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It’s fine for a woman to not want children. No shame or blame should be attached. It’s also fine to change your mind later in life, providing your body still allows you to conceive. Children are HARD WORK, so don’t have them unless it’s in your heart. I’m 60 and grew up in a different generation, and most of us simply got pregnant, some of us were established and many weren’t. However, children are HARD WORK, and babies are for young people. You don’t have a moment to yourself and you’re running around all day, whilst being sleep deprived. Believe me, it’s hard when you’re 24, 33 and 35. I cared for my grandchildren aged 50, and it was EVEN HARDER! However it’s better to regret not having children, than having them and regretting their presence. Above all enjoy and love the life you’ve been blessed with.

I have 4 children , a 48 year marriage, 16 grandchildren and 13 great grandchildren . Love them all and have no words to describe the joy they have brought me . However i find it absolutely shocking that anyone would tell someone else that they should or shouldnt have children ! Its no one elses business if people dont or do want to have children . Good grief .

Me neither, decided to be childfree, back in the mid 70s. Was still in high school at the time.

All these examples are about BAD HUSBANDS, not babies, having a baby is the best feeling in the world, the love the cuteness the purpose in life is incomparable

I see motherhood as a trap. But yes, kids have become a luxury item, at least for people with money.

These stories remind me so much of my health issues. When I am flaring, my weight drops. People congratulate me! Yet I am sick and feel awful. It's like no one cares about the truth behind anything. So long as those boxes got ticked. Having kids is like that. You could be suffering with PPD but congratulations on having a baby!

“No childcare is free” yeah, it’s called being a stay at home mom and taking care of your own children 🙄

As a 39 year old that babysat in the 90s for $5 per hour, tell me WHERE THE HELL HAVE NEIGHBORHOOD BABYSITTERS GONE?

As a 39 year old that babysat in the 90s for $5 per hour, tell me WHERE THE HELL HAVE NEIGHBORHOOD BABYSITTERS GONE?

I figured out for me to have a child with rising cost it would cost 3 million dollars 💸 😅

My old best friend started having kids at 19. She mocked my single life as if traveling and acting my age was a total embarrassment. I noticed she only ever encouraged me to have kids when she was stressed and feeling trapped. When she turned 30 she told me she loved her kids but wished she waited until she was much older. Don’t let anyone sell you on the dream of parenthood because most of the time, it’s a misery loves company situation. If it’s not deeply in your spirit after much therapy and family planning, do not do it.

Some of today's babied adults have no idea how to patent a child cos they were spoiled.

In certain regions areas of the USA, getting pregnant could be life threatening. If the fetus is unviable (e.g. ectopic pregnancy), you can't get emergency care because MDs are afraid of prosecution. So you're literally taking your life in your hands to carry a child to term. I love that Gen Z is saying eff this. When birth rates are down all over the world, maybe women will finally get some respect. (but I doubt it, women will just be forced to bear children)

Women CHOOSE their baby daddies. They get pregnant by a loser out of wedlock, then they are surprised that their baby daddy is crappy father…..🙄

NO. “Middle age” is between 40-60. So, NO 50’s isn’t “beyond middle age.”

My horse is STILL cheaper than children 😂

Every single time I was told that I would change my mind about not wanting children was a good example of “Misery loves company”

This is partner regret. This is what happens when you settle.

Men should pay the mother of their children for her labor and delivery and child care. A woman's physical labor is giving birth but must pay a man to supervise A man's physical labor is just paid and insured. We should be paid for our labor.

Yeah this is true, i wish i never became a mother cause it all falls on me and i do mean EVERYTHING 😭 I WISH I KNEW THIS BEFORE

“Trad Wife content is DANGEROUS” - absolutely true!! 💯

Most people lack spiritual discernment in general but especially when it comes to picking the person they choose to procreate with. I don't get it. Also, this 'it takes a village' nonsense is trash. Forget about a village. There's no village. The issue isn't about this non-existent village that was only a figment of your imagination. The village is an excuse to get out of being held accountable for choosing to procreate with an unsupportive partner or choosing to be a single parent.

"Parents" have kids they can't afford then whine and complain that they can't afford childcare. They whine and complain that their kid's school is doing away with free meals. They whine and complain that they can't afford groceries. It's just so insane. Telling these psychopaths to stop having kids they can't afford is actually controversial and that's just ridiculous. It shouldn't be controversial to tell people the truth. That said, many actual parents are taking care of their own kids and not paying for childcare. I follow a number of TH-camr families in which the mother stays home with the children and dad works a good job and supports his family. This is the way functional families are actually supposed to work. The problem is all of these stupid women listening to Luciferian feminists and trying to live like an episode of Sex and the City. Women need to wake up from their baby mama programming and start valuing the right things.

