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Everything you are saying is quite common unfortunately in today’s age because we have, in the era of the internet created endless personal philosophies. Everyone has some idea of what an “improve person” is. But everyone is so lost and confused because there is no real sense of direction its just endless numbers of people selling their own personal brand of spirituality and wisdom based on anecdotes. As a Christian, I believe your main points have all been addressed in the Bible 1. Self Worth We are all lovable because God loves us. If God, the Lord of the Universe loves us who can say anything that takes away from that? That doesn't mean he approves of everything we do or say but it doesn't meant that he wants the best for us and wants to have a relationship with us no matter who we are. Hopping off the endless grind of worldly self improvement but also finding truly meaningful and fullfilling goals are not mutually exclusive. You are just missing a spiritual piece here. 1 John 4:16 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 2. True Self Improvement. How does anyone improve without some standard of what is best? When we say we are becoming better than implies we are moving towards a model of perfection. Philosopher Thomas Aquinas pointed out that Jesus was a perfect person, God in human form and so he is the standard for all human improvement. This is called sanctification. Because if we just want to make up our own way then we are lost. At any point we can arbitrarily move the goalposts to tell ourselves we are fine or suddenly change the steps when it “isn’t working out”. But that’s just like changing the rules of chess to give you an advantage and say you're getting better at the game. We don’t award ourselves Olympic Gold medals we get awarded and have that confidence when we meet the standard of excellence. Just like how the laws of physics and math are discovered and transcendent the laws of improvement or gradation are transcendent. They are discovered or revealed not just made up. All those self help gurus selling expensive programs, pseudo spirituality and counseling sessions because they read Atomic Habits or whatever are wasting everyone’s time. The church offers counseling, healthcare, community, spiritual care, and education all for free and with a sincere wish to help the human race. My own church has loads of people just going off to get counseling degrees just so they can better serve others. Jeremiah 8:9 The wise men shall be put to shame; they shall be dismayed and taken; behold, they have rejected the word of the Lord, so what wisdom is in them? 1 Corinthians 3:18 Let no one deceive himself. If anyone among you thinks that he is wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise. Colossians 2:8 See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ. Let me know if you want to talk more about this! You said you would try everything right?

I have some problems as well Felicia, trust me thought it happens, because i have my favorite things to watch on the weekend which is ultraman and I'm quitting Ultraman Chronicles next year so, it was okay but the part is it was boring for me so, i guess I have to change.

There was a point in my journey where I had asked my brother to cuss me out and tell me how much I suck because I really felt like I wasn't doing enough and needed someone to remind me to do better. Yes I'm borderline depressed now. Edit: I am not the "eldest daughter" (I have 2 older sisters) but I guess I was parentified and the oldest female child in the house at that time and I relate to everything you said.

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Oh man, so many good points here, im not going to try to touch on all of them, i just want to say you're definitely on the right path and to keep going 🙂

Great video Felicia! I'm sorry that you are facing different struggles where people are judgmental about improving yourself. I deal with this issue a lot where it can be mentally fatiguing and hard. It gets hard when people including some peers or friends get hard on my when I struggle with my disability which is autism with a learning disability including a cognitive disability. When it comes to my disability I struggle on social issues, figuring out how to communicate with people who have different personalities, on learning subjects or navigating fast pace environment or event learning how to do a task efficiently is complicated where it causes people to get easily flustered. It can get depressing when I have struggles with my disability or when people get hard on me. There are times where I feel like I can't continue life. The best things that I can do is remind myself that I'm a human being despite challenges, having compassion including the ability to have better understanding of people who have struggles, willing to expand on knowledge including critical thinking, and gaining experience in different things like volunteer or hobbies, and many others. I'm not great at giving advice but the best thing I can say is its good to gain experience, but have the ability to be compassionate including understanding, willing to expand on knowledge including critical thinking, be creative, and remind yourself that you are a human being.

When theyre constantly on their phone when you see them but they leave you on delivered for hours 😔

i love this so much Felicia!!! thank you!!

I love this girly! Thank you so much!!! ❤

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I tutored Econ 101 in college because nobody else wanted to do it. It some ways doing so opened doors for me.

It is good that you found your interests early. You have a high level of emotional intelligence. Such skills will serve you well!

Relationships can be so complex! I have been in situations where I had a big crush on a woman but she was not interested. I was rejected and felt hurt for a very long time. The reverse happened too. Women who were interested in me and I was either not interested or did not understand her clues. Recently someone told me that I tend to push people away… Maybe I have a bit of an avoidant personality type and prefer to stay on my own world. Any thoughts?

Thank you for the great video. I can totally relate to it. I am the type who complains about being alone but each time I have an opportunity for a relationship, I pull back and retract in to my own world. A nice Lady recently told me that I tend to push people away. Maybe I am trying to protect myself from past hurts. Any thoughts?

