" and they were saying that they don't understand why the feminists jumped on her side. They were using it to discredit and critisize feminists as well as Nour. Like "oh those crazy feminists defending someone that does't even like them". Just proves that chafic and hikmat don't understand feminism and never actually tried to. Anyways, you articulated your points so well and definitly put words on the way I was feeling, once again thank you.

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Hiii :) Thank you so much for your comment! I am really happy you enjoyed my video❤️🥺 I know exactly how you are thinking, and how you feel. I definitely plan on talking more about those issues in future videos!!

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@saramoustafagreenI feel sorry for you,you have trauma from the way the men in your life treated you

    • @mraheem9214
      @mraheem9214 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@saram217leave sara green shes my girl and she always pays for my meal,shes a strong independent woman that listens 🎶 to taytay😮

    • @saram217
      @saram217 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@mraheem9214 I'm fitter than her

  • @auseran-cv6ng
    @auseran-cv6ng วันที่ผ่านมา

    If your country was facing an external invasion from another tribe, you would beg for the patriarchy ! Criticize it if you choose but give it respect at least!

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Hi! I understand that there was a lot more nuance to "the patriarchy" that could have been covered, but here I am talking about how these values influence how women are perceived and treated today online, but also within modern societies... Thanks for your input though :)

  • @alyelhemasy8707
    @alyelhemasy8707 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Girl this video essay is so good OMG. My favorite cats are the ones in the boxes because they’re literally me 😂. Can’t wait for part 2 💐.

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much❤️!! Her name is Zoey she's one of my favourite cats too🥺

  • @cesararnold1
    @cesararnold1 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Back with another amazing video essay 🤩

  • @felixer6308
    @felixer6308 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Palestine, like the rest of the Levant, has a Mediterranean climate. Only the sparsely inhabited Naqab desert in the south does not. It's like people have never looked at a Köppen climate classification map or just at images of the countryside and nature in the region, it's as green as any other Mediterranean place. The Mediterranean climate extends anywhere from ca 100-250 km inland from the sea, which is were the vast majority of people in the Levant live, clustering along the coastline just like in other Mediterranean countries.

  • @maybedumbledore
    @maybedumbledore 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this take. All my homies acknowledge and tackle confirmation bias.

  • @elfskrc
    @elfskrc 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you are so smart i love this video

  • @AliiKattTalks
    @AliiKattTalks 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this!

  • @cesararnold1
    @cesararnold1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such an interesting and well made video well done!!

  • @TetsuoVI
    @TetsuoVI 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    While the argument could be made to compare Dune to other works which are without question orientalist, claiming Dune is as orientalist without reservation only highlights how little of the source material has been thoroughly read and understood.

  • @Bapmain100
    @Bapmain100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    اخسلي وجك💚

  • @Bapmain100
    @Bapmain100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    اخسلي وجك❤

  • @jamesmoss739
    @jamesmoss739 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think its important to remember that frank herbert was born a generation or 2 after the indutrial revolution. His ideas on emviromentalism much like GRR Tolkein is founded on an idelistic view of nature from a generation who saw the transition and them being in a generation living in the horrors only just now learning of them. They also write in naratives of mideval time politics and while colonial messages pop up in both works offten thats a product of the eventual transition of the time periods.

  • @babyyoda1898
    @babyyoda1898 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How can you misinterpret this much dune lore 😭😭😭 I don't agree on most politics of this but come on at least get the dune part right

  • @elrored
    @elrored 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm not a Dune expert, but from what I understand, Arrakis was made into a desert planet by the colonizers because this made spice-extraction easier. The Fremen are not waiting for their planet to turn green because they are being told to want it by outsiders, they want Arrakis to go back to what it was before colonization long ago. We could compare what an abundance of the spice melange did to Arrakis to what the oil-curse has done to countries like Nigeria. I while back I watched a video about Saudi-Arabia's desert greening and muslims in the comments were talking about a prophecy in Islam. Apperantly there is a hadith that says the land of Arabia will revert into meadows and rivers. If that is the case wouldn't that be a better analogy for the prophecy we see in Dune than "making the desert bloom"?

