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PhDMom
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 16 เม.ย. 2019
Hey Everyone!
I wanted to start a vlog channel about balancing my PhD with family life.
I am currently a Postdoctoral Scholar at the University of Florida. I had my daughter about 2 years into my PhD while at Texas A&M University, and wanted to share my experience as a PhD mom for all those who are thinking about having a baby, are pregnant, or have a baby/babies and want a life in academia (temporarily or for the long haul). It's 2022, my daughter is quickly growing up, and I have learned a lot! If you want to stay tuned to our journey, please subscribe!
I wanted to start a vlog channel about balancing my PhD with family life.
I am currently a Postdoctoral Scholar at the University of Florida. I had my daughter about 2 years into my PhD while at Texas A&M University, and wanted to share my experience as a PhD mom for all those who are thinking about having a baby, are pregnant, or have a baby/babies and want a life in academia (temporarily or for the long haul). It's 2022, my daughter is quickly growing up, and I have learned a lot! If you want to stay tuned to our journey, please subscribe!
Getting a Postdoc I Didn’t [Formally] Apply For
I spent months applying to faculty and postdoc positions till I found out I was doing it all wrong. The best opportunities are the ones you make for yourself!
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Being a PhD Candidate and Adjunct Faculty
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Hey all! This past semester I had the privilage of serving as an Adjunct at a college while completing my PhD. I wanted to share with all of you. If you have a masters or are a PhD candidate you are elidgable to teach! If that is something you want to do, talk with your advisor to see how you could apply!
PhD Mom: Life in Lockdown
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Hey friends! Its been a while. Since it has been about a year since we first went into lockdown. I wanted to share my experience. Let me know your experience in the comments below!
Comprehensive Exams Part 6: Oral Exam, PhD Mom
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The oral examination was probably the hardest day emotionally in my entire life. Took about a week to fully recover....
Comprehensive Exams Part 5, PhD Mom
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Five questions, 24 hours, 18 pages and we are done with the written exams. I needed a long nap after this one. Now off to do my oral exam!
Comprehensive Exams, Part 3 & 4 PhD Mom
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Hey everyone! I absolutely could not function after exam three so I put my thoughts on exam three and four into one video. Last exam is my advisors.... Then off to orals!
Comprehensive Exams, Part 2 PhD Mom
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Hey everyone! Here is a short video on my second written exam. Suppose they cant all go well.... welp.... two writtens down, three to go.
Comprehensive Exams, Part 1 PhD Mom
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One written exam done, four to go. I wanted to make a short video about how I felt after taking my first exam
If I were to do my PhD again, I would still be a PhD Mom
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Hey everyone, I have been asked about wheather or not it is the right time for others to start a family based on what I have experienced. While I cannot tell anyone else if they should have a child during grad school, if I were given a second chance at a PhD I would still choose to be a PhD Mom! Heres why! Twitter: @SJSawyerBeetle
PhD Mom Guilt
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Ever feel like your doing everything wrong no matter how hard you try? Same. I just wanted to do a mini rant/vent.
A Day in the Life of a PhD Mom
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Ever wonder what it’s like balancing a PhD and baby each day? Join me as I navigate through my day as a PhD mom.
I Put my Child in Daycare, PhD Mom
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After staying home with my child for the first six months of her life I chose to put her into daycare to prevent falling behind in my research.
Surviving My First Semester as a PhD Mom
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Hey everyone! This is my first vlog ever, so I apologize about the quality. There is a little bit of a learning curve. I am starting my 3rd year of my PhD. I am hoping to share my journey with anyone who is also going through motherhood and academics, or thinking about starting a family while pursuing a career in academics.
This is so cool. I’m a mom of 2 and I just my PhD this fall. I’m interested in the lecture software tool you use
This is 4 yr ago. But i want to take inspiration as i am from horticulture department. And now i am ist year.
Such a inspiring video. I truly appreciate it❤.
How u trust day care... Do they take care nicely.. Is ur daughter happy there???
I am about to start my PhD soon. I was not sure if I would be able to start a family during my studies. Watching your video is really inspiring. Loved every moment,especially baby ❤ and you playing the rattle..it was soooo cute...stay blessed
I need this! I have an infant going into my program 😅 but this made me feel better
Me too. I hope for the best in my program
Great content and subscribed! Would love hear what you think of our grad school channel. Thanks!
OMG! I'm so happy for you girl!!🎉 how's your baby girl? Mine is 4yo now 😅🤭 good luck in this new phase of your life 💐
You're amazing, thanks for making this video!
You are a superrrr lady !!! I will be in a similar situation soon!!!! Pray for me
Can PhD be done with having a baby (03 months) and what are the possibility of getting funding???
