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What do you do if your adult child won't talk to you? The Reconnection Club is an online school dedicated to helping parents create healthy, mutually satisfying relationships with their adult children -- even if they're currently estranged.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
188. Reconciliation and The Elephant in the Room, Part 1
More often than not, when no-contact adult children end their estrangements and return to the relationship, there's an elephant in the room -- at least from the parent's point of view.
Parents feel like they're walking on eggshells, trying to avoid whatever it was that created the problem in the first place. If only their adult children would tell them what went wrong, so they could keep it from happening again!
But that elephant-in-the-room feeling may not be shared by the adult child, who wants the relationship to work as much as the parent does. They might not want to talk about the elephant. And that leaves parents feeling unsettled, to say the least.
This episode is for you if you're feeling nervous and unsure around your recently reconciled, or semi-estranged, adult child.
For more about how to make repairs and begin to heal from parent-adult child estrangement, read show host Tina Gilbertson's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
Reconnection Club members can discuss this and every episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join.
EPISODE RESOURCES: [For functioning links, visit reconnectionclub.com/188]
Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 125: The GOOD Parent’s Biggest Blind Spot, Part 1 Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 126: The GOOD Parent’s Biggest Blind Spot, Part 2 Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 54: Why Do They Cut Off Contact Instead of Talking About It? Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 118: Does Your Adult Child Lack Communication Skills?
Parents feel like they're walking on eggshells, trying to avoid whatever it was that created the problem in the first place. If only their adult children would tell them what went wrong, so they could keep it from happening again!
But that elephant-in-the-room feeling may not be shared by the adult child, who wants the relationship to work as much as the parent does. They might not want to talk about the elephant. And that leaves parents feeling unsettled, to say the least.
This episode is for you if you're feeling nervous and unsure around your recently reconciled, or semi-estranged, adult child.
For more about how to make repairs and begin to heal from parent-adult child estrangement, read show host Tina Gilbertson's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
Reconnection Club members can discuss this and every episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join.
EPISODE RESOURCES: [For functioning links, visit reconnectionclub.com/188]
Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 125: The GOOD Parent’s Biggest Blind Spot, Part 1 Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 126: The GOOD Parent’s Biggest Blind Spot, Part 2 Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 54: Why Do They Cut Off Contact Instead of Talking About It? Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 118: Does Your Adult Child Lack Communication Skills?
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Dammit!!
Our thoughts exactly. :( Remember you can always listen ad-free on our website, reconnectionclub.com/podcast.
I would like you return to the topic where the daughter leaves home because she needs her own space. I swear I didn't want to hurt my parents. I loved them very much. I just wanted to have a place where my narc brother wouldn't abuse me. Help me to get rid of this guilt. They died thinking I didn't love them.
Thank you !
Happy new year Tina! 🎉
Thank you for your podcasts. They have helped me see the wood for the trees. I wish you a pleasant year for 2022.
Happy New Year Tina. Your videos have been if great value to me too. Thank you
2022 Happy New Beginning to all💝
Thank you, your podcast is valued & appreciated.