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Thank you for this informative video, which couldn't have been easy to do. I hope for your continued recovery. I'm appalled at the medical professionals allowing this to happen to people. Trans "healthcare" is nothing more than experimental. It's an absolute disgrace.

You two okay?

Attraction is a powerful thing. When lesbians date trans guys, they are not now straight or bi. Lesbians KNOW the trans guy is actually a woman. Some lesbians are into butch women and that's how trans guys read to them. A lot of them ARE or WERE butch lesbians (but that's a topic for another day). To be nice or PC, they might say they are now bi or "queer" now that they have a trans guy partner, but they would never date a biological guy. Sounds like Paul read Ria as a woman too. People who identify as trans need to realize this truth about medical transitioning- you may modify your body to be more similar to that sex, but you can't completely change sex nor can you convince romantic partners that you are the "same" as that sex.

Can‘t imagine the endure wearing a binder, I struggle with bras already!! I don‘t like the mimimizing names used in the transcommunity: binder, top surgery, bottom surgery. It sounds so harmless but is soo horrific in consequences. That‘s why i‘m so thankful for your honesty!! The binder is so damaging and many girls say „Oh it‘s just like wearing a sports bra!““ If you buy the right brand you‘ll be fine!“ That‘s so dangerous! I‘m sorry you have gone through all that and are dealing with longterm issues. And then the medical field that let you down so much is especially disappointing! I love hiking, don‘t know how I could take not being able to do that anymore😢 I hope you can recover from as many symptoms as possible! I hope you can get pregnant! Maybe it just takes some more time for your body to adapt, to heal! And yes, I think you did the exact right thing trying to take action on your own. Often nature is taking back over to heal your body but it takes time and many people are used to taking medicine expecting an immediate effect and then go on w their lives as if healing, getting better wouldn‘t take time. It takes time but through the meds we get the impression it‘s done by taking heavy meds.

It is appreciated to be able to watch this from people appear normal and aren't living in clown world like so many "influencers" I see.

Thank you. I wld definitely love more content.

You look amazing so proud of you

Doctors be getting rich by all this trans surgeries and medications that ultimately provide job security as the trans folks are develop life long health problems.

I used to be nonbinary before it was even called that, I became confused about my identity when I was using meth, and I didn’t want to have the male role when I was using, I’m very anti transgender cuz I don’t wish that kind of life on anyone, my cousin is about to remove her breasts at age 17, it’s so horrible and she’s been on testosterone for awhile now, you shouldn’t need hormones and surgeries to be who you are, I just feel bad for transgender people, it’s mental illness, we need therapy for people falling into this trend, and we have so many adults confusing young children, can you even imagine our society ten years from now, men used to protect children and women and now we don’t fight to protect them anymore, it’s so pathetic, kids should be allowed to be innocent until they grow older, the lgbtq community is going after children, when I’m not using hard drugs I’m proud to be a man and I’m masculine, but those drugs had me so confused and twisted, I was neither male or female I was a demon, now I have god a lot closer to my heart, good video, I’m very interested in everything transgender cuz I want to fight against people destroying their bodies and their lives

May I ask what is the age difference between you guys? I am 50 and my girlfriend is 33 and I and I am curious if there any challenges with your age difference.

Interesting video thank you for sharing I am sure it is not always easy to talk about, but your story is helping people!

Fabulous interview. Thank you. So many will benefit from you sharing your journey.

James Lindsay at New Discourses nails it.

Thanks Ria and Paul. This information is badly needed. Keep going-so much hate from people who supposedly preach love 😔

I was a tomboy also. I had many mental issues as an adolescent. Fortunately transitioning was not a thing in my childhood. Thank-you for your honesty.

Thank you for this informative conversation. We all need to more fully understand how this phenomenon will affect us as individuals and society and medical. I am almost a septuagenarian, (female bi) I was a tomboy and remembered not wanting my breasts to grow, and I remember playing hide and seek with my cat. I would run to hide and would take a tight turn as I entered the hallway. One day I hit my hip on the turn. It took me awhile to figure it out. I was athletic and understood form. My hips were forming! I was 11-12 And then full puberty hit. (13 1/2) I put on weight, got moody and basically forgot about those years (I was not happy about it for about three years. At 16 I pretty much, all of a sudden, was ok again. I am an A to AA cup. Which was a relief to me. Now with this Gender Phenomenon I have been recalling things like the above. Growing breasts, becoming moody and putting on 20-30 pounds is not easy on a young Tom boy. Probably not for any female. I have more friends than I can count who are trans . I was in The Bay Area (and ask of those friends are from my generation, though we didn’t have the same societal rules as now) But I was a young adult during the time that androgyny was accepted. I cannot help but believe that this new gender thing is hypocritical: if gender doesn’t mean anything, then wtf? I stumbled upon this video. Your voice is important. Best of health to you!! PS: I originally thought that puberty blockers and hormones would be fantastic! We all heard about them about a decade ago? Maybe longer. I remember talking with friends and saying things like: this is great!! People can choose !! But now I am 100% against puberty blockers. To cause a child to become unable to orgasm should be enough to stop the use! Let alone the other side effects. It is not our place to take away healthy physical mechanisms. And it’s creepy to me that kids are being bombarded with strange sexual ideas. WE ALL KNOW THAT PEOPLE COMING OFF AGE WILL FIGURE IT OUT IN THEIR OWN. Other than teaching biological scientific facts. We truly should not be steering anyone into a maze of sexual practices. It is none of our business. Full stop. I hope the typos and grammar are not too bad. I am on a tiny phone. It would take a good 30 minutes to correct them. Anyhoo: thank you and wishing you all the best. 24:01

