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Yep! I find a lot of NT peeps assume it's the others fault when something goes wrong, and a lot of ND folks (myself included) assume its their own fault. Others also don't seem to value what I value. Huge disadvantage as having a big ego is quite beneficial in this place. Not that I'd want a huge ego, but it must be a lot easier!

Disclaimer - apologies for the massive essay below. I find it difficult to condense thoughts down, and always feel a bit silly commenting on TH-cam videos in the first place. Anyway, did a full thought dump knowing you won't judge. Thank you in advance!... This was an interesting discussion with Frits, and I feel it supports the hunters in a farmers' world theory. And it's so true about it being difficult to find a leader we want to follow. To add a counter-point, I find the fact that we're forced to become our own leaders frustrating, and perhaps like treating the effect rather than the cause. On being the leader of a pack in a corporate environment - I completely relate and you described it so well. It really hit home about how issues lay with interfacing with the outside world, and specifically, us being The Interface. I also enjoyed the term 'object of criticism'. We're our own worst critics at the best of times, but being objectified/vilified in this way can be so damaging. And I feel there's often gas-lighting done by the perpetrators. Almost like we become the convenient object upon which to project and blame their own shortcomings. __ Final point(s). A few months ago I commented on one of your other videos, and you kindly responded asking if there were any topics I'd be interested in you covering in the future. This set off a symphony of ideas around which topic I'd choose and then, naturally, I never got around to actually replying! So drumroll...here is my suggestion: It's around disclosing ADHD in the workplace, which I know you've discussed various times in the past. However if you do cover it again, I've noticed an uptick this year in people being managed out after disclosing their ADHD. This is purely anecdotal though, as it's based on friends contacting me about it happening to them, or one of their colleagues or other friends. There have been reports online about the increase in ADHD-related tribunal claims, but I haven't looked into statistics. The pattern seems to be: 1. The workplace has positioned/championed itself as a D&I embracing company. 2. They disclose their ADHD to their manager/HR and get a very supportive response. Reasonable adjustments made etc. 3. The covert managing-out starts. Performance improvement plans, constructive dismissal etc. What I find most interesting (disturbing) about this pattern is that the disclosure seems to put a spotlight on any issues they had in the job prior to the disclosure. So what may have been a relatively small and manageable performance issue, is now magnified. And that appears to trigger an almost immediate, and accelerated managing out process. If this anecdotally-based theory holds any weight in the wider world, it's deeply concerning. And it does makes sense that no matter how much lip-service a company gives to D&I, they can't change the unconscious bias of individual managers within the organisation. And to use legal jargon, this leads to a betrayal of the 'implied term of mutual trust and confidence'. People being lured into a false sense of security to disclose. The end. Thanks for reading, and no response expected or required!

Matthew, your mind going blank at direct questions was so delightfully relatable! It's mind-boggling how neurotypical people can apparently fish information out of their brain on demand. And on workplace jargon, I could rant about it ad nauseum, but still can't think of a single actual example. My brain has pathologically rejected the demand to retrieve five words from its filing system. Oh just thought of one - KPIs! Also, huge thanks for your amazing videos and interviews. They're so insightful, fascinating and helpful and you're a brilliant ambassador for neurodiversity. It's a joy working through your channel!

Hope you'll get a lot more subscribers :)

Very interesting information thank you

The label for me was a revelation. I wasn't a moral reprobate. I wasn't lazy or stupid. I just had fairly bad ADHD that was exhausting to constantly mask. I could explain to someone NT that i was late not because i didnt value their time, but i stuggled with time blindness. I sometimes get dinged professionally, but I'm also unfailingly honest about my struggles & failures which gives me integrity as well.

Deep and meaningful esoteric conversation. Thanks, Mathew and Ade for this fellowship of sankofa.

really encouraging to hear others talking about these ideas in ways that give me the encouragement that my own thinking about this question over the years hasn't been that far 'wide of the mark' thirdsectorexpert.blogspot.com/2011/06/whats-point-of-qualifications.html

Clearest exposition of 'Membership' yet seen. Thanks Adrian.

Hey Kendra and Matthew!! I’ve just played ep62 of Stepping Off Now and now I know about Matthew’s vlog and I have another cool content creator to follow :) I absolutely LOVE your discussions as I’m equally curious and in agreement about what you both have to share with the world vis a vis intuitive creativity and neurodivergent minds. I nod along with so much of this stuff. It’s so heartwarming hearing people like me talk so openly, honestly and empoweringly about these two threads which seem to intersect so naturally. Much praise to you both. Thank you!! ❤️🙏

Enjoyed listening to this enormously!

Thanks for having me on the show. I really enjoyed it!

Very interesting.

The content you've been creating is really high-quality Matthew, congrats on achieving that. To reach more people and increase engagement, it might make sense to break down bigger videos into smaller themed bits with a title that identifies that part of the conversation. Also, it can help your audience to navigate your conversations if there were timestamps based on the different topics you address in the conversations. Keep up the good work!

Really like the concept and I'm looking forward to seeing it grow. Congrats for the channel Matthew, already am a follower. Cheers