This reminds a Lady that I knew when I was in Grad school. She a PHD student working on Cancer research. Definitively not the model/actress type but she was so knowledgeable about so many things, that I always really enjoyed spending time with her. Anyhow, that was many years ago. I still miss her lot!

Thank for this great video. I do not think that I have abandonment fears but I do isolate myself. I think it is due to past trauma! I have been successful professionally but not much in relationships

I was never confident, but i always liked to say i was. I always liked to say "thank you, I know" everytime someone told me I'm pretty or smt like that. Later on i realised that i shouldn' t fake my confidense, so i stopped. After a while i realised that when i stopped i still had that confidense. When i wasn't showing of my confidense people weren't as nice as usually. Thank you so much for giving me advice! I apsolutely love your videos. I rly didn't have time to support you in the comments lately but i always watch your videos and they always help❤

Everything you said in your video I feel the same in my core because I am also going through the realization and more pain of being parentified from a young age around 10-11 years old to now that I am 25 years old and the oldest among 6 siblings. Also, I was the "good kid" as I thought if I stayed in line I would not get hurt and be accepted and loved by my parents but in the end that was not the case at all. While my younger sister who is 19 has been the "rebellious kid" who in the end alao got the same result as I did. "Good" or "bad' our parents failed us both. But now I am trying to a good older sister to my siblings especially my younger sister who my parents are treating her the same way they treated me but that is where I am stepping in to not let that happen again. We agreed to make and save some money to move out because we can't actually live or start to live our life with them anymore. We had enough and we deserve to be ourselves too.

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Great video Felicia! I think it’s hard to find an attractive trait in life. In my life it is a challenges on finding an attractive trait in life due to my struggles with autism including a learning disability and trying to navigate different social settings including different settings. I think that my traits the I have is compassion for people who have struggles in life, having the ability to expand on critical thinking to learn or to understand things, and wanting to be creative. It’s hard when people that I know aren’t respectful or appreciative of my traits or the challenges of understanding society. I also do some volunteering work to help provide food or other essential supplies to homeless people including people who are low income.

I love your stories felicia they are so relatable.

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Very relatable life story, I think an overarching theme is focusing on internal fulfilment instead of external. It's very easy to get caught up in external goals and then get left feeling empty as you said. I believe people focusing on internal goals not only feel happier but are also more productive in what they do.

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Great video! I deal with getting burned out from dealing with challenges of getting put down by other people about having a disability or sometimes my autism spectrum with my learning disability including a cognitive disability affects me on trying to process different information or if I have to try to communicate my thoughts with other people in different social settings where it gets hard. When I get burned out I spend time listening to easy listening or nature sounds, go for a walk to get some exercise, do self care, work on reorganizing my thoughts, work on figuring out short term goals that I want to work on, and do some volunteering like help feed homeless people including people who are low income. Another thing that I do is when I get burned out is I spent time with my toys historical figures called the Little Thinkers to help keep me calm from anxiety. Also I spend time watching youtube, movies, and tv shows when it is hard for me to be in crowded areas.

Timestamps: 0:59 - My story 4:05 - Tip 1: Enter your “mid” era 6:15 - Tip 2: Life is not THAT short 7:59 - Tip 3: Reflect on your goals 10:15 - Tip 4: Celebrate the small wins 11:34 - Concluding Thoughts

Thanks for the excellent advice. Everyone needs this.

Great Video, believe you spent a lot of effort and time on it. Thank you.

Great video I struggle with fear of dealing with abandonment due to having challenges with having autism with a learning disability including some cognitive disability where it causes people including friends get har don me for not meeting their expectations. Also I struggle with having a friendship or a relationship with a girl because I get put down by girls for having a disability. The best thing that I can do is self care, remind myself that I'm a human being with challenges of having a disability, be compassionate including understanding of people when they would have challenges, and many others.

Timestamps 0:00 - Intro 0:36 - What are you really scared of? 2:05 - Reframe negative beliefs 2:56 - Improve the value you bring to others 4:18 - Your impact on your relationships 4:56 - Reframe past experiences 7:18 - Extra tips 9:16 - Concluding thoughts

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Great video I struggle to fit in with other people because people want me to be a people pleaser. I struggle with autism including a learning disability along with a cognitive disability and it is hard for me to share with people about my hobbies or interest because many people reject me.

