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Hahaha love it! Very fancy vocabulary there! Did the video help you plan your elopement?

@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 yes it did, especially with the timeline examples! Thank you.💖

Shoot, I'm sure you're not alone in that! Hopefully you're able to just let those opinions slide right around you and keep focused on what you two want for your celebration. 🥰 You got this!

Hey there @ItsCherry504 - Gosh, I know how difficult managing people around an elopement can be! You aren't alone. I have never done a cruise elopement but that sounds like such a fun idea!! I would suggest sharing with your loved ones how having people present IS having them be a part of the celebration. There is no "in" and "out" if they are simply there. Invite them to the cruise and whoever is able to come can witness your ceremony and party with you after! (If that's what you want). Otherwise I would say go have a fun cruise elopement with just the two of you and then have a more formal celebration with family at home on a different day! Hope that helps. <3

@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 Thanks I appreciate the advice. I really didn’t know how to go about this, but I won’t have a celebration for my family/friends either since my fiance and I don’t wanna go over our budget lol those invited to witness us elope on the cruise will actually be the only celebration we’ll have. We have a house to buy next year after we elope.😊 The Disney Dream Cruise is sorta like killing 2 birds with one stone type of deal, everything included.

@@ItsCherry504 THat makes sense! Well I'd say invite whoever you want to the cruise celebration as *guests*. That seems like a fair balance. They can be there if they want but you aren't having a wedding party group. I've really never understood wedding parties. Everyone present (and even those in our hearts) are a part of a wedding

@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 Yes 🙌🏽 exactly. Thank you for your advice and time. I was so confused by the decision since family and friends want me to have a wedding party and was already planning on who will take on what role 🤦🏽‍♀️ So far I’ve told a few of them that there won’t be a wedding party, it’s mainly my eldest sister who is being so pushy about this. She’s also giving me a bridal shower and I don’t want her to do that…. She also asked to be my MOH in a subtle way and she won’t be that either lol not to sound harsh. Although I won’t have a wedding party I’ll still let my dad walk me down the aisle and let my favorite aunt be my MOH, and my grandma be my matron of honor and that’ll be it on my end. My FH doesn’t really care to have anyone be a best man or anything lol he said he’s going to do whatever makes me happy so he is giving us the small Disney fairytale ceremony of my dreams. I think not having to rely on many people for a wedding party is the best way to go. If my grandma can’t make it then I’ll understand since she’s in her 80’s.

@@ItsCherry504 wishing you all the best and that you follow your heart with all your decisions! You will never regret doing it that way <3

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Lots of my couples hang their dresses/suits/outfits from the outside of their bag. But it does look better visually if you can fit everything inside the backpack!

I'm so happy to be able to help!

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Then tell them they won’t be invited

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this too!!!

Don't even tell them you're married

We eloped and I am very close to my grandmother. I don’t regret it for a second. Our reception dinner with family is on Saturday. It’s still the best decision we ever made. The day is about you and your person, no one else.

Maybe place another expectation onto your grandma! Like maybe she can give you a piece of jewelry to wear, or write a letter for you to read at your elopement spot! If she’s crafty, maybe she can sew something onto your dress or veil :)

I'm so glad it was helpful for you and I hope you have an absolutely dreamy time! You deserve it! <3

Wanna talk to my in laws?

Oh shoot! Do you want to get married next month?😆

People have lots of desires that aren't related to finances... which are still worthy of consideration and respect but also shouldn't define what you do!

@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 well I meant how could they get offended if you can't afford a traditional wedding and they can't help you either? And at the same time family and relatives tend to nudge you to get married asap and if you decide to save money and wait a few years it's a problem too. And personally I would rather save money for a house or something of actual substance rather than an overpriced party. I'm not judging anyone who decides to have one, for some people it's very important, but to me it's crazy to sacrifice years worth of labor for one event.

Absolutely! I know lots of couples who have had a hybrid style celebration in lots of different ways. You can do an elopement one day and a reception/party another or have a medium size celebration. I encourage figuring out what would feel best based on your lives and go with it!

@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 Thank you so much for your response! I will definitely consider that with my fiancé.

Thank you! I think you could use different things now that technology has advanced, but I've used a Panasonic GH5's and DC-S1's as well as tascam DR-10L's for audio recording! All handheld.

Absolutely! I just want more encouragement for people to do what is best for them <3

And invest the rest in real estate, gold, business and other things!!!

I like to leave it up to people to follow what they want for themselves - and therefore I 100% support you in doing what feels best for you! Put that money into a house and get married in a way that sounds fun and worthy!

I know it's a difficult thing to allow other people to feel their feelings if they are not positive. But it's such a powerful life skill - you've got this and you deserve a wedding day of your dreams!

I'm so happy it was helpful - my pleasure.

@Spacecowgirl. Please, please, please I need advice on how you handled this, you can write an essay long reply, but it must include how you dealt with your mom pre and post wedding, tips and things to look out for. I wish there was a self-help book on how to elope and dealing with your mother's expectations on this.

@just curious my advise is stay firm, No means just that No. It wasn't easy she, spent my whole life forcing me to do things I didn't want. After the elopement she acted like nothing happened, and was in full on wedding planner mode, all because my husband and I had said we were planning on having a small ceremony with friends and family. For that I would say keep her on an info diet, it's what I should have done. My mom would afton use the phrase are you trying to make me cry if I was firm on a decision. Stay firm on the decision you made tell her your word and hubby's is final. If she wants to act like a spoiled child cause oh no daughter dearest won't let me plan her wedding let her.

@@spacecowgirl9587 Thank you so much you just described how I think my mother will act, should that moment come which is probably very soon. I needed a voice of reason here, because I fear being emotionally manipulated in to doing things I do not like, as well as guilt trap which does not make any sense. Why should I feel guilty for doing something that I want to do, that will not bring anyone harm. I would not mind if they were to point out red flags from the potential spouse, but if there is none then my opinion in what I want to do should be respected. Thank you so, so, so much, youtubers are not relating to my concerns.🤗🤗🤗😌

@just curious I'm sorry that you're going through this, I'm going to warn you it's not going to be easy. It's so hard to be firm and keep the boundaries you set, especially if they don't respect it I had my husband's support through out the whole thing. I hope you are looking to your partner for support.

@@spacecowgirl9587 Hmm " partner not yet" but the conversation around the whole marriage thing have started slowly in the past 6 years. To slowly get my mother to be comfortable with the idea of me getting married. However, the talks about theeee day are getting serious and what I want in regard to this matter, and I can tell should tomorrow I find a potential proposal it is not going to be a good day for some people. Sadly, it is time now. no slow adulting.🤷 everything will eventually sort itself out thank you.