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Lower the Shield
United States
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 26 เม.ย. 2019
Lower the Shield is created and hosted by Mark Foreman, Psy.D.
We guide you through mindful awareness practices to deeper understanding of your motivations, intentions and wellbeing in support of your efforts to make the world a better place.
Lower the Shield is trauma systems informed
We guide you through mindful awareness practices to deeper understanding of your motivations, intentions and wellbeing in support of your efforts to make the world a better place.
Lower the Shield is trauma systems informed
Former Therapist Unravels Churchyard by Aurora: Whispers in Silence - PART 2
#compassion #mentalhealth #domesticviolence
This analysis is prompted by a parallel with Ren's Violet's Tale. Both video performances address the difficult topics of Domestic or Intimate Partner Violence . The analysis discusses cycles and invites viewers to play some role in interrupting these cycles.
Resources:
“The Body Keep the Score” by Bessel van Der Kolk
“When the Body Says No” by Gabor Mate
“Polyvagal Theory” by Stephen Porges
Below is a partial listing Victim and survivor resources. Check within your area for other resources.
United States
1. The National Domestic Violence Hotline**: This hotline offers support and provides information for those experiencing IPV. It can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
2. The National Teen Dating Helpline**: Specifically designed for teen dating issues, this helpline can be contacted at 1-866-331-9474.
3. The National Sexual Assault Hotline**: Operated by the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network, it provides confidential, secure services and can be reached at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
4. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence**: This advocacy organization focuses on preventing domestic violence and empowering those affected. They can be contacted for information and resources
5. National Resource Center on Domestic Violence**: Offering resources and information, this center can be reached at 1-800-537-2238, and more information can be found on their websites: www.nrcdv.org and www.vawnet.org
6. Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP)**: The VA’s IPVAP is dedicated to helping veterans, their partners, and VA staff impacted by IPV. They provide a range of resources and support services
www.socialwork.va.gov/IPV/Index.asp#:~:text=The VA’s Intimate Partner Violence,Community Partners
7. Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)**: OVW provides a map to find local help and operates the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which can be contacted at 800-799-SAFE (7233) and 800-787-3224 (TTY). Additionally, the National Center for Victims of Crime can be reached at 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)
Germany
**Police**: Call 110 for immediate danger. Staff at the emergency call center may primarily speak German, but assistance is available in multiple languages, including English
2. **Gewalt gegen Frauen Helpline**: Offers anonymous and cost-free advice in many languages, available 24/7 at 08000 116 016
3. **Weisser Ring**: Provides investigation and certification of victims' injuries anonymously and free of charge, available at 116 006
4. **Men's Shelters**: Confidential refuges for male victims of violence, contact the Nationwide Victims' Helpline at 116 006 for more information
Norway
**Police Emergency**: Call 112 for immediate risk situations
2. **Child and Youth Crisis Hotline**: Call 116 111, available 24/7 for child and adolescent victims of assault, abuse, or neglect
3. **Local Crisis Centers**: Provide protection, safety, advice, and counselling
4. **VO-Helpline**: Norwegian Domestic Violence Helpline, available 24/7 at 116 006
5. **Dinutvei.no**: Online resource for finding local support services in 13 languages, and information on violence and abuse
Sweden
**Police**: For crimes, including domestic violence
2. **Kvinnofridslinjen**: Telephone support 24/7 at 020-50 50 50, offers support and contact information for social services and shelters
3. **Victim Support Sweden**: Support for those who have been subjected to a crime
4. **RFSL Support Service**: For LGBTQI people who have been subjected to harassment, threats, and violence
5. **Terrafem**: Hotline for women of foreign origin, contact at 020-52 10 10
Denmark
**Danner’s Shelter**: Helps women exposed to violence and their children, offers a national hotline and various support services
2. **Danner’s Helpline**: Offers help and advice on physical violence and coercive control, contact at 3333 0047
Finland
**Victim Support Finland**: Provides various support services including legal advice, support persons, and online chat services, contact at 116 006
2. **Shelters for Victims of Domestic Violence**: Offer secured housing, crisis counselling, and support, organized by the wellbeing services counties
3. **Nollalinja Helpline**: Support for anyone who has experienced domestic violence, contact at 080 005 005
Credits:
Churchyard by Aurora
@thecurrent @AuroraMusic
This analysis is prompted by a parallel with Ren's Violet's Tale. Both video performances address the difficult topics of Domestic or Intimate Partner Violence . The analysis discusses cycles and invites viewers to play some role in interrupting these cycles.
Resources:
“The Body Keep the Score” by Bessel van Der Kolk
“When the Body Says No” by Gabor Mate
“Polyvagal Theory” by Stephen Porges
Below is a partial listing Victim and survivor resources. Check within your area for other resources.