All the best 😍😍😍
I’d love to hear about what your responsibilities were as adjunct! I’m a philosophy PhD student right now.
Cool! I'm in year 3 of a PhD project and becoming a dad soon :D Good luck, and nice to meet you!
Congrats! Becoming a parent during your PhD is the best!
Hi, I am about to start my second year in my masters program after having a baby. How did you manage through sleep regression‘s and lack of sleep?
My daughter wouldn’t sleep through the night for the first three months and I felt like I was loosing my mind. Those periods do go away with time! I just kept telling myself that it will pass and try to be patient with it. I also started drinking a LOT of caffeine. There are periods I will work on little to no sleep and it is still hard. But I just keep short term goals in mind and celebrate small victories. It also helps that when my daughter is sick or she wakes up in the middle of the night my husband and I take shifts. But don’t be ashamed to take a nap in the middle of the day if you need it and have time! I would be lying if I took a lunch hour and spent it sleeping instead. I just took my lunch to class or the office. Don’t be hard on yourself if you miss a deadline or a personal goal because you are sleep deprived even people without children face it, you are doing great! So for me, I focus on positive thoughts, and allowing time and forgiveness for myself when needed.
Do you go to TAMU college station? I went to TAMU. I am considering having baby during my PhD. wonder if you could talk
Yes I do! Gig ‘em! You can find me on Twitter (@SJSawyerbeetle) and we can private chat if you would like!
Welcome back ✌🤩😍❤
I just found your channel not too long ago. I have a 14 month old son and just got into a PhD literature program. I'm an older student (36) so I lover hearing other moms talk about their academic experience. Thanks for sharing.
Same here! Hi Nicole! It is really nice to hear from other moms! :)
Thank you for sharing. I would love an update!
Hi, so happy to have found a fellow Phd student x mum. I see that you have not uploaded in a while. Hope everything is OK. Hang in there!
😀 nice...you did great, make an update video please
Thank you very much for sharing! Do you guys have any tips about studying for the exams w/ a toddler! Thank you :)
You are awesome 😍 keep it up
nice office! please post more videos
Can I have my first kid in my second or third year of PhD? I do 9 hours for 6 days a week, and my husband is also doing PhD, I'm not sure and I wish someone tell me a good advise
I hope my answer does not come too late. Fellow Phd Student x Mum here. The Pros of having a child outweigh the cons. So I vote a big YES.
@@studymumm Wow, I'm in my second year and I want to be mom as well. THANKS FOR THE INSIGHT
Hi! Did you end up having a baby after all? We also decided the pros outweighed the cons and went for it in my 4th year!
@sophiasouthern No, still no baby but we are planning on starting to trying next year:)
Which stream is yours dear?
Is it possible to have a child mid PhD without a lot of help from family or spouse and still be able to finish it on time?
How old are you?
I am just about to turn 26
Thank you for sharing! I'll be writing my thesis next semester for my Masters, due in March and entering my PhD in the Fall of 2021. Your videos make me feel a whole lot better. I've been looking high and low for women with newborns in PhD programs!
Its great that you got this far! good job!
You are awesome! You are doing great in an unprecedent pandemic rising a baby and taking care of your husband and yourself as good as it is possible!!
Good luck on your next exam! I’m prepping for my qualifying exams now, but yours sound way more stressful! For ours (biomedical engineering) we write a NIH style grant proposal of our work, and then also do an oral presentation of that with Q+A from the committee.
Thank you! That sounds extremely helpful. I think a lot of departments are starting to lean more toward those types of exams so that way at the end you have something to show for it! Good luck with your exams! Studying for me was stressful at first but really calming toward the end. I suppose that is the calm before the storm so to speak haha.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us!
Hello.. I'm also PhD Mom, during lockdown I can't manage well my time to study my subjet and beeing teacher of my children. Yes you are right I haven't time, during lockdown. Unfortunatelly, I haven't advisor, and my supervisor doubt my capability to doing my PhD and stopped the topic, honestly its make me devastated. But, In this summer I will starting again My PhD in another university, hope I find the supervisor understand the life PhD Mom be succesfull, and I'm happy my scholarship still support of me. Yes, I agree with you mother is still mother always miss they children if they children is far away from you, it not easier but we must strunggle. Thank you for sharing..
Thank you so much for sharing. I am just starting my PhD (also in STEM) at 30 years old and I’m feeling really guilty about postponing starting our family. This gives me hope that maybe we won’t need to wait till I’m actually done.
