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Such an insightful poem and interpretation.

Thank you. Thank you. You are an amazing teacher.

Thank you so much, Sir

If we are still working on getting what we were denied, isnt the ability to get that from another adult lost in adult peer relationships since adult relationships cannot be parental in nature…. The most an adult can provide to another is the reality of partner constancy- ie not ending a connection due to the authenticity the needs the imperfections of the other….if sufficient safety exists…. BUT they /we cannot *guarantee* a connection due to the potential for abuse and neglect . Adult relationships are conditional. I therefore wonder if transference is safe and healing in therapy but not healthy in partnership if either partner is trying to receive Unconditional acceptance and caretaking - or inversely being unconditionally loving or caretakey - as a child should get from a parent- and a parent give to a child. But not a life partner who must mutually caretake mutually be cared for mutually leave and return without incident and mutually remain bonded despite all emotions

😢 beautiful healing talk

Thank you ❤

How Dr. Richo used himself as an example with giving the lecture & others’ positive responses to him at the end, was a great way of showing what he was trying to teach. I especially liked what he said about positive shadowing.

Amazing instant follower. Does not pontificate and talk over your head. For this impossible profession, Doctor Richo is just what the doctor ordered.

Trust must be EARNED by all people,especially those who act as if they they do care. Must trust yourself,sit in Silence and go within. Anger is NEVER Healthy. That is why it's only safe to be Alone in the Silence

Anger is abuse going to far. I will never tolerate it after what I have experienced with abandonment and this therapist.

I totally disagree. You as a therapist shouldn't be afraid to tell the client the truth especially when they are directly asking for it

For me,as a client, the reliance ENDS when you are abandoned by your therapist

12:50

The Best.

Is this an MLM course?

Thank you

Amazing. Wish parts 2 and 3 had better audio but love this presentation.

5:58+ "#trust the #love goes on whether or not the person is present effects the possibility of adult #faith even when he she is silent or absent, ...object constancy" (& this is freedom) He is right to want to eliminate both codependency and fear knowing that there are either hate motivated or untreated mentally unstable delusional abusers who want you to be codependent and always on the defense... especially if no one ever helps you-- ( very Easton ellis American psycho).. But in many ways you can achieve even more space and longevity for this successful cooperative & #biometric #cognitivemodel if you know where *passively* (& especially preferable in a passive way for obvious reasons not covert but mutually biometrically passive) because with a higher rate of probability you can defend each other inn a #defensesystem- from the very same people who create a delusional abusive codependency with you terrorizing you with zero valid witness with a universal valid witness: everyone sees the #terrorist #lying & everyone also sees your understandable #fear & what you are actually doing--- when you are not being #abused & #terrorized by #terrorists who want you to be passive & codependent *to them* *abusers liars* so that the work & agency of intelligence can algorithmically increase the model of all degrees of freedom as the main cognitive model

3:20+ brilliant "having tried & failed again now I can try (healthy transference) with you" with everything so far up to this point part one im totally my mind is blown because I know he knows so many of us have been abused to death without a single witness validating serious serious documented crimes against us this is why what he says applies to holocaust deniers

16:20

This is a fascinating subject. Immediately after listening to this, I started watching for transference in my interactions with people. Like for example telling myself not to make my boss into my critical, emotionally distant father. I think that has given me problems with authority all my life. Being aware of it gives me a better opportunity to see him as just another person like me instead of this projection of my father.

What a brilliant presentation, all three parts so clear. Thank you!!

Outstanding …….excellent info.

Self soothing is key to healing yourself ….you Reparent yourself…..works beautiful healing

David Richo is brilliant……explains beautifully and safely

Only just introduced to his books. Brilliant. I’ve done the healing work and it continues……his brilliant explaining makes me feel at home with myself. Knowing the healing has been effective as I now live in the healthy paradigm. Life is now so peaceful and open to possibility of what it brings, not clinging but with allowing and be-ing. I now give myself the 5A’s and accept no less (appropriately) on my journey.from the outer world mirroring back.

Waste of time

I love the way this man speaks. So eloquent and captivating. I don't know where we went wrong in society to elect someone like Jordan Peterson as our designated public intellectual in the field of psychology rather than Dave Richo or Gabor Mate.

