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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 12 ก.ค. 2019
What do you do if your adult child won't talk to you? The Reconnection Club is an online school dedicated to helping parents create healthy, mutually satisfying relationships with their adult children -- even if they're currently estranged.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
183. Overcoming Shame
Not every parent whose adult child goes no contact feels like hiding it from friends and acquaintances. But many parents do.
If you feel uncomfortable sharing the fact of your adult child(ren)'s estrangement, you might identify with the Reconnection Club member whose words Tina shares in this forum-inspired episode.
If you fear the judgement of others, could it be that you've been judging yourself? If so, how can you overcome the quiet embarrassment that keeps you from living out loud?
Listen to the words of a Reconnection Club member who wrestled with this very question in our forums. And won.
For much more about how to deal with estrangement by your adult child(ren) read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
Club members can discuss this and every episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join.
If you feel uncomfortable sharing the fact of your adult child(ren)'s estrangement, you might identify with the Reconnection Club member whose words Tina shares in this forum-inspired episode.
If you fear the judgement of others, could it be that you've been judging yourself? If so, how can you overcome the quiet embarrassment that keeps you from living out loud?
Listen to the words of a Reconnection Club member who wrestled with this very question in our forums. And won.
For much more about how to deal with estrangement by your adult child(ren) read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
Club members can discuss this and every episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join.
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182. Handling Political Differences with Bill Eddy
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For clickable links, view the show notes at reconnectionclub.com/182. Political differences can play a role in family estrangement. But simply having differences is not the whole problem. How we communicate with family members who don't share our views affects our ability to connect with them in spite of those differences. In this helpful episode, Tina shares an excerpt from her conversation wi...
181. Small Change
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When you have an estranged adult child who's gone no-contact, it's impossible not to think about change. Something needs to change if your adult child's estrangement is to end. But making changes isn't easy. Especially if you're not sure what to change, or how, or why. In this episode, Tina shares her personal experience of an unexpected change that happened in her life. She talks about how cha...
180. Reconciliation Blues
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Reconciliation between parents and no-contact adult children can be thought of as a phase of estrangement. That means that for many parents, reconciliation will be disappointing - at least for a while. Things aren’t back to normal. Conversation doesn’t flow. You might still feel estranged, even though there’s contact. What’s going on? In this episode, Tina normalizes some of the disappointing a...
179. What Color Is Your Estrangement?
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"We see the world not as it is, but as we are." In this episode, Tina invites parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children to take a step back and consider their beliefs about themselves, others, and the world. She compares our individual worldview to a pair of glasses, with lenses of a particular color. We can't help but perceive the world in a limiting way as long as it reaches us ...
178. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
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If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast, along with the one preceding it (Episode 177), is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there betwee...
177. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
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If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there between the lines - the one about what went wrong in t...
Important announcement regarding episode expiration
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TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped ...
176. Regarding Apologies
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Should parents apologize to adult children for mistakes they made in the past? What if those adult children aren't talking to them? What if the adult child hasn't asked for an apology? What if the parent doesn't know what to apologize for? It turns out that apologies from parents to adult children are a rather complicated affair. Somehow, parents have to figure this out for themselves. But don'...
175. Don't Skip This Step!
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“Reversing an unwanted estrangement is, in a very particular way, exactly like swimming the English Channel.” So begins this perspective-shifting episode in which Tina urges parents to prepare for reconnection the way swimmers prepare for a long-distance swim. Reaching out to your child, whether with an apology, a request for a talk, or an offer to go to therapy together, is like jumping into t...
174. "How to set boundaries without making them mad?"
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How do you set boundaries with estranged adult children, without making them mad? That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’ll hear the original recording in which Tina offers her thoughts on setting boundaries with an adult child who's using their parents' home when they're away. On the o...
173. What to Do in Therapy
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An unwanted estrangement from an adult child is a reason many parents seek some kind of counseling. Some go to therapy for the first time when their relationship with their adult child(ren) breaks down. Good therapy provides emotional support and often leads to insight. But truly successful therapy leads to profound and permanent changes through the process of healing. It’s this healing that ad...
172. When to Respect a No-Contact Request
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Should you always obey a no-contact request from your estranged adult child(ren)? The short answer is yes. But short answers aren’t always right for every situation. Each estrangement is unique. On the face of it, the question of whether to obey a no-contact request is a tactical one. But tactics rely on strategy. And when it comes to an unwanted estrangement, strategy usually means genuine psy...
171. Understanding Ambivalence
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Why did your estranged adult child tell someone you were toxic, yet send a nice card for your birthday? Why do they keeping saying they need space, yet respond to everything you send with a heart emoji? Or, Why don’t they ever respond, when they said it was okay for you to contact them? Questions like those leave unwillingly estranged parents feeling confused, hurt and frustrated. Why can’t est...
170. "Why can't we expect our adult children to care about us?"
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Is it wrong for parents to hope their adult children might show a little care, interest or concern for them? Is it really asking too much of adult children to simply ask, “How are you, Dad (or Mom)?” That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’ll hear the original recording in which Tina rea...
167. What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
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167. What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
166. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 2)
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166. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 2)
165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
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165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
Important Announcement Regarding Access to This Podcast
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Important Announcement Regarding Access to This Podcast
162. Overgeneralizing and Catastrophizing
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162. Overgeneralizing and Catastrophizing
159. The Impact of the Internet On Estrangement
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159. The Impact of the Internet On Estrangement
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So sorry
Sorry for this! Best wishes
Dammit!!
Our thoughts exactly. :( Remember you can always listen ad-free on our website, reconnectionclub.com/podcast.
I would like you return to the topic where the daughter leaves home because she needs her own space. I swear I didn't want to hurt my parents. I loved them very much. I just wanted to have a place where my narc brother wouldn't abuse me. Help me to get rid of this guilt. They died thinking I didn't love them.
Thank you !
Happy new year Tina! 🎉
Thank you for your podcasts. They have helped me see the wood for the trees. I wish you a pleasant year for 2022.
Happy New Year Tina. Your videos have been if great value to me too. Thank you
2022 Happy New Beginning to all💝
Thank you, your podcast is valued & appreciated.