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Frankie G Clark
United Kingdom
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 29 มิ.ย. 2017
Trainee Psychotherapist, trying to figure things out and help others by exploring ADHD and other neurodiverse symptoms
#19 - #ADHD #Burnout... what is it really? Prevention and cure.
I made an ADHD booboo,
this was filmed before the last ep,
right before my holiday,
which you can clearly see I needed!
So just pretend you haven't seen the other one yet.
And if you haven't, go straight to the previous ep for a suprise.
So in this episode, I'm exploring the burnout -
what it feels like, any triggers,
so I can hopefully prevent it from happening again in the future.
I believe burnout is the result of the following drivers:
Be Perfect, Work Hard, and Be Strong,
which I think also display as ADHD/ASD symptoms.
As you can see from the previous episode,
a break is what I needed,
not an expensive holiday;
to just put everything down.
When you're burnt-out, just STOP!
The world will not fall apart without you.
And don’t catastrophise,
nothing lasts forever,
so if you’re scared to stop,
it incase you can’t get back to it,
trust me, someone who’s suffered with extreme depression
and been bed bound for months,
it does come to an end.
It did before, it will again.
Take the sick day.
You're not 100% so you're not well!
You know you always push through when you're not well,
so you know when you’re not well,
you just can’t give yourself the permission to rest,
why?
You need the day off,
you just struggle with the internal rules you have,
and feel you can't take a day off.
Would you do this to your best friend?
Child? Elderly gran?
Take the day, work will survive without you. Rest.
My body is telling me what it needs.
So I’m making a new decision; listening to it.
The only person who is ever there for you, is you.
If you don't show up for you, no one will.
When you do rest, and recharge your batteries,
work is easier, socialising is fun instead of draining,
life is just easier.
Take the break.
Meet your needs!
Rest, sleep, put your phone down,
play a game, go for a walk, see a friend.
Look after yourselves!
I am so happy to welcome another 5 of you!
There are 146 of you on Spotify 🥹
And 416 on TH-cam.
How wonderful to know I could be having a positive impact on all of you!
From the bottom of my heart,
thank you.
For giving me a place to be me,
be authentic, and for following along my Fumbles,
listening and being on this journey with me,
learning and growing together,
and holding me as ‘OK’.
If you haven’t already done so,
please ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’
so we can keep this community growing.
As always, see you in the episode!
I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.
Keep Fumbling Forward,
Frankie
x
this was filmed before the last ep,
right before my holiday,
which you can clearly see I needed!
So just pretend you haven't seen the other one yet.
And if you haven't, go straight to the previous ep for a suprise.
So in this episode, I'm exploring the burnout -
what it feels like, any triggers,
so I can hopefully prevent it from happening again in the future.
I believe burnout is the result of the following drivers:
Be Perfect, Work Hard, and Be Strong,
which I think also display as ADHD/ASD symptoms.
As you can see from the previous episode,
a break is what I needed,
not an expensive holiday;
to just put everything down.
When you're burnt-out, just STOP!
The world will not fall apart without you.
And don’t catastrophise,
nothing lasts forever,
so if you’re scared to stop,
it incase you can’t get back to it,
trust me, someone who’s suffered with extreme depression
and been bed bound for months,
it does come to an end.
It did before, it will again.
Take the sick day.
You're not 100% so you're not well!
You know you always push through when you're not well,
so you know when you’re not well,
you just can’t give yourself the permission to rest,
why?
You need the day off,
you just struggle with the internal rules you have,
and feel you can't take a day off.
Would you do this to your best friend?
Child? Elderly gran?
Take the day, work will survive without you. Rest.
My body is telling me what it needs.
So I’m making a new decision; listening to it.
The only person who is ever there for you, is you.
If you don't show up for you, no one will.
When you do rest, and recharge your batteries,
work is easier, socialising is fun instead of draining,
life is just easier.
Take the break.
Meet your needs!
Rest, sleep, put your phone down,
play a game, go for a walk, see a friend.
Look after yourselves!
I am so happy to welcome another 5 of you!
There are 146 of you on Spotify 🥹
And 416 on TH-cam.
How wonderful to know I could be having a positive impact on all of you!
From the bottom of my heart,
thank you.
For giving me a place to be me,
be authentic, and for following along my Fumbles,
listening and being on this journey with me,
learning and growing together,
and holding me as ‘OK’.
If you haven’t already done so,
please ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’
so we can keep this community growing.
As always, see you in the episode!
I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.
Keep Fumbling Forward,
Frankie
x
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#18 - Post-holiday reflections, ADHD, EMDR, psychotherapy theories and becoming a philosopher
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Every time I come to write these descriptions I think, “where do I start?” To sum it all up in a nutshell, I went on holiday and this was filmed when I came back. After weeks of knowing I needed to stop, putting my foot down and doing it, it was everything I needed. I came back refreshed recharged and with new realisations. If you feel you need a break, and you’re body and mind are telling you ...