    • @RayDareda-f8n
      @RayDareda-f8n 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What your referring Are what are called in Islam as the final signs before the day of judgement basically our prophet gave us some signs that need to happened before the day of judgement some small signs and some big signs Pretty much it goes something like this The day of judgement will not happen until the deserts of Arabia are green ( which is kinda happening am not sure) Theres around 90 more I am not sure of the actual number

  • @kill4foods
    @kill4foods 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Prior to 1947 jewish lands were bought legally from palestinian/arab landlords. Cities such as telaviv emerged during british mandate palestine and were set up completely legally. Otherwise i enjoyed your video thank you.

  • @Suplex479
    @Suplex479 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There's a fundamental problem with calling the Jewish settlement a colonial force, as Jews have always lived in the land of Israel since over 4000 years ago. and in modern Israel its a objective fact that the KKL have turned a very large part of the desert into a greener, more prosperous environment, as well as made the north which was already quite green considerably more hospitable to animal life, reducing pollution of all kind and making the nature safer. but the video was interesting and spires a good discussion

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I see your point, of course there are some Jews that have been living in Palestine for over 4000 and more that arrived and integrated in Palestine during the Ottoman period like the Sephardic Jews... But Zionism as an ideology promotes settler colonialism, which may not be a "colonial force" but still a form of colonialism nonetheless -- thus Jewish settlers are key actors contributing to the broader Zionist colonial project.

    • @Suplex479
      @Suplex479 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@saramoustafagreen may I ask your exact definition of what Zionism is, why it promotes colonialism and why the jewish settlers specificlly from the past century or represent it and the previous ones not?

    • @Feefa99
      @Feefa99 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That doesn't mean, they should expel other ethnic minorities who lived there hundreds of years with the state power. Zionism is fundamentally nationalistic and colonial ideology justified by holy scripture. The entitlement of some person from Brooklyn to willingly take land family who lives there 700 years is criminal.

    • @Feefa99
      @Feefa99 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Suplex479It requires ethnostate, where is only in one ethnic group, therefore other groups are excluded. It's inherently nationalistic and colonial ideology.

  • @siddamo8256
    @siddamo8256 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    But they don’t believe that Paul will make the dessert bloom though. They are saving water to eventually turn it green through their own effort. Also isn’t turning the desert green bad for the colonizers in the movie?

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have heard both arguments -- yes it is good and bad for the colonizers. Honestly, I was just using Dune to link into another issue so take anything I said about dune with a grain of salt 😅

  • @erm12341
    @erm12341 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    by the way it hypocritical of you to live in us (i assume) which is land stolen from natives by colonialists and criticize israel .

    • @jamesmoss739
      @jamesmoss739 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A murder can still realize murder is bad. A colonizer cam still call another colonizers bad.

  • @erm12341
    @erm12341 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    by your own logic , arabs are the real settlers in the region , israel was jewish land way before islam was invented . the place was called judea (the word jewish comes from) , betlhem , Jerusalem , nazreth are jewish cities , there was never a state/people called Palestine. Israel invented irrigation and many other agriculture techniques , israel today is successful not because of foreign money rather by the people of israel who are creative and hard workers . money doesn't buy creativity just ask all the rich gulf states who rely on imported water , or jordan another oil rich country wo rely on israeli water . i know its hard burst your "Noble savage" "white saviour" theory but it doesn't apply here

    • @yafufuf6694
      @yafufuf6694 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The video is a wider commentary on the issue of environmental orientalism not just in Dune and Israel, but in the western social consciousness. It's an undeniable fact that it's a problem, (even if its not a problem in Dune). Israel factually did not create irrigation, its been around for thousands of years. It's an Israeli misconception that they created a new form of it. You're argument is dangerous as it suggests there's some genetic difference in the creativity and work-drive of an Israeli compared to its neighbours. I'm pretty assured in thinking they would have done just as well given the same resources, like a subsidised development for most of their existence. There have always been Palestinian people. The fact that Israel has taken their right to self determination which was achieved by so many countries in the 20th century does not somehow invalidate that. And also, a country present five thousand years ago does not give justification for ownership of land today. Imagine if I went to your house and claimed it to be mine because my ancestors owned it a millenia ago, you'd rightfully laugh me out! And sure, those cities have had Jewish populations, that does not mean Israel has a right to their ownership. At most they have a legitimate right to the cities they built from the ground up like Eilat.

