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This broke my heart 💔

Yes. So why do we need some many long drives, out of state games in US when kids are in very young age??? Let them develop and play in their city, in their state. Both win or lose are fine, and it doesn't need to take lots of parents time, and without family pressure, kids can always go further! Stop the foolish long distance travel game before kids can go with coaches by themselves! That's called healthy culture! ⚽️⚽️💯

I fucking love America but I fucking hate it...

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What happened to you on flames hockey?

Sad. True. How can I help as a Director if Player development for an entire state in 🇺🇸?

Would it be better if the approach is to ask “Did you have fun?” “I know what happened, but did you enjoy playing?” “Do you want to keep playing?” Be true to yourself because I can’t do that for you, my child. If you have fun, enjoyed the game, and want to continue then you need to improve because THIS IS SPORTS, and it’s a COMPETITION! This is not an art class it’s a battle of ball kicking. However, if you want to do art class instead then I’ll take you there.

i go too that school it's actully very good

Maybe your kid isn't in to that sport? Or maybe he is having fun? This is straight up abusive and manipulative. I grew up in a violent household, I take deep pride in not having to raise my voice to raise a child.

This was my old man when I was growing up. I was just a walking lottery ticket to him. One of the best days of my life was when I told him I quit playing baseball just to see the look on his miserable fucking face. The thought of it still makes me smile to this day.

I get it, it's not fun to get a lecture on the way home. However, unless he is a self-driven sport genius, a kid who doesn't listen to feedback is going to spend his time on the bench and quit regardless.

These young kids really need positive role models in their lives. I’m an Engineer, Healthcare professional and Teacher and am making plans to move to Burns Lake later this year. I’d like a chance to help provide direction to these young people somehow. Ice hockey is a lot of fun. I played for over 10 years growing up.

I don’t understand what this is aboot

Not really seeing what’s wrong with this, to be honest.

I have one issue I need you to answer. Did the kid WANT to play that sport? Did the kid ASK to be on that team? Was this ever the kid's choice in the first place? Or, was this a case of Mom and Dad drafting him, and then Mom and Dad expecting him to willingly go along? Which one was it? Answer that, then you will have my answer. In my own case, I never asked to be on the school's basketball team. I was never given that choice. The school REQUIRED me to be on the team, and my parents kept saying I would be a loser if I quit. On both fronts, I was FORCED to be there. That took me away from opportunities I WANTED, all because I was FORCED to play sports. That is why I don't care in the slightest about sports today. I am a guitarist. I like music. THAT is what I care about, and THAT is what I have always cared about. THAT is where I will devote my full attention, and THAT is where I will go out of my way to do. Had I been allowed to do that when I was growing up, I could have said yes to those opportunities, and then been far ahead of where I am now. Instead, everything I have accomplished in the music scene has all been the result of me going at it myself. So, if the kid ASKED to be there, if the kid WANTED to be there, then Dad is correct. The kid does need to devote 100% into what he ASKED to do. That is only correct. However, growing up in America, I know good and well how kids are rarely given that choice. Most parents will draft their kids into sports, and then expect the kids to willingly go along with it. The look on that kid's face clearly shows THIS is the case. The look on that kid's face clearly shows he never wanted to be there in the first place, and now Dad is fussing at HIM because of something HE never wanted to do in the first place. If the kid did want to be there, please tell me. Otherwise, that is not what his face is telling me. His face is telling me he got drafted, and is getting blamed for it. So, yes. Probably 70% of kids do quit sports, but probably 70% of them never wanted to play sports in the first place. We were drafted against our will, berated when we didn't do well, and called losers if we quit. You wonder why 70% quit. That is why. We were forced into something against our will, and then blamed for the problems that caused. All that is going to do is force us even farther away from the thing, as well as push us farther and farther away from Mom and Dad. Military drafting ended in 1973, but parents still think drafting their kids into stuff is still allowed. This is not North Korea or the Middle East. America has a concept called "freedom," meaning we get to choose our life. So, if Mom and Dad drafted the kid into the sport, and then got angry when the kid failed, then Mom and Dad are 100% wrong, and 100% responsible for the kid failing. Then, this Dad is going to turn around, and blame the kid for it? No. I am not about to tolerate that, and I will stand up to anyone I see doing that. I am not about to allow parents to blame their kids for the problems the parents caused. I am not about to allow parents to do what my father did to me. That is NOT going to happen on my watch. This is not the 1950s anymore. Abject conformity is gone. I am not going to allow parents to require their kids to be what the parents want them to be. Again, I am not going to allow parents to do what my father did to me. If you want to be a good parent, you need to identify what your kid wants to be, and go full-in on that. Whether that is being a guitarist, or playing sports, becoming a chef, or becoming a minister, or whatever it is, support what your kid wants to be, and help your kid accomplish that goal. That is what a good parents does. So, we go back to my original question. Did the kid ASK to play that sport? Or did Mom and Dad draft him, and then expect him to willingly go along?

As a father of a kid that plays sports, I can see both sides here. It's our job as parents to teach our kids values and for them to grow and understand that hard work, teamwork and a competitive spirit will help them in other areas of their life. I praise the good that our daughter does and I also tell her the things that she doesn't do right. We talk about it. And, yes, sometimes she doesn't want to hear it. But, she sees that what I am telling her is right and understands my role as her coach is to help her learn and improve. It's hard for her at times because I coach her and yes, I am hard on her but it's for a reason. I coach her just like I do the other kids. She gets no special treatment. I want her to excel and to develop. I want to give her the tools to succeed and help her achieve. She told me this past soccer season that she loves having me as her coach. That really touched me. Hearing that from your kid just helps affirm all of the coaching that she goes through. Yes, there are some parents that are completely unhinged with their kids. I see it every season. And, maybe it is them playing out their sports dreams through their kids. I can tell you that I am not. And, if she is no longer having fun, then she can stop playing after the season is over and try something else, or just be a kid. We will leave that decision up to her. But...and yes, there is a but. When she is playing, there are expectations and she understands that she will practice hard, play hard, be a great teammate and show passion for whatever game she plays. That's how we approach it.

Team sports suck. Do a solo sport :)

I'm a little tired of these "What NOT to do videos" How bout modeling the behavior we want to see from people.

This shit is giving me Vietnam flashbacks

This dad has a fixed mindset

This is really good, I moved away from Burns Lake 16 years ago and it was beautiful then, an still beautiful now. I noticed only the one rundown house was shown, Thats the only house that is like that there. At that time they were repairing the gas store and the Gas station scraps were only there for a few days, that wasn't there too long. Should show the beauty of our reserve. We are amazing people that help one another and so proud of our people Way to go Shannon, Rose and Loretta for this

Sports are supposed too be fun and letting you participate, sports aren’t there just too make ppl feel bad Bc other kids are better then them. They’re there so you can meet new ppl and too make good memories.

And I have too watch this for school I can’t watch it through the dad is just rude.

who else watched this for school and came back to look at it later?

I like my dad to push me too get better I don’t want my dad too tell me I played good when I didn’t this is why the pros are pros they put the work they have people they push them to get better and they don’t have people that are gonna sugar coat crap

You have to push your kids to get better if your not gonna put the work in don’t play

May be an unpopular opinion but this is the talk that a lot of kids need even if it's not what they want to hear

Whats up diggity dogs

I honestly agree with the dad because it’s called grinding it’s not always gonna be fun when you get the spot where you wanna be you gotta work hard to have fun...it’s just sports that’s how it works

It’s a game, not a job. Remember that

The ride home should be anything about sports

Hi ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ

My mom did this to meeeee

I don't think it's right to label the kid saying he is no good that he is a bad team mate etc. However I believe it is important to be honest with your kids. If my kids play well I tell them so. If they play badly I tell them and if that was because they didn't practice or were messing around, spending too much time behind a computer screen I let them know. They normally come to me after a game when everyone has done the back slapping and "positive encouragement" and ask me what I thought. I do not agree with telling them they are fantastic and they did well but they were "unlucky" when they played badly because they did not put in a reasonable effort. I agree with truth and honesty. No matter what is said on the drive home I tuck them into bed and tell them I love them. I can't lie to them either way, just not right. They need to learn values, be rewarded when they do well and be berated when they don't. There is too much of a lack of consequence today. Why do we have kids without manners, lack of respect etc etc.... We take sport seriously because it is a way to learn about life before it gets serious ad they end up in jail because they thought "it didn't matter". In my day it was "spare the rod and spoil the child" and while there are a lot of negatives surrounding this discussion the philosophy needs to be upheld. Be truthful and honest and loving. Tell them what they did wrong, what they need to do to correct it and what you will do to help them achieve. Reward and consequence, carrot and the stick, with love and support.

Good example of how not to do it.

your name sucks! ;o)

First 3 words I wanted to deck this guy

i feel like good players and great players are separated by the kids who can accept and utilize this type of criticism and the ones who can’t. i feel like it should be established early whether a kid wants to play to have fun or is playing to be great and parents should push the ones that choose to be great at least knowledgeable of what it takes to do so. my dads talks used to be way worse than this and i can say they have helped me reevaluate my goals and work ethic.

sports help build character, sports help build hard working skills you could not get any other way. the drive home is just part of the process that is supposed to keep you going and drive you to get better.

this is a great example of how parents should be, Ken and Arlene are wonderful parents and they give off such a great vibe. I do believe I'd enjoy meeting them and being around them.

dad coulda gone WAY harder

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Alinna is heree

This addresses a very "simple" sitaution. Most kids will just shrug their shoulders when asked "tell me about what happened". How do you deal with that? What happens when your child is now in a competitive level of team sports and you must balance the fun side with working hard. These are complicated issues, and I feel this video oversimplifies the situation

How sad.

" sports are supposed to be about fun". But to be good at something sometimes it is not fun sometimes is a lot off hard work. The success you earn as a result is the fun part.

At least he has a dad that .

who actually talks to their kids like that?

Traduzione in italiano Grazie

And the same goes for coaches and trainers at under age GAA matches.