Sooo good! I have a curious question. How come a therapist wants to make all the steps in 5 A:s when its same steps in love? Isnt that a lot of fake against the patient, so to speak? I mean, it is really easy to make someone feel hustled if that is happening or am I wrong?

3 excellent lectures. I learned so much. Thank you. Ines

Nice

This is all good, but if I were a Therapist, I would be listening to his wise insights on self reflection.

Thank you!! Wonderful teacher🎯

If i understand what is wrong with me, on a detailed psychological level, i am aware to it all, is that enough to fix it/change myself?

Thank you for this lecture

brilliant - thankyou

Very informative , easy made especially with reference to practical examples...very beautiful Thanks Dr.

My therapist seems to be totally letting my my parent off hook for key life issues affecting my life today making comments like "well it would have been nice..." I initially really like this therapist and actually still do but I am starting to notice a pattern of feeling of getting an underlying message that I am in so many words being given the message that I am the one to blame. I am glad I just happened upon your video.. I had a session today I end up saying to my therapist what is it that you think of me? It feel like you are blaming me. I am really truly wondering what is going on here and what my therapist really think of me and what I may have conveyed over the past year or so that she comes off at me this. And as far as interruptions from my therapist.. that has become a staple in our sessions at this time. And then, on other end when I actually feel bad about not following through on something I'd intended to do and tell her how I felt bad about it... then I'd get like a weird opposite reaction which is still sweet "coddling" hidden "blame" response at end of the day such as "Oh I think your being to hard on yourself." So now I am being to hard on myself for just expressing how I felt about something I did. And reason it bothered me was because - it was like she was deflecting addressing the real issue which was not in any way addressed nor resolved by the response she gave. Hope this makes sense - do you think its what your talking about and/or "transference - counter transference" in this video going on or what 😩 ?

Exceptional lecture, thank you 🙏

Thank you. This is an amazing lecture. Within both the contexts of Counselling and in real life.

All 3 brilliant lectures, learned a lot. Thanks Dave.

What a magnificent teacher!I am so greatful to have watched you!

There are 3 parts to this talk. All 3 are free on my website: davericho.com The talks are based on my book "When the Past is Present" (Shambhala)

Amazing clarity! Thank you, Dr Richo.

Hi everyone, we recently interviewed Dr. Richo on our podcast, called Angel Empire. We interviewed him about his book How to Be an Adult in Relationships and finding love in a late-capitalist society. We cover the mindfulness trend, Eastern vs. Western approaches to finding happiness, phases of relationships, when to get married, our 'shadow side', ego, and more. (Angel Empire is a comedic commentary on life under late-stage capitalism that examines culture, politics, tech, work, and leisure. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts. Warning: explicit content.)

Hi everyone, we recently interviewed Dr. Richo on our podcast, called Angel Empire. We interviewed him about his book How to Be an Adult in Relationships and finding love in a late-capitalist society. We cover the mindfulness trend, Eastern vs. Western approaches to finding happiness, phases of relationships, when to get married, our 'shadow side', ego, and more. (Angel Empire is a comedic commentary on life under late-stage capitalism that examines culture, politics, tech, work, and leisure. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts. Warning: explicit content.)

Hi everyone, we recently interviewed Dr. Richo on our podcast, called Angel Empire. We interviewed him about his book How to Be an Adult in Relationships and finding love in a late-capitalist society. We cover the mindfulness trend, Eastern vs. Western approaches to finding happiness, phases of relationships, when to get married, our 'shadow side', ego, and more. (Angel Empire is a comedic commentary on life under late-stage capitalism that examines culture, politics, tech, work, and leisure. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts. Warning: explicit content.)

Excellent Video! FR

Thank you Sir. Very well explained. "Mirroring, Idealising, Twinship" - I just realised that Rudolf Steiner (1920s and 30's) spoke about these three stages in his intuitive work on soul/child development; namely "Goodness, Beauty, Truth" (also known as our nerve-sense system / heart-lungs system / metabolism-limbs system). Even as adults, our soul has many opportunities to transform ourselves through the conscious therapeutic relationship with our clients.

Great lecture, thanks! 😊