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So how do we self reflect and find compassion for people like this? This is to find peace with the situation rather then go through a cycle of choosing guilt or resentment. I’m talking about going much deeper within yourself to understand they too have traumas that stunted their emotional intelligence which resulted in lost children within adult bodies. Especially if they are our parents. “The best of you are the best to their families, and I am the best to my family.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3895 Is it not best to be a reflection of your own character rather than theirs?

There is a cure for wellness after all.

Mother said to me, "We knew how to get you to do anything we wanted...just ignore you, ." Neither of my parents should ever have had children. Their children were there to do their bidding...to serve them. I was extremely parentified. This video brought up a lot of pain. But I'm thankful that someone could put my childhood into words.

I see so much advice nowadays saying “Stop blaming your parents for your flaws and trauma.” I can see how blame can hold you back, but isn’t it good to recognize where trauma came from? I’m so confused

I LOVED this demo and Q&A so much!!! It filled in some info that totally resonated with me to give me aha moments. So happy about that! Thank you for doing this and posting it! It's amazing!

Thank you so much for this great conversation. God bless you 🙏

Very little info what's specific about Attachment Focused

Thank you for sharing this. I'm on this journey right now.

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THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! I'll be relistening. Got so many insights and Ah's. Will also be getting Deb's books and sharing her teachings with friends. Also - so touched by how compassionate and understanding Deb is. ❤❤❤ 🙏

Great conversation. I really like the attitude towards the pathologising of trauma. It does no one any good to just label and send on their way with meds. I wish this was a video because it is easier for me to take it in when I am watching a person speak but, I still enjoyed the chat. Thankyou to you both.

Psychologically toyed with like an object. Same here.

19:03 OMG!!! I needed to hear this❣️ Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! ♥️❤️♥️ 26:45 BINGO!!!

I’m looking forward to watching this. ❤

Well. This happened to me. And I let it happen. I came back promising that when it did happen I’d walk. And I did. Right into her bosses office. And reported it.And I’ll never go back there.

When they talked about a "delicious feeling" that was SO uncomfortable to watch. But a great discussion otherwise.

You can observe the same innate love and goodness we have, in animals too. I've seen where horribly traumatized and isolated lab animals were taken into a sanctuary and the sole act of receiving regular compassion from another animal allowed their stifled feelings to bloom. Very moving and insightful to our own human experience. Love and kindness are not acquired from bibles or customs. These feelings are innate and will be expressed when it's safe.

Thank you for this interview and for sharing such a personal experience! This was so helpful.

IMHO: I think that neurons for "empathy" can be burned out/damaged from the brains when young children go through traumatic experiences. Answer for Adult Children: Learn to reparent themselves (the damaged inner child) and have an "inner family" that is healthy (inner world).

It doesnt feel good when they sleep with your husband

Theres no there there

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Good book!

Parents suck

Being shown pornography as a small child, is that sexual abuse?

Is this discussion directed at men?

I’m sorry but I don’t know exactly what the abuse was.

Thank you- this is excellent

I learnt this method in a hypnosis course I was taking in South Africa in 2008. It was called Ego states hypnotherapy.

This was the book that turned it around for me. What bllessing

I was rejected from birth. My mother likes to laugh at a story that she told the nurse to take me away so she could watch her soap operas.

Perfectly performing 😢

Excellent thanks very much 😅❤

Excellent thanks very much 😅😮😅

My dad told me more than once in my teenage years that he never wanted me, that i was a mistake and that he and my mom would still be together if it wasnt for me. He was OCD, addict and narcissistic. Then it took me until i was 28 to realize that my mom emotionality manipulated me with guilt and displays covert narcissistic behaviors. I have worked very hard to change my own toxic behaviors, fell short this past year due to old trauma manifesting. Now working damage control and learning everything i can to prevent another emotional and psychological relapse.

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Thank you!! Thank you!! This interview is a lifesaver!!❤️

“Meant to live for so much more” ❤❤❤

I feel seen for the first time in my life hearing about this. Thank you ❤😢

Thank you so much for sharing this. This is unfortunately very familiar to me.

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Beautiful demo, thank you !

What about having emotionally immature parents, spouse, and in laws? I don’t even know how I survived all of these years. God has helped me.

Can’t wait to listen and read the book, Monique!

This was beautiful. Being raised and told how to feel in home and church it has been a freeing journey Ealing this out. Not fully there but on a journey ❤

I don’t have foster parents. I’m 66 years old and a daughter of a King and widowed.

Adult Childrens of emotionally challenged parents!! ~ which means? Crazy by official definitions?

I just love a chill pod where ppl talk like this❤❤ ...because lately podcasts channels are really chaotic its almost a debate lol....🫶🫶...but yeah, keep up...i just randomly found ur Channel.

I confronted the fear of loss and addressed what needed to be repaired, and I indeed lost everything. Dealing with a profound sense of worthlessness that my ex chose to lose everything we had instead of working together. They didn’t have any consideration moving forward.