Hi Felicia, I really enjoy watching your youtube videos about life, some advices about life lessons, and many others. I struggle with autism including a learning disability including cognitive disability where it affects me on daily life stuff like friendships, trying to adjust to understanding tasks efficiently or going at a fast pace, and feeling okay in society. It's hard for me to have friends because I get put down by other people including peers about being different, how I can't meet people's expectations, and many others. Also I deal with getting rejections from girls if I want to have a connection like a friendship or a relationship. Your videos are fun to listen to and it great learning your perspective about life. Matt Winick Ann Arbor, MI USA

Timestamps 0:00 - Intro 0:33 - Mindset 2:50 - When to do work 4:17 - Maintaining good quality 7:00 - Minimizing distracting 8:37 - Conclusion

Some people do deserve the resentment and anger. But it’s important to know which is which

Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:49 - Happiness is a habit 1:06 - Physical habits 1:51 - Love your morning routine 3:06 - Everything is a privilege 4:21 - Focus on what you give to others 4:57 - Assume the best in others 6:22 - Heal childhood wounds, insecurities 7:56 - Less time texting, more time living 10:06 - Know when to quit 11:45 - Set boundaries with yourself 12:41 - Don’t live for the future 14:02 - You narrate your life 16:24 - Conclusion

this is genuinely the best video ive seen on this topic , it cleared up so many things for me and was so helpful . I'm so grateful to have found this video . thank you so much <3

Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:24 - Not realizing you're problematic 3:58 - Continuously bringing up issues 5:01 - Jumping to conclusions before communicating 7:02 - Being afraid of commitment despite wanting it 8:09 - Not clearly establishing boundaries 9:48 - Acting on emotions before processing them 11:26 - Abandoning at the first sign of conflict 12:25 - Unresolved insecurities/past trauma 13:20 - Impending sense of doom 14:13 - Resentment 15:23 - Concluding thoughts

Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro to Law of Detachment 0:58 - Where People are Going Wrong 2:50 - Debunking Misconceptions 7:06 - Healthy Detachment Mindsets 11:01 - Detachment Gone Wrong Story 12:55 - Hopeful Concluding Thoughts

Sorry for sneaking into a daughter's conversation 😅. But I have to tell that as a Asian it is even harder to be the eldest. If our siblings will get f#cked up it'd be an our fault 😢 And I agree with you that we should stay away from useless conversations. I naturally don't like to talk much about useless things. Great vid again girl ❤

It' s hard to sit in front of the camera and speak up about things like that, but you did it to help people who have the same problem. Thank you so much for doing this! ❤ I will always watch your videos and respect you for what you' re doing.

Timestamps 0:00 - Intro 0:16 - Perfectionism & Self-Criticism 3:21 - Conflict Avoidance 5:32 - Self-Oppression & Loss of Identity 7:14 - Being the "good kid" (and how it's not so good) 8:46 - The negative effects of people pleasing 9:53 - Facing pushback when setting boundaries 10:56 - Being "mature for your age" 12:38 - Mindsets to heal & break free! 15:06 - How to stop people pleasing! 17:06 - How this affects our relationships + ending the cycle

70-30 Theory is so valid to our current society

I'm currently frustrated by this. What timing-I found your video just now. I just came here to type 'how to stop caring about people who don't care about you' in the TH-cam search bar and decided to let her go 😅

Wow. It's feels like i had a great conversation with someone i know since a long time 😢. And i know the pain of rejection very well. Now im afraid and i don't want to be in a relationship again to make myself suffering. Also as same as you mentioned I had bad experiences by believing my friends too. They used my kindness and innocence so trickily. When I realised that , I was too late end up making a wrong attitude in others mind towards me. My friends were secretly on a mission to ruin my name and make others hate me .I'll be better forever alone. Great vid gurl ! Keep shining 🌟

People are on a treadmill of satisfaction because a lot of young people are led astray by mainstream influencers who tell them that material wealth or the illusion of self-reverence will fulfill them. But this all seems meaningless because we could always have more, we can’t take any of it with us when we die, and we have become slaves to hollow leisure activities. Things have meaning when they echo in eternity. So if what we do with our lives has a relationship with the eternal God then our lives have greater meaning. The Bible says Proverbs 27:20 Sheol and Abaddon are never satisfied, and never satisfied are the eyes of man. Accepting Jesus and having our minds be sanctified from that will bring us true contentment in life. This is how the desert fathers could live almost their entire lives alone in the desert with nothing but bread and salt to nourish them. John 6:35 Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst. However this doesn’t mean that God doesn’t want us to enjoy some of the delights of this world. He just wants us to do it in a more meaningful way. Ecclesiastes 3:13 Also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil-this is God's gift to man. Let me know your honest thoughts on this!

hey felicia you are beautiful your content is amazing u need to add KeyPoint's through the captions and bit color grade video is bit off and add minimalist background music and few transitions its more appealing and reach more audience just an observation If you require video editor, I'm happy to edit your first video without charge.

Timestamps: Intro - 0:00 Relationships - 0:44 Friends - 3:20 School/Career - 6:47 Conclusion - 9:04

Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:21 - The "70-30 Theory": why we self-destruct 1:56 - The inner work 2:57 - Partying example 4:08 - Cheating example 5:12 - Conclusion