Thank you for embracing your true reality. 👏

Oooh I hated dolls too…I just couldn‘t get what other girls liked at them. Dead plastic or other cold material. BUT: my teddy bear I loved dearly🤣🐻, still have it( him, he‘s a boybear;)), don‘t know why, just was obvious to me it was a male bear. I hated dresses too, still don‘t wear them at all. Thanks for your open talk:)

I hope you can go backpacking again soon !!!!

Glad to have found yawl. Looking forward to following your shares.

We are so proud of you for sharing your experience and your story. I hope you are a well and healthy. There’s a community building and it’s a wonderful community on TH-cam of detrans folk and us supporters.

I'm glad you stopped taking testosterone because you was born a woman watch KJ Osborne's video okay the scariest movie ever told watch one of his KJ what happened videos one of the topics it was from a article from a former transgender who said don't get the surgery you cannot become the opposite sex and he told them to get there therapy instead of transitioning

I love how down to earth you are. You look very feminine in your own way. Paul seems like a great guy too. I'm happy that you didn't go through with the surgeries and can still enjoy your whole body.

I am against teaching gender stuff to kids, against puberty blockers, against operating on minors and against these new fast food style "gender affirming care" tactics. My son calls me a right-wing TERF and can't stand me, without even knowing what I am against or WHY. His mind and heart got messed with by two transsexual polyamorous folks who were part of a "group share" swinger situation. He told me and I stayed silent and wanted to throw up. So, I'm now a TERF for simply despising Dylan Mulvany, and despising all of these lying surgeons and cult-like therapists.

When is every one going to figure out all this is proof. This crap isn't meant to be. Accept what you are born as and get therapy for your issues.

Hi Ria, thanks for your videos! I found you through Benjamin Boyce and think that you are refreshingly level-headed. I am myself a detrans woman from Europe and have also spent years of my life in the furry fandom. :D Nice to find another detrans from the fandom. Can I read your comics or view your art somewhere? Keep posting the videos! :3

Thanks for sharing this important story. Prayers for your continued health improvement.

Hey! I think we knew each other many moons ago IRL... lived in North Spokane annnndd yeah, I got sucked into the ideology. Wanna hit you up to chat but not on the main Twitter b/c twitter. Saw you on Ben's channel.

Let her talk! Oh my God. This would be better without the dude and his constant interruptions.

Let her talk! Oh my God. This would be better without the dude and his constant interruptions.

Your a very good speaker!

I think the sound of dogs in the background is the new baby crying in church. Nobody really minds. It keeps us human

You look really young! How old are you?

Thank you for sharing. Great information. Would you please link the you tube channel you mentioned at the 55 min. Mark. Thank you.

