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Bruthaaa😭 If you like a girl and she likes you, but you can’t fuck. You are friends💀

I didn't ask to be with an asexual, and it sucks

When I was selective mutism, I was not able to tell my opinions or feeling even by writing on paper😅

Many times I have come close to doing the same thing she did

Im crying rn

This is ridiculous. A woman like that should stay single… it’s selfish of her to seek out a relationship with a man.

What do we do with the sexual desire if we're the partner that does want it? Constant masterbation or do you arrange for a sexual visitor once in a while?

In my last relationship, even cuddling repulsed me and felt troublesome. Idk if i can date anybody like that.

Omg this video made me cry irl

im asexual, anddddd maybe aro too? not sure about that. Sometimes its upsetting not being able to like someone and feel some kind of attraction to them like most people would. But being in love with someone, settling and getting marriage is like an "endgame" for most people. I've given up on love due to how im wired since birth and im still figuring things out because I dont believe most people could handle a relationship with that level of commitment that exclude sex. People nowadays cheat on one another for a lot of reasons, unsatisfactory sex being among them. This leaves me wondering will i grow old alone when my family grows old, and my sister gets married elsewhere? The thought horrifies me even as an aroace person. well im not saying i wanna find a significant other hahaha the thought isnt very appealing to me. But in a way, it warms my heart to know that love without sex could genuinely work like this.

I've seen this story so many times in my recommendations. Yet something stopped me from watching. Today I finally did, and I genuinely needed this video. I suppose I am in the asexual spectrum, and I live with a thought that I won't find a guy that would accept it. To find someone who matches my basic standards like mutual respect and all those things, share my views and interests to some extent AND for that guy to be asexual or to love me despite my lack of attraction seems like something impossible. I don't know if it will change -- that I'm ace, I mean -- and I won't be bothered if it doesn't. What does make me sad is that relationships look like a closed door for me, although I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. I want to care about somebody, I have nothing against sex, even, I just don't want that. Even when I do, it's something non-directed at a person -- if I have a crush, I won't imagine them in that sense, but I will imagine them cuddling with me, for example. I can't give what the partner usually wants from their love interest. But... such stories like yours give me hope. Thank you, like, a lot. I'm on the verge of crying now, haha

Rare indeed. Its no longer a flight or fight when in fear

Yes it can, end of story. Is it really that hard to understand?

Very hard to visualize anything, most especially when "sleeping". Or, "trying to". I suffer from chronic to severe insomnia. And, it, S U C K S. Royally.

This feels like one-sided relationship in which one feel themself like an unloved burden. Why would you even want to be in romantic relationship with someone if you don't want to be close enough to this person for even a kiss?

Beautiful! ❤

This made me cry!!!! I could relate and empathize with Robin and also appreciate the fact that Harper made efforts to understand where Robin is coming from and they both tried to navigate through it together. As someone who's questioning her sexuality, I am so glad that I came across this video.

I'm asexual 🙂💔

So im supposed to live as a monk now am i?

I really want my friend to understand me too

Yes love exist without sex

Who's Chinese.

It's worse if you're an over 30 single male in rural America.

It's no different in America in a Chinese city or Chinese church.

I'm a hetero-romantic asexual girl, I'm 26 yo and I've never had sex, and the truth is, I don't want to. Nonetheless I'm so grateful that I got to experience some lovely dates here and there in which the chemistry and the banter was on fire, I even ended up making out with some of them and it felt amazing. Every now and then I still wish I were like the rest, yet, little by little I'm coming to terms with this part of my essence. In practice it's so excruciating trying to explain it to others, but don't let that dampen your spirits folks. We see you, you're not alone❤.

I’m like this too. I’m believing I can learn to visualise. Hopefully one day I will be able to do so

As someone who is re discovering that they might be an asexual lesbian, thank you for sharing your story. I felt so hopeless and sad before.

No self respecting man should stand for that shit. If your girl comes out as asexual, leave

Are you still in this relationship

Most of us will have experienced both sides of this equation by the time we are old. Funny thing is I never understood my parents side until I was the parent and my child left.

I just cary a note pad and pen with m3 every where I go, it's a bit hard to get a job. I went to this work environment and they just look at me like I'm a dumbass no good tomato can. I been training for my boxing match in august. I just want to make some money so I can help my family. It's hard, wish I could speak. But why? Why am I such an idiot? Atleast with boxing I don't have to be able to speak.

I'm asexual and I've never hated myself or thought I was broken, I actually feel really good about it and there's nothing wrong with me. I'm also biromantic, female and I realized I like women more but this is another thing I've never thought was bad about me. Whatever your orientation, love yourself and know there's nothing wrong with you, there's something wrong only with those who judge you!

amazing way of putting a social issue in a poetic frame. Thank for doing this y all.

