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Aww thank you for your support! While not Albanian, I am a next door neighbor - Greek. I'm honored by your kind words and looking forward to your feedback should you get into any more of my content! Thanks again!

@@dizzystarpdx8002 Thank you so much for opening up and sharing this-it takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, even in a comment like this. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, especially around such a tender time of year. Grief, especially when tied to family, can be so heavy, and the holidays often amplify that weight. It is great that your kids are a bright spot in all of this. At the same time, it’s okay to acknowledge how hard it is to feel this mix of emotions without minimizing it. You’re not alone in this, even though it may feel like it at times. Venting is not “too much,” and it’s clear that you just needed to let some of this out-which is entirely valid. I hope you’re able to find small moments of peace for yourself, whether that’s through your kids’ joy or even just allowing yourself the space to feel everything without judgment. If you ever feel like reaching out, and want some guidance, I’m here. Sending you warmth and strength today and always.

I do agree tho we all need connection

@@thatsabadname6242 Thank you for sharing your perspective. It’s so beautiful that, even through the loss and the blues that come with this time of year, you’ve found comfort in focusing on what truly matters-cherishing the family you have and appreciating the thoughtfulness behind meaningful gifts rather than the quantity. That’s such a grounding and heartfelt way to approach the season. Your comment is a reminder that the true spirit of the holidays doesn’t lie in the traditions or expectations but in the connections we foster and the memories we create with the people we care about. Thank you for bringing that perspective to this conversation-it’s inspiring and resonates deeply. Wishing you moments of peace and warmth this season as you continue to hold onto the things that bring you joy.

@@lethiapage4767 Thank you for sharing your experience so openly. It sounds like you’ve reflected deeply on the complexities of the holidays-both the weight of loss and nostalgia and the societal pressure to perform joy. I completely understand how it can feel muddled, especially when traditions that once brought comfort now feel contrived or even overwhelming. I really appreciate your point about wanting permission to feel your feelings as they come, whether that’s joy, grief, or something in between. That’s such a profound truth that many of us overlook in the holiday rush-the idea that authentic emotions, not just the “sparkly” ones, are what make us human. It’s powerful that you’ve found a way to carry those lower-key, meaningful joys with you throughout the year. The way you describe it, it’s like you’ve found a steady, heartfelt connection to the season that isn’t dependent on the highs and lows of a single month. That’s such a gift. It’s a reminder for all of us to hold space for every kind of feeling during the holidays-not just in ourselves but in others too. Thank you again for sharing; your words will resonate with many people feeling similarly!

Thank you so much for sharing your experience-it sounds like you’re carrying a lot of weight around this decision, and I’m so sorry that it’s causing you such pain. While I don’t know the full story behind what happened, I can imagine how feeling like you gave up something so personal could make you question your sense of identity, especially as a parent. What you’re going through is valid, and it’s okay to grieve decisions that feel like they weren’t fully yours. One thing to consider is that while names are important, they don’t define who you are as a parent or as a person. I wonder if there is self-blame there for not standing up for what you believed in and whether this is creating guilt of not defending yourself/your children. If so, it's important to see this for what it is: ONE incident and NOT a general attitude or trait, OR something that can lead to harm. Your love and care for your children speak louder than any name ever could. Maybe this moment is an opportunity for self-reflection, to rediscover what makes you feel grounded and whole beyond this decision. It’s not too late to reclaim your identity and move forward with a sense of peace. I hope the strategies shared in the episode offer some insight. Please know that you’re not alone in this journey and I am here to discuss further. Sending you lots of compassion as you navigate this. ❤

@@SpartanFitnessMma1 thank you for your comment! I am glad you don’t experience these feelings 🌹 many moms do, however, for a variety of reasons; not because they have a really done something so bad but because they (and society) hold themselves to such a high (and impossible) standard that they always feel like their falling short and failing their children. It’s important to recognize that these feelings exist for some of us before we can help alleviate them. Thanks again for opening up the discussion.

Hello and thank you for your comment! The move toward feminism is a societal shift and women are part of society so I believe we are saying the same thing in essence. And so is hyper-individualism - that is a societal shift, too. And you are right - there is a misinterpretation of both feminism and individualism, which are taken to the extreme, where they turn awry for both women and men. Women becoming independent and strong is a good thing for everyone. BUT that does not mean we don't need men. That is unhealthy and it's not what femininity is about. When we equate the two, it does indeed cause a myriad of problems, including mistrust in the male gender, a tendency for control and lots more that I discuss in other videos as well. I am noticing I do not have a dedicated video on this topic yet - maybe it needs to happen soo, so thank you for the inspiration. You might like the video on patrescence - it talks about fatherhood, what it is like for men and fathers when parenting in this day and age, and the changes you are referring to societally. Here it is: th-cam.com/video/EPrr6pityLE/w-d-xo.html Thank you for contributing o this conversation!

BTW, in the video, "parenting in isolation" does not refer to men/fathers being absent - it refers to the "village" as in parents, in-laws, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, who all used to be involved and now seldom are and how both society and WE have contributed to this dwindling in support throughout our parenting journey.

Awesome! Out of curiosity, had you heard of the term patrescence before or was this the first time? Thank you for listening and supporting the podcast with your comments!

I am glad this resonated! It is important to see all sides of the story with compassion and understanding :)