#17 - Been through hell this last month, people commenting on my weight loss, and making assumptions
มุมมอง 111หลายเดือนก่อน
It was so fun to do a hungover episode; “Hungover at work?!” Old Frankie would be terrified if you knew that. But I’m human, and it’s ok to be hungover… It’s quite funny actually, me drinking… who would have thought. This episode was healing to edit and listen back to. When this was filmed back in July, I had one hell of a month, lots of bad news, uncertainty about my home, finances, and lots o...
#16 - Identity, Money & ADHD Meds
มุมมอง 30หลายเดือนก่อน
Join me for an intimate exploration of self-discovery where I explore whats needed for a healthy formation of identity, and the challenges of mental health. I’ll share my experiences with ADHD medication, the hurdles of money management, and the powerful ways our bodies can influence our minds. We'll explore the somatic realm, those physical sensations that speak volumes and the world of ‘trans...
#15 - The not so nice side of renovations, feeling left out & Therapy Cards(Internal Family Systems)
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#15 - The not so nice side of renovations, feeling left out & Therapy Cards(Internal Family Systems)
#14 - My boilers broke, I have no shower, and I've been struggling to stay OK
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#14 - My boilers broke, I have no shower, and I've been struggling to stay OK
#13 - Setting Up Your Day, For Success
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#13 - Setting Up Your Day, For Success
Episode #12 - Going back in time to April: getting out of a depressive episode (TW)
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Episode #12 - Going back in time to April: getting out of a depressive episode (TW)
#11 - How to be the 'you' you want to be. No longer a potato & embracing the path of most resistance
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#11 - How to be the 'you' you want to be. No longer a potato & embracing the path of most resistance
#10 - It's OK to f*** up. Conquering ADHD paralysis, Limiting Beliefs, Shutdowns, Masking
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#10 - It's OK to f up. Conquering ADHD paralysis, Limiting Beliefs, Shutdowns, Masking
#9 - How to 'cure' your #ADHD - and my best morning yet.
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#9 - How to 'cure' your #ADHD - and my best morning yet.
#8 - I'm back! Let's talk ADHD, Developmental Deficits
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#8 - I'm back! Let's talk ADHD, Developmental Deficits
#7 - Grief To Growth, The Journey Of Healing: What your emotions are trying to tell you
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#7 - Grief To Growth, The Journey Of Healing: What your emotions are trying to tell you
#6 - Fumbling Through 'The FOF' & Finding Faith in Frustration
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#6 - Fumbling Through 'The FOF' & Finding Faith in Frustration
#5 - My #ADHD Journey: How I Went From Undiagnosed And Struggling To Getting The Help I Need
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#5 - My #ADHD Journey: How I Went From Undiagnosed And Struggling To Getting The Help I Need
#4 - My Anxiety skyrocketed after last weeks car crash - how I helped bring myself back down
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#4 - My Anxiety skyrocketed after last weeks car crash - how I helped bring myself back down
#3 - Giving myself an Ego check & why I lost 32,000 followers.
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#3 - Giving myself an Ego check & why I lost 32,000 followers.
#2 - Rosie Batimelli - Conflict, Love and Somatic Healing
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#2 - Rosie Batimelli - Conflict, Love and Somatic Healing
breaking down and talking myself into getting my s**t together
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breaking down and talking myself into getting my s t together
#Drake #Mashup - Acoustic Cover W// Lottie Appleton
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#Drake #Mashup - Acoustic Cover W// Lottie Appleton
Location + Thank u, next (Acoustic Cover Mashup) W// Lottie Appleton
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Location Thank u, next (Acoustic Cover Mashup) W// Lottie Appleton
GET LUCKY - DAFT PUNK (ACOUSTIC COVER) W// LOTTIE APPLETON
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GET LUCKY - DAFT PUNK (ACOUSTIC COVER) W// LOTTIE APPLETON
Me too
Medical advice from some random TH-camr😮
It’s a nugget of wisdom, though you’d need to be receptive to wisdom in general to see it
@@kuibeiguahuathank you for the support. No medical advice here, any medications etc always consult with your Dr, you’re right, it isn't clear from my page I'm a trainee Psychotherapist, I do seem to be a “random TH-camr” 😂, so thank you for highlighting that Pete, ill update my bio 😊
Awwww Becoming oneself is the work I gave myself Discovering my gifts and sharing them with the world. My gifts will be different from yours. I also need to sleep lol damnit phone
What a journey it is! What do you think your gifts are or might be? Haha I also struggle to put my phone down when I need to, it’s a learning curve! 😂
@ The gift of not knowing my limits, and Language (not languages, Language), I also bring hope and light in people’s lives, I show people their own unacknowledged/unaccepted inner beauty and remove the shadow from their hearts and help them find their own nature However I am very vulnerable to people acting in bad faith and I don’t really believe in « evil » just in « lessons of compassion not yet learned », and have difficulty pointing my gifts at myself! What do you think your gifts are?