Hi, thank you for answering my questions @36:18. In return, I want to give you my perspective. I love that you “love the gender spectrum” and that you think it’s “chill to be non-binary”, but you seem to contradict yourself regarding pronouns. ‘They/them’ is an expression of ‘non-binary’, so to call ‘they/them’ pronouns delusional is to call ‘non-binary’ delusional. Having said that, pronouns are a hard topic as they involve an exchange between an individual and the rest of society, and I agree “the water off a duck’s back” attitude is the healthiest way to approach pronouns…however… I obviously disapprove that you think using ‘they/them’ contributes to a “delusional state”, is a form of “segregation” and makes people “special”. This idea of ‘they/them’ being narcissistic is an argument I’ve heard before, and I am not saying that some people don’t use ‘they/them’ in this way. I avoid TikTok (and most forms of social media) as it is a toxic app poisoning society, and I am aware it is a platform showcasing a lot of hysterical trans/non-binary people being offended at, well, everything. Yet, don’t you find that so many people these days - left and right, up and down, you name it - are hysterical? Polarisation is the new norm and I try very hard to find the middle ground or a balanced perspective. Now, I don’t really care if somebody is narcissistic or not…but I do care about them being ‘hysterical’ because hysterical ISN’T functional! FUNCTIONAL being the key word. From my own experience I know the positive difference “transitioning” has had on my ability to function (and integrate). Since childhood I thought of myself as ‘he’ or ‘it’, puberty kickstarted dysphoria and I became estranged and detached from my own body and self, and then society reinforced my difference because at the end of the day I could not perform as a “woman” (and I sure as hell didn’t feel like one). I am a diagnosed autistic and I am trans, which means I am different. Being ‘different’ is not the same as being ‘special’, and it’s certainly not the same as being narcissistic. For me being different means that you have to work ten times harder to understand yourself because there is no visible space for you in society. Trying to conform hurts you, because you’re doomed to fail at something that is unnatural to you. The only way forward is to embrace your difference and figure out ways to embody it. I am so much more relaxed and FUNCTIONAL both inside myself and outside in society as non-binary. And my main reason for NOT taking testosterone is that I think it would make me dysfunctional (physically, mentally and socially). If you told me to pick between being a ‘man’ and ‘woman’ I’d pick man every single time, but it’s not authentic or attainable. Non-binary is! And furthermore it seems to be the natural state of a lot of autistics. I would even go so far to say that non-binary is an autistic identity, or at the very least heavily overlaps with autism as does trans in general. We can’t perform binary roles because we’re autistic, we’re born different, we get stigma for it and for not being able to conform or perform our sex. So, for me, ‘they/them’ is a fantastic way to feel good and authentically me, as well as a great signifier to others that I am not able or willing to perform “woman”. I am saying: neutralize me, neutralize my sex, take it out the equation and see me as nothing more and nothing less than a person. No more information is required. Person. If it were up to me I’d have only one pronoun in use, erase ‘she’ and just have ‘he’. That would be great to me, everyone the same, everyone a person…but most people would freak over that because gender roles are very real to most people. Why people place so much importance on genitals and biological sex is beyond me, yet they seem to figure strongly in peoples' psyche on how to view and relate to fellow human beings. ‘Womanhood’, ‘manhood’, forget them! ‘Personhood’ is so much more important. ‘Personhood’ is what everyone should be striving for…yet sex matters to most people, which is why ‘third gender’ matters. Gender roles are something we cannot escape nor ever will escape, we can’t make everyone happily conform to the same two gender-boxes, so let’s make space for a new gender or interim space, is what I say…”pink”, “blue” and “purple”. I agree and greatly admire that you think gender roles need expanding, but there is something fundamental within me that is ‘trans’ and has always been there. Perhaps it is simply autism. Perhaps it is more complicated than that. I am not even sure if biological sex is strictly binary, as if intersex people exist then surely biological sex is a spectrum - particularly if you take into account the complex interactions of brain, hormones, genes - all the things that go into making sex sex? Sex is so much more than genitals, it is our tissues, our brains, our hormones, it influences our behaviour and our experience of self and others. It’s complicated and I don’t think science has the tools (or is asking the right questions) to measure this yet. (I don’t think science as of yet can even find physical evidence of autism, yet it is obviously real, and real at a biological level too. An example of how biology can dictate behaviour). Having said that the majority of people are clearly ‘male’ or ‘female’ (and happy being so) and it’s very hard for society to understand something when most of its “participants” don’t experience it! Autism is real, so why not “non-binary”? Regardless of this I would argue that it doesn’t matter if non-binary is delusional. If it makes a person more functional within themselves and within society then it is a good thing. There are plenty of delusions that make people more functional in life: belief in god, belief in a soul that continues after death, belief that they and their loved ones matter in the grand scheme of life. These are all arguably delusions, but wouldn’t life be terrible if we didn’t believe in at least some of them? Whatever it is, if it enables you to live a more functional life without harming others - then do it! The “segregation” argument I think is naïve and a little lazy. Society is not, nor will ever be one big happy “family”, rather society is a collection of cultures and communities that (hopefully) tolerate each other and engage with one another civilly, while respecting each other’s differences and bonding through their similarities and shared experience. If the family won’t accept another member for who they really are, then they’re not really family and that member will either have to supress themselves or seek a new family. It’s either segregation, suppression or acceptance. ‘They/them’ takes effort, but if someone needs that (and it stops them seeking medical transition that could harm them), and you think they’re worth it, then maybe make the effort…BUT… … I agree with you 100% that you can’t go around being offended and “dictating what people can call you”. The postman misgenders you - chill out, lose the hysteria and get it into perspective! Your friends and family accept you as non-binary, then work with ‘they/them’ pronouns together. It won’t be easy because it is learning a new way to use a word (an unlike other languages we don’t have a neutral signifier) …but if people can take a soft approach combined with “water off a duck’s back” then maybe it is a usage that will become common in time - you know, become easier on the tongue. At the moment it’s clunky and awkward, but it seems to be the best option to describe something that has always existed within our species. ‘Non-binary’, ‘trans-masculine’ etc… they are all new words to describe something that has always been a part of humanity. ‘Third gender’, ‘queer’… words are words, and people are people, but I would argue that the best way to avoid segregation is to make space within society (that doesn’t harm the majority or beat everyone with a woke-stick) and to slowly introduce terms and human-difference as an extension of normality. Thank you for reading. I need to do catch-up on your other vids! A special thanks to being part of the conversation and inviting people to join in the discussion. Wishing you and your partner well. 😸 BONUS RANT: As a complete aside, the trans craze is as much a fault of media and public voyeurism as it is the “woke agenda”. First it was ‘ADHD’, then it was ‘autism’, at the moment it’s ‘trans’, and in a few years time there will be something else the general public want to ogle at over dinner-time TV. I am from the UK, so I don’t know what it’s like in the USA, but there just seems too much sensational shit, too much trans, too much this, too much that, just too much, and both cis and trans - left and right - are hysterical over gender, but hysteria seems to be the new norm. Hysteria about everything! Maybe that’s what a population explosion and an impending climate disaster does to people - societal breakdown before the apocalypse!…Terms like ‘triggered’ and ‘valid’ are important words that are overused and as a result spoilt. There is nothing funny about a PTSD veteran who is triggered by fireworks, or an ethnic minority who are invalidated as human. Just as there is nothing funny about your pain being invalidated and your suffering trivialised. We’re all in pain. We’re all locked into our own realities trying to make sense of a complicated world. We’re all people. We're all animals. We are all different, which is why shared experience and common values really count. To personhood and civility!

