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Only white trauma matters right. Don't expect to be successful when fighting patriarchy when you don't acknowledge black traumas and muslims arab being annihilated since 3 decades by Americans and zionist. Sincerely. 🇸🇾🇮🇷🇮🇷🇵🇸.

Wonderful video ❤

I seem to have GHIA activation, and I was unfortunately, and distressingly, made much worse by SE therapists. They weren’t able to explain what was going on in a way which made sense to me, so I had no map, which made me way more anxious. I’m now terrified of making my situation worse - if my system settles, surely by muscles will relax, which will unleash a whole load of stored trauma. I was led to believe that I needed to discharge all this energy first, but it’s just built and built and now my system is like a pool of piranhas, all the time.

I'm glad to hear that this has a name. I've been through nonstop traumatic experiences, since I was a toddler, and still am. I've tried to kill myself 30 times, since I was 10 years old. I feel like killing myself every single day. I get through with self harm coping mechanisms, since I don't have anything else.

Over 5 decades of mental health professionals, and I've never heard this term. I focused on the topic for several hours and it is obvious as can be that I illustrate most of these symptoms. Hospitalization is not always the correct avenue. I have spoken to my therapist in detail concerning how far I can push it before she commits me to better understand my boundaries. Additionally, I suspect she may consider me a high risk patient which means she is confident in herself to take me on which implies she really wants to help me. I avoid using the "S" word, suicide is not synonymous with euthanasia, not the same ballpark, not even the same sport. A guaranteed death by accident, illness or euthanasia are all fine by me, bring it on. I don't want to be forced to take matters into my own hands one day, having been on the precipice I can tell you, it's a lonely, dark place I hopefully will not venture to again. It's not a matter of if, for all biology it's a matter of when, even sponges perish at some point. I'm satisfied and happy with life up until the drunk crippled me, now I gotta learn to cope? Besides, I lived enough adventure for 10 lifetimes, so no complaints. Once you've been a wolf it's hard to become a sheep. I want to die and I think about it a dozen or more times everyday for over a decade.

Deleting comments, truthful comments. Sad. Two thumbs down!

Life is pointless, mental health “help” is a cash grab scam. Wake up,.. this host is clueless like most women.

Please elaborate on insomnia

This kinda drives me nuts. As someone with this beginning at the age of 18, the idea that no one would know about your chronic suicidality until you are 53 and were invited to a TED talk is surprising. This makes it clear that he began talking about it largely because it granted him status and prestige. He brags quite a bit during this interview.

lol... seems a bit reactionary and chauvinistic when conclusion is "it's the Jews!" or "it's the liberals," "it's the women!" "It's the men!" I don't doubt many women have trauma from causes including gender roles, bit don't for one second think White women have been "oppressed for thousands of years by the men." Tell me, were all the millions of Indians (& others) killed by Britain harmed due to matriarchy (Queen Vic)? Look at pics of your Grandma- if she looks proper she likely had much more privilege than the multitude of men who suffer. Sure, you have a point if your family was too poor to have photos or genealogy beyond a few generations. Tell me, does Oprah and Queen Vic and Taylor Swift prove all non-billionaire men are oppressed by women? Or would that be a small, unrepresentative sample? Likewise women in America are IN EVERY MEASURE living far better life outcomes than men. Live much mich longer, spend more, more likely to have families & kids, favored in court system, schools, and in all surveys women are favored by men & women.

Thanks for sharing your struggles Empowering human experience and perseverance too move forward.

Patriarchy killed Afrika's humanity and keeps Afrika poor, existing as politics, religion and tribalism.

This video has been very helpful. I do think of self-deletion quite often since my mid 30s, I'm 53 now. When I turned 40, in fact on my birthday, I kind of declared the following decade my "decade of immortality". I promised myself I'd travel the world and go through at least most of the items on my bucket list. Well, so I did. Now, a feeling of emptiness has settled. I have nothing else to go on with. I do want things to end but fear the level of physical pain might be necessary to accomplish self-deletion. Not to mention the shame of not being successful at it. Yes, the very people who say they'll miss you if you do it are the ones shaming you for not being able to bring the act to completion.

