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Forget relationships forget marriage make money have sex and keep your freedom guys only have relationship if you benefit more from her then she from you

You're so gorgeous, wow, beautiful looking man. She didn't know what she had in you. Mwa x

IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUWERE RAISED BY NAURSISTIC PARENT'S ????

Most people use marriage and relationships as a meal ticket. You were the giver she was the taker. The taker has to make you feel like crap to suck the life out of you, energetic vampires or better said soul suckers .You are handsome and genuine ❤ Lack of intmacy is intentional to destory self esteem and self image of a human being.

She hasn’t changed

I love your honesty. You deserve the Best ❤

Have you talked to your ex-wife after this? It would be interesting to hear her perspective because I was in a somewhat similar situation to you but I think I was the wife. I tried to break up with my ex several times during our relationship because I didn't find him attractive but he just wouldn't let me. Here's how it would always go: I would tell him I want to break up, he would start crying and me being a chronic people pleaser would feel bad and take him back. Things went back to normal but my lack of attraction turned into resentment which turned into abuse, his low self-esteem wouldn't allow him to break up with me so eventually I would try to break up with him, he would cry, beg and negotiate himself back to me and the cycle repeated itself. I don't hate my ex, all I see is a complex, broken person at the time just like myself and we were a lethal combination. I don't know if he still hates me for leaving him with his crushed self esteem but in the end I know I did what had to be done for the both of us. I could not bring myself to love him and I don't think what he felt towards me was love in the end either, I was a sliver of hope in his despair of low self esteem.

Sounds like you’ve not learnt anything cause you’re still not taking any responsibility

Stayed in a sexless relationship for 1 year before she eventually put me out of my misery and dumped me. It was soul crushing and indescribably isolating. I cannot fathom 7 years. Your story is very similar to mine. Just goes to show that this nice guy people pleasing inferiority complex affects even the most attractive men. I feel like i am living vicariously through you as you speak

You were weak and pathetic, she obviously didn't respect you, therefor she didn't find you attractive and didn't have sex with you, also you were very naive, you didn't even know where your money was going, you let her abuse you which made her respect you even less... You didn't set any boundaries you didn't have any frame, you weren't a leader.. Most women would've either left you or did what she did. As a man it's your responsibility to take ownership over your life and make your woman obey you, and if she's not doing what you want you should leave her and never look back.

What a catch pshh! You might not see this msg but what the hey, i’d love to get to know you more 🫢😂

Glad you have moved forward in life. I hope you go back to God and serve Jesus again

My question is, if I’m the wife that has the problem of not being up for sex, what’s wrong with me and how can I fix it? I find I enjoy sex with my husband but don’t really enjoy sex in itself. Ofc this problem didn’t arise til after having children. We had an amazing sex life before that. I don’t know if I just don’t love my husband like that anymore or what but I do feel bad for him. And I truly am just too tired and my stress is at an all time high. Sex has become a chore to me for the most part, and sadly my husband really loves me and refuses the idea of divorce. I’ve suggested counseling but he almost thinks he’s too good for it and refuses unless I threaten to divorce him. Ofc sex isn’t the only problem in the marriage so I do think we need it, and even if we didn’t I believe no one is above counseling and it’s more beneficial to start before the marriage starts breaking down as opposed to after. I miss enjoying sex and having freedom before children and hope that as they get older the desire and happiness will return but I do often fear it won’t last till that point.

I wish it were that simple. My dad left my mom when we were young. Basically, that left my brother and I defenseless against my mother’s volatile emotions, which she didn’t get a handle on until after we were out of the house. The moment my father left, it didn’t feel like a home anymore. I can’t do that to my son just so I can have more sex. What a tragedy of society that this is considered good advice.

You kept her by your side for such a long time that is very sweet and kind but i feel like it has got to do with the fear of abandonment we had from our early childhood maybe? I also went through something similar with my ex it lasted for few months I regret not making her realise her mistake for not speaking up for myself since I had a fear that she might leave me, and I feel like if I had been more assertive things would have worked between us , but our values didn't really match so it's a win win situation for me learned a very big lesson. 💯

She was never happy. This guy is describing exactly what I went through. However my ex was with women before me. Dont get married. If you dont submit to a woman's terms she will make your life hell.

The ex wife is a horrible person. As a wife (not girlfriend), the woman should always please and satisfy her husband regardless. I never said no to my husband, never, even when I wasn’t in the mood. But the ex wife seems to have alternative motives by hiding money etc.