Gracias por el video! Te sigo hace tiempo... Estoy igual que tu haciendo phd con niño de casi 3 en lockdown. Ambos con mi marido hacemos teletrabajo. He tenido muy bajo rendimiento. Me podrias describir como era tu horario? Incluyendo limpiar, cocinar, cuidar a tu hija, tiempo en pareja y trabajo? Este es mi correo aylluu@gmail.com.
Estoy usando el traductor de Google para esto, así que espero que se vea correctamente. Puedo entrar en un poco más de detalles en un video, pero por lo general, la forma en que mi esposo y yo trabajábamos cuando la guardería estaba cerrada era despertarnos alrededor de las 8 con nuestra hija y luego jugar con ella juntos para realmente nivelarla. Luego, cuando ella tomaba una siesta (2-3 horas) trabajábamos. Luego haríamos lo mismo cuando se despertara, acostándola alrededor de las 7 a 8 pm. Fue muy difícil con las clases porque tenía que enseñar durante el día, así que hubo momentos en que mi esposo necesitaba hacerse cargo por sí mismo y yo enseñaba. Pero la mayor parte de mi trabajo se hacía entre las 8 p.m. y las 3 a.m., pero la mayoría de las noches me detenía alrededor de la 1 a.m. para poder dormir un poco. Lo cual fue realmente difícil, pero no teníamos otra opción. Estaba muy agotado por no tener descansos, pero siento que ahora que mi hija ha vuelto a la guardería soy mucho más productiva. ¡Mantenga la energía positiva!
Thanks for making this video! It’s reassuring to hear that you would do this all over again if you had to chose:) I’m starting my 3rd year in the Fall, applying for the F31 in a couple of weeks, and then doing my Research Proposal a few weeks after that. So the plan is to start trying after the proposal:) I’ve had this feeling inside me for months now, just like I’m ready to be a mom. My husband will be a great dad, I’m so excited to see that too. Our families are super excited for us to have a child, but I’m struggling with my own doubts, because the very analytical, planning side of me is trying to make sure we’re ready in every aspect. And just knowing that it will make everything so much more complicated is a hard thought to reconcile. I appreciate your thoughts on this, someone in a similar position in terms of school/work, thank you! And like you said this will all be so much harder if I’m a fresh graduate trying to find a job and starting a family at the same time. My husband and I are both ready emotionally, and my mom keeps telling me to ‘just do it!’ like I’m a Nike athlete haha. Anyways, good luck on your exams!
Magda, first of all congratulations for starting your 3rd year in the fall. Second, I get what your mom is saying: “just do it” lol and let me tell you why: Does not matter as much ready you’re, this journey is an “adventurous”, and you just are going to find out your struggles and joy as soon as you’re in. I’m also a grad student and I planned my daughter while was still doing my associates degree, she’s about to be 3 years now. I am going to finish my masters next spring and I’m going jump right away to a PhD. Is it easy? Hell not! But it seems like you have everything that you need “a family support”, solo/single moms also can thrive/succeed (for sure) however, “it takes a village to raise a child”, so just do it! Lol you already want to (I’m not imposing it to you lol, it’s not like you don’t want children and I’m telling you to have). You also said you’re emotionally really! Hope it may help.
So inspiring , well done Boss lady
This is inspiring. I'm in my second year of my PhD program and I'm thinking of starting to try to conceive my third year but still deciding whether it's the right time.
Grad school is a wonderful time to have a child. If I had the option to do it all over again I wouldn't change a thing. My daughter has made me a better and more efficient researcher and the flexibility in my schedule allows me to spend time with her that I am not sure I would have had if I was a junior faculty. But it all depends on your preferences everyone is different. If you want to, I would say go for it!
Heads up, you're doing great! Of course there are sacrifices to make, you cannot take care of a child and do a PhD and be ALONE in this! It's amazing that the dad is so involved, thumbs up for him! Cuz this a time when you really need support. You already have enough pressure from the PhD, you don't need more from your family/husband. For sure the PhD will play off well in the long run, because it's a period full of valuable lessons. You get to learn so much not only on academic matters, but also on yourself and how to balance everything. It's also normal to have doubts, but I hope you'll get all the support and understanding so that you can overcome this! And thanks for giving such intimate insights, even on these least pleasant things!
Thank you lots for these insights! I'm impressed with your day routine, it's so organized and seems that you have time for everything, HATS OFF for that! I was also wondering if you have the possibility to take maternity leave, what are its conditions and how long does it last. Maybe you could do a video on that :) PS. Your daughter is adorable!!!
Thank you! Some days go a little better than others for sure. I think maternity leave is different depending on your department and graduate student governing body. Though I didn't have to formally file maternity leave because my advisor and I discussed it privately and had no issues coming to an agreement. His wife actually watched my daughter so I could attend class in person and get a break. Each university should have their maternity leave policy posted on their graduate student website, or faculty/staff site. Some also have it on student websites. So while the maternity leave document protects your rights to have maternity leave, my advisor gave me more time to spend with my daughter than the official leave would have.