It's the most reliable video that i have seen in a while and I'm going through the same thing right now it's messy but keep going love ❤
Thank you for sharing - and for sharing your similar journey, I feel understood by you. One step at a time - we’ve got this 🥰❤️
So true... ❤
I just stopped going to a specific counselor because of this topic, I totally agree with you
Thank you for sharing! This was really hard for me to do, well done for doing what was best for you! Hope you’re next one (if there is one) is 👌. I hope it doesn’t put you off because there are some great ones out there!
This was such a fab podcast episode because you touched on some really important things, and a lot of it really resonated with me. I find because of having an eating disorder, no matter how far into recovery or being recovered I am, people are still quick to presume I’m unwell ‘again’ if there’s any slight weight change. I am now proud to say I’ve worked damn hard to reach a mindset that I’m in control of and I can reflect and I can see the difference in the unhealthy and healthy behaviours. I’ve spent so much time explaining to people that I can want to lose weight, without slipping back in old ways because I have confidence in myself that I am in control (healthy control) and know skills now to manage and recognise the importance of this. What I’m doing and how I live my life in recovery is mine to own and I just know that as long as I am truthful to myself and continually work on loving who I am then I will also be ok. I’m also so proud to see you in this authentic free living state of mind, because it’s not bloody easy in the slightest, especially these days. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself and I can’t wait for the next podcast🩷
Thank you for your comment! And for sharing this reflection, self awareness and empathy for me. It’s really not easy, especially in complicated relationships and circumstances, I try to see the intentions underneath, but it doesn’t always ease the thoughts/feelings! Huge warm well done for all your progress, it can’t be unlearned and shines through! (Go you, go us!) 🥰❤️ I’ve stopped explaining more than once to people now as people will only hear what they want to hear, I understand once for reassurance but I draw it there as otherwise I’m just repeating things expecting different results. Your comment has just brought up something else for me; A big shift for me has been believing I’m ok as I am, my reactions thoughts and feelings are valid, past traumas that influence those will maybe be healed in time, but it’s not necessary for me to be ‘ok’, I am ok as I am; and as are you. Sending my best your way 💕
Im not okity.
Praying for you ❤️ May Allah grant you ease. I felt compelled by Him to write this. For every step you take towards Him, and He will take ten steps towards you. He knows what you’re going through. Every tear you shed and every emotion you feel. He loves you more than you will ever know. Take just one step towards him. It will be so effortless.
Thank you for your kind words <3
I’m around 18 minutes into your video and suspecting the algorithms are reading my mind again. So far, you’ve mentioned a few things which resonate with me and in particular the reference of feeling lost in social groups. It’s really trauma inducing. I’m presently struggling with these oppressive and heartbreaking emotions whilst trying to live my busy life. And it’s so hard. The mask crumbled around 2 years ago and I live with and in shame each day I’m there (at work). I feel so perceived. Anyway, I’m going to keep listening to your video while I grocery shop after work and drive home. Additionally as this is the first video of yours I’ve come across, I’m uncertain how old it is and if you’ve had an Autism assessment yet. I really want to get one for myself, but here in Canada it is an extremely long, complicated process and I’ve been struggling to navigate it for a couple of years. That’s also part of the shame- flailing around while others swim by seemingly unfazed. 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you for your comment, it sounds like you feel similar to me in some ways! The 'being perceived', I totally get it, it's hard, what has helped me the most is focussing on self-regulation, or 'self-care'. No assessment yet - long wait in the UK, a few years I think! I'm continuing on with it in mind, being kind to self, and knowing I'm scared not to mask, and doing it anyway - very hard! Thank you for listening and sharing - F x
Thank you for sharing this! I self diagnosed 3 months ago and will take my first prescription after many dr visits. I’m so excited to function correctly!😊
I’m glad me sharing has helped in some way - good luck on your journey! I hope it all works out for you 😊
This may apply to you, but lots of people in relationships find it difficult to say I love you in general. It is something that you may see in television shows as well, but based on my experience and observations, I don’t think this is likely to be realistic to normal relationships.
Thank you for your comment Freddie! That’s a good point, in that case you could change it to, even though we are arguing, I still care about you
In fact, I do not know what difficulties you are going through, but I am sure that you will overcome this with strength and determination❤❤
you are so so kind - i can confirm this was a year ago an i am in a MUCH better place. you were right <3 thank you xxxx
Another amazing cover!
Thank you 🥰
You ladies sound amazing!
Thank you 🥰
This is so much fun to watch!
Wow! I gave you thumb up! You're very talented musician! I like your tone here, it's just very smooth and soulful! I'm waiting for more, never give up guys! If you want to, checkout my little cover too here: th-cam.com/video/Yt6ubsNRLPs/w-d-xo.html
That’s really kind of you Dandy, thank you so much. I definitely need to practice more so I feel more confident without the lyrics! I’ve had feedback that the sound quality wasn’t the best and I need to get rid of the phone! So I will try. It’s so difficult when you’re doing it live, for some reason I just get a mind blank. Will check yours out too! Thanks for sharing!