United States
1. The National Domestic Violence Hotline**: This hotline offers support and provides information for those experiencing IPV. It can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
2. The National Teen Dating Helpline**: Specifically designed for teen dating issues, this helpline can be contacted at 1-866-331-9474.
3. The National Sexual Assault Hotline**: Operated by the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network, it provides confidential, secure services and can be reached at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
4. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence**: This advocacy organization focuses on preventing domestic violence and empowering those affected. They can be contacted for information and resources
5. National Resource Center on Domestic Violence**: Offering resources and information, this center can be reached at 1-800-537-2238, and more information can be found on their websites: www.nrcdv.org and www.vawnet.org
6. Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP)**: The VA’s IPVAP is dedicated to helping veterans, their partners, and VA staff impacted by IPV. They provide a range of resources and support services
www.socialwork.va.gov/IPV/Index.asp#:~:text=The VA’s Intimate Partner Violence,Community Partners
7. Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)**: OVW provides a map to find local help and operates the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which can be contacted at 800-799-SAFE (7233) and 800-787-3224 (TTY). Additionally, the National Center for Victims of Crime can be reached at 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)
Germany
**Police**: Call 110 for immediate danger. Staff at the emergency call center may primarily speak German, but assistance is available in multiple languages, including English
2. **Gewalt gegen Frauen Helpline**: Offers anonymous and cost-free advice in many languages, available 24/7 at 08000 116 016
3. **Weisser Ring**: Provides investigation and certification of victims' injuries anonymously and free of charge, available at 116 006
4. **Men's Shelters**: Confidential refuges for male victims of violence, contact the Nationwide Victims' Helpline at 116 006 for more information
Norway
**Police Emergency**: Call 112 for immediate risk situations
2. **Child and Youth Crisis Hotline**: Call 116 111, available 24/7 for child and adolescent victims of assault, abuse, or neglect
3. **Local Crisis Centers**: Provide protection, safety, advice, and counselling
4. **VO-Helpline**: Norwegian Domestic Violence Helpline, available 24/7 at 116 006
5. **Dinutvei.no**: Online resource for finding local support services in 13 languages, and information on violence and abuse
Sweden
**Police**: For crimes, including domestic violence
2. **Kvinnofridslinjen**: Telephone support 24/7 at 020-50 50 50, offers support and contact information for social services and shelters
3. **Victim Support Sweden**: Support for those who have been subjected to a crime
4. **RFSL Support Service**: For LGBTQI people who have been subjected to harassment, threats, and violence
5. **Terrafem**: Hotline for women of foreign origin, contact at 020-52 10 10
Denmark
**Danner’s Shelter**: Helps women exposed to violence and their children, offers a national hotline and various support services
2. **Danner’s Helpline**: Offers help and advice on physical violence and coercive control, contact at 3333 0047
Finland
**Victim Support Finland**: Provides various support services including legal advice, support persons, and online chat services, contact at 116 006
2. **Shelters for Victims of Domestic Violence**: Offer secured housing, crisis counselling, and support, organized by the wellbeing services counties
3. **Nollalinja Helpline**: Support for anyone who has experienced domestic violence, contact at 080 005 005
Credits:
Churchyard by Aurora
@thecurrent @AuroraMusic
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Former Therapist Exposes Violet's Tale by REN: Echoes of Empowerment and Tragedy - PART 1
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#compassion #mentalhealth #domesticviolence This analysis is prompted by a parallel with Aurora’s Churchyard. Both video performances address the difficult topics of Domestic or Intimate Partner Violence . The analysis discusses cycles and invites viewers to play some role in interrupting these cycles. Resources: “The Body Keep the Score” by Bessel van Der Kolk “When the Body Says No” by Gabor ...
3 Paths to Emotional Grounding #mindfullness #compassion
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Three skills are explained for maintaining and restoring emotional stability during challenging moments Music licensed by Epidemic Sound
Former Therapist Lowers the Shield for IT HAPPENED QUIET by Aurora #mentalhealth #humanity
มุมมอง 9Kปีที่แล้ว
Examining some of the complexities woven by Aurora in the performance It Happened Quiet. Literary suggestions: Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. New York, Viking. Maté, G. (2003). When the body says no: understanding the stress-disease connection. Hoboken, N.J., J. Wiley.
Compassion HD 1080p
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#Maui #compassion #lovingkindness The Island peoples of Maui in Hawaii are recovering from a devastating wildfire. Many people around the world have been deeply moved by the immenseness of the devastation to a Pacific Island paradise. Compassion and Loving Kindness practices help individuals heal from and to make sense of such tragedies. Here is a guided compassion practice. Video B-roll licens...