I am also a PhD mom. Good to find another PhD mom :) thanks for the video
How is your baby? Once I've tried putting my child in a daycare and stayed there in another room to work in my essay but he started crying and the babysitter didn't care about that, even she didn't try to calm down my baby. It was so heartbreaking I couldn't continue working.
That is so unfortunate, I am sorry! I think I lucked out in finding a really good daycare with teachers that really love all the kids and my daughter loves her teachers. She recently moved classes since she is now running around. She was a little nervous at first, wasn't as excited to go to school (we call her daycare school) so it made me a little worried but I just tried to give it a week to see if she just needed to get used to the idea and she started to enjoy going again. The change is really hard on kids. I think when my daughter first went she was so young she didn't really understand that I wasn't just in the other room so she never had that period where she was apprehensive when she first went (I think it was much harder on me haha). But good babysitters/teachers definitely make a world of difference! I know I am replying to this a bit late, so I hope everything has worked out!
As a PhD mom, i advice you to never think of years ahead, live for this day, do your best, were all under pressure bt this is what were meant to do. You may influence your kid, my dad finished his PhD and made me know nothing comes easily, the greater you want to reach the harder things will get
Estoy pasando por algo similar. Es mi último semestre del pregrado (bachelor degree) y estas últimas semanas estoy fuera casi todo el día. Siento mucha presión y no sé si estoy haciendo lo correcto.
ya casi está allí, si no ha terminado las finales, solo piense en cómo se trata de un paso temporal. Sé que los días que te pierdes no vuelven, pero recuerda que este es un acuerdo a corto plazo. ¡lo tienes!
PhDMom díos mío! Tú hablas español, inglés y que más? Btw, no te sientas culpada, tú bebé te vas a ver en el futuro como un ejemplo de persona.
Hola. Quería preguntarte qué opinas de la crianza respetuosa o attachment parenting?
pido disculpas, puse esto a través de Google Translate. Tuve que buscar ambos para saber exactamente lo que significan. Lo que entiendo, la paternidad apegada es usar el contacto para crear un vínculo con su bebé. Creo que esto es generalmente lo que hacemos instintivamente. Solo quiero abrazar a mi bebé todo el tiempo. Esto es probablemente lo que hizo que dejarla en la guardería la primera vez fuera tan preocupante para mí. ¿se apegará a alguien más? pero siento que a medida que los bebés envejecen, naturalmente dejan de querer aferrarse a sus padres. así que creo que todos lo hacemos hasta cierto punto, incluso si somos padres que intentamos no "molestar" a nuestros hijos. La paternidad respetuosa también es difícil. Porque nuestros bebés son su propia gente. tenemos que dejar que cometan errores y hablar sobre ellos. y ahora mi bebé es demasiado pequeño para responder o golpear a alguien a sabiendas, pero necesitan entender que el respeto funciona en ambos sentidos. así que mi opinión es realmente enseñarles respeto, pero también mostrarles cómo ser respetuosos en cómo los tratan. Si hay mala conducta, creo que sigue siendo el trabajo de los padres mostrar que hay consecuencias en sus acciones, pero es necesario que se comuniquen por qué no deberían estar haciendo eso. No estoy seguro si divagué o respondí tu pregunta. pero espero que eso ayude!
I’m also a graduate student ! Thank you for this video. It’s really hard to find someone in my area going thorough motherhood, grad school and balancing that out. I work on top of these things. I’m doing a master’s though. I hope you keep making videos. It would be so nice to have a group support for all grad school moms :) You’re doing great and keep it up!
Lili O. Powell I feel you, I’m also doing my Master’s and I am up to have a group support for all grad school moms.
What phase of your PhD are you in? I’m also a PhD mom of 2 toddler and a part time nursing student at another school
I am halfway through my third year. I will be taking my comprehensive exams this June. I had my daughter a year ago at the end of January. I couldn’t imagine two kids and two degrees. You are a rockstar!
Don’t feel guilt hun this will all pay off at the end! This is your life too! Don’t live your life with regrets! P.S. another PhD mom
Just watched all ur videos u r awesome. I am looking for tips as I am mom of two doing PhD
Omera Shahnawaz thank you! And good for you, having one has posed a challenge for me, I couldn’t imagine two. I don’t think I could have done it without the support of my daughters father, advisor, and committee. I have found a strong support system and understanding colleges to be my greatest assets
Yes that's true. Ph.D student needs alot of support in personal and student life. I m glad you got it.