I’m 30 and last time I had s..x was 20 hahaha it’s not always easy but it’s a lifestyle

Hi... i understand totally what you was going through... Will be interesting to see hw you are doing?

I also was brought up by a raging abusive mother and ended up with low self-esteem and a virgin by choice. I think giving it away easily to anyone as a woman, just to witness your trust being abused, your body used and yourself discarded, is the deepest injury. It still hurts when the people we love leave or treat us poorly, and it is still possible to be invested emotionally without sex, but I like to save it as the last ounce of dignity I want to keep for myself. Women like us are not doing well in this culture where men walk away indignated if they can't get it, even though they always intended to move away, change cities, and they feel entitled to take it forcefully with tactics and deceit.

You lived with a narcissist who exploited your good nature and kind heart. And she knew what she was doing the whole time. I'm sorry you went through this, but hopefully you are healing and have come out so much stronger.

Women put men in the friendzone for emotional and material support. Men put women in the sex only zone.

You get out of the friendzone by not being her friend and moving on to the next girl.

Do you think she was getting it elsewhere?

If I don’t get sex for a few months and I have kids I’m cheating lol

As a girl i understand sex is one of the way to bond, and it shows the married couple are married couple but for men i don't know what they view sex. I'm single but i asked a man about sex, he said men want sex like water daily and hourly

As a girl i see you handsome

Men typically stay in bad relationships because of the Labour the woman does. Women tend to stay in bad relationships as not to be lonely but eventually ask for divorce when being lonely is even better. Yours seems opposite way. Glad you got out

That woman was crazy. This man is gorgeous. There must be a line of women going after him.

As a dialysis nurse I can confirm that in my over 35 year practice I do see significantly more men leave their sick wives. It’s what I witnessed time and time again. Maybe it depends how serious the diagnosis is, but when it is disabling or significantly life changing men do tend to leave women more readily than vise versa

Maybe she had problems in that department or some psychological issues? Anyway it doesn’t excuse this behaviour So sorry this happened to you. We all deserve true love and connection

Married a covert Narc just like I did. Good Riddance! 40 and Divorced and couldnt be happier.

#womeninmalefields

10:04 "trying to be a gentleman" This is what I learned the hard way: never try to be a getleman with women. They don`t appreciate gentlemen.

Just heard ur story, sorry u had to go through all of that, from parents to marriage, hope u'll find better than what was taken....

This is something to really think about. I put on a very happy face and i don't fight in front of them, but they are teenagers now, and i think they know how bad it is for me.

I can relate. I've been in this situation for 15 years now

This dude looks like adam22 before the tats.

Wow zouk @this.is.zouk

There is no way a man with such a beautfull face is having this kind of problems . That woman must be out of her mind 😮

I was on the other side of the spectrum. We had sex 3-4 times every week and he still cheated. The message you get is the same tho: "I'm not good enough".

"you only se someone´s true nature at their worst times" - soo true!

Bro, it takes balls to be vulnerable and talk about personal stuff. Thank you for sharing yours 🙏

Yeah correct although I still think a lean bulk helps for two reasons; 1) your body does like to build in a tiny surplus or at least to ensure you get the protein synthesis equally throughout the day. We aren’t scientists so a belt and braces approach ensures this. 2) extra energy during heavy more consistent training cycles. Anecdotally “gaintaining” doesn’t work for me. I do a lean bulk when I am training very consistent and heavy. But it’s not eating shite, I just eat more whole foods meat and veg, so more protein. The trick is to only oscillate 3-400 calories either way of your maintenance. So you never over eat or under eat

Married and celibate. Sounds like he was a submissive she wasn't attracted too.

It was your choice to stay into this for years. I also wanted to hesr from her side. But it was your choice overall sorry but yiu should get rid this victim mindset

Kind of one-sided story with no reflection on what could've been going on in your ex partner's mind. I have been at the opposite end where my partner would pressure me into sex and get angry if I refused which created this hyper vigilance and anxiety around it because I wanted to make sure I wasn't doing it because of any external pressure/reason but because we both wanted it. Sex isn't a bonding activity if one does it out of sense of responsibility or duty. This may be also the reason why those trips and gifts didn't work. I personally would feel icky if my partner offered me gifts and then expected sex as a result. You may not have explicitly stated that that was your intention, but women can sense these things and ofc, if sex had been an issue for long then it wouldn't even need to be stated. So, instead of creating trust and connection, you may've accidentally perpetuated the opposite outcome. Ofc, I don't know all the details but I felt like offering perspective.

One Question: Do you think she had 7 years of no sex? I question that.