Loving Kindness for Island of Maui Hawaii
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#Maui #compassion #lovingkindness The Island peoples of Maui in Hawaii are recovering from a devastating wildfire. Many people around the world have been deeply moved by the immenseness of the devastation to a Pacific Island paradise. Compassion and Loving Kindness practices help individuals heal from and to make sense of such tragedies. Here is a guided Loving Kindness practice. Video B-roll l...
Compassion and Loving Kindness for the Island of Maui, Hawaii
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#Maui #compassion #lovingkindness The Island peoples of Maui in Hawaii are recovering from a devastating wildfire. Many people around the world have been deeply moved by the immenseness of the devastation to a Pacific Island paradise. Compassion and Loving Kindness practices help individuals heal from and to make sense of such tragedies. Here is a guided Compassion practice accompanied by a gui...
Equanimity With Shields Down - practice begins at minute 6:40
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Equanimity With Shields Down - practice begins at minute 6:40
Ren’s Tales of Jenny and Screech more than they seem #renmakesmusic
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Ren’s Tales of Jenny and Screech more than they seem #renmakesmusic
Chalk Outlines by Ren & CHINCHILLA sparks EMPATHY on YouTube
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Chalk Outlines by Ren & CHINCHILLA sparks EMPATHY on TH-cam
CNN, Ren, DMX - Speakable or unspeakable? The essence of staying human
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CNN, Ren, DMX - Speakable or unspeakable? The essence of staying human
This humble, thoughtful thank you from Ren solidified me as a lifetime fan of this incredible human being.
Let’s be Difference Makers with our greatness💜🤩🙌
❤ this! Where the spirit meets the bone. So poetic.
what a lovely guy
I am a big fan of Aurora. Thank you for your very interesting analysis of the text. It was nice to get a different perspective on it. I would like to encourage you to analyse the text by Aurora entitled "Lucky". I have the feeling that she thematises the theme of Paul Coelho's novel "Veronica decides to die".
As I have been listening to this song for the first time it instantly reminded me of my abuser and how I dissociated, as soon as it happened constantly. I think it could mean everything, but for me these lyrics are written for victims of childhood abuse to feel understood. I love Aurora and I am thankful for your authentic reaction.
She explains that the song is about two lovers who kill each other. One lover was thrown from a window (earth painted red). The other lover comes back to kill the other in the bed. Its not about childhood abuse.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ you are so fantastic and I love and appreciate what you do and your channel content❤ much love to you
Glad you watch and find a benefit
@KnoxHill I Need A Minute - Thanks for releasing such a vulnerable song. - th-cam.com/video/gjFZIaOv_x8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JejK0ONzT36c1Jtz
🪽🤍🪽
@kimgrantphotography @Duade seems so many of us photographers navigate new meaning of our photos from time to time
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Oh how nice with a deep dive into an important subject. Great vid man. Thank you! I personally love Aurora so much and I believe that she has a much needed voice in the times we are living.
I appreciate your willingness to engage with the subject
I love the tail of the farmer and the horse, thank you for your video and your depth of perception. :)
Violet's Tale uninterrupted: th-cam.com/video/a4R9Vk5_CbU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=fhoWSrI5dBN6l_0s
The full video by Aurora: th-cam.com/video/o58hKXhQLtA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=TKV8XwaYvU0UW9ak
about her changing of body language and facial expression towards the end, - also important here is that she is pointing her finger up, - a moralistic message, -not so much a threat in my view, more a moralistic message.
i now and then go back to see a reaction that meant something special to me. This reaction is one of those.
I am moved and grateful you find the video useful
Wenn es Engel wirklich gibt ist Aurora eine von ihnen. Moin aus Schleswig-Holstein
The “stone broken into sand” I believe the victim is being threatened.
Thank you for giving this once in a lifetime experience of Hi Ren an appreciation by your profound done video - 🥹🙏🏼
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Aurora, and all of Norway, endured the trauma of the Utoya where 69 people, mostly teenagers, were murdered on July 22, 2011. Aurora was 15 and someone she loved deeply died that day. While "It Happened Quiet" has been written to ring true of abusive relationships and other traumas, the emotional journey she exposes us to is clearly personal. What amazes me is that she has made, of something so painfully ugly, art that is so transcendently beautiful. She has said multiple times in interviews that her mother encouraged her to share her music because people might find it healing. The desire to heal, personally and as a path for others, is what powers this incredible performance and work of art.
I’m a RENegade! Glad I found your reaction. Thank you for appreciating REN as we do! Spreading love. Likes and Sub!