Its not difficult if both,so i think i should find asexual like me

Sex without love exists and the reverse is true also. I’m asexual my partner isn’t. We’ve been together 13 years

just got into a relationship and im feeling so much guilt rn. but we agreed to communicate anything and everything with each other so he knows and he still likes me ^ ^

Same. I think from about 4. Not as bad as poor Nigel. I can talk to people but not when there are more than 2. Also can talk to close family but not husband's family. I was a long time saying very little when I started work and was very lucky to have patient colleagues, almost all male. It is way worse with women than men and girls than boys (im female). I think it is caused by a conditioning when we are small. Some sort of bad reactions to situations we have most likely forgotten all about. Things that help me are, sitting beside, instead of across from someone so Im not looking at them. Choosing who to interact with (Male DR, Male school friends etc) . Keeping short phrases to use just to have something said to show I am not just sullenly staring back eg, thanks, hi, just nodding or shrugging. I was labelled shy in school and I guess many shy people have this condition in various degrees. I believe one of the Bronte sisters suffered with it.

Yeah good luck with trying to cope with that gap. Sadly it only grows bigger and more difficult to deal with as real life stomps on you every day. If you're stressed out from work, you would want a lovey dovey night with sexual relief from your partner for example. And if she just wants to cuddle, it's like getting blueballed and it feels even more awful every time. It's saddening of a life to deal with and makes you miserable on the long run. Life isn't a a canvas without problems where peace reigns.

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This is so great!!! awesome idea! may I have the guitar chords? please?

I'm falling for a girl who recently confessed to me that she is Asexual. I'm not a very sexual person myself and can go months to years without being intimate with someone. I really hope she likes me because... I would be so happy to have her in my life forever. I guess time will tell.

It's fine as long a both people understand what is going on. It's when one partner hides being asexual until after marriage.

I feel attacked. This is literally my situation at the moment 😭

I am 16 years old now. I have had selective mutism since I was 4 years old. Thank you for making this video. I am Japanese, but this is a disease that is completely unknown even in this country. My teacher forces me to speak, makes me laugh in front of everyone, and my classmates always exclude me. School is painful, but my physics teacher is the only person I can talk to outside of my family. That is my hope. Currently, I am studying so that I can leave my hometown and go to a new place. I don't know if I will be happy, but I think I have to get out of here anyway. Not being able to speak is very difficult in life. However, I want to overcome selective mutism in order to make my life better and live as myself.

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Thanks for your honest and creative video. It brought tears to my eyes as I am still grieving the death of my alcoholic father last December. Alcoholic dementia took him to a place much worse than not showing up full time for my brother and I as kids. My brother did not see him the past 30 years, yet abandoned his own children to adoption. I had a long string of broken relationships and lost jobs. After 5 years working the Al-Anon program (for the families and friends of the alcoholic.), I was able to let go of anger, bitterness and resentment, and love him as he was. We become hurt people who hurt people. Many years ago I lived in Singapore and there was both Alcoholic Anonymous and Al-Anon meetings. I owe some Singaporeans my amends, but since I am not there, I make living amends. I was able to show up for my Dad the last 3 years after his wife died driving 600 miles one way once a month, and then move into his house the last 10 months to care for him and bring home hospice in to help. He died in complete denial going through withdrawal once he became bedridden the last 2 weeks, with 9 days in the hospital developing aspiration pneumonia. I am now taking 2 months of downtime to let go and take care of my own health before returning to work.

This is the most heartwarming thing I’ve seen.

It's called a friendship. Hahahah

came here from my geography class..

I've had the blessing of being with my ace bf for a year and a half now, and i the story makes me feel seen. I'm gay, and probably his polar opposite. I try to tell myself that I have had my fill of sexual experiences before I got into this relationship, but there's days where I feel like I'm not good enough to elicit the kind of attraction from him that I've looked for in all of my previous relationships/hookups. It makes me feel hideous and very small; but I love him with all my heart, and he's assured me in his own ways of affirming that he loves me too. I'm not waiting for a crack in the armor for him to want to experiment, I just want to be there with and for him. He is so much more than just a body; he's a lover, dreamer, hard worker, and figure in my life who's helped me reconfigure the way I look at myself and the world around me. All i can work on is filling in these cracks of ways where I can feel beautiful without needing someone to validate it by being sexually attracted to me. The story warmed my heart and it is so refreshing to hear someone experiencing this odd yet wonderful dynamic as well <3