    • @pseudonymousbeing987
      @pseudonymousbeing987 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@yafufuf6694 Human cultures are different and have different goals and achievements. People born into different groups usually conform to their groups ways of doing things

  • @bohabbibab5858
    @bohabbibab5858 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Give me my brain cells back please

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't give back what wasn't there to begin with :/

  • @gammaian
    @gammaian 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You know that keeping Arrakis as a desert is in the interest of the invaders and not the opposite, right? No desert means no spice. I think you are missing the narrative's main threads, but I appreciated your attempt - subbing to see what you will make next.

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Heyyy :) Yeah, I know that it was a bit of a stretch -- but I just wanted to use Dune to link to a wider topic. Thanks for the feedback and the sub!

    • @gammaian
      @gammaian 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@saramoustafagreen Love any attempt to trace pop culture back to what is happening in our world, so keep going!

  • @ragabutler89
    @ragabutler89 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do you think that dune is endorsing tropes such as the white savior, orientalism, making the dessert bloom and all that? Because it feels like thats what you're trying to say. I may be wrong but i don't think i am. But if you are i really don't think you understand dune

    • @Feefa99
      @Feefa99 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's critique of such tropes

  • @jeff_underscore9244
    @jeff_underscore9244 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Uh oh stupid opinion on a topic you know nothing about alert

  • @vuvuvu6291
    @vuvuvu6291 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Between Paul Atreides in Arrakis and Jake Sully in Pandora on a nutshell they actually play the same scenario but with different settings. No matter what, who, where, and when; colonization, exploitation, and war for the sake of power and resources, how religion become the most powerful driving force for the oppressed to prevail against their aggressor will always playout again and again in humanity history.

  • @romegypt5675
    @romegypt5675 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is just wrong to a ridiculous degree.

    • @adamvanschoor9093
      @adamvanschoor9093 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you make many valid points. can't argue with that.

    • @erm12341
      @erm12341 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol , and she say all of this with such confidence it really say a lot about the current generation.

  • @yafufuf6694
    @yafufuf6694 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    An interesting argument but a stretch nonetheless

  • @cesararnold1
    @cesararnold1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another great video keep it up!!

  • @kaiss5793
    @kaiss5793 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg i loved ur analysis Tysm for your work !!! Hope ur channel will grow up as much as ur ideas <333

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tysm🥰🥹💗 you’re so sweet!

  • @ZaneZane.rodhan
    @ZaneZane.rodhan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the video

  • @mariamalmokayyad3968
    @mariamalmokayyad3968 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving the video is informative yet light 🙏🏻💪🏻🫶🏻

  • @Adam-ui6pi
    @Adam-ui6pi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video!!! Keep up the good work!

  • @rainy905
    @rainy905 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You did bring up an excellent point when discussing the cycle of violence and added some cultural context of the Middle East as a whole. As for the cycle of violence displayed in the show, it is quite universal based on my observations during my school days. in retrospect, some of my classmates were probably dealing with some of the things you've mentioned in the video ( to add some context, let's just say that I live in an ethnically diverse city). I watched al-rawabi out of curiosity, after watching your video, I do question if Jordan has any issues regarding censorship? When displaying social issues on media there are limitations on what you can discuss and show, especially in a socially conservative state.

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There definitely is censorship to a certain extent but it depends how you frame it ;) As for your previous point, I definitely agree that some aspects of the show are universal (like bullying the cycle of violence, mental and in season 2 social media...) but the show does a good job at portraying these issues from an Arab perspective all while maintaining its universality.

  • @harrowbuckley7215
    @harrowbuckley7215 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i love that somebody finally made a video about al-rawabi - the way you analyze it is really in-depth and interesting! I was surprised this was your first video bc it was so good lol - it would be awesome if you had the time to make a video analyzing the specific characters or something!

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the comment🥰 I have a character analysis video planned for another show, but I definitely like the idea of making one for al-rawabi😉! Thanks for your input💖

  • @thejjfam2011
    @thejjfam2011 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hii! You seem soo nice and your so cute. When your video popped up on my feed i was thinking you were a big youtuber but you just started. Anyways i subbed ❤️

    • @saramoustafagreen
      @saramoustafagreen 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hiii, Thank you very much! you're so sweet💖 Thanks for being one of my first subscribers!🥰❤