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That's terrific! It's always a blessing to turn the impossible... into possibilities! Congratulations and keep enjoying your new reality!

Experiences with narcissists can be horrific. Although we don't fully understand how people can be like that... it creates an awareness to guide us through future experiences. It sounds like you are on a better path now and I hope your energy attracts love and abundance from now on.

Your comment made my day! Thank you!

Hi. I checked out your channel and subscribed. I like it!

I'm sorry my video triggered you. I hope you are able to heal the wounds that caused you the pain you revealed in your comment.

Lol. He is a pesky fellow... and I'm going to use that the next time I see him. It sounds better than what I came up with. :) Thanks for commenting.

Lol. It's a hobby. Way too many canvases, not enough walls. The good thing about acrylics is that they can be painted over. And over. I'm missing the "sip", so I'll add that next time. Thanks for the comment.

Sadly, that is a common scene. I hope you're on a different path now... away from the fear that goes along with abusive dads.

It is beautiful in Montana. I hope it can stay that way!

Yes, letting go of attachment is a path to self care. Although, it doesn't mean we love any less. I learned that other people's actions do not determine my self worth. I won't stop being who I genuinely am because I won't stop loving and caring. It's hard to understand manifesting and how we actually do that... when someone ghosts us. The first time hurts... and then if it happens again... it's a learning experience. Follow your true self... no matter what. Much Love, Rhonda

We give other people too much control over our emotions... or more like we have the ability to control our emotions, we need to learn how. The brain's main goal is to survive, so the subconscious garbage starts taking over. I celebrate having a relationship with a narcissist because I wouldn't be where I'm at today. I heard a great phrase recently... Up Until Now. Up until now... I felt lonely and rejected. The rest is up to you. Much Love, Rhonda

Correction: inept at…

Yes. We have become that inept. We haven't been taught how to process emotions and interpret them properly. The fact that so many people get away with violent behavior certainly affect people's ability to resolve conflict. Suggestions welcome.

@@selfdiscoverywithrhonda absolutely agree with you!!

Yes good point, it's difficult and sometimes dangerous to break up ethically with an abusive or toxic person, I don't blame the 'ghoster' in these situations. But sometimes the ghoster is just cowardly or irresponsible. My point is that it's often difficult to know another person's motives, so my advice for anyone who has been ghosted is to move on with your life and don't dwell on it - if a person can't move on, they could benefit from therapy.

I agree 100% there are reasons for "ghosting". I had to protect my boundaries when I left my job and refused contact with my ex-boss. Although, I know how painful it is... and I knew I would regret leaving the situation that way, so I reached out and saw her. Now, the "ball is in her court" (so to speak). I completely understand my daughter's reasons for not being in contact for me. She had explained to me her toxic behavior (and I also witnessed it first hand) and she said she didn't want to be cruel to me anymore and chose a path of recovery without me. I respect that. It doesn't mean there isn't a pain of separation from the bond of a child. Much Love.... Rhonda

There is "ghosting" and there is "no contact" which are different due to what prompts the action. That is part of the point... people are affected differently by being ghosted and sometimes therapy is needed. Unfortunately, the person who needs therapy the most is usually the one doing the ghosting. It's a general term and we rarely know the history of each person - which determines how they process the information. I think it's caused mostly by the decline in society of people's skills to resolve conflict. Myself included. Thank you for your comment!

Thank you for your kind words. I send my daughter love every day and my son lets me know she's okay. I don't even know where she lives. I trust she is working on trying to understand herself and when she is ready we'll see each other again. I'm looking forward to it!

Although we can be haunted for a long time... there are many things to be grateful for. It may take a lifetime to reconcile the pain we feel but if we focus on where we want our energy to flow... it makes it much harder for them to get back into our consciousness. Sending love... Rhonda

Yeah we have the power to decide where our energies flow! ​@@selfdiscoverywithrhonda

I appreciate your input. We all have "bad days". If you knew the whole story you may come to a different conclusion than just a bad day... or two. A bad day picture is very different than what I was seeing and experienced.

We take pictures all the time... but rarely go back to them except to "swipe" through them. When I realized what I saw in the pics I started going through more of them. It's not fool-proof but it's definitely revealing. I eventually noticed how sometimes he would be in a trance and act like he wasn't aware that I was 2 feel away from him. And finally... I felt "nothing" from him. No soul... nothingness. If you can sense people's emotions and there is nothing... it's terrifying... almost worse than sensing rage. I hope you are doing well now. Sending love. Rhonda

Observing pictures works. I can tell who is genuine and who is not. It would be interesting to hear about what you find...

