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Spoiled baby princess with ADHD gang rise up! Same tbh. I was taught that if I didn't pick it up, someone else would. So by the time I started living by myself (and eventually with someone else) this became a real problem. Something I really needed to work on and nail down before I could stop feeling guilty about it. And surprise surprise...bean neat actually improved some of the ADHD symptoms ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Excellent timing then ;)

Sorry, just to add for the people who MIGHT be curious - our fridge gets to the same level of dirtiness within 1 week of me cleaning it. I don't clean it once a week. I kind of gave up. It's soo much cleaning for me.

Oh I AM curious 🫖 I'm so sorry to hear though. The amount of emotional labor and heavy lifting you must be doing to move your boundaries around to keep the peace must be ENORMOUS. I wouldn't be able to do this, which is why I like living by myself. But there's got to be a way to make her understand it's just not the way things are done in your house? I don't know, but omg it sounds horrible I'm so sorry!

@@LifeByJack I'm not sure. There's the language barrier (even though I do speak her language a little bit, I am not able to convey the full message). She's an older person (75 years old) who never cared about cleanliness (for one reason or another, I don't really care at this point), her husband never did anything in the household either (as I have learned recently), and any time the conversation gets deeper, she gets stressed, her blood pressure goes up and she ends up saying "let's not talk about it" or she flips the script and makes herself the victim OR finds someone else to blame. For example, once she asked: "How would your grandma feel if she had to start living with her son and change ALL her habits?", when no one ever told her to change all of her habits (the conversation was about her making a mess in the kitchen and not cleaning up after herself ever); the next time we tried having this conversation, she asked "Did it bother you when the Smiths [my husband's friend's family, who moved in temporarily, because they just moved to our country] lived here and were making a mess?" - even though at that point, they had not been living with us for 6 months already and the problem persisted. Unfortunately, she came here because of war in her country and my husband wouldn't want her to go back, because of a few issues (not including bombings). Funny thing is, she made the decision to move with us, she convinced her husband to do so, too (he died since then) and now, because she doesn't like it here (as expected, immigration is hard, especially when you're old), she blames her son for "bringing her here" and one time she even told him he killed his dad (because he "forced" them to move, and the stress from the move supposedly killed his dad, which is not the case, but his mom strongly believes that). So, this is the situation, which is quite hard for me as I didn't expect to ever find myself in anything similar. Additionally, because none of them instilled good habits in my partner, he also doesn't know when and even HOW to clean (which is mind boggling to me, as he isn't in his 20s when I'd understand). So now I have 2 people to either teach how to clean, or I will have to move out. Anyway, that was a whole essay, but I decided to share my perspective in case you want to know and in case there's anyone with any advice on how to handle it. I already sent my partner your video, but I don't think he watched it (seems like he thought I sent it "for myself for later" as I often do lol).

Environmental clutter like dishes in the living room or clothes on the bed definitely add to stress. The same way that having an unfinished task in the back of your mind adds to psychological clutter. Finding ways to get your house to look good FOR YOU is gonna improve your mental health enormously trust me. Thank you so so much for watching man!

This is fantastic info and I hope you don't mind that I pin it? Also you're correct in saying The Chair isn't a 100% evil concept at all times. It's useful to have a sort of "laundry limbo" where you can put half dirty clothes. A second smaller hamper that can keep them out of sight could work perhaps? The issue I have with The Chair is that it adds to the visual clutter, and if not properly handled, can eventually spill over to the bed, the floor, or other areas where it stresses me out to even set foot in the bedroom. Thank you so much for adding to this! This is fantastic.

@@LifeByJack That's why I'm mentioning a valet stand. Visually, it'll look so much better. and it'll be better for the clothes as they'll be hanging and so airing a bit, whereas a second hamper means they'll buried amongst each other. and if one turns out to be dirtier than you first thought, at least, it won't get onto the other clothes.

You're the guy, many thanks! Instant subscribe.

Thank you so much for watching! I'm not the guy I'm just A guy :)

You're welcome. And thank you so much for watching and commenting. Feeling these videos are connecting is amazing. As for software and comics...here's the thing: creative careers always ALWAYS take a long time, and it needs a lot of effort and a LOT of ego death. This is not to deter you from pursuing that, on the contrary, you SHOULD pursue a creative career. But you HAVE to be conscious of the fact that it could take a long long time to gel. You need to be resilient and understand that "lack of success" does not mean you suck at it. As for coding...it's NOT a creative career. It's factory line work. You get sent a feature and you develop it and send it back. HOWEVER, it does pay well, and you can probably learn software faster than you can learn "which type of comic resonates with which kind of audience". So if money is your primary concern, and you don't have the time to let the comics grow, sure go into software. But never ever stop writing and drawing and streaming on Twitch. You only need ONE clip from ONE stream to hit to be where you want to be. So it may sound a little bit like a cop out but...do both? Mornings for learning code, afternoon and nights for drawing/streaming. Weekends for socializing.,

"Every failure is a learning opportunity" is exactly the kind of reframing we want. Congratulations on being intentional! I'm still learning how to but it's the only way to live...