I was a tomboy but I was never ALLOWED to be mechanical, or shoot Guns, or take martial arts, or play football or take wrestling. I can see that my nieces and nephews are still being raised that way. It puts women at a huge disadvantage, to be raised to be less self sufficient than they should be. I can't help but wonder if there would be fewer transitioners if boys and girls weren't raised along gender stereotypes.

@Isle of Ex

I was on testosterone for 8 years. I developed pelvic organ prolapse. I needed a medically necessary hysterectomy because there was a lot of pain associated due to adenomyosis. I don't advise ANY female to take testosterone. I get numbness in my hands and legs at times.

So hey, I saw one of your other videos and you said you were an artist and a backpacker and lived in an RV and were into natural healing. I would like to see videos about those things because I think ya'll are super engaging people. I actually looked up your twitter page to find your art even though I'm not on twitter. I ended up diving down a detransition-focused rabbit hole instead. LOL!

Good GRIEF! An artist and a backpacker and you have to deal with all of these problems? UGH I am hoping the best for you. Thanks for sharing your experiences

Have you looked into using a carnivore diet to help heal what can be healed? You might find it helps

Trans is such a sad sad lie and a harmful one at that.

Oh Oh......Go get you some MANNOSE. It really helps with UTI'S. I am a retired nurse and I found 2 things that help with this that people dont think about. The microbiome is not just in the gut, it is also in the vagina. So when the colonies get out of balance you get itching and UTI'S. Raw milk is full of good bacteria and over time can recolonize the vagina with the right probiotics..........Mannose helps remove bad bacteria from the bladder. My mom had these all the time and since she added raw milk and mannose she is so much better. Hope this helps. This is why antibiotics are so bad. They really mess up our microbiome which is really all over our bodies......not just in the gut.

My girlfriend her daughter who was always a girly girl at the age of 16 she decided that she wanted to be a boy. She has autism and other mental challenges. There's no father in the picture as well. She now binds her breast and acts like a boy she's 17 now. This is my question... As a mother or father how do you prolong the process as far as them not jumping into it? She is only 17 plus she's very immature for her age. My friend is beside herself and yes her daughter had gotten all her information from the internet!

Mountain out of a molehill.

My teen wants testosterone - we’ve (parents) decided no, but only have a few years before they can do so without our consent. Tik Tok, TH-cam, school, friends, etc. have all encouraged this for my teen - it’s incredibly upsetting. I don’t think teens understand the lifelong medical situation they’re requesting. It’s terrifying. Very very hard as a parent. How do we not alienate, but still encourage retrospection?

Thanks for getting this out there. Much love.

Have you tried magnesium for your mucle spasms? I'm so happy for you doing better ! I wish you guys all the best for the future ❤

Thanks for sharing.... Question not sure how to ask... Do you feel that some of this is driven by doctors that are in it for the money and a life long paycheck at the expense of exploiting those that have dysphoria? Do you think there are better ways to treat gender dysphoria besides transitioning? Do you feel some parents/teachers/television or social media feed into childrens insecurity of puberty and exploit their vulnerability by convincing them they are LGBTQ+ and transgender instead of letting them go through their own coming of age?

Your so pretty ! Thank you for the info .