It can be terrifying. I saw the guy I was dating roll his eyes back into his head, so the only whites of his eyes were showing, and then acted like nothing happened. Now, I pay attention to pictures. Once we are aware... we see the truth.

To be clear... your psychiatry says not being touched is your psychosis? It seems society assumes that it's not normal to not want to be touched. I'm finding out that many people don't like to be touched. In the opposite perspective... many people feel like they have to be touched all the time and in constant contact with people. Is that considered normal? I have friends that don't like to be touched and it doesn't affect our friendship. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. We don't over-analyze it... it's just the way it is. Sending love to you...

It's a great sadness to lose loved ones. I am deeply sorry for your loss. We all have mechanisms to help us cope during times of loss and grief. I think we need to trust ourselves and follow our intuition during a healing process. I've learned that not wanting to be touched is more common than I thought and I admire your ability to set boundaries for yourself during your time of intense pain. Sending you love...

I agree. For one thing... it's just plain weird for someone who has animosity towards us to try and show affection. Maybe they want your energy, so they don't feel as bad about themselves. None-the-less... it can be a creepy feeling that takes awhile to process. Thanks for commenting!

I understand what you're saying. Although, surprises aren't always easy to manage. Even the most balanced person can be in an accident and there's nothing they can do about the result. Emotional vibration is one thing... physical contact is another. Different energy source. Thank you for your comment!

@@selfdiscoverywithrhonda Yes! Thank u for this clarity💐🪴

Sometimes I give up my touching boundary if I sense someone would benefit from a hug. If I realize it's not about me... then I'm more flexible. When I feel someone relaxes and appreciates a hug I can feel it in my heart.

@@selfdiscoverywithrhonda yes that’s how I see it we have to give love ❤️ still agree with you with regards to letting just anyone touch us.

I love hugs from people I know and trust... I'm wary of strangers. I become very distracted (or look distracted) if I don't want to hug or touch someone. Crossed arms works sometimes... appear uninviting. Or hide. lol

You're welcome!!!

Sending love... blessed soul!

Love IS the answer... sending love to you!

That's beautiful. There are many wonderful conversations that happen every day to nourish our souls...

What comes from the heart is not always what we expect… ❤️

Thank you for watching! Much Love, Rhonda

They are sneaky, manipulative and destructive… and they always want to “win”. I hope you can keep your sanity and escape the craziness! Much love.

@thegrassbeneathmyfeat Several years back, I almost had a nervous breakdown due to the nonstop drama. High stress job where 10's of thousands depend on me doing my job correctly going home to purposely inflicted trauma. She smiled while I was in crisis. That triggered a switch in me that moment. At that very moment, I knew I was dealing with evil. Regained my strength and hung in there until now for the kids. Been yellow rock for 3 months now and quietly seeing a divorce attorney this month. Shot down her latest lovebomb a few days ago. STAYING FOCUSED!!!

Definitely!

Oh, and i wouldn't trust this brother. Be very careful about people who know your ex, especially if they try hard to come off as different and helpful

The circumstances involved me verifying who his brother was. Some of the information he gave me led me to going to the police. Unfortunately, the psychopath is still not in jail.

I do consider him a psychopath. It was unbelievable. My full length video goes into a little more detail about his devious mind. I did everything I could to get him behind bars.

I trust the brother because of our conversations and everything he said matched. I made sure he wasn't a flying monkey. It's good to be suspicious of every one and question everything. I've seen the flying monkeys play out in other situations and he's not one of them. He contacted me through FB messaging, which anyone can do. Thank you for your comment as it's always good to get a neutral perspective. :)

Exactly!

Yep. I questioned everything. Thank you for your comment... because it's good to be alerted about every possibility. :)

It's hard to understand people like that when we're not that way. I had to go 100% no contact to be able to recover. Blocked on everything. I was fortunate we weren't in the same city. I found the most important thing for me was setting boundaries so it doesn't happen again. I hope you're able to find a way to put yourself first, so you can explore the natural gifts you've been given. Much Love.

Thank you! If all of us can reach one person that changes their life for the better... I am truly grateful.

A new perspective is a great beginning for us to discover the gifts we have. Thank you for commenting. Much Love!

I'm amazed at how many people feel lonely right now. I hope you'll be able to discover the wonderful gifts you have and what a blessing you are to the world. Much Love.

I appreciate that! It'll be fun to be creative with illuminating women.

Yes... keep following me as I learn and grow with this community!

Thank you!! I’m excited about this new adventure. 🌹