@@LifeByJack those are words to live by

I struggle sometimes with the feeling of being a failure. I'm 38 now, and i've been through a lot of job losses and personal struggles including with housing. I used to be the "smartest one in the room" and sometimes, I meed to l gently remind myself that I survived some toxic experiences that have harmed my progress and personal development. Right now, I'm saving for a big move that I need to make. I need a change of scenery for my own sake

@@KidOmega-iv4tp Good luck on your big move. We're all moving at a different speed. Some of us got hamstrung early on, but we keep moving. That's what sets us apart.

Heyyyy tomorrow is Wednesday! Are you ready for your library jaunt? If all you write is literally the words "whatever comes to mind" a hundred times that's good! That's the exercise! The content of the pages don't matter (although I expect you're about to be pleasantly surprised). It's the exercise that's gonna show you how your brain engages with random creative prompts. Can't wait to hear how it went.

Finally! Haters! I'm heading in the right direction

That's it. That's the secret right there. It's all about letting go and enjoying what's actually there 🫶🏻

Took me forever to figure it out tbh ♥️

Please yes let me know! "Not going great" is just shorthand for "I just started". You're not supposed to be good at it yet. You're supposed to improve with the time you give it. You got this. I'm rooting for you.

I mean I'm safe inside my apartment behind miles of distance and a bunch of screens, but I get what you're saying

You're welcome, let me know where you're going!

Thanks for watching starboy ;) I'm so glad it's connecting

I thought fuck it it's funny 😁

@@LifeByJack it's REALLY funny but---

Hey scarab! We won, we kicked ass it was great See and now I'm happy How are YOU?

@@LifeByJack Congratualtions! Celebrate every victory. I'd say I'm content, for the time being. Happiness takes intention, as described in your video. Man, your narrative paints a wonderful image in the mind of sitting in a French cafe near a castle and just putting your thoughts on paper! Even if one doesn't get the point of the video, the mental imagery alone is worthwhile.

@@scarab944 Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm not gonna lie, having this opportunity to just mosey down the street and write across the Chateau de Vincennes is not lost on me. I can sit here at home day in and day out moping about the things that I don't have, but then I walk past the statue of Louis IX and his kind stare and I remember...I'm blessed af!

I am so happy to hear that actually. Cause as long as you know what you want every step you take gets you closer to it 🫶🏻

Kindness

Real Madrid keeps losing man

Yes, this. Love does run in our veins. The future is scary, regardless who is leading the charge...all we can do is take control of our voices and make it heard through art.

I mean I've heard the stories. People make more bank with that than with OF, which you know...kudos!

Dedication is all it is about! But we need to remember that "showing up" sometimes means "I opened my sketchbook and did nothing with it". Because guilt will weigh you down if you're not careful.

It needs all of us 😉

It's messages like these that make my entire day actually. Thank you so so much. And I hope I got my point across in this video...if you wanna draw or write or create, you should do it. Always understanding that you're TRAINING on it, until you've put out 300 pieces of content (or you've showed up 300 times). If you're training, nothing you do can be held up to a success standard. Nothing you do can be judged. It's just training. Give yourself permission to fail quickly and constantly and you'll see those psychological obstructions slowly disappear. You're good enough. You've always been good enough. You're just in training.

Thanks again for watching!

Hey Bianca! Sleep schedules are incredibly hard to nail down. Specially if, like me, you engage in revenge sleep procrastination: that is using the time where we should be sleeping to chill on our phones or play a video game. Usually brought on by saying yes to everyone asking for your labor all day. What works for me is setting a "go to bed" time instead of a "be in bed time" So when 11pm hits, I turn the TV off, get up, do the dishes, and brush my teeth. I'm in bed by whatever time that ends. Thank you so much for watching!

Being this age is fun if you ignore the back pain. I have very little fucks left to give 😁

Ya welcome. Now dust yourself off. Go do the thing.

You mean you're only old if you feel old? Precisely.