This song is by the way a master piece of hers.
i am a retired therapist myself, and the insight Aurora shows in this song is amazing. The pictures she draws in telling this story, .... i can see them before my eyes in stories i have been told in the therapyroom. amazing. Aurora is something else. Great reaction by the way.
Thank you. Yes, Aurora’s raw presence seems to activate full somatosensory engagement and connection in listeners. Certainly when we have our own stories and imagery the songs can prompt moments in renewed personal meaning.
It was a very different and interesting reaction. The only part l think would have been interesting to speak about was the part when she shivers and move her feets like she is trying to forget about what happened or to calm herself. I feel you missed that part. But otherwise a really nice reaction
Great observation. Maybe I'll discuss these kinds of body reactions by performers in a fiture video.
Splendid analysis, many thanks. I´d like to add, that - at least for me- Ren adds another layer of realness, when he´s breaking the 4th wall. He pulls this piece from a somewhat metaphorical level into the real world, where most music lovers have at least heard about Eminem or Plan B (while letting shine through, that he knows his stuff).
Spot on. I continue to pull new subtlety from this performance each time I view.
Very interesting. Especially because this performance sounds so heavenly gorgeous that it's easy to be grasped by this beauty, and to forget its heavy topic, what is sung directly or just suggested (and even more when your native language is not english...🙂). There are not so many different sentences/verses in her lyrics, but the meanings and their possible interpretations can be layered deeper and deeper. So that even when the song and her beauty are over, there are many rooms to cogitate, and hopefully evolve a bit I guess. Thank you very much for sharing all these interesting and informative thoughts.🙂👍
I find it fascinating how the power of music and art transcends language and culture.
Such great skills to help us show up authentically, thank you😍
I am also an older dude, this beautiful young man comes along once in a generation. I am a huge fan& need my daily fix of him. Thank you REN for what you are giving us& helping people around the world. ❤🙏
Very good indeed. I think this reaction and analysis puts even more weight behind Aurora's mission of bringing deeper understanding , empathy and compassion to the world. Thank you 🙏💜
Wow
I have always been thinking of her reaction/body launguage at 14:28 i think it is, when she seems to drift away both with her eyes and mind. She also do one of her shakes and starts to bounce softly. That part really had an impact on my first time seeing it, dont know why but i just felt she is really feeling whats she is singing about.
Ren is so wise beyond his years, you are loved Ren by all of us ❤
I have listened to this song and performance so many times and understood the underlying story within, but you opened it up for me in the tiniest detail. I always did recognise the vulnerability of the victim in the song, being overcome many years later to finally speak up and no longer experiencing fear regarding the perpetrator. But how detailed this was inbedded within the lyrics, composition, arrangement and performance blew my mind this time. When you mentioned the function of the protective shield we pull up, mostly subconsciously, and the negative impact anxiety can have (we silence up, hide within ourselves and actually deny what has been inflicted upon us), I connected to the content of the song and my eyes were opened to my own situation and for the first time I recognised that I have been keeping up my shield for all of my adult life. I am 60 now. I can see now when this shield was clearly visible at moments and I had no control over it. Worse, I did not even recognize the cause of it. With this new insight my eyes are now open to my past and the pieces fall into their place. This is quite heavy on me, but I know this new insight can be and will be a positive for how I will maintain myself from now on. You do important things here, sir. Thank you for that.
Really love your interpretation, this song is indeed very complex. IMO the song leaning more towards about the topic of the trauma of a toxic relationship. You can notice in the first Pre-chorus the song uses subject 'I' (and i can't remember much more) as if it refers to the woman's POV of getting hurt, and in the second Pre-chorus it uses 'you' (and you can't remember that day) as if it in the man's POV of silent her. But still, i have no proper answer for what 'earth coloured red' could represent. I've read other person's comment, this song could be a part of Aurora's song trilogy, including the song 'I Went Too Far' as the first part, 'It Happened Quite' as the second part, and 'Churchyard' as the third. The people written in all three songs lyrics could be the same man and woman, as all the songs topic revolving around toxic relationship. Regardless, i really enjoy your video 👍
If you will do her song lucky from nedorosdomen, Think it as suicide prevention from trama.
Domestic abuse ending in death. When a flower goes down on the meadow it is dead. Your actions will come back tor death that was caused . Aurora has a mind very few can comprehend.
I have zero formal training in the field of psychology, but I have had plentiful experience working with trauma survivors and done plenty of self-taught research in psych and I have always thought almost the exact same analysis as you on this particular song--that I have never heard expressed or articulated in this way in the dozens of other reactions I've watched on IT HAPPENED QUIET. Thanks for this.
Thanks @Esco33 for sharing your compassion for connecting with others. I wonder often it is not so much the degree we have but just as importantly a compassionate 💜
observation from haik concert: three songs end in “wild.”