I find myself taking a more passive approach to these feelings these days, in that I cant seem to be bothered to eat much anymore. I"m watching (with mild curiosity) as my weight slides down into numbers I dont remember seeing as an adult (around 90 lbs at present) and wondering how long my body will continue to endure!?!

Thank you for doing this video. This explains so many things that I have experienced and watched throughout my whole life and how oppression is affecting us, because we are told we are worth-less culturally. PSD patriarchy stress disorder, helps us makes sense of what is going on. Thanks for having Dr Valerie Rein on to explain this.

It is naive to think that Patriarchy Stress Disorder affects only women. It affects women and anyone being raised by women. Meaning it affects whole generations of men. Patriarchy is the failure of a man to grow up and become independent and self reliant. It comes from and is a reaction to falsely anticipated failure to independently socialize and cooperate with others. It then becomes it's own worst enemy. Patriarchy is the sabotage of the next generation of human. Patriarchy fights it's own kind for the control of women and children towards the physical pleasure of socially isolated boys with exaggerated fear of hunger, abandonment and death. Patriarchy today takes the form of democracy, capitalism, religion, tribalism, communism, human trafficking and colonialism.

Explains the rampant anxiety inherent in Jews--waiting for the next pogrom. The rising anti-Semitism doesn't help.

I'd rather die than go back to a mental hosptial (i was involuntarily hospitalized years ago for bipolar 1 mania). That is why i do not disclose my chronic suicidality to therapists. The main reason i havent done it is because it is hard to find a 100% successful method. i dont want to wake up worse off from a failed attempt.

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im a MFT and Substance abuse counselor supv this is my soap box on the sel;f of the therapist outstanding and very important

Thank you for giving voice to the largely unnamed and unacknowledged issue that a number of us grapple with. Having suicide register as an aoption for large and small issues really resonated for me. I have realized there's always an element of hopelessness and overwhelm at play for me, even with the "small" problems. I have learned that acknowledging these feelings, and having curiosity about what solutions might surface if I sit still with the feelings and ask the universe for possibilities, something will open up for me. Frank, your humor and candor are such valued resources. Hopefully there will be more voices speaking out about this as you continue to share your ideas and stories.

What about pain? This is the hardest part for me personally. How can I live in pain and just accept it? i am considering an antidepressant that is supposed to help the pain a bit. This really isn't appropriate for me, because my anxiety is driven by the pain. If I could just relax and let the pain hurt me AND not worry. That would be great.

So let me get this straight, even for children you guys are writing letters for blockers, surgeries and HRT within 1-2 sessions? And yall see NOTHING wrong with that?

We get it, you want to go to Hell. Just stop ruining other people’s lives.

I’m not doing good

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That was so helpful!

What is the book he is reading from

Great jumping juniper berries - thanks for sharing this online.

I have recently discovered Claire Weekes ‘hope and help for your nerves’. It is a wonderful book which has helped me a lot. It resonated with me so much

What's the problem with him not being American ?

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This was soooo helpful. Thank you so much!

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I have fear of illness and death how can I do experiments???

Thank you for celebrating juneteenth!

I am a grad student in counselling psyc, a full time addiction counsellor and a mom. Guess what. This video is much needed. Thank you.

Makes so much sense now. Because an inner child would want to (be able to only) smack someone.... Now I get why he didn't knock him out. Because that is what a MAN would do. Good assessment indeed 💙🕊💙

This idiot supported the convoy. I don't know that I would be promoting anything about her.

Hi, this is Ellen. Yes, you can do them by yourself for sure. However, they are probably most effective when they can be done in the context of a supportive relationship with a guide or practitioner. The relationship contributes to the healing and shift:))

Thank you!!

Can one do it by themselves or does it need to be done with a practitioner

Hi Margo and Dave I’m here in Australia listening and the words spoken here are amazing cheers joey

John, I've done the same thing-put poems right on FB. Heavy, heavy poems about my mom's death, and the abuse in my family history. I always feel torn about it--like it's unseemly in some way--even though many seem to get something from it. Thank you-hearing how you write on FB makes me feel better about doing this!

A great idea…. and one to work hard on

I’m currently battling right now lol

I’ve been battling anxiety since I was 12 I’m almost 33.

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Why does anxiety attacks bring on bowel movements at the time of an attack?

Very interesting. I, too, would be interested in this app. Thanks for sharing your story, and your tool to continue to move forward.