Getting pregnant 3 times by accident? No comment.

I've noticed a lot of friends quietly have their parents pay for things. I know this because they have a similar salary to me, yet somehow have nicer houses and car. The one thing they have in common? Rich parents. It's NEVER spoken about they they got help.

I will NEVER see children as a luxury,, HA something that pukes shits boogers screams cries throws things bites and scratches ruins your body destroys your mental health is not a luxury to me

Oh the irony! Here in America, the poor are constantly spitting out kids they can't afford. Really, the American governments (State and Federal) help a lot if you're low income with children. There's SNAP (food stamps), WIC, child tax credits, Section 8, daycare, LIHEAP, SafeLink, TANF, Medicaid and school food programs. Then there are the many many nonprofits and church programs. The lefty loons claiming that the government doesn't provide enough assistance are flat out LYING.

this world is so evil

The problem is not parenting- the problem is two adults both working full time and trying to raise a family at the same time. That’s just not possible. Unless you have a lot of money to pay for help, or have grandparents/friends/ relatives who are able and willing to help, it’s too much. I don’t have kids- never a specific choice- just never in a place where it was possible. I don’t regret not having them. But this societal ideal of two parents having successful careers, a perfect home, perfect bodies, and perfect kids is just a toxic fantasy.

I had 3 children. My husband was useless. I asked to hire help cleaning and he said no. He would lounge around all evenings and weekends watching TV. Even when I worked, my husband was insistent that I do all the cooking and cleaning. Also, he criticized everything, as if he knew anything about it.

I’m so sorry, my heart is broken for these women. I hope they can get the help they need and find joy in their lives.

That first story was heartbreaking💔. Her last line about everyone around her knowing that her concerns about motherhood werent unfounded is so upsetting. I bet she feels a lot of resentment against all of those people.

I was shocked that the Surgeon General's warning didnt make more of a stink online. It was clearly validating about how stressful it is from apublic health perspective and for some reason it didnt get much notice online, on social media, and barely in the medis.

The parenting struggle bus sounds dreadful. Poor kids. None of them asked to be resented. Smh. I'm so glad to be child free. 👍🙏

I feel sorry for all those cats in your future.

Looking at the worst parts of parenthood isn’t a full picture, taking anyone during a vulnerable time in their life and putting it in a compilation to have people victim blame them is a sure way to drive people to unaliving themselves.

So we are victimblaming now? The comments are so toxic and weird.

Its a choice you make for yourself and its a responsibility for life. I would be too protective and would worry about them constantly

I highly recommend that all teenage girls do a LOT of babysitting, and for neighbors you hardly know, not just family members. It will teach you so much about if you want that life full time for yourself. The summer of my 16th year I babysat for FOUR boys every working day of the summer for a working “single mother” (her husband was in a mental institution). The boys were 10 months old, a two year old, a four yo, and a six year old. All day, every day, for the entire summer, at 16! I knew by the end of that summer I never wanted kids, not even one. Cured for life. Our church conned me into doing the job, probably thinking it would make me want to be a mother, whereas, the joke was on them!

Rule number 1 NEVER TRUST WHAT A MAN SAYS 10/10 they are EMPTY PROMISES

Children are also wanted by people who really don't deserve them. Some people want kids just to have something to abuse.

A lot of this feels like partner regret more than anything

so you chose a bad partner, didn't have enough spine to justify your desire to not have kids, and then blame the baby and other parents for choices you made? parenting is DEFINITELY not for people who have a lack of maturity/the ability to make good choices.

How do so many women fall for the Cinderella narrative of motherhood? Don't they observe the daily lives of their friends & relatives who have kids? I think that once they obs3rve what's going on, no amount of words should sway them.

Parenting is not for all❤ and it is ok

These are all the reasons why so many young ladies are having a tubal sterilization, now. Even teenage girls are already choosing childfree by choice, as a future life.

As a person who was baby trapped, I strongly encourage you to protect your uterus from invaders. Usually vampires only come in when invited, but sometimes they trick you. Once you’ve been bitten, your life will never be what it wants was.. never become a parent out of guilt either. Stay on birth control. Get that abortion. Dump that man

The obsession with our decision is hysterical. Like miss ma'am, if you're happy let it go. Let it go. I didn't ask to be here, lm going to do the best I can to survive it. I am kind to children, helpful to others but even if I wasn't, my life is not owed to you all. Why is that so hard to understand

Does anyone feel this for their parents? I love my dad and he's a generally good person but I feel rage and disgust sometimes because he brought